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Why Are Straight Guys So Into Anal Sex?

I mean, isn't the whole thing about fucking a woman is that you're getting to fuck pussy?

I wonder how many straight guys, if given the choice, would only fuck their female partners in the ass.

by Anonymousreply 20205/03/2015

It's only the younger generation of men who are really into anal. Men in their 40s and over just don't dig as much as the young dudes in their early 30s and younger.

It's just a sexual trend, just like the shaved genital thing. People like to do things differently from other generations, they like to think of themselves as daring and different. And of course ass fucking isn't daring or different, but it is to those young guys who grew up in the boring old suburbs.

by Anonymousreply 1010/06/2011

I'm not sure I agree, R10. I had a female friend who worked as a phone sex worker back in the late '80s. She told me that nearly EVERY guy who called wanted to talk about anal sex. No matter how the conversation/fantasy started, it always ended in the ass. It seemed to be a very prevalent preference. Amongst customers of phone sex lines back in the '80s, anyway.

by Anonymousreply 1110/06/2011

It's not ass over pussy for straight guys, OP, it's novelty, it's wanting both, especially since there's something forbidden and denied about getting to fuck their girls up the ass.

by Anonymousreply 1310/06/2011


by Anonymousreply 2110/06/2011

Gay or straight, what guy wouldn't want a piece of this?

by Anonymousreply 2210/06/2011


by Anonymousreply 2310/06/2011

What's the allure of heterosexual anal sex? A survey in New York magazine, identified several elements:

1. Variety. Another way to play.

2. Intimacy. To some, it feels more intimate than other types of sex.

3. Experimentation. We tried it. We liked it. 4. Forbidden fruit. Anal is taboo, therefore, exciting.

5. Domination/submission. It fits well into sexual power games.

Anyone interested in anal intercourse should understand that it carries health risks. Receptive anal intercourse is strongly associated with HIV risk. It's also been linked to increased risk of ano-rectal cancers. It appears that like cervical cancer, ano-rectal cancers have an infectious component and may be sexually transmitted. Condoms eliminate these risks.

by Anonymousreply 2410/06/2011

I think Carla, the supermodel with the broken webcam is my new favorite poster.

by Anonymousreply 2710/06/2011

OP is the same pitiful troll that sets up these strawman threads almost daily? He wants to stir things up so he states a falsehood as absolute truth and then he sits back in his lazyboy and lets the fur fly. It's so tiresome and you all fall for it every time.

Why do straight men love to have gay sex?

Why don't women ever have orgasms?

Why are all gay men over 40 unfuckable?

Why is the sky green?

by Anonymousreply 2810/06/2011

[quote]The only difference is that straight men prefer to experience these things with women, because they are more sexually attracted to them.

Straight men don't PREFER anything. They only want to do it with a woman because they are only attracted to them. Sexual orientation is not a preference.

by Anonymousreply 2910/06/2011

With anal sex, the straight guy doesn't need to worry about getting the chick pregnant.

by Anonymousreply 3010/06/2011

Well, my straight married neighbor grew tired of his wife not letting him fuck her in the ass which is why he comes by once a week to pound my ass to get his rocks off!

by Anonymousreply 3110/06/2011

Since a lot of gay guys seem to have straight married FBs, I guess it's safe to assume that most of these straight guys seek out other men for anal sex only because they're wives won't let them fuck 'em in the ass. That all makes sense to me now.

by Anonymousreply 3210/06/2011

[quote] "Well, my straight married neighbor grew tired of his wife not letting him fuck her in the ass which is why he comes by once a week to pound my ass to get his rocks off!"

[italic] [bold] EXACTLY!! [/bold] [/italic]

by Anonymousreply 3310/06/2011

It's a thing in straight porn now, so guys think it's supposed to be a thing in real life as well.

by Anonymousreply 3410/06/2011

[quote]Well, my straight married neighbor grew tired of his wife not letting him fuck her in the ass which is why he comes by once a week to pound my ass to get his rocks off!

Thank God! Now I can finally get some peace. As long as he brings the money home to ME, he can pound your ass every night for all I care. I can't think of a better arrangement to keep him off my ass (pun intended) in his place. Thanks sweetie!

Oh, btw, come on by next Tuesday night @ 7pm. A bunch of the girls in the neighborhood are getting together for our monthly bunko night. It's a hoot! Bring your favorite dessert to share. Hope you can make it.

by Anonymousreply 3510/06/2011

r18 and r33

Hi MHB!! I smell you from here!!

by Anonymousreply 3610/06/2011

[quote]OP is the same pitiful troll that sets up these strawman threads almost daily?

And OP holds a gun to the head of R28 and forces him to read every message in the thread.

by Anonymousreply 3710/06/2011

[italic]Doesn't this thread come up about once a month?[/italic]

No. Get a new line, honey.

by Anonymousreply 3810/06/2011

Anal sex is HUGE in straight porn.

Double anal, too.

by Anonymousreply 4010/06/2011

I'm a girl so obviously I don't have a dick. I'm not sure how really different the sensation is (only bi men can say and straight men who have both kinds with a woman) but I'd think the difference is more emotional and psychological with all the implications (taboo, power and control etc'). In the case of bi men there's the fact that the ass belongs to a man and the vagina to a woman.

by Anonymousreply 4110/06/2011

I was watching a straight porn film where this woman was getting her mouth, pussy, and ass fucked by huge dicks simultaneously. How does one not explode from all that stimulation.

by Anonymousreply 4210/06/2011

She's not being stimulated, she is being used like a blow up doll. Women in real life, i.e. not in porn or saying what they think will get them the guy, don't want to be just holes.

by Anonymousreply 4310/06/2011

Even the way straight mainstream porn portrays vaginal sex nowadays is often about power, control, dominance, humiliation, etc. Anal sex just seems to be more of the same, with the added taboo factor.

by Anonymousreply 4610/06/2011

I've asked a bi guy about it. He says fucking a pussy is looser but all-enveloping while fucking an ass is tighter but only at one point of friction.

by Anonymousreply 4810/06/2011

"I think anal is just the current 'in' thing mainly because of porn."

Anal sex, straight and gay, has existed forever, and straight anal is not a recent innovation in porn, it's been a mainstay of straight porn at least since the 70s. So your argument is completely unpersuasive.

by Anonymousreply 4910/06/2011

Men want anything forbidden to them.

End of story.

If women denied them on the vagina like they do on the ass, vaginal sex would be a fetish.

Most straight men do seem to prefer fucking a vagina.

by Anonymousreply 5010/06/2011

Straight men are typically attracted to the asses of sexually attractive women.

It is not surprising that many straight men would want to penetrate the ass of women they want to have sex.

Certainly very few straight men would refuse the offer from a woman he found attractive who was into anal sex.

Not exactly a newsflash. It's not at all surprising. In fact it makes perfect sense.

There is no less reason for a straight man to want to fuck a woman in the ass than for a gay man to want to fuck a man in the ass. Both men and women have asses.

That's all there is to it. End of story.

by Anonymousreply 5210/06/2011

r43 do most gay men like feeling like just a hole?

by Anonymousreply 5410/06/2011

This is why gay bottoms should keep their asses and holes hairless. Nothing is grosser than a hairy ass and hole. Straight men and most gay tops want a smooth bottom. FACT

by Anonymousreply 5510/06/2011

Like Carla the supermodel with the broken webcam, I sometimes pretend to be 22-year-old Amy in chatrooms, and often persuade horny straight guys to put on a show for me.

I can confirm that they *always* want to fuck me up the ass.

by Anonymousreply 5610/06/2011

R53 is correct. The only reason most women would agree to do it is to hold on to a guy or for money.

by Anonymousreply 5710/06/2011

Someone should start a "do straight women like anal sex", thread.

by Anonymousreply 5810/06/2011

"More interestingly, what is the benefit to a woman with having a big ol' schlong tearing her ass up? There's no prostate, no pleasure. If they say so they're lying. Which means they'll do anything for money."

Ok. Then where is the pleasure to a man of having a bi ol' schlong fucking your face? No prostate or clit there, honey.

Yet, as we know, there are men who swear they love being on the receiving end of that! Are they lying?

by Anonymousreply 5910/06/2011

It reminds them of their Boy Scouts days.

by Anonymousreply 6010/06/2011

There is one woman on Datalounge who ALWAYS pipes up that she is very against anal sex.

It's just one woman who keeps posting this.

by Anonymousreply 6210/06/2011

[quote]This is why gay bottoms should keep their asses and holes hairless.

I never used to get my hole waxed till a few years ago. It seemed like the height of vanity but I did it anyway and boy ... I love the smooth feeling, and it makes me more sensitive.

by Anonymousreply 6310/07/2011

For some weird reason, anal sex helps reach a woman's g-spot. The lining between the anus and vagina is very thin, and the cock positions itself in just the right place in the anal canal which puts pressure on the other side of the lining, the exact spot where the g-spot is located inside the vagina. It's hits it perfectly. The anus doesn't give much room to maneuver around another spot within it. It's an exact tilt. It's quite fascinating, but this is the reason a lot of women love it.

by Anonymousreply 6410/07/2011

[quote]For some weird reason, anal sex helps reach a woman's g-spot.

Complete bullshit, R64. The g-spot is on the front wall of the vagina. Nice try though.

by Anonymousreply 6510/07/2011


That's a correct description of the different sensations.

I am straight male, and I have been real slutty at times, some 30-35 lifetime partners.

There are some women who seek out anal sex, enjoy it a lot, and have powerful orgasms doing it. My sampling didn't turn up large number, but without any doubt at all it turned up a few.

It wasn't a power trip on my part, it wasn't something the woman did to keep me, because doing that isn't very significant to me -- it is more work all things considered, women wouldn't have to do it to keep me, and anyway there wasn't any keeping to be done when both sides know it is a one-night stand.

It's pretty hard to say it is always a male-dominating, abusive, painful type thing when a woman repeatedly asks for it, and I really didn't want to be bothered, which happened.

Here is what I don't get about these discussions on anal sex for women, and they always turn out the same way. There are a couple of prudes that jump in and are really offended at the concept.

This is a community that enjoys, celebrates, as it should, the wonderfully diverse ways that people can express sexuality. It fights against repressive attitudes about the way its members find sexual satisfaction.

Women have the wonderful ability, many, not all, to achieve climax more often and in a greater variety of ways than men.

Why is it not a really positive thing if some women say they like anal sex, it gives them great climaxes, or they don't come that way but it is really a turn on.

Why can't we just say, "OK, that's your thing, that's cool?"

by Anonymousreply 6610/07/2011

I don't know any who are, particularly. And for those who are, I imagine it's a dominanation/degradation thing, 'cause anal sex is degrading for a lot of people.

by Anonymousreply 6910/07/2011

I can't believe people are still posting this "All women hate anal sex" BS. It's just not true. I know many women who like it and enjoy it, and yes, come really hard from it. Not because we enjoy being degraded and humiliated but because it's fucking hot.

by Anonymousreply 7110/08/2011

I holeheartedly agree w/ Miss R71. I'm a Gay male and well, ....J'ADORE having anal sex. Having a straight married man driving down my Hershey highway is, for me at least, sheer heaven.

by Anonymousreply 7210/08/2011

[quote]clitoral extensions of the clitoris stretching along the vaginal lips back to the anus.

Oh, so now we're completely fabricating info about women's physiology?

Okay, I'll play. I've read over and over again from MANY sexperts that 65% of all women get the strongest orgasms from having their left knee cap stimulated. It's true.

by Anonymousreply 7510/08/2011

Because straight men are sexually selfish that's why

by Anonymousreply 7610/08/2011

Here's a link about the erectile tissue of the clitoris, the dark tissue being the erctile tissue. It reaches the anus quite nicely, especially if there's a penis in the anuscausing pressure to the erctile tissue. Biology has made it possible for women to enjoy anal sex.

You Americans don't have anatomy in schools, or what?

by Anonymousreply 7710/08/2011


I have trouble following the logic.

Suppose I am with a woman who understands her body and her mind. She knows at that moment the most intense orgasm would occur if I had anal intercourse with her, and she asks for that.

You are absolutely correct when you say that she has been conditioned to feel that way. Social conditions have played a part in making the act seem pleasurable. We all pick up attitudes about what feels good and what should feel good from our society.

Her physiology plays a role. Every woman is different. Some like butt play, some don't.

Believe it or not, many straight men are socialized so that their pleasure is enhanced when the woman has pleasure at the same time they do. That's the situation with me. The only way to figure out what she likes is to listen to her.

Are you saying that as a man who respects women, who wants to give sexual pleasure, whose pleasure is heightened when the woman likes what it is that we are doing, that it is my responsibility to decline, saying, "No, I won't do that. You like doing that for the wrong reasons?"

If I demand that we substitute my judgment for hers about what she should be feeling, am I not a chauvinist?

by Anonymousreply 7810/08/2011

[quote]Suppose I am with a woman who understands her body and her mind. She knows at that moment the most intense orgasm would occur if I had anal intercourse with her, and she asks for that.

R78, you are basing your whole argument on a false supposition. A woman's "most intense orgasm" doesn't occur through anal stimulation, no matter what she tells you or what you tell yourself. There is no physiology to support your claim.

Please refer back to my sarcastic kneecap analogy @ R75.

by Anonymousreply 8010/08/2011


As to men who like anal sex with women being gay, that is incorrect.

People who prefer to be intimate sexually and emotionally to people of the opposite sex are straight, and then what it is they like to do with the people of the opposite sex when they have sex is all over the place.

Look at it this way. There undoubtedly are many, many women who identify as straight who prefer receiving oral sex from men over any other sex act. The reasons are pretty obvious.

Is it your opinion that these women are closeted lesbians? I thought being a lesbian had a broader significance and a deeper origin than liking one sex technique more than another.

by Anonymousreply 8110/08/2011

So you would tell a woman that she is mistaken when she reports what she experiences because that doesn't fit with your perceptions.

That won't fly in the real world.

by Anonymousreply 8210/08/2011

Two obvious reasons why straight guys like anal sex with women.

1) no babies 2) tighter hole

by Anonymousreply 8310/08/2011

It's only tighter at one point, as has been stated.

by Anonymousreply 8410/08/2011


And some women like it because it feels good, but some women hate the concept for whatever reason, and they can't deal with idea of other women liking it and they want men and women to stop doing it because they don't like it.

Well, ain't going to happen.

You can't bring a social construct into the bedroom and announce that it applies to what people do there.

What you can do is to change the way society operates and hope that down the road people treat people better, that works.

It is so close to this -- the fact that men all over the world hate the concept of men having anal sex with men so they try to argue and legislate to stop it, that you would think this person would see the illogic of making her argument on a GLBT website.

by Anonymousreply 8510/08/2011

"Straight men are typically attracted to the asses of sexually attractive women."

Nope. Most men are more into breasts than ass.

by Anonymousreply 8610/08/2011

Control. Power. Because the smell of shit is preferable to the stink of dead fish.

by Anonymousreply 8710/08/2011

I don't think straight guys want anal over vaginal. It's in addition. I don't want to give TMI, but when I get off after intercourse and the dude flips me over and goes to town on my ass, it's the absolute best sex ever.

I found it done when I orgasm before he does and I'm in my little refractory period and my ass is more relaxed and open to it and he is still wanting more. I love how they take control and I am their bitch. So part of it maybe that they are wanting to release sooner than later and need the next hole ready.

It's rarely been the only thing on the menu. Maybe once or twice because it was that time of the month or dude said he had never tried it did I allow the penetration to that region alone.

by Anonymousreply 8810/08/2011

Question for you R88. Did you have to "learn" to take it up the ass? I've had the impression (partly from pron, I know, hardly reliable) that women often find it easy to be penetrated anally, rarely painful. (Whether or not they enjoy the experience is something else.) Obviously we're built differently "down there" and I just wonder if it generally comes more easily to women. While many men are enthusiastic bottoms, most will say they had to learn how to relax and take a fucking, and that at first it was quite painful.

by Anonymousreply 8910/08/2011

[quote]So part of it maybe that they are wanting to release sooner than later and need the next hole ready.

But is your next hole ready? Do you enema every time you have sex with the expectation that the guy is going to stick you there? Or do you just leave it?

by Anonymousreply 9010/08/2011

I have never had an enema before sex. It's not part of the thinking. The condom is used and I haven't found guys to be worried about it.

To answer question from R89, it only seems ready after I come. It's right after vaginal sex so that natural lube is used (it's okay to go vag-anal but not anal-vag). Never used any other lube.

However, when it's been just going straight into the butt because of reasons I stated in 88. it is less successfull, the hole does not want to be ready and fingers and prodding are necessary and the excitement about it is gone, and I just rather skip it.

The key is being in a post orgasmic state, where you don't tense up. I'll allow nearly anything when I'm in that state. I don't know if it works for guys but maybe you can get the bottom off prior through oral or jerking off, and then plow his ass.

by Anonymousreply 9110/08/2011

r89 Why would a woman's ass be any different than a man's?

by Anonymousreply 9210/08/2011

Because it's naughty.

by Anonymousreply 9310/08/2011

Men WANT women to love anal, hell, they want women to cum from anal -- any old lie so they can get off whereever they want.

by Anonymousreply 9410/08/2011

Y'all some hoes up in here.

by Anonymousreply 9510/08/2011

Wow! R77, that is gross! Many say that guys ding dongs are ugly and gross. honey? that website proves those people who think ding dongs are gross are blind.

When straight people perform anal and oral sex and then they turn around and say how sick and perverted gays are what is the difference? they are doing the same thing. The only difference its done between a couple who are the opposite sex. I think they are hypocrites.

If some straight people who do not agree with gay people and they don't engage in anal and oral sex, then at least they practice what they preach.

by Anonymousreply 9610/09/2011

I'm straight and have never fucked a man in the ass I have a few times at the request of a woman attempted to do so to them but since my cut dick is 8 and 1/2 inches it never progressed too far before she wanted to stop. Speaking for myself the attraction is to trying something new that might feel good and provide a deeper level of pleasure. We have the same equipment as you and sometimes we just want to take it out for a test ride to see what it can do.....

by Anonymousreply 9701/10/2013

all the boys in the yard cum for my hairy anal milkshake

by Anonymousreply 9801/10/2013

HAHAHA R3! The last thing men want is emotional intimacy with women! They just want to stick it in their pussy!

by Anonymousreply 9901/10/2013

R81, you're joking. If a woman only wanted oral sex, you think she would prefer that from some oaf of a man who doesn't know what he's doing instead of a skilled lesbian? Please.

by Anonymousreply 10001/10/2013

R91, in my experience, once the bottom cums, anal penetration is more painful and challenging, no longer pleasurable.

by Anonymousreply 10101/10/2013

[quote]If a woman only wanted oral sex, you think she would prefer that from some oaf of a man who doesn't know what he's doing instead of a skilled lesbian?

Yes, if she's straight. That's how sexual orientation works.

by Anonymousreply 10201/10/2013

Thankfully some straight guys LOATHE anal sex.

by Anonymousreply 10301/10/2013

Don't know whether it has been mentioned yet, but supposedly alot of guys are having their wives/girlfriends strap on a tool and fuck them up the ass too. Pegging? It really doesn't make sense to me as he can get the real thing in any gay bar or bathhouse.

by Anonymousreply 10401/10/2013

[quote]Men overwhelmingly report positive experiences following performing anal sex on a female partner. But, more than half of women who have had receptive anal sex describe it as an unpleasant experience they probably wouldn't repeat

by Anonymousreply 10501/10/2013

My bi sister has "pegged" her bf several times. He LOVED it, but insists he's 100% str8.

by Anonymousreply 10601/10/2013

this thread should be called "why are gay guys so jealous that straight guys prefer delicious pussy instead of smelly shitty stretched out assholes?"

by Anonymousreply 10701/10/2013

[quote]My bi sister has "pegged" her bf several times. He LOVED it, but insists he's 100% str8.

A guy can be straight and still enjoy anal sex.

by Anonymousreply 10801/11/2013


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by Anonymousreply 11002/15/2013

Straight men are OBSESSED with anal? No they're not. But assholes aren't gender specific anymore than mouths are. And straights like kissing women & getting BJs from them. It's variety.

by Anonymousreply 11102/15/2013

as Borat said-she vagine like sleeve of wizard

by Anonymousreply 11202/15/2013

[quote]Doesn't this thread come up about once a month?

Sometimes it skips a month.

by Anonymousreply 11302/19/2013

Straight guys are porn consumers; their sexual tastes are formed and manipulated by porn. In 10 years time, it'll be something else.

by Anonymousreply 11402/19/2013

Most women HATE anal. It's unhealthy and painful

by Anonymousreply 11502/19/2013

[quote]Why Are Straight Guys So Into Anal Sex?

With only women, though. You forgot that part, OP.

by Anonymousreply 11602/19/2013

This thread is hilarious. I was particularly amused by the person who swears up and down the g-spot can't be stimulated through the anal wall. And the insistence that anal can't be enjoyable for women because there's no prostate in there- well, there's no prostate in the vagina either, and yet women seem to enjoy getting fucked in there. Go figure.

I think more women would be open to anal if it wasn't seen as such a degrading, whorish thing to do- the way oral used to be regarded, something only prostitutes do.

(FWIW, I would never admit to my female friends that I enjoy taking it up the ass. Some things can only be admitted on an anonymous forum.)

by Anonymousreply 11702/19/2013

Female here. It just makes me feel like I have to go to the bathroom and I'm always worried about just that while doing anal. Still, different strokes and all that.

by Anonymousreply 11802/19/2013

Not in a million years.

If he wants to do a little tongue or finger play, fine... but no dick up my ass.

I would just get a new bf!

by Anonymousreply 11902/19/2013

I love all the earnest analysis here about why straight guys are 'so' into anal sex. It's hilarious.

Sorry to disappoint you silly queens, but they aren't "into it" all that much. OP is just engaging in some wishful thinking (hoping), that if a straight guy wants anal with a woman, it's only a short leap to doing it with a man.

by Anonymousreply 12002/19/2013

[quote]OP is just engaging in some wishful thinking (hoping), that if a straight guy wants anal with a woman, it's only a short leap to doing it with a man.


by Anonymousreply 12102/19/2013

You don't have much of a sexual imagination do you, OP?

by Anonymousreply 12302/19/2013

It's funny to see people come into threads like this to announce that any guy who likes his ass played with can't be straight.

by Anonymousreply 12402/21/2013

That's right, OP. The only reaason straight men are straight is about the vagina. It has nothing to do with being attracted to women for any other reason.


OK, let me try this another way. OP, if a gay men wanting to fuck someone only had to do with ASS he could do that with any sex partner, as we all have asses.

With me so far.

But you see gay men are into men and straight men are into women. As in entire human organisms, body and soul. It is not about just pussy, ass or any other part of a human being.

by Anonymousreply 12609/26/2013

OK. Just pretending that R125 is being honest about what (s)he prefers. However, from what I've heard about vaginas -- don't know much about them, I'm a gay guy -- BUT I've heard that the vagina is an actual muscle and it grips the cock all the way through the sex act. The sphincter is a muscle, yes, but it's just like a big, (hopefully, depending how much you abuse it) muscle ring. Once you go beyond the sphincter ... there's nothing there. No pressure, no tightness beyond the actual sphincter. I know this for a fact. So, it's really about straight guys wanting instant gratification. They just want to penetrate that tight, taboo hole, even if the actual sex act might be less satisfying. Not surprising. Newsflash: Men are pigs.

by Anonymousreply 12709/27/2013

Straight chick here who is dating a guy who likes it. I don't particularly care for it as it's uncomfortable and I don't get anything out of it. I asked him once if he ever thought of trying to have sex with a man. He said no, he just liked knowing every part of a woman's body. An intimacy thing I guess plus he's an "ass" man. Some prefer tits. Some really like nice legs.

by Anonymousreply 12911/30/2013

You're wrong r57. There are women who love anal. A lesbian friend of mine told me that the only time she liked sex with a man was anal sex.

A 25 year old friend of mine told me that her husband gets very annoyed with her because she only wants anal sex.

People are different in every way but especially in sexual preferences. To say a gender only likes a certain type of sex for the purposes of manipulation or money is just ignorant.

by Anonymousreply 13011/30/2013

if women don't like anal because they don't have a prostrate, how come I like sucking cock so much?

by Anonymousreply 13111/30/2013

R131 No one has a "prostrate." It's an adjective.

by Anonymousreply 13211/30/2013

My BFF really loves anal sex. That's her choice.

For me, it hurts like hell and I hate it. I flatly refuse to do it. That's MY choice.

But I've had PLENTY of men ask me to fuck them in the ass and I will happily oblige them.

Some guys want to try "pegging" to see what it feels like and some guys actually like the prostate stimulation. Some guys won't even let me finger their ass when I give them a blowjob. Does it matter to me? Fuck naw. Why would it? It's their preference and there are plenty of other things to try.

Different strokes for different folks.

by Anonymousreply 13311/30/2013

Has anyone mentioned that some men like it because they perceived that their partner is less likely to fake a reaction to being fucked in the ass than in the pussy.

by Anonymousreply 13411/30/2013

Well, good riddance to the absolutists at r51, r53, r68, etc. trying to claim that no women enjoy anal sex.

At link is a recent Redbook Magazine survey of 100,000 married women, of whom 43% said they had anal sex; of whom 40% found it "somewhat" to "very enjoyable."

And that is just a recent survey of many from a source LESS scientific in its methods, character and interests than readily available through research.

But scientific methods are only for people honest and objective about the subject, not those making up claims based on their own experience and desires.

Sure, some who try it hate it. It seems likely that a lot of women do it at the behest of their boyfriends or even get coerced. Receptive anal sex does involve pain, it's definitely worse without lube and gradual opening; it does involve feces sometimes -- even after enemas!

But that doesn't mean it's not hot and enjoyable to a minority of people of all genders and orientations.

r68, does receptive anal always = low self-esteem? How can you prove that?

Is wanting to please a partner more than most low self-esteem?

Is wanting to please a partner more than most wrong? Or necessarily dangerous? Or inferior to what you like?

I don't think so always.

by Anonymousreply 13511/30/2013

r72, please don't waste our time with repetition.

Isn't "I'm a gay male" and "J'ADORE ..." redundant?

by Anonymousreply 13611/30/2013

r89, as a vers gay male, I can tell you bottoming is NOT pleasant without GRADUAL opening -- lots of lube, fingering and slow entry at first.

Porn edits all that stuff out!

I doubt it's any different for women, but I notice some bottoms have less trouble than others; they're looser than others. Of course, some enjoy it WAY more than others.

r88/r91 your insight is fascinating. I don't think a lull between orgasms would work to reduce a male bottom's inhibitions or comfort, because men don't really get lulls when they're ready for more.

When we climax, we're done for the night! Usually, a man is very sensitive against sex after cumming, we want to rest and our sensibilities rush back in.

My understanding is that females can keep on humming as you described -- they can enjoy waves of multiple orgasms over more time than a man, though usually orgasms less intense than a man's.

But one trick that helps a LOT of gay bottoms is to jerk their own cocks while they're getting fucked. This mitigates a LOT of the pain with pleasure, like drowning out foul-tasting food with sugar, spices, sauce or dressing.

I would imagine anally receptive women could achieve the same effect by stimulating the clitoris while getting ass-fucked.

by Anonymousreply 13711/30/2013

To r106 and others:

Cam4 is FULL of straight and woman-oriented male models who LOVE playing with their asses for money or otherwise -- so they claim.

Gay porn also has these gay-for-pay men who love receptive ass play and prostate stimulation as well.

I will refer you to a model who goes on different cam sites as "prostateparty." Like many other male webcam models, he swears he's straight -- never been with a dude nor a real dick and doesn't want to because it's the whole package of a woman he's attracted to and needs.

They often say they don't get enough or ANY ass penetration they want from females for various reasons.


by Anonymousreply 13811/30/2013

Think again, r132.

"Prostrate" is a verb, too!

by Anonymousreply 13911/30/2013

Thank you, r66 and r88 for sharing.

Your posts seem genuine and helpful to others for understanding the diversity and complexity of sex.

My only regret is that we live in a world that doesn't talk about this stuff more openly and bravely.

That leads to a lot of ignorance, myth, bigotry, chauvinism, dysfunction and immorality when it comes to sex and all the consequences we pay as a result.

by Anonymousreply 14011/30/2013

Because straight guys are actually gay. Haven't you been keeping up?

by Anonymousreply 14111/30/2013

if you are into anal sex why don't you just fuck a guy? And why do all Arab men just want anal sex? Are they saving themselves for their wives?

by Anonymousreply 14212/03/2013

That would be like asking why are straight guys into legs and blow jobs. Straight ways are into WOMEN and that means from head to toe. If Jesus is the reason for the season, pussy is the reason for the erection. Straight men aren't sexually attracted to men legs or men's asses. Nor do they want oral from some bearded fagot.

Straight guys are into penetrating women, period (specially women who like men). They are also into dominating, earning, and conquering valuable assets, including the female sex (don't confuse this with hurting or abusing).

They are also into analyzing, building, and using things in a practical way. So yes, a tight hole nesting on a beautiful female ass with a pretty pussy next to it is in high danger of also getting licked, penetrated, and pounded for the sake of physical and mental pleasure (aka fucked), if not bound to it. Location, location, location.

by Anonymousreply 14309/22/2014

OP, they arent

by Anonymousreply 14409/22/2014

1) straight men are sexually attracted to women. (You know just like gay men are sexually attracted to men)

2) many straight men consider a woman's ass extremely sexually exciting. (just like many gay men consider a man's ass extremely sexually exciting)

2) when one is sexually excited by a part of the body, one may well want to have sex with it. (just as may gay men who are excited by ass may well want to have sex with it)

3) having sex via the ass is "anal sex." (no matter what the gender of that ass happens to be)

4) Therefore a great many straight men are into anal sex.


Now, I have a question:

Why couldn't you possibly figure this out yourselves?

by Anonymousreply 14509/22/2014

the vagine is like sleeve of wizard

by Anonymousreply 14609/22/2014

R143, it's spelled faggot, not fagot. Fagot is a French thing.

by Anonymousreply 14709/22/2014

Anal sex definitely has a taboo aspect that makes it exciting. it also provides a different kind of stimulation than vaginal sex, and for couples that aren't using birth control, being able to come inside your woman without pregnancy worries is huge!

by Anonymousreply 14801/06/2015

Like Carla and Amy, I too can verify straight definitely want to try the backdoor action. I did my share of catfishing when the internet was young.

by Anonymousreply 14901/06/2015

According to OP, only men have asses.

by Anonymousreply 15001/11/2015

OP, probably from porn. Most straight guys always want to flip me over and slam it in my ass, because I think it's supposed to be demeaning. It's like breaking her ass is showing who is in charge. It turns me on also the feeling of being overpowered somewhat and he is in charge.

And they don't get to see your face, and it's less intimate.

by Anonymousreply 15101/11/2015

Per r20:

[quote]A woman engaging in anal sex shows her desire and willingness to have sex in a purely physical way, with no thought of pregnancy. She is embracing, to some degree, a willingness to make her body a sexual object.

[quote]In some relationships where bondage and discipline factors play a role, the pain a woman might experience in anal sex is part of the allure.

[quote]For many men and women, anal sex is seen as a form of "gift" from the woman, given out of love and regard, and wanting to give him something special and rare.

[quote]Some people see a man having anal sex with a woman as a form of dominance, where the man is "having every part of her body." The "flavor" of dominance, and misogyny, plays out in the current (disturbing) porn phenomena of "Ass to Mouth," where a man puts his penis in the mouth of a woman, after performing anal sex on her. However, in most porn, the women are portrayed as the fantasy women who are always ready, always hot, always excited, and always willing. Another way of viewing this is that the actresses are expressing and displaying their willingness to violate any and all taboos, no matter how "distasteful," because of how aroused they have become, rather than an expression of female degradation.

[quote]Men overwhelmingly report positive experiences following performing anal sex on a female partner. But, [bold]more than half of women who have had receptive anal sex describe it as an unpleasant experience they probably wouldn't repeat.[/bold]

by Anonymousreply 15201/11/2015

I remember when us gays were vile fudge packers, now that straight men are doing the same thing with females, it's not disgusting & they aren't ridiculed or put down for it. Y is that?

by Anonymousreply 15301/11/2015

Tiger Woods loved Ass to Mouth. Made him feel like a big man..... even though he was paying for it.

by Anonymousreply 15401/11/2015

Why would you expect a straight guy to be less into into fucking a woman's ass than you'd expect a gay guy to be into fucking a man's ass?

by Anonymousreply 15502/18/2015

They're into it because they discovered that it feels so good.

by Anonymousreply 15602/19/2015

Some gay men say they adore having sex with straight men. Does it feel different? Is there something special about a straight's penis? Does it have a little hook on the end or something? Please educate us.

by Anonymousreply 15702/19/2015

You know who's big into anal sex? Xtians.

Teenage Xtians to be exact.

They do it because that way they can (in their own heads) remain virgins.

For realz.

by Anonymousreply 15802/19/2015

[quote]You know who's big into anal sex? Xtians.

When he was in college, my brother fucked his Pentecostal (!) "virgin" girlfriend in the ass. He claimed it didn't count as "real sex."

by Anonymousreply 16002/19/2015

... and oddly, I am a gay man and I find anal sex repulsive. I have a great sex life but I have no use for somebody's nasty ass. Yuck!

Luckily, my partner feels the same way. Our sex life is amazing.

by Anonymousreply 16102/19/2015



by Anonymousreply 16202/19/2015

R159 is angry her husband enjoys the gay sex.

by Anonymousreply 16302/19/2015

Same reason they lust after younger women: tightness. That's all, it's just hole. It always was.

by Anonymousreply 16402/20/2015

I prefer tit fucking.

by Anonymousreply 16502/20/2015

Because it doesn't get the woman pregnant but it does get him an orgasm. That was easy.

Also they are not as much into it as they are into fucking pussy however, don't fool yourselves. Usually it's the woman who suggests anal. Women in this day and age are discovering many of their erogenous zones thanks to the internet.

Straight guys don't really care as long as they get to fuck a female. Usually though, eveything ends in pussy fucking since that feels better for both parties.

by Anonymousreply 16602/20/2015

1 - its tight

2 - no risk in knocking her up

by Anonymousreply 16702/20/2015

I'm a bi guy and I'd much rather fuck pussy than ass. A pussy is twitchy and responsive, it squeezes my cock when she orgasms, which is often, happily for both my partner and I. I prefer to take it in the ass though.

by Anonymousreply 16802/22/2015

"Aussie Dave" go away. You're a gay DL regular pretending to be bi "Aussie Dave".

by Anonymousreply 16902/22/2015

Actually, no I'm not, and no I won't go away. I first found and posted on Data Lounge a few hours ago. Post #60 in "First time fucked in the ass". It's pretty funny for someone posting as "Anonymous" to be accusing me of not being who I say I am.

by Anonymousreply 17002/22/2015

Straight guys like it because it's considered far more raunchy than dick and pussy sex and straight men LOVE to dominate and degrade women.

Also straight guys love the female body probably even MORE than gay men love the male body

I work in a warehouse and have predominantly straight guy friends at work and at the gym and everytime even a mildly attractive female walks by they all go crazy and stare.

by Anonymousreply 17102/22/2015

"#170", okay.

by Anonymousreply 17202/22/2015

So you can understand why a gay guy would want to fuck a man in the ass but you can't understand why a straight guy would want to fuck a woman in the ass?

Can you explain why you would have such difficulty realizing that in this respect the only difference between the gay guy and the straight guy is that the gay guy likes men and the straight guy likes women?

by Anonymousreply 17303/01/2015

The OP asked, "I wonder how many straight guys, if given the choice, would only fuck their female partners in the ass."

I admit I would be one of those. I think the pussy is beautiful and delicious and would go down on it all day, bring her (hopefully) to many orgasms orally. But when it comes to intercourse, I'd much prefer if SHE preferred it in the butt.

Part of it is my acute phobia of getting her pregnant, even with all precautionary measures. But another part of it is the feeling that comes with her trust and total acceptance of me. The same could be said for oral sex; if she's going to give me a blow job, but then not swallow, it's like a rejection.

I'm just being honest. That's how I feel.

by Anonymousreply 17404/07/2015

what about poops?

by Anonymousreply 17504/07/2015

vagine like sleeve of wizard

by Anonymousreply 17604/07/2015

I can attest that pussy is much better for fucking. Heck it was made for fucking. It grips the entire length of the dick. The anus only grips with the sphincter. Once it's fucked a bit it gets and stays gapey. So straights fucking ass has to be the novelty and taboo element more than anything.

That all said, I prefer ass because I'm a homo.

by Anonymousreply 17704/07/2015

In the Psychology Today comments section, a lot of people mentioned how porn has ruined sex. A lot of guys think in real life, no foreplay or lube is required, just spit on it and ram it in, vaginal or anal sex. And if it hurts the woman that's even better, because in porn women are always dramatizing about how big the guy is and how it's hurting them, so they want to do that too.

It never occurs to them that those women are acting, and getting paid. That's not somebody's wife or girlfriend, and porn is not about taking a long time to get aroused. It's wham, bam, thank you ma'am. Everybody thinks their partner is supposed to act just like people do in porn, or they're a lousy lay, backward, or a prude. Sex has become very negative for women because a lot of men now think it's a dominance display, not mutual fun. If you don't enjoy being hurt you're a prude. And pain isn't a symptom of hating sex. It's a symptom of not enough foreplay, male or female. This constant judging because not everyone reacts like a porn actor is a huge turnoff. Men used to be ashamed to not please their partner, now they're proud of it.

Some women enjoy anal, the ones whose partners want to do the foreplay. To the others it's just pain and awareness that your "partner" cares nothing for your enjoyment and gets off on hurting you. Thanks to porn, it has gone from shortened foreplay, to cum shots and other "theatrical gestures" as one poster said. People need to turn off the TV and concentrate on their individual partner, not re-enacting porn scenes. It shows a lack of creativity and interest in doing a good job.

People used to be happy just to get laid, and not having to settle for a porn and their right hand. Now they think their hand is a genius and their partner is only there to reproduce the hand experience.

Guys in those comments say they are "tired of vagina," no they're not, they're gay. And so homophobic they'd rather die than admit it. Just leave the women alone and do what you really want to be doing, everybody will be happier. Especially the wives who say their husbands haven't touched their vags for years.

by Anonymousreply 17804/07/2015

So when a man fucks a man in the ass it's sex and when a man fucks a woman in the ass it's degrading.

When a man wants to get fucked in the ass it's sex but when a woman wants to get fucked in the ass she's into being degraded.

Do you people ever listen to yourselves and how fucked up you are about sex?

by Anonymousreply 17904/07/2015

Guys like this are why women don't want to do anal sex. And because many women have the feeling they're all like this. It's not about the sex, it's about the motivation behind it:

"My wife and I started having anal 5 years ago. I became so obsessed with it that i eventually managed to wean out sex with the boring vagina, I haven't been in her vagina for 4 years! Everyone does vagina its so outdated and over...Thankfully the world is catching up with these new wonderful ideas i haven't found a porn in years that doesn't involve anal play, and stupid women are always trying to appear 'sexually liberated' so they will put their asses up, and offer us whatever we want and tell us they like it so they appear hot and modern.

The only problem is we men tend to get bored easily... First vaginal sex was enough, then i went through a blow job obsession, and now im all about the anus. Women just don't have enough to offer us, there is a reason they never tire of our meat, because it's awesome, we never have to change what we have to offer to please women. Vagina just sucks. I wonder what the next rage will be. Sofar our culture has gone from- vanilla vagina sex- equal pleasure for men and women. To- blowjobs, pleasure man only, to finally Anal, pleasure for man, pain for women. So glad I am not a woman. Life is sweet. Ps to all you women trying to say you like anal, at least my wife is honest. She has never said she enjoyed it, cries all the time over the fact that i don't want her stupid vagina, and yet she does frequent yahoo answers, and encourages others to do it and says she loves it. Misery just loves company."

by Anonymousreply 18004/07/2015

Then there's this lovely scenario, same link:

"I agree with everything. Bravo. I am so tired of women just fighting against the truth so they can appear more desirable to men. I cant stand the sick smile on some girls faces when they announce *loudly* infront of a GROUP of guys that they ONLY do backdoor. The guys are drooling and the girls just eat it up. Later on, they all admit, they hate it. But once the guy commits, they will be free from having to do it all the time. Its so pathetic. Where has class gone, and respect? If only women from a hundred years ago could see us now. Celebrities trying to out-slutty each other, halloween costumes that are nothing more then pasties and thongs, and anal sex replacing actual sex.

As for anal sex destroying your anus, it IS true. My girlfriend has been forced to stop doing it because when the dude pulled out, he took her anal lining with him. She has gone through surgery and is never going to be the same. At least she can never do it again. The worst part? She has earned the nickname 'tomato peel ' because thats what the lining looked like on the guys dong. Nice huh? The guy suffers nothing. The girl ruins her body and suffers and then the guy goes around and tells everyone and she gets teased for life. Anal doesnt make men respect you. If anything its just the opposite. A man that respected her would never destroy her anus when he could have just had mutual pleasure in the area DESIGNED for pleasure. And he certainly wouldnt go around calling her tomato peel like it was some new victory in the guy world. I bet all men are aiming to do it to their women now, men always want to do everything the others are. Such sheep."

by Anonymousreply 18104/07/2015

sex has always been, among other things, about power. Women cant possibly enjoy anal sex since they dont have a prostate to stimulate. and, most men hate women anyway

by Anonymousreply 18204/07/2015

Ass fucking is popular in Catholic countries, because you can please a man, but still, technically, waltz down the aisle a virgin.

This is part of the reason the ass is so prominent in Brazil and other South American countries, as breasts are in others.

by Anonymousreply 18304/07/2015

I think anal sex for women is called "degrading," because of the misogyny involved. Gay men having anal sex aren't misogynistic, they're just enjoying sex with an "equal" partner. Makes a big difference.

If you really think about it, I wonder if violent, misogynistic porn has got something to with Republican attitudes about all women being sluts and whores that "can't keep their legs closed," and therefore shouldn't be allowed birth control or abortions, because they're just mindless nymphomaniacs. To them, men should force women to have children, because having a baby to take care of is the only way to stop them from being whores. Misogynism towards women is becoming more prevalent, and degrading porn where the woman suffers pain is becoming more common. This "all women are whores" stuff in porn seems to be influencing dumb straight men's' attitudes about women in general. Meanwhile, easily manipulated women play along.

A while back, I ran across some womens' forum about anal sex. Every woman was talking about how to deal with the pain in a way her boyfriend wouldn't notice. I thought, "I thought all these women loved anal sex," and then I thought, this is the saddest and most pathetic thing I've ever seen. These women are teaching each other how to endure pain so their boyfriends wouldn't leave them for someone who was better at faking enjoyment. It just shows how common it is for men to not take the time to make sex an enjoyable experience. And somehow the man wasn't responsible for being a lousy lay, the woman was responsible for faking it so she wouldn't be criticized or abandoned.

What happened to the idea that women were entitled to enjoy sex too? The inevitable consequence will be women avoiding sex because of fear of pain or injury. Is that what men really want? Somehow I think men today have become so misogynistic that only gay sex would truly satisfy them. It's the only way they can have sex with an equal partner that is an act of mutual respect and enjoyment. And if "sex" for women involves dreading submitting to your partner's painful, no lubrication, no stimulation sex every time, because that's the only thing he gets off on any more, why do it?

by Anonymousreply 18404/07/2015

Women's asses are a lot different than men's.

Plus recently there's a cultural thing about a woman's ass, so I'm assuming there is a rise in anal sex with women.

Nicki Minaj, J.Lo. Meghan Trainor are just a few of the female singers who are rising up and singing about how great their ass is, so I'm only assuming here that straight men are increasingly being drawn to the ass.

by Anonymousreply 18504/07/2015

All this "woman's ass" stuff is SO not what I thought you meant by "straight guys so into anal sex." Women's asses...ewww.

by Anonymousreply 18604/07/2015

" Somehow I think men today have become so misogynistic that only gay sex would truly satisfy them. It's the only way they can have sex with an equal partner that is an act of mutual respect and enjoyment."

That's a pretty bizarre leap of logic. Because gay male relationships are so full of mutual respect..

by Anonymousreply 18704/07/2015

I read this really interesting true crime book called "Murder at the Priory," which detailed the events leading up to a famous poisoning in the 1870s. One of the things I learned was that in that era, husbands and wives often had anal intercourse so as to prevent pregnancies. You always read so much about "repressed Victorians" that it came as a surprise that it was so commonplace. I guess there truly is nothing new under the sun.

by Anonymousreply 18804/07/2015

Most guys love it up the ass

by Anonymousreply 18904/07/2015

[quote]It's the only way they can have sex with an equal partner that is an act of mutual respect and enjoyment."

Agree. Men fucking men truly is an equal partnership, without the socially-inculcated female emotions/expectations that fucking women entails. Equality is achieved because men fuck to come, sex is release with no strings attached. A far healthier, sensible arrangement.

by Anonymousreply 19004/07/2015

r3 = women in denial.

by Anonymousreply 19104/07/2015

[quote]Doesn't this thread come up about once a month?

This thread has been around since 2011 and is nowhere near getting maxed out.

by Anonymousreply 19204/07/2015

They can slam me in the pooper!

by Anonymousreply 19304/07/2015

is there such a thing as a straight man, no there is not, give them a lager and within a few hours they wonder what its like, trust me, many many many straight men have tried their chances with me, and i told them to xxxx off

by Anonymousreply 19405/03/2015

My question is this, if some guys find homosexuality so repulsive, and threatening, because they have inherent desires of gay sex....then what is to stop my assumption that someone who is obsessing over anal sex wouldn't enjoy it with a man?

I'm not saying the qualities of a harry ass, or uber masculine one, I'm saying the kind that are feminine or soft as well. There are smaller guys and young men who look feminine and act feminine, so why shouldn't those "heterosexuals" like the act with those types?

by Anonymousreply 19505/03/2015

ops. typo: hairy Freudian slip.

by Anonymousreply 19605/03/2015

How ignorant to equate anal sex exclusively with gay men. Sex is sex and men in general get off on sticking their dick in things.

by Anonymousreply 19705/03/2015

because if the woman is moaning in pain, she cant fcking be talking

by Anonymousreply 19805/03/2015

All straight men like the idea of anal sex. hey might not ever get it, or even want it, but they find the idea hot.

On a similar point, most straight men in America like their ass played with.

Why? Because it's taboo, but pervasive in popular culture---not a one-way ticket to hell.

However, the straight guys I know are much more into pussy. They always say "It's not an everyday thing," or "I like it, with the right girl" (probably referring to whatever tart they're having an extramarital affair with). Nobody ever says it's tighter than pussy, except gay guys who have never felt vagine or straight guys who have never felt ass.

by Anonymousreply 19905/03/2015

r180/r181 is posting snippets from "anal only" message boards. That's a whole other issue. Those guys are fetishists (just like guys who only want to jerk off on a girl's feet), and I don't know if I would say that they're all straight.

by Anonymousreply 20005/03/2015

Our very hot Irish man(aka str8 guy) friend insists that fish love to be corn-holed.

His motto: "snack in the front, party in the rear"

(use your imagination)

by Anonymousreply 20105/03/2015

Are we talking about when the man go up into the woman, or when the man go up into the man?

by Anonymousreply 20205/03/2015
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