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I Got Married Yesterday!

First same sex marriage in our town. That is all.

by NYStudreply 16010/01/2013


by NYStudreply 109/20/2011

That is truly awesome. Blessings to you and your SO.

by NYStudreply 209/20/2011

That is wonderful! I am genuinely happy for you despite the fact that this is DL.

by NYStudreply 309/20/2011


Cool to think you've made it onto the history books of your town.

by NYStudreply 409/20/2011


by NYStudreply 509/20/2011


by NYStudreply 609/20/2011

Congratz OP!

by NYStudreply 709/20/2011

Honeymoon at the Datalounge!

by NYStudreply 809/20/2011

Are you putting an announcement in the New York Times?

by NYStudreply 909/20/2011

Salude! Here's to a long life together and lots of love!

by NYStudreply 1009/20/2011


by NYStudreply 1109/20/2011

Mazel Tov!

by NYStudreply 1209/20/2011


by NYStudreply 1309/20/2011

Many happy years together!

by NYStudreply 1409/20/2011

Congratulations boys!

by NYStudreply 1509/20/2011

Where are the wedding pictures?

by NYStudreply 1609/20/2011

[quote]Blessings to you and your SO.

Not "SO" anymore -- now it's "spouse".

Best wishes for much happiness, OP.

by NYStudreply 1709/20/2011

Thanks for your warm thoughts (to the extent they exist on DL). The town justice was great and he brought us to meet the Mayor. We have e-mailed back and forth as he wants to improve ceremonies for same sex marriages. For us, this is just a formality as we have been together for more than 20 years. For you New Yorkers, consider getting married in Bronxville. Yes, I cried. I did not sob.

by NYStudreply 1809/20/2011


by NYStudreply 1909/20/2011

Congratulations from a red state. Good for you.

by NYStudreply 2009/20/2011

Mazel tov, amigo.

Tell us: do you feel like it changes things between you?

by NYStudreply 2109/20/2011

Mazel Tov

by NYStudreply 2209/20/2011


by NYStudreply 2309/20/2011

Congratulations!!! Truly thrilled for you and your partner.

by NYStudreply 2409/20/2011

Did you wear white, Whore?

by NYStudreply 2509/20/2011

Congrats, I could never that.

by NYStudreply 2609/20/2011

R21, no real changes. We considered getting married in other states when it was an option, but it seemed like too much trouble and we are very low key people. It was only when it became legal in our state that we decided to take the plunge as we felt strongly about exercising the right others fought hard to give us.

by NYStudreply 2709/20/2011

I hope you're both at least ugly. It would really make me feel better about being single.

by NYStudreply 2809/20/2011

How long until one of you cheat on the other? Or do you have an "open relationship"?

by NYStudreply 2909/20/2011

R25, I did not wear white. Although I still look good, I am "high mileage." BTW, I prefer "slut" over "whore."

by NYStudreply 3009/20/2011 invitation must have gotten in the mail.

Congratulations anyhow!

by NYStudreply 3109/20/2011

Or gimpy. Gimpy would help.

by NYStudreply 3209/20/2011

R29, we are over 50. What do you think?

by NYStudreply 3309/20/2011

You understand you are only half married, right? Not recognized by the US Federal Government. No joint tax returns, no death rights, no inheritance rights....good for you but END DOMA NOW. Thank you.

by NYStudreply 3409/20/2011

Gee, OP -- with that moniker, I thought you were a lesbian.


by NYStudreply 3509/20/2011

This is all well and good, OP, but you have neglected to answer that most pressing of DL questions:

Did you have a cash bar at the wedding?

by NYStudreply 3609/20/2011

And now, you can both enlist in the Army as well!

by NYStudreply 3709/20/2011

As a sewaholic, I made the most darling matching pairs of mink testicle cuffs.

Of course, New York whores never invite me anywhere so I'll just have to save them for some fat, sweaty lardass wedding in Iowa. I can make a road trip to Iowa.

by NYStudreply 3809/20/2011

Congrats to you and the newly legally recognized husband!

by NYStudreply 3909/20/2011

Did you pop your anal cherry on your wedding night and get blood and shit all over the sheets at Club Med Niagra Falls?

by NYStudreply 4009/20/2011

I received the certificates in today's mail. The village included a transcript of the ceremony. Yes, I know it is the same canned one they use for everyone else, but it was a nice touch. We also received very nice flowers from friends.

BTW, it was not a cash bar reception, but considering there were only five of us, I thought I should splurge. We were given a free champagne toast by the restaurant. It was not great champagne, so I may not go back. **kidding**. We are happy for the right (limited as it is) and the kindness shown to us. Now let's take this to the next level.

BTW, I teared again looking at the certificate. I am a Wall Street lawyer. I am not supposed to do that!

by NYStudreply 4109/21/2011

Congratulations to you both.

My partner & I have been together 32 years, and we've always been rather ambivalent about marriage as an institution -- straight OR gay. But something "clicked" in me a few days ago, and now I think I want to do it.

The repeal of DADT has something to do with this new attitude, but so does something I just learned about a member of my partner's family. His sister is a supporter of the Liberty Coalition, a big "pro-family" (i.e., "anti-gay") organization.

It's very complicated, but I want to get married for several reasons: I love my partner; I want equal rights; and I want to give my partner's sister a big FUCK YOU and turn her into my sister-in-law!

I'm thinking road trip to Iowa this summer...

by NYStudreply 4209/21/2011

Congratulations to you and your spouse, OP. May you enjoy many long years of happiness.

by NYStudreply 4309/21/2011

No pot luck reception, OP?

by NYStudreply 4409/21/2011

Congratulations OP! Beautiful story :) I hope one day I can be lucky enough to find someone so that I can experience the same.

by NYStudreply 4509/21/2011

BFD. Make sure you let us know when the divorce occurs.

by NYStudreply 4609/21/2011

[quote]Yes, I cried. I did not sob.

Suuure ya didn't, Mary!

by NYStudreply 4709/21/2011


by NYStudreply 4809/21/2011

Thanks for your kind words. It is time to close this thread.

by NYStudreply 4909/21/2011


by NYStudreply 5009/21/2011

is your pic gonna be in nytimes so we can trash you?

by NYStudreply 5109/21/2011

Last post from me on this thread. No NYT announcement re wedding. We did not have a pot luck reception. If people want to continue the thread, fine. If so, hopefully positive posts and not the usual bitchfest. I just wanted to share a great joy in my life. I hope you all find similar joy, whatever that may mean.

by NYStudreply 5209/21/2011

OP, I would expect a regular on DL to know how to properly (attempt to) close a thread, but I'll give you a pass since you're still high on wedded bliss.

by NYStudreply 5309/21/2011

Congratulations to you and your husband, OP.

by NYStudreply 5409/21/2011

If you want to play it that way, R53, then fine: mazel tov, OP.


by NYStudreply 5509/21/2011

r42 One of my biggest (secret) motivations for marrying my partner was the fact that it would piss conservatives off. And I love him.

by NYStudreply 5609/21/2011

[quote]BTW, I teared again looking at the certificate. I am a Wall Street lawyer. I am not supposed to do that!

Yes, god forbid a Wall Street lawyer should show even a trace of human emotion. It might interfere with your ability to fuck the rest of the nation into permanent poverty.

Here's wishing you a messy divorce!

by NYStudreply 5709/21/2011

I quit Wall Street June 30. Never went back. Partner retired October 1. We are not financially fucking anyone.

by NYStudreply 5812/08/2011

My heart is broken. My partner died in his sleep on Sunday.

by NYStudreply 5903/29/2012

You're kidding that's terrible! Well at least he got to have his wedding and a few months of connubial bliss.

by NYStudreply 6003/29/2012

OP - Sorry to hear that,please be Strong..(((H)))

by NYStudreply 6103/29/2012

Why isn't he authenticating?

by NYStudreply 6203/29/2012

wow. So sorry OP.

by NYStudreply 6303/29/2012

I don't think that is the OP, I hope not.

by NYStudreply 6403/29/2012

R64, it is really me. He was 52.

by NYStudreply 6503/29/2012

Forgot to authenticate. It really is me.

by NYStudreply 6603/29/2012

Op, I don't know what to say. Much love to you.

by NYStudreply 6703/29/2012

Congrats to you and your husband!

by NYStudreply 6803/29/2012

OP, how are you holding up? I hope you can take great comfort in the memories you had with him. 52 is so young.

Let us know how you are doing.

by NYStudreply 6903/29/2012

I am so, so terribly sorry OP to hear that your husband is gone. I was hoping it wasn't true. Your wedding party sounded so lovely. Sending you peace and hugs.


by NYStudreply 7003/29/2012

Wat! O no.

by NYStudreply 7103/29/2012

How depressing.

by NYStudreply 7203/29/2012

So sorry, OP. Sincere condolences. We are sometimes jerks but we care when sad things happen to our DL friends. I know I do.

by NYStudreply 7303/29/2012

I'm so very sorry for your loss, OP. You must be devastated. My thoughts go out to you.

by NYStudreply 7403/29/2012

I am so sorry OP.

by NYStudreply 7503/29/2012

OMG, do you just wake up and find him stiff next to you? That is absolutely horrible, really sorry to hear. Kind of makes me glad that I'm single that I don't have to experience the heartache.

by NYStudreply 7603/29/2012

Holy shit. I am so sorry NYStud.

by NYStudreply 7703/29/2012

R76, we slept in separate rooms because of my snoring and his being a light sleeper. When he wasn't up by noon, I went in to check on him.

My father has been here all week and tomorrow my sister is coming over. My network of friends is great. My emotions are all over the place.

by NYStudreply 7803/29/2012

You were married, but maintained separated bedrooms? And it took you decades to decide to tie the knot? He was essentially a roommate, OP. I feel sorry for you, but it'll get better over time.

by NYStudreply 7903/29/2012

I eat shit.

by NYStudreply 8003/29/2012

r79, you're a complete jackass.

by NYStudreply 8103/29/2012

Congrats, and many happy years, OP!

by NYStudreply 8203/29/2012

R82, the OP's husband just passed away....

by NYStudreply 8303/29/2012

What do they think happened to him, OP? Aneurysm, heart attack? Was he being treated for any ailments?

by NYStudreply 8403/29/2012

r82 is Maggie Griffin drinking out of a box of wine.

by NYStudreply 8503/29/2012

Er, F&F for ME, R82.

by NYStudreply 8603/29/2012

My condolences, OP. It's hard to find comfort in anything when you've just lost a close loved one but try to bear in mind that he was loved, secure, and happy, AND that he lived to marry the man he loved. You take care of yourself.

by NYStudreply 8703/29/2012

That's drawesome! Congrats.

by NYStudreply 8803/30/2012

Pics of your off-white caftan and earrings or it didn't happen!

by NYStudreply 8903/30/2012

People should really read a thread before posting.

Unless theyre actually congratulating OP for being newly single!

by NYStudreply 9003/30/2012

So sorry to hear about your husband, NYStud. Dreadful news. I hope your friends and family will be there to support and comfort you.

by NYStudreply 9103/30/2012

Ooops, pics of your black caftan and earrings or it didn't happen!

by NYStudreply 9203/30/2012

Yeah - congratulations! go NY!

by NYStudreply 9303/30/2012

Dear 'NY Stud',

I am sorry to read this update. My partner and I were married a few miles north of you, the same weekend you two were. It is beyond painful to imagine losing him. And we have only been together 3 years, not 20 like the two of you.

Sincerely, to lift a DL trope, my heart goes out to you. May you be as well as is possible, in the days and months and next few years to come, given the circumstances.

by NYStudreply 9403/30/2012


That being said, I'm so so sorry for your loss, OP.

by NYStudreply 9503/30/2012

OP, I'm so sorry for your loss.

by NYStudreply 9603/30/2012

congratulations OP!

by NYStudreply 9703/30/2012

Condolences, OP. May your heart heal.

by NYStudreply 9803/30/2012

Sorry for your loss, OP. Hugs!

by NYStudreply 9903/30/2012

Congratulations to you both from here in Australia!!! Hope we follow suit soon. May you have a long and happy life together.

by NYStudreply 10003/30/2012

Oh godI am so sorry, I had not read the second page. Such a cunty thing for me to have done. My heartfelt apologies, OP.

by NYStudreply 10103/30/2012

Condolences, OP.

by NYStudreply 10203/30/2012

So sorry, OP. That's devastating news. I can't imagine the pain you are in. My partner and I are on our 11th year together and were married in 2009. I will cherish every day we have together as one never knows what life will throw at us. You will grieve tremendously. You will also get through it in time. Please accept all the help that is offered to you from family and friends. I'm so very sorry.

by NYStudreply 10303/30/2012

Your post at R100 must be like a slap in OPs face.

by NYStudreply 10403/30/2012

I fully realise that, r104, and am mortified that I did not realise the thread had changed drastically from one of joy to deep sadness for OP. I do apologise unreservedly.

by NYStudreply 10503/30/2012

Dudes, OP isn't Scott Peterson. Quit congratulating him.

OP, my condolences and heartfelt sympathy goes out to you. Maybe you should start a new thread and link to this one?

by NYStudreply 10603/30/2012

I'm sorry to hear that, OP. I'll keep you in my thoughts and RIP to your husband.

by NYStudreply 10703/30/2012

I'm so sorry, OP. Will be thinking of you.

by NYStudreply 10803/30/2012

r100, I almost did the same thing. Hugs to you.

by NYStudreply 10903/30/2012

Thanks, all. I am hanging in there. I am hosting a celebration at the end of the month. I am blessed with friends and family. Apologies graciously accepted R100.

by NYStudreply 11004/04/2012

How much $$$ did he bequeath you?

by NYStudreply 11104/04/2012

Are you going to tell us what happened?

by NYStudreply 11204/05/2012

R112, if you are going to go, he did it the right way. He died in his sleep. He did not suffer. I do not have the medical examiner's report yet, but he did have a heart condition.

by NYStudreply 11304/07/2012

I hope the fact that you were able to "make it official" after twenty years can serve as some comfort.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

by NYStudreply 11404/07/2012


by NYStudreply 11504/08/2012

I never understood congratulating people on getting marred.

by NYStudreply 11604/08/2012

R116, you're trying to tell us that you don't know anyone whose so unremarkable that it shocks you to find out another human being promised to spend their life with them? If that's true, you're fortunate.

by NYStudreply 11704/08/2012

NYSTud, my condolences. Take good care of yourself.

by NYStudreply 11804/08/2012

To add insult to injury, one of my dogs was just diagnosed with inoperable cancer. We are trying to determine whether it is readily treatable with chemo. Fingers crossed.

Am I living an EST scenario?

by NYStudreply 11904/13/2012

Blame the Mayans!

by NYStudreply 12004/13/2012

Did I mention that I had already spent $10,000 on the other dog for heart surgery? I am not making this shit up. R111, I now have lots of money. Am I happy? No. I want my partner back. I want my dog healthy. With luck, I will at least get the dog.

by NYStudreply 12104/13/2012

annus horribilis

by NYStudreply 12204/13/2012

R122, I am hoping it is just the month.

by NYStudreply 12304/13/2012

I had to put the dog down. She was suffering too much. I am now a rich man, but I feel poor.

No, I am not looking for dates.


by NYStudreply 12404/16/2012

Your life sucks. Really puts my trivial problems in perspective.

At least you're rich.

by NYStudreply 12504/17/2012

Rich? Am I? There is more to life than money. I am fortunate to have a wonderful family and friends.

I also admitted publicly that he took his own life.

Alcoholism is an awful disease. I know. I suffer from it too.

by NYStudreply 12604/20/2012

Today I finally took down his yahoo email and Facebook accounts.

by NYStudreply 12711/19/2012

Sorry, hon. :(

by NYStudreply 12811/19/2012

Thanks R128. I'm okay. I'm slowly coming back, thankful for what I still have. I'm currently housing a friend who lost his home because of the hurricane. I have a home; he does not.

I wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving. My neighbors are having me over. I am bringing apple, pumpkin and pecan pies, as well as a cheesecake. (I like to bake.)

by NYStudreply 12911/20/2012

How was his family? Did they treat you well? You mentioned that his sister was involved with an anti-gay marraige group. I hope that they did not make your time of loss any more difficult then it had to be.

by NYStudreply 13011/20/2012

wow OP, my deepest condolences. how are you holding up? Suicide leaves a terrible wake, and a lifetime of 'what-ifs' for loved ones.

are you in any kind of treatment/recovery for the alcoholism?

by NYStudreply 13111/20/2012

R130, you may have confused me with someone else. He did not have a sister and his family is not overtly anti-gay. His family has treated me fine. They are trying to give me more residuals from his father's estate.

R131, I'm holding up more or less fine. I'm still in my year of "firsts". I'm not in treatment for alcoholism, but since he's been gone, I don't drink much anymore. I'm now "a glass or two of wine with dinner" kind of guy when I go out with friends. I suspect we were co-enablers and I no longer have the "co." I am pretty self-aware, and if things get bad, I think I will know to get help. I also have many watching me like hawks.

by NYStudreply 13211/20/2012

glad to hear you have a support network in place.

forgive my nosiness, but: did your husband have a history of depression? did he express any despondency/hopelessness? or was it a total shock and there was no sign at all?

by NYStudreply 13311/20/2012

Genuine Congratulations to you and your spouse! I have tears in my eyes, and I do not care that I will likely get 25 MARY! replies. This is a beautiful post.

by NYStudreply 13411/20/2012

R134, I have been on DL for 12 years. You are the first person who I genuinely believe deserves to be shot for their post.

by NYStudreply 13511/20/2012

Excuse me? You better be kidding. I will just pretend you typed the number incorrectly.

by NYStudreply 13611/20/2012

R134, you really need to go back to R59. The thread takes an unexpected turn...

by NYStudreply 13711/20/2012

R133, no, he had no real noticeable signs of depression, but I am not a trained professional (except when it comes to mixing cocktails). It was a total shock to everyone. His (and my) friends are still reeling from it. He was the life of the party and I was the sane one who kept him in check.

He did not exhibit hopelessness. In fact, he had recently retired and was creating lots of art (he painted in the style of Erté), was selling his work and getting commissions, and was planning our gardens. (I will admit we live comfortably, but gold diggers need not apply -- I'll remain single for now). His father passed away the previous year and left him a pile of money.

I can handle people like R134.

by NYStudreply 13811/20/2012

Very sorry for you r loss OP. My warm thoughts and prayers are with you.

by NYStudreply 13911/20/2012

NYStud, did you know it was suicide from the get go, but just told us he went peacefully in his sleep, or did the autopsy reveal it was suicide?

This thread is so fucking sad, but I'm glad to hear you seem to have, at the very least, got your drinking under control.

by NYStudreply 14011/20/2012

You seem so distanced from it all OP, I think you need some professional help. You got married and soon after your partner died, and then your dog got sick and died and now you are worrying about gold diggers. You need more help than DL can give you.

by NYStudreply 14111/20/2012

OP/NYStud, you have my deepest sympathy. I lost my partner of 20 years a few years back. It sucks. Very sorry for your loss.

by NYStudreply 14211/20/2012

Thank you R141 for your sage advice!

by NYStudreply 14311/20/2012

I hope the coming year is better for you, NYStud.

by NYStudreply 14411/26/2012

Big Hugs to NYStud

by NYStudreply 14511/26/2012

Mozel tov, OP!

by NYStudreply 14611/26/2012

I have felt really badly for not reading the whole thread, NYStud. I was reply 134 and I have not been able to come online after realizing what I had done.

I am truly sorry for your loss; I was swept up with marriage equality being made legal in my state and only read 2 pages. I am humbly sorry, though this is an anonymous message board.

by NYStudreply 14711/26/2012

All, know that I am "okay." Sad? Sure. Who would not be. At this time of Thanksgiving I also know what I have. Good family and friends. And occasional amusement on DL.

by NYStudreply 14811/27/2012

are you divorced yet?

by NYStudreply 14904/26/2013

R149 I was thinking it, but wasn't going to ask it!

by NYStudreply 15004/26/2013

r149/150 = absolute morons.

by NYStudreply 15104/26/2013

R151 you do understand a great deal of marriages end in divorce. I hardly think the gay community is going to be immune to that trend.

by NYStudreply 15204/26/2013

Echoing R135: R149 and R150 both deserve houses falling on them immediately. I mean really, R149, you dug up this long-dormant thread to post something that terrible? Particularly in this case?? You fuckwits.

OP, if you read this, I sincerely hope things are going okay for you by now.

by NYStudreply 15304/26/2013

I never buy wedding presents until 11 months after the wedding. (Proper protocol gives you a year to buy a wedding present.) I have bought shit so many times for couples that split up in the first year that it's just not worth counting.

by NYStudreply 15404/26/2013

Congratulations OP!

by NYStudreply 15504/26/2013

r153, you're so kind, offering support to the OP...yet hoping that houses fall on other people. I'm guessing you're not married.

by NYStudreply 15604/26/2013

The point R156, is that OP said his husband died earlier in the thread, and people, the usual freeper homophobes, were coming here to gloat over his failed marriage without even reading the thread.

by NYStudreply 15704/26/2013

Congrats to you and yours.

I hope that you have a long and beautiful marriage and lots of little miracles soon.


by NYStudreply 15804/26/2013

Here we have proof positive that people do not read threads before commenting.

by NYStudreply 15904/26/2013

Congrats, OP!

by NYStudreply 16010/01/2013
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