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Update about my roommate

Earlier this morning we went down to the laundry mat to wash some clothes for the week, and we run into these guys from our dorms. My roommate completely forgets about me and talks to those douchebags the whole time about college football and whatever straight guys talk about. My roommate even tried to involve me into the conversation but those assholes basically ignored me as if I wasn't there. Once those assholes finally left I was so happy because we could just one on one. Stangely he never talks about who he likes or any girls in his class but I don't want to press the issue. I'm just hoping sooner than never he will come out to me if he is gay.

by Anonymousreply 23601/05/2013


"My roommate completely forgets about me and talks to those douchebags the whole time about college football and whatever straight guys talk about."

then why did:

" My roommate even tried to involve me into the conversation but those assholes basically ignored me as if I wasn't there."

You sound some kind of crazy, anyway.

by Anonymousreply 109/18/2011

OP, you really need to let this go, dude. You are in for a huge rude awakening.

by Anonymousreply 209/18/2011

Does he still cuddle with you at night?

by Anonymousreply 309/18/2011

"the laundry mat"

oh, dear

by Anonymousreply 409/18/2011

OP, it sure sounds like he's straight, chatting with the straight guys about sports.

Not to mention that he would have let you know by now if he were gay, or suspected that he might be, or even just wanted to experiment -- after all, he knows that you're gay, so he'd have nothing to hide from you if he were interested in any way.

He tried to include you in the conversation because he's a nice guy & not a homophobe, & you're his roommate -- the straight guys didn't respond well because you probably didn't know shit about sports or whatever subject they were discussing.

You can be pals, OP, but forget about anything more than that.

by Anonymousreply 509/18/2011

He's not in love with you OP. Look else where, Dear.

by Anonymousreply 609/18/2011

Offer him money, dear. Str8 guys always need cash to take out girls to a nice dinner. If you're lucky, he might bring a girl home, and you can watch him fuck pussy and jerk off. Good luck!

by Anonymousreply 709/18/2011

OP sounds like he is socially inept and has absolutely no experience whatsoever in the real world. This is a life lesson he has to go through - falling in love with the first guy who shows him the least bit of friendliness is a mistake he has to experience. He won't listen to anyone's warnings. Hopefully, he has the mettle to survive what doesn't kill him.

by Anonymousreply 809/18/2011

[quote]the laundry mat

They actually let morons into college?

by Anonymousreply 909/18/2011

[quote]Not to mention that he would have let you know by now if he were gay, or suspected that he might be, or even just wanted to experiment

Sleeping in OP's bed with him is not experimenting?

by Anonymousreply 1009/18/2011

Straight guys don't respond well to caftans, earrings and flames that can be seen from space.

by Anonymousreply 1109/18/2011

OP = Door Mat

by Anonymousreply 1209/18/2011

OP, do what young gay men have been doing for thousands of years when having a crush on a straight man. Masturbate in private thinking about him. A shower stall might be a good place but don't use soap as lubricant!

He sounds like a nice guy, but once this school year is over, most guys will probably create little gangs and rent apartments together. You may then never see him again. Just be grateful you have such a nice guy as a roommate, but don't try to take it any further. Straight guys have their limits!!

by Anonymousreply 1309/18/2011

Does Umpy have a nephew?

by Anonymousreply 1409/18/2011

R10, not if the straight guy was just sleeping.

by Anonymousreply 1509/18/2011

OP, I know you'd like that handsome jock (your roommate) to caress and kiss you, and admit that he loves you. Then you'd probably like to eat out his sweet tight young butt and suck his cock until his sweet seed is in your stomach. But this will never happen with him, but will eventually happen for you with other GAY men.

If you go online to the LOGO A-List NY site where the weekly shows are downloaded for you to watch, then watch the episode where the character Austin betrays his friend Derek. Derek refuses to ever forgive Austin (very childish behavior, but everyone on A-List NY is childish). But I brought this up because if you were to put any moves on your STRAIGHT roommate, he may react like Derek. Straight guys can be kind, but they have strict boundaries. If you go beyond them, he may go from kind to extremely unkind in a blink of an eye. He may never forgive you or demand a room assignment change. Straight guys can go nuts, in other words, if a gay guy comes on to them sexually. So enjoy the fantasies, but realize they are never going to come true with him. Everyone here has told you the same thing. Believe us!!

by Anonymousreply 1609/18/2011

r15 straight college guys would rather sleep on concrete than get under the covers with their gay Puerto Rican roommate.

by Anonymousreply 1709/18/2011

You all ought to be ashamed of yourselves. Seriously, OP has psychological issues and we shouldn't be egging him on.

by Anonymousreply 1809/18/2011

I don't have any concrete proof but I just have a feeling he's gay or at very least bisexual. He's so nice to me and I never see him talk to his other friends the way he talks to me. He holds doors open for me, he considerate, and he's always smiling at me.

by Anonymousreply 1909/18/2011

"Laundry mat" (instead of laundromat) isn't the worst of it.

I used to live in a college town a few years ago and I was doing laundry at the laundromat when a Paris Hilton type came in.

She and her friends had a devil of a time figuring out how to load the washer and dryer. She kept saying "We had Consuela do all of this" and "We have little brown people to do this for us."

The truly hilarious (and sad) part was that she didn't understand the detergent dispenser. She didn't bring her own and tried to put quarters in. She looked around and said, "Where's the cups, like at Taco Bell?" I had to get boxes of detergent for this dumb frauette, who apparently didn't realize that detergent can come in powder too. Of course she couldn't be bothered to say thanks.

I think if you can't do the basics - pump gas, operate an oven/stove, washer/dryer, and balance a checkbook - that you shouldn't be allowed to go to graduate or go to college until you do. We need more in practical teaching.

by Anonymousreply 2009/18/2011

OP, if your roommate was gay PLUS being attracted to you (2 very separate issues), he would have made this very obvious by now. Jesus, when I was 18 I wanted to fuck every reasonably hot guy I saw. So, you think this is 19th century Victorian England, and he is just too well-bred to reveal his feelings without first being assured that both your aristocratic families agree to the marriage?

Come on. He'd be on you like a horsefly on a fresh turd if he was attracted to you. You share the same private room together. The testosterone is roaring like a raging beast within you, yet he just smiles at you and opens the door for you? I do that for little old ladies!

Keep writing here, since I get the impression that you don't have any gay friends, perhaps never have had gay friends. You will get nasty people just playing with your mind, but some of us have good intentions.


He may not discuss girls with you because of the obvious (duh) you are gay. He may talk about girls all the time with other straight jocks. You seem so lonely. But don't focus on him like a laser beam, thereby missing the other lonely shy gay guys that may be around you right now.

by Anonymousreply 2109/18/2011

"OP, do what young gay men have been doing for thousands of years when having a crush on a straight man."

You forgot one important item that's critical for this kind of scenario r13.

OP must seriously obsess on the object of his affection. Get depressed. Listen to sad torch songs (The Man That Got Away) was a particular favorite of mine.

Worked for me

by Anonymousreply 2209/18/2011

OP, he can be nice to you without being sexually attractive to you. If you push this, it will not end well.

by Anonymousreply 2309/18/2011

LMFAO @ r22! That's exactly what I did first semester in the dorm during my first year at age 18.

OP is just a kid who is learning about life and using us grown-ups as a sounding board on the Internets. Wish PC's had even existed when I was in college!

OP, shaving cream makes an excellent lube in the shower stalls.

by Anonymousreply 2409/18/2011

Seriously, OP, you need to GIVE IT UP!

He is NOT gay, and he is NOT going to be your bf, and if you keep pushing him the way you do, you won't even get to be bffs with him cuz he will get sick and tired of your clinging and manipulating (yes, your behaviour is VERY manipulative) and will dump your ass completely!

You need accept that he's a sweet, good-looking guy who WILL NOT BE YOURS.

That's the way the real world works, hon; everyone's got tons of "perfect" people they wish could be theirs, but aren't.

Hell, I am currently so in lust with John Barrowman, I've even been searching out his boring old talk show appearances, and even downloaded Simply Come Dancing, just so I can see and hear everything he's ever done.

But I understand and accept that my JB love is a fantasy and will never come true. I adore him, I love everything about him and wish he were mine with all my heart, but it's never gonna happen. By accepting this, I'm able to control myself and be happy with what I really do have in my life, instead of always wishing for the fantasy to come true.

You need to do the same. If not, your roommate will grow to resent and even hate you, and you'll be even worse off than you are now.

by Anonymousreply 2509/18/2011

I'm just waiting for the OP to go all Hedra Carlson on his roommate.

by Anonymousreply 2609/18/2011

OP, this is not a helpful remark, but I was curious. Have you seen your roommate naked? Have you managed to take a shower when he does? Our dorms were so cool for gay men's voyeurism. We had shower stalls, but the other wall was floor to ceiling mirror!! I suppose this was to stop any "nasty" (gay) activity since the straight guys would see it, but it was heaven for me, being able to check out every guy's cock. Heavenly!

I was lucky as a Freshman. I had a roommate who was so straight it was a fetish. He would have so much straight sex that he would walk the halls of the dorm moaning about how his balls hurt. He was a very handsome guy, and cool about me being gay (and looking back, might have let me blow him when he was stoned, which was a lot), but he was totally a vagina sniffer and licker.

by Anonymousreply 2709/18/2011

Don't listen to these other posters with negative views, OP.

Take it from me, I've had straight, model-type guys fuck me all the time. There's just a few rules to do: 1. Spend as much cash on them as you can afford: take him to bars, restaurants, even take him shopping for clothes and electronics. 2. Cook for him, if you have a dorm kitchen. Especially if he is health nuts. It's not easy to eat well and healthy. 3. Do all the cleaning and their laundry. 4. Listen to him as he babbles on about problems about girls. Be supportive at all times. 5. Offer to write all his term and research papers. 6. Give him a massage when he comes back from the gym.

Trust me, after a few months, he'll be thinking "fuck that stupid girl, I'd rather have OP suck me off for hours, while I watch football! Perhaps, if I watch porn, I might even get hard enough to fuck his tight ass!"

Good luck OP!

by Anonymousreply 2809/18/2011

Why yes, OP, listen to [R28] if you live in 1971 and want to be a self loathing queer all of your life.

by Anonymousreply 2909/18/2011

Did you audition for "That Girl!", R28?

by Anonymousreply 3009/18/2011


by Anonymousreply 3109/18/2011

I hate myself for this because it's happening just like it did in high school. I was in love with my best friend in high school our whole four years together but nothing ever happened. And I feel the cycle repeating itself with this guy. And to the person who said "hot jocks go for other hot jocks"...I am not fem at all, and I'm actually just a regular dude, but I'm also somewhat shy and introverted but he gets all of that accepts me for me. He's the only one on this campus who I can trust and confide in. I just know there's something there. I'm not going to sweat it though because I have all semester AND all year to see what's up.

by Anonymousreply 3209/18/2011

I think Op is looking for gay love, and his straight roommate is feeding this by being such a nice guy. The roommate doesn't realize that he is feeding the OP's fantasy. When I was 18, I wanted to fall madly in love with some other gay guy also. While this can happen, it did not happen to me until I was around 24.

The more the OP realizes what he is doing, the better he can rise above it and see it more objectively. That's the basic goal of psycho-therapy.

In the meantime, there's always masturbation! I read (I think on Huffington Post) that one military school found its shower drains totally plugged up with cum. Evidently, a hell of a lot of cadets used the shower to beat off. The Answer? The powers-that-be put up a sign banning jacking-off in the showers. Can you imagine drain pipes clogged with cum? Sort of gross and hot at the same time!

by Anonymousreply 3309/18/2011

Um, R25, your fascination is with a PUBLIC FIGURE and someone who you have never met! I know this guy, and we're close friends and this point and it could grow into something more down the line.

by Anonymousreply 3409/18/2011

[quote]OP, do what young gay men have been doing for thousands of years when having a crush on a straight man.

Steal his dirty underwear?

by Anonymousreply 3509/18/2011

R32, Okey Dokey, as my totally insane great aunt used to say.

I realize that nothing anyone here says makes the tiniest dent in your force field. Therefore, I am going to stop even attempting to talk with you.

OP, you mentioned loving some guy for the 4 years of highschool. As Dr. Phil says "How did that work out for ya?" Seems to me you are repeating the same pattern.

May all your magical thinking come true. There's nothing more wonderful than being in love with a guy and knowing that he loves you too.

I'm not psychic, but I see a possible future for you in the gay world: as the submissive partner in a leather relationship. You would wear the dog collar and follow your "master" wherever he went like a good "slave". Just think, he might lend you out for the night to a group of his horny friends!

by Anonymousreply 3609/18/2011

Opie r28 has the right advice but its really very simple.

Clean your room often. Bring hot food home a couple of nights a week to share with him. Make sure you and the room smell delicious, dont wear many clothes. Pick his brain some while you talk and eat. The next time he touches your hand touch his arm. If he touches your arm you touch his chest. After a while you will have nightly ritual in which he feels the need to reciprocate. This is how straight girls trap college dudes.

by Anonymousreply 3709/18/2011

R35, while he is asleep, make a cast of his cock. I know the stuff dentists use to make a cast of teeth dries in a few seconds. Problem: you'd have to pull the cast off his cock, and this would make a big sucking sound. The guy might get the wrong idea!

by Anonymousreply 3809/18/2011

At what point in this charming tale do the pink elephants come flying out of someone's ass?

by Anonymousreply 3909/18/2011

Oh for heavens sake! Just offer him a no strings attached blowjob! No man would refuse unless it was being offered by Janet Street-Porter or their mother!


by Anonymousreply 4009/18/2011

OP let it go. Been there done that. One day you'll meet someone else and you'll know if they feel the same for you or not. Your current situation is going to end badly (for you) and you'll lose him forever, but that's probably a good thing (for him) anyways.

Your obsessions is unhealthy and unreciprocal. LET IT GO.

by Anonymousreply 4109/18/2011

He's gay-friendly. Don't make him a homophobe by getting all stalkerish and scary like a 14-yeaar-old girl. Straight guys can turn nasty real quick.

by Anonymousreply 4209/18/2011

I fell hard for a guy in my first year undergrad. HARD. He was straight, but always sought me out to ask for advice and just talk. He genuinely liked me, but I, the confused, repressed, frustrated, hard-up homosexual that I was, interpreted it as something that it wasn't. I fell into a depression, I drank, I cried, I took it all out on myself. I even neurotically developed a deep hatred for the guy that I kept in check whenever he was around. I lost my mind over it and grew morid, cursing him (I'm a Scorpio - we're very intense and somewhat psychotic).

I eventually got over it, wised up, grew up, met some fantastic guys through the years when I developed the courage to just come out and be myself. The point is: we all have that unattainable crush (especially us gay guys). The truth is: there are thousands of guys out there, OP, who will recipocate your interest. I don't think this guy will.

You don't realize it now, but you are fixated on not just an ideal, but a guy you KNOW deep down inside will never return your afections because it is safe and you can continue your little internal drama right now. It's easier to long for the guy you can't have than actually make the effort to involve yourself in a real relationship. This situation has absolutely nothing to do with who this guy really is - it's all about you. You'll get that someday. Just hope you don't have to hit rock bottom and lose your mind like I did ('cause it kind of sounds like you will).

by Anonymousreply 4309/18/2011

r16, no OP doesn't really want that. He says he does, or thinks he does, but he doesn't. If he did, he wouldn't be hot for someone who will never return his affections.

by Anonymousreply 4409/18/2011


No one likes a sour puss. The next time your dorm mate starts talking football with the other fellas, saddle up to the nearest gal and ask her thoughts on Project Runway.

by Anonymousreply 4509/18/2011

How old are you, OP?

You sound young, dumb, and full of cum!

by Anonymousreply 4609/18/2011

This will not end well. There will be tears before bedtime and an intervention by an RA, if not the school itself.

by Anonymousreply 4709/18/2011

r28, OP is not going to get the sarcasm in your post.

And if it isn't sarcasm, then you are an A-1 asshole and creep.

by Anonymousreply 4809/18/2011

[quote]If he did, he wouldn't be hot for someone who will never return his affections.

OP said this guy held his hand before. If he is gay OP should leave him alone for toying with him.

by Anonymousreply 4909/18/2011

OP is a young, inexperienced boy with a penis. He won't listen to us. Anyone else here been there? Hmmm... thought so.

Javy has posted numerous times here. He is cute (albeit way overplucked) and will find true love, someday. Let him fuck-up and get his heart broken.

Javy also expects to suck lots of hot cock, but insists that he is "bi" and wants to get married to a girl and have lots of babies and not cheat on her. I know this is not 1979, but you said the same thing when you were a kid and so did I.

Isn't that what we all did, despite our better judgement? Live and let learn...

When he's watching hologram TV with his boring accountant husband in 2031 while planning their gravity-free vacation on Mars, he'll have some tales of drama that he created to tell.

by Anonymousreply 5009/18/2011

OP, you are asking for heartache. Like others have said, there's enough stereotypes about gay men lusting after straight men and this straight guy is being nice and accepting of you being gay. Don't become that stereotype that we're trying to get rid of - if you do, you run the risk of making him feel so uncomfortable that he asks to change rooms. Just be happy that you have a good friend and let that other shit go.

by Anonymousreply 5109/18/2011

Just like that Far Side cartoon with the dog and cat with thought bubbles over their heads while the owner is speaking, here's what OP is hearing:

DOG: "Blah, blah, blah, "Ruffy!" blah, blah, blah...Ruffy!".

CAT: (completely empty cartoon bubble)

OP is the cat.

by Anonymousreply 5209/18/2011

Unless OP gets a grip, this will end with him crying and screaming "I hate you I hate you I hate you!!" while pounding with his fists on the roommate's chest, getting banned from campus housing, and having to transfer to another school.

OP, it's clear that the only conclusion you can see is your roommate professing his love for you, and the two of you living happily ever after.

That's NOT going to happen.

You need help. Go to your school's clinic and ask for a counselor to help you work through this. It's eating away at you and making you miserable and jealous. You're already calling his friends assholes, for no reason other than they talked to each other. It's only a matter of time before your roommate senses this. For his own good he'll likely want to get away from you.

The best thing for you to do is to seek counseling. You can probably find it for free through your school's student health facility.

by Anonymousreply 5309/18/2011

[quote]Straight guys can turn nasty real quick.

This has been said a few times in this thread. Makes me think of the nature channel or something......or that thread about the mean, scary Koala. LOL.

by Anonymousreply 5409/18/2011

The only way you are going to confirm if he has any feelings for you is if you get a boyfriend or at least have a couple of flings with out gay guys. If he gets weird or jealous, call him on it and maybe something can go from there. If he doesnt seem to give a shit, then he is not into you, move on. Either way just sitting around being celibate and pining over him isnt going to do anything and you'll just go crazy. He has all the power now and thats why he is extra nice to you, he pities you in a way. And he is never going to fuck you if he feels sorry for you.

by Anonymousreply 5509/18/2011

This is why they hate us.

by Anonymousreply 5609/18/2011

It's easy for all of you to judge and make like I'm a crazy person but I know what my heart is telling me. And even if it doesn't work out, at least I know I put my heart into it and most people aren't brave enough to do that. We spend a lot of time together apart from being in our room. He walks me to my classes when he doesn't have one, he waits for me to get out of class sometimes. Maybe he sees me as a brother, or maybe as a lover. Either way, it's cool with me

by Anonymousreply 5709/18/2011

Javy, you make a good point there. Some of us just don't want you to get hurt, like we did, because the situation you're in is not unique, even though you might think so.

Even if roomate proves to be your Gay Prince from Heaven, you'll still need to form relationships with other people, and therefore, back off a bit from your obsession and get out more, my sweetie darling.

And please do keep posting, because some of us got too old for our own Twink Drama and yet it still is so wildly entertaining.

by Anonymousreply 5809/18/2011

I've been listening to Grouplove (my new favorite band) all evening just thinking and thinking. This album speaks to me and what I'm experiencing at the moment. Being and love and feeling absolutely hopeless. The object of my affection sleeps five feet away from me and it feels like we're 10,000 miles apart.

by Anonymousreply 5909/18/2011

GHB is your friend, OP.

by Anonymousreply 6009/18/2011

R57, Op, if he saw you as a lover, wouldn't you two both know it by now? I admit walking you to your classes is very odd, if true. Waiting for you after class is also odd, if true.

Being so young, it may not have occurred to your that your so-called "heart" is often wrong, Hallmark Mother's Day cards notwithstanding.

Why don't you actually do something brave? Eh.

What would be brave and mature would be to sit down quietly with him. Then without emotion and drama tell him your feelings towards him, and wait for a response. Get it over with. I think if you walk to him about it, he won't freak out. If you let it all build up and someday just kiss him even on the cheek, he might freak out.

Tell him you are sorry that this has happened, because he is a truly good friend and you want that to remain. But you felt he should know about your romantic feelings so that he could not inadvertently encourage them.

Then wait and see how he responds. That would be bravery, chum. Not secretly having the hots for some guy but never acting on it. It would be a nuclear explosion size mistake to act on it physically. But you can talk about it - perhaps you best do this in a quiet but public place, just in case this freaks him out.

If he responds to you by confessing he feels the same way, then you two can take baby steps together, knowing what you want.

But I don't want to read anymore of your hopeless puppy dog following him around and interpreting everything he does as a sign he secretly loves you. Get it over with.

I did as you are doing my entire Freshman year. Then when I did tell the guy, he was very kind but told me my feelings were not reciprocated because he was straight. He was very nice about it. But never again did I develop a blind crush on a straught guy, hoping he'd be gay.

As one person said, you could be actually afraid for a real relationship, so you prefer to "love from afar", because you know how to do that (the suffering victim of an unjust world). Are you ready to love someone? Are you afraid your dick might fail at the crucial moment? I had lots of fears that I kept from myself back then by obsessing on a guy I unconsciously knew I couldn't have.

by Anonymousreply 6109/18/2011

[quote] I know what my heart is telling me. And even if it doesn't work out, at least I know I put my heart into it and most people aren't brave enough to do that. We spend a lot of time together apart from being in our room. He walks me to my classes when he doesn't have one, he waits for me to get out of class sometimes.

You write like a love struck girl from another century.

by Anonymousreply 6209/18/2011

[quote]Um, [R25], your fascination is with a PUBLIC FIGURE and someone who you have never met! I know this guy, and we're close friends and this point and it could grow into something more down the line.

Oh, well, my mistake then!

Everything you're doing is fine, and he's gonna be your lovah forevah.

Carry on, 'tard.

by Anonymousreply 6309/18/2011

OP, you really should consider going on Big Brother.

by Anonymousreply 6409/18/2011

Loving all this ridiculous armchair psychoanalysis for such a most probably fake event by a poser.

Even if he is sincere, do you really believe this deluded twink is going to take your advice? He's a disaster waiting to happen.

by Anonymousreply 6509/18/2011


...I just want somebody to love me ):

by Anonymousreply 6609/19/2011

You need to start keeping a journal, OP. A private one.

by Anonymousreply 6709/19/2011

Do you sniff his dirty underwear, OP?

by Anonymousreply 6809/19/2011

Do you lick the urinal right after your roommate has pissed down it?

by Anonymousreply 6909/19/2011

Does anyone else think that if this scenario of the gay roommate and straight roommate is true, that the straight roommate probably already can sense that the gay roommate has a crush on him? The straight roommate is described as very sensitive, kind, and even holds hands!?!?!

I suspect that the OP has given himself away many times in many ways without realizing it. The straight roommate probably already knows the OP has a crush on him, and is being quite mature about it. He may even just feel sorry for the unsocialized lonely soul.

It's just a theory. What say you?

by Anonymousreply 7009/19/2011

I'd say no. I'd say the roommate is a big flaming queer who mistreats OP due to social status anxiety.

by Anonymousreply 7109/19/2011

My unrequited freshman love was better than all YOUR unrequited freshman loves so I am in a better position to evaluate. And what I'm seeing is that a guy who acts differently when you're alone than in front of other people has insecurities and self-loathing about being gay.

by Anonymousreply 7209/19/2011

Goodness, it's a fine line between pathetic and crazy, isn't it?

by Anonymousreply 7309/19/2011

I have an odd feeling that this post was for real.

by Anonymousreply 7409/20/2011

He never gives any indication that he's straight aside from thinking that Jessica Alba is "hot"? I mean, Jessica Alba isn't even our generation. She's like 30

by Anonymousreply 7509/20/2011

Sit down and have a conversation with your roomate about your feelings, op. I wish you all the best.

by Anonymousreply 7609/20/2011

Do you save his finger nail and toe nail clippings?

by Anonymousreply 7709/20/2011

I am getting tired of this. It might make a good reality TV show though.

Just tell the roommate you are developing a crush on him. Get it over with. This is getting so boring. And ray of sunshine that falls your way, OP, is interpreted as your gaydar (sorry, your heart) telling you the truth.

Just tell him in a non-threatening way that his kindness and closeness is causing you to have a crush on him, and see how he responds. I assume (if he is really this great saint) that he will ask how he can help you to GET OVER IT! Your idea seems to be that you can wear him down over the year until he realizes he loves you. Oh, God....if he's straight he could be stranded on an island with you for 20 years and he would not be interested in you. If he is gay but you are not good enough for him (in his mind) then it would be good to know that too instead of wasting your entire Freshman year yearning for this guy.

Funny thing. When I was a freshman in the dorms, this cute guy came into my room and told me he was gay. I was about to say that I was gay too and would like to get to know him, but he suddenly panicked and ran from the room. Looking back, I should have chased him and maybe something really precious would have come of it. But I didn't.

Op, you need a good slap in the face to wake you up, a good gay old gay to shake you up and get you moving from this stagnant dream you are in. Hell, if I was there, I'd tell your roommate just because I'm getting so fed up with your inaction. Otherwise, you are going to just post more episodes where one minute your roommate is being sweet (doing laundry together, awwwwww, ain't that sweet?) and then being a typical straight jock (ignoring you while in public and talking to his jock pals).

This pimple needs to pop!

by Anonymousreply 7809/20/2011

Go have a wank, and leave The Saddest Story Ever Told to more capable minds.

by Anonymousreply 7909/20/2011

OP, since we have to listen to your dreck about your roommate,give us something hot to ponder. What would you like to do with him sexually? You are among friends and peers. What would you like, to suck him off? To have him fuck you, or would you like to fuck him? Does he have a sweet fresh tight butt that simply demands to be licked and rimmed? Or do you just want to cuddle with him and jack off together? Or is this to be a chaste Walt Disney love, based on mutual respect and friendship?

Inquiring minds want to know!

by Anonymousreply 8009/20/2011

R78, I appreciate your concern but I know how to keep my feelings at bay for now. The first month of the semester is almost over and I still have time. Right now I'm just enjoying our very close friendship and "brotherhood"...Soon enough, maybe before winter break, I might tell him how I feel but I'm still trying to figure out his angle. Last night he was teaching me how to play Counter Strike Online (a video game) and he seemed really enthusiastic to be spending time with me. Even though he's kinda jock-ish he's really into computers and video games which is a huge turn on for me because I love computers and technology. I don't know, he's just a great guy and I know there has to be something there.

by Anonymousreply 8109/20/2011

R80, I'm a gay virgin so I don't think I'm ready for sex just yet. I would be happy just making out with him. And he has a GREAT ass. He always wears these beige cargo shorts and ass looks so good in them.

by Anonymousreply 8209/20/2011

[quote]Right now I'm just enjoying our very close friendship and "brotherhood"...Soon enough, maybe before winter break, I might tell him how I feel but I'm still trying to figure out his angle.

I think this is a good plan. But your meltdowns when he gives someone else attention are probably going to make you tell him sooner.

by Anonymousreply 8309/20/2011

And dont you have homegirl/faghag yet? She would help you test the water with him. Sometimes they have better gaydar.

by Anonymousreply 8409/20/2011

OP, I'll have to take matters into my own hands. I've had lots of gay experience, and have a very refined gaydar. I'm going to come to your campus and steal this guy right out from under you, as an object lesson! I will write out what he's like in bed for you, just so you have some authentic factual data.

Hmmmm....I can just visualize putting my hands down the back of his shorts and feeling those beautiful 18 year old tight buff cheeks while kissing his neck and ear.

Be on guard, young man! There are other gays on campus and while you are sitting there pondering your 5 year plan for talking to this guy, some hot confident gay guy is going to take this guy into his bed and deflowered him - it is always fun to be first.

by Anonymousreply 8509/20/2011

R80/85 = creeper

by Anonymousreply 8609/20/2011

Wouldnt you think fat ass fish would be just a little embarrassed buying ide cream at the Kroger?

I was just there and on two different aisles these bitches as big as a buick were with their men, not actually bad looking at all, and teasing him to get ice cream and making a big fucking scene.

now, they probably make him go buy tampax for them all the time and act like there is something wrong with him when he doesnt want to go to teh store by himself and get Kotex... but when it comes to ice cream, they have no fucking shame.

pack it on sister. baby's got back.

by Anonymousreply 8709/20/2011

R86, what the hell is a creeper? I am trying to knock some sense into this boy. Does he think he's the only gay guy in college? Does he think they all have his hang ups? If his roommate does harbor "the gay DNA" inside, and is truly attractive, then odds are that some confident gay dude is going to snatch him up. I can see OP now, wondering when the roommate is coming home, only to awaken in the morning to find that his roommate did not come home and sleep in his bed last night. Then the OP starts seeing his roommate hanging out with a good looking jock, even holding hands, and he realizes he blew it (no pun intended).

by Anonymousreply 8809/20/2011

Just relax and see where things go. Getting him drunk wouldn't hurt. Just avoid roofies if you want him to be the top. Trust me.

by Anonymousreply 8909/20/2011

I always let the jocks be tops in college. This made me very popular.

by Anonymousreply 9009/20/2011

R85, what makes you think I'm not confident? I'm a little shy at first but I'm pretty confident and easy going. I'm not worrying about any queens trying to hit on my roommate because I know he wouldn't go for it. We've had deep discussions about family, school, the future etc. Our bond is already established I'm just waiting for him to make his move. Like last week when he went to this 9/11 ceremony thing, I didn't wanna go and he was basically forcing me to come with him. He likes being around me as much as I like being around him. Aaaah, I want him to be my college sweetheart. I see other cute guys around campus and I don't even care because I have the greatest guy rooming with me

by Anonymousreply 9109/20/2011

OP, if you arent careful you are going to live up the stereotype of possessive Latino guys that go off the deep end when someone even looks at the object of their affection.

Have guys talked about sex?

by Anonymousreply 9209/20/2011

R92, how exactly am I being possessive? It's like I said "Ugh, why are you friends with those douchebags?" It's whatev, he can be friends with those idiots.

by Anonymousreply 9309/20/2011

R91, college sweethearts KNOW they are sweethearts, it isn't just a fantasy in one guy's head. I think your roommate sounds like a great guy, but now you've changed the story a bit. Now you are waiting for HIM TO MAKE HIS MOVE ON YOU! How much time will you give him, to the end of the school year, when he gives you a nice hug and says goodbye?

Have you two talked about living together next year. Yeah, I know....much too early. But bear in mind, most guys leave the dorms after their freshman year by partnering with another guy or a group of friends and renting an apartment near campus. If the end of this school year comes and he doesn't plan to room with you again, you are screwed (and not in the fun way either).

I do hope you and he become college sweethearts. This is what I always wanted in college but did not get. Sex? Yes, tons of it. But no sweetheart.

However, someone has to make the first step, and why can't it be you? You think about him all the time, you want him to be your boyfriend, dare I say "your lover?"

Start with baby steps, if that seems appropriate. As someone said, follow the well trodden route that girls use to get guys into a relationship in college. Do special things for him. Buy him something he'd really like. Be there for him day or night.

by Anonymousreply 9409/21/2011

I'm so bored. He's been at the gym all evening and I've even come close to actually doing extra homework.

by Anonymousreply 9509/21/2011

OP, I've been where you are--several times. I wish I hadn't gone through all that. It was a big waste of my time. I'm embarrassed when I look back on it. I did some foolish things, and spent a lot of time triangulating what every interaction meant as well as sitting by the phone waiting for a call that (unfortunately) eventually would come, causing me to crawl deeper into my delusions.

I found a lot of solace online, because it was easy to find people who would feed my fantasies. I could tell them only the details that supported the story I was building and many people would support me, only making me believe more in what I was imagining. If anyone suggested anything that didn't support the worldview I was constructing, I could simply ignore them.

In each case, I'd eventually be separated from my object-of-affection, first because of things like graduation, changing dorms, eventually changing jobs. I'd pine away until I could find a new object-of-affection to focus on. That seemed to be the only way to get over someone.

Eventually, I started looking at reality. I found people who I could actually have a relationship without having to fill in the blanks with my imagination. The real thing feels a lot better than the pretend thing. Living life feels a lot better than making a life up.

Back in the day, I'd have people who would claim to have gone or to be going through the same thing I was. I knew absolutely that they were wrong--my situation was unique in the world, and their situations seemed kind of pitiful, to be honest. Now I realize that the kind of behavior I exhibited is more common than I'd like to believe. I wish someone had talked a little sense into me so I could have taken my life off hold a little earlier.

by Anonymousreply 9609/22/2011

You're still young, OP. Every young gay men goes through that stage where they hopelessly crush on straight guys. I'm guessing him being your roommate won't make things better. As the year starts flying by and you notice nothing happening, you'll be pissed at yourself. Crushing on straight guys is extremely frustrating and time consuming. I'd advise you let it go early on while you can.

by Anonymousreply 9709/22/2011


You queens are falling for this schtick just like all the suckers who believe "J.T. LeRoy's" crapfest.

by Anonymousreply 9809/22/2011

R98, this is DL's version of a soap opere. Let us indulge. I just wish OP would describe his dream jock in more detail. Pretty blue eyes? Brown eyes? How does he style his hair? Is he hairy? He has a wonderful butt. Op, haven't you had time to get a look at his cock? Don't you wonder where he jacks off, since most 18 year old guys need to do this at least 3 times a day!!!!!! LOL

I am disappointed Op didn't comment on my lovely video ONE BOY, ONE SPECIAL BOY. This is from the early 60's movie BYE BYE BIRDIE.

by Anonymousreply 9909/22/2011

OP Honey, it's time to move on to a real boyfriend. This just sounds TOO painful. Does it hurt to breath?

This is the very reason why aging is such a blessing.

by Anonymousreply 10009/22/2011

OP, did you take my advice and order an on-line dildo yet? Geez, you never do what anyone suggests....what are we all, your parent figures?

Now, if you are a gay man, you may find that another man may want to fuck you. I agree that not all gay men like that. Suit yourself. But you should have a dildo in your hope chest, and be practicing with it every few days to get your asshole accustomed to something coming the wrong way down a one-way street. I practiced, as I mentioned, with bananas and cucumbers (you can order lubricant online too, but I just used CRISCO!). Come on, if you are a maiden-in-waiting, you must prepare for the day when you become a madame!

What if jock-face does make a move on you and wants more than some kissy-face, as you envision with little blue birds flittering around and the 3 cute fairies from Walt Disney's Sleeping Beauty. What if he wants to satisfy his natural male desire to fuck? At least find out if you like it, my sweet little virgin butt boy. My sister practiced with a sawed off broom handle!

Oh, well....ignore the advice as usual since YOU know better than all your older aunties and uncles giving you advice here.

by Anonymousreply 10109/22/2011

R100, the OP is a virgin and he is AFRAID of a real boyfriend. That is why he has this all consuming chaste crush on a straight jock who is very nice to him. After a while (as most of us post-college guys know) a relationship that is about 99% in our heads doesn't satisfy, and you reach a point where you cannot pretend anymore. The guy just isn't really interested and you cannot pretend any longer that he is, interpreting every fart as a declaration of secret love. Then you crash emotionally, realizing how you wasted 1 out of 4 special years in your life (before you have to actually work all day). A real relationship is scary, I Know that. Take small steps. But it would help if you took them with someone who has already said to you "I am gay". Waiting for those words all through your first year can be crippling emotionally, as you invest your all into him. Is there a chance your fairy tale will come true? Sure, there's a chance. But I wouldn't place bets on it. As I read on a guy's tee-shirt once "STRAIGHT BUT SENSITIVE".

by Anonymousreply 10209/22/2011

P.S.Op, if you are making this all up for our pleasure, thanks on one level. On another more rational level, I'd love to know who and where you really are, so I could beat the shit out of you. Just like vampires, we gays can punish our own quite mercilessly when necessary.

by Anonymousreply 10309/22/2011

OP, you dumb shit. If your dream boy is in the gym, why aren't you in the gym, spotting him with the heavy weights and sharing a good manly brotherly shower together afterwards? Man, this is basic Gay 101 tactics. Or are his big bad jock friends down there with him?

by Anonymousreply 10409/22/2011

Heck yeah I would love for him to fuck my brains out but I'd rather us establish a boyfriend/boyfriend relationship first. And maybe months down the line sex will come. I first need to find out if he's feeling me though. I've never had a boyfriend so I don't know how to look for the signs if he's into me or not. He's super nice, gentle, and friendly with me. He reached out and hugged me one time out of the blue. It's like mixed signals but I'm not sure

by Anonymousreply 10509/22/2011

R105, may I remind you that you are planning out this boyfriend situation, yet you do not even know if your roommate is gay?

Please check out the thread:

"I have a crush on my friend"

You will find that this guy is getting the same advice that has been given to you and pointedly ignored. You need to find out if the guy is gay. Just being kind to you and hugging you is not proof. I have a golden retriever who does that.

by Anonymousreply 10609/22/2011

If your roommate does want you as his boyfriend, I think your statement about "sex months down the line" is extremely unrealistic and amusing. If gay sex is new to you, I can understand being reticent. But this may be true for both of you. Trust me - if 2 guys find out that they both want each other, sex comes FAST, THAT DAY, THAT MOMENT. It is the way most guys are wired. Trust me, it comes naturally. It truly does. You just start kissing and fondling each other....the clothes come off, and suddenly someone is sucking cock or a cock is sliding itself between you sweet cheeks, hoping to be invited inside.

by Anonymousreply 10709/22/2011

r102, his being a virgin is all the more reason to find a real boyfriend. Just get out there and have sex with someone, it will be like eating greasy food to get over a hangover, and fix you right up.

I am serious. Virginity is over rated, and crushes lessen when you figure this out.

Use a condom.

by Anonymousreply 10809/22/2011

I just don't understand that if he knows I'm gay, then why is he so comfortable being slightly affectionate with me? Any straight guy would keep their gay friend at arms length when it comes to that sort of thing. When I'm laying in my bed reading he comes and sits right beside me and does his homework next to me. Wouldn't he sit on his own bed and do that? He spends A LOT of time at the gym so I haven't seen him that much this week.

by Anonymousreply 10909/22/2011

Do you run your fingers languorously through your hair while he sits on your bed? Do you leave your underwear off and slide your jammies down so he can see a little asscrack? You have to make it easy for him, gurl!

by Anonymousreply 11009/22/2011

Uh, nah, I don't do any of those things haha. I feel mostly nervous and freaked out when he sits on my bed.

Btw, I've never heard him fart? Is that weird? It's been like a month, I mean c'mon

by Anonymousreply 11109/22/2011

R109, you can interpret actions many ways, according to your own mental filters and what you want to believe. That is why for the very last time, talk to him about your feelings, and see how he reacts. You seem to be waiting for him to "make his move", but how do you know he ever will?

I've done my best to direct you in a sincere manner, but I am not you, and I cannot observe you and him together.

Therefore, I am resigning as big brother or a wise older gay man. I really think you have to see this thing out as you see fit. Not sure why you keep even posting here. What are you looking for, someone to agree with you? So far that is extremely rare. Doesn't that mean anything to you, honey?

Let's hope this funky video from a past time never becomes your reality (listen to the words - they always make me cry. LOL)

by Anonymousreply 11209/22/2011

If he's straight, since he knows you're gay and assumes that you understand he's straight, he probably doesn't expect that you see him as a sexual prospect. He's expressing what he sees as his own maturity, by being comfortable with you.

Okay, now what if he is gay or bi. Then the question is: how does he feel about you. The next step is to examine what he would do if he is interested in you versus what he would do if he were not interested.

If I knew my roommate were gay and I was interested in him, I'd let him know. If I wasn't interested, I'd assume/hope he had no interested in me and simply be nice and respectful.

by Anonymousreply 11309/22/2011

Maybe your roommate just wants you two to be "sisters" in a gay sense.

by Anonymousreply 11409/22/2011

The next time he sits on your bed, just tell him might be sitting on your dry cum from the last time you jerked off. You will be able to tell instantly if he is gay, and if he's into you! If he shrugs and rolls his eyes he's gay. If he jumps out of his skin he's straight. If he doesnt do anything he wants you.

by Anonymousreply 11509/22/2011

OP/ r109 - Spending much more time at the gym = possibly has a girlfriend.

by Anonymousreply 11609/22/2011

You have GOT to be the most socially and possibly mentally retarded college student I have ever encountered...

...or one HELL of a troll, in which case, kudos.

by Anonymousreply 11709/22/2011

Op, when your roommate sits on your bed with you and starts caressing your butt or crotch, then he's gay AND interested in you.

If he just lays on the bed and does his homework he could be an affectionate straight guy, or a gay guy who likes you as a friend, but nothing more.

Op, with all due respect, you are acting like a gay person from the 1950's. This is 2011. Just tell him your feelings. Or are you going to buy some daisies and pull off the petals while saying "He loves me" or "He loves me not".

by Anonymousreply 11809/22/2011

R117, BRAVO! You got it! I am now thinking TROLL. It's been fun but the guy is just to dumb to live. He has 117 responses, and not a single one has sunk in. With this open mind, he will probably flunk out of college after the first semester anyway, so if he's for real the problem will vanish (as he's sent back to live in his childhood room at mom and dad's house, and perhaps go to a trade school or an online school like University of Phoenix).

by Anonymousreply 11909/22/2011

Whatever, dude, I have taken a lot of what has been stated into consideration. I'm not forcing anything upon him or making him feel uncomfortable. I don't text him as often as I did on the first week of school.

by Anonymousreply 12009/22/2011

I am sure you will do what is best for you.


by Anonymousreply 12109/22/2011

Obviously, honey, your major in College is NOT English Composition. The mind boggles at your bad grammar and spelling (eg, Laundry Mat for Laundramat). And, I'm not going to rant about the comma splices galore!

by Anonymousreply 12209/22/2011

Congrats, OP. You've strung these dumb bitches along for 122 replies so far.

by Anonymousreply 12309/22/2011

Troll or not, R123, I think the subject resonates with people and they want to discuss it because it's kind of a universal situation and a lot of people can relate. Gay, straight, male, female, whatever - a lot of people get crushes, sometimes unfortunate and unrealistic and sometimes not, where they interpret every little interaction or behavior as evidence of hidden feelings or that they're destined to be together. And usually it doesn't matter how much you shout at them to get a clue or try to give them a cold dose of reality; they're not going to listen.

The "crush on the hot, nice straight roommate" is unfortunately not an uncommon experience for many gay men and women, but hopefully you grow out of it with dignity and self-esteem intact. (And I have to say, sometimes the roommates really do turn out to be gay, but it's not like that always results in the happiest outcome either). Like an earlier poster said, sometimes you just have to go through it, and more than likely experience a little disappointment and heartbreak, in order to learn and grow up for future relationships.

by Anonymousreply 12409/22/2011

I think the OP has been watching too much Luke & Noah.

by Anonymousreply 12509/23/2011

Hey, OP, if you've just got to have a man crush, have an ORANGE CRUSH!!!

by Anonymousreply 12609/23/2011

122, Freshmen in college do not declare a major. This comes the Junior year. Please keep up. (wink)

by Anonymousreply 12709/23/2011

To the people saying I'm making it up, you can kiss my big, Puerto Rican butt!

My roommate lives in Philly so he's going back to his parents house for the weekend. Kinda sad but at least I get the room to myself.

by Anonymousreply 12809/23/2011

Op, if you really have a big ass, that could be your problem right there. Very few gay jocks like a guy with a big fat ass. Maybe you should go to the gym with him and get in shape! The ass that could sit on and fit in Philly without wincing is not a turn on for most gay guys who like a nice tight bubble butt.

Why isn't he taking you home to meet his parents? What kind of romance is that?

by Anonymousreply 12909/23/2011

OP, seems to me that you have been neglecting your man. I think he's stepping out on you. Confront him with his cheating.

by Anonymousreply 13009/23/2011

OP, I also think you should use this weekend to do more than mope in your dorm room. Go down to the lobby area. Most dorms have a common area, right? Lean up against the wall in a spot where you can watch all the guys come and go, giving them the eye. Wait for a response. Hey! When I was a Freshman I did exactly that on the 2nd night in college. I got a response from a really cute guy and we had some very lovely times together. I think you have to get word out that you are gay, and nothing beats standing around the lobby a lot in a torn tee-shirt and gym shorts. Try to find a sports tee-shirt with the number 69 on it.

by Anonymousreply 13109/23/2011

Can you text your roommate all weekend in Philly so he knows he is on your mind? Tease him. Remind him that he now lives with you, and the room just isn't the same without him nearby. If necessary, get emotional and let him know you are crying your eyes out from missing him.

by Anonymousreply 13209/23/2011

OP, now is your big chance! Sleep in his bed, and just smell his pillow and sheets. Get to know his man-odor up close. Unless he took all his laundry home for his mom to do, find his used undies, especially from gym workouts, and breath in the raunchy but incredibly man smell.

by Anonymousreply 13309/23/2011

Javier, give the damn thing a rest already.

by Anonymousreply 13409/23/2011

Duh, it just occurred to me. Borrow a line from Stiles on TEEN WOLF. Ask your roommate if he thinks you are attractive to other gay men! Get him to comment on your looks in some detail. From his responses, you will know if he's straight or gay.

by Anonymousreply 13509/23/2011

Javier, you big poop! Is this you again? Why don't you start a new thread where you are a prince locked in a tower, and need another prince (who likes Puerto Ricans with fat asses) to come and rescue you. Like in SHREK, he will have to fight the dragon and then give you a kiss.

I am really hurt that this was all a deception on your part. I even asked my husband's opinion of what you should do. He just agreed with me that you should tell your imaginary roommate how you feel. I kept responding, sometimes seriously and other times in jest, since this is a problem that many young gay men face.

I got suspicious when you refused to give us your college class schedule (hard to fake that if you've not been to college, right?). You also wouldn't tell me your favorite music, which would be very hard for an eldergay to fake.

I will leave you now with an appropriate video.

by Anonymousreply 13609/23/2011

R133, that is gross, lmao. Not about smellin' dude's dirty underwears.

Before he left earlier this evening to visit his parents, he had the nerve to tell me to go out this weekend because "he's not always going to be there to hold my hand" Uh, WTF does that suppose to mean?

by Anonymousreply 13709/23/2011

Sorry, Op, no longer falling for any of your "hooks", e.g., "what is that supposed to mean?" As Rhett Butler put it so many years ago, "Frankly, Javier, I don't give a damn."

by Anonymousreply 13809/23/2011

R136, I'm fake because I didn't tell you my favorite bands or my scheduale for the semester?

Uh, aight. I'm taking Bio 130, Psyc 108, Indoor Cycling, and Philosophy 101

My favorite bands are Rilo Kiley, Vampire Weekend, The Office, and Hot Hot Heat. I also love GaGa.

Happy now? geez

by Anonymousreply 13909/23/2011

OP, give it up. You've been exposed. No one is buying your troll post anymore. Don't you realize we're all making fun of you?

by Anonymousreply 14009/23/2011

Indoor Cycling is an actual college course?

And Rilo Kiley and Vampire Weekend? Are you posting from 4 years ago?

by Anonymousreply 14109/23/2011

R137, you dumb shit! You don't smell the anal part of his underwear. You smell his crotch which builds up a really strong sex odor especially after working out. But since there is no roommate and no underwear, this is all hypothetical.

Now go to bed. On the West coast it is 10:38 p.m. and this is late enough for such a young lad as yourself! Conversely, if you are an eldergay, the admonition still fits.

Doncha just love Glen Campbell in that video. Man, he had a great voice. What he is doing is called "singing". I realize 18 year olds don't get to hear much of that nowadays.

by Anonymousreply 14209/23/2011

R139, must not be a very challenging college. My Freshman year (2 semesters) I took Calculus for Engineers, Spanish, Quantum Physics, psych 101 and 102, classical history (Greeks and Romans-cool!), Economics 101 and swimming. No wonder your hypothetical self has so much time to play on the DL forum.

by Anonymousreply 14309/23/2011

R137, he is telling you to DROP DEAD. High high is your dorm building. Mine was 14 stories high. A jump from the roof would do it.

by Anonymousreply 14409/23/2011

I cannot believe none of you picked up on this. He's at the gym? For hours no less? The reason he's not hitting on the OP (besides his rather large ass) is that he's hooking up with college guy after college guy in the steam room! OP, get into shape and get yourself into that steam room!!!

by Anonymousreply 14509/24/2011

R145, my Spiderman senses agree with you 100%.

I think the roommate is already lost forever from Ops dreams of being his romantic sweetheart in college. The roommate is already spending large blocks of time supposedly at the gym, either to build up his body, meet other hot buff guys (as you mentioned) or to get away from the clinging energy patterns of the OP.

OP, it is time for you to embrace your SHATTERED DREAMS!

by Anonymousreply 14609/24/2011

First, I want to apologize to any readers who are annoyed by all my video insertions. I just felt they fit the current discussion of a gay boy wanting a college sweetheart, and projecting this onto his kind jock roommate. Of course, I also see that none of this is probably true, but the topic is still fascinating, so thanks Op.

I felt a little sad that my last entry was too sharp and biting. So I am bringing you a little panacea, a little comfort blanket as you dream of your perfect boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 14709/24/2011

It's kind of scary how much of this thread has been written by one person. (Trolldar R147 to see what I mean--not that there's actually anyone here). I wonder if he is also OP.

by Anonymousreply 14809/24/2011

R148, you are right, and I apologize. I just got hooked into this "kid" and his story, real or not. And it gave me a chance to indulge in 1 of my favorite pursuits, which is movies and music from all time periods in the 20th century. I love to collect movies at a time when I've heard a lot of 18 year olds say "I won't watch anything in black/white". SOme of the greatest movies in American cinema were made in B/W but these dolts are missing it. Same goes with music. I love to discover music from the past, such as the Dream a Little Dream On Me. It is like those commercials wanting you to just surf their website to learn about your ancient ancesters (yawn). Who fucking cares if my great great grandfather was a mill worker in Pittsburg? The only thing we share is DNA.

Anyway, I've sorta used this thread to pursue my favorite passtime and share some of the excerpts from movies/music that related to romance and dreaming.

I also found the OP fun to play with, so to speak. But I think I should "retire". Thanks for all the fun OP.

No, I will not include yet another video. LOL

by Anonymousreply 14909/24/2011

I think this thread is getting senile anyway. The last 2 entries were duplicated with different numbers. Time to put this thread in a nursing home? Below is an example of Nursing Home Discipline!!!!

by Anonymousreply 15009/24/2011

R150 (aka just about all of the R...s here.) English isn't your first language, is it?

by Anonymousreply 15109/24/2011

Yippy skippy! I have the room to myself for the weekend, now I can' blast Darren Criss' cover of "It's Not Unusual" while dancing around the room (: Wish I had someone to hang out with though ):

And to above posters, I'm NOT fat! I'm actually a very slim guy, I just have a huge ass that's all. And my roomie's butt is bigger than mine (for a supposed straight dude) so I should be telling him to spend even more hours at the gym!

by Anonymousreply 15209/24/2011

OP if this guy doesnt give you any soon Im sure there are other dudes on campus or even in your building who can take care of that phat culo!

by Anonymousreply 15309/24/2011

There are few cute guys in my dorm but I've been so fixated on him, everything else is like a blur. Even back in high school, I would crush on a guy a focus all my energy on that one guy. I feel like I'm losing out on a lot.

by Anonymousreply 15409/24/2011

You are. Move on.

by Anonymousreply 15509/24/2011

R151, oh, I see. you were not sincere, but just being snarky toward me. OK, fine. I get it. Another bitch on patrol. Probably the same nut case who follows me around from thread to thread bringing up that I slept with Rodiney Santiago, because he just can't deal with it for some reason while I'm sure everyone else on DL has long since forgotten about it.

The OPs latest responses have been retarded at best. I feel like I'm talking to an AI (artificial intelligence) interface. No longer.

You stop insulting total strangers and I will stop adding life to this thread.

by Anonymousreply 15609/24/2011

OP, while your roommate is gone, go up to each of his jock friends and tell them he is gay and that you 2 are secretly in love. Get rid of the straight trash he hangs out with and have him all to yourself. I am sure he will end up thanking you when he gets back. Do it!

by Anonymousreply 15709/24/2011

R156 ad infinitum,

Thank you for answering my question.

by Anonymousreply 15809/24/2011

OP, just dont become a crazy stalker to the first guy that chops down those boricua cakes!

by Anonymousreply 15909/24/2011

R157, why would I do some stupid shit like that? Even if he were gay, I would never out him like that. That's some fucked up shiz right there. His friends are douchebags, and I would never been them the benefit of speaking to them when he's not present.

by Anonymousreply 16009/24/2011

This guy in my dorms that added me on Facebook. Not really into white dudes but he's kinda cute.

by Anonymousreply 16109/24/2011

Is your roommate Latino too?

by Anonymousreply 16209/25/2011

[quote]I don't know, he's just a great guy and I know there has to be something there.

Hmm, but there might NOT be anything there OP. You have to prepare for the fact he may simply be a NICE, but straight, guy who feels a little sorry for you and wants to get to know you as a roommate only.

Some guys genuinely are just friendly and kind to other people. It doesn't mean that on some level he is attracted to you. Be prepared for a girlfriend arriving on the scene, be prepared for that every day because it is highly likely it may happen for this guy and then what? Are you going to go stalkeroo on him?

He may be secretly gay, he may be bi or curious or not really know himself yet but his words about not holding your hand suggest a kindly concern. I am not going to tell he isn't gay or bi because I don't know him but neither do you really. It's too early. Be realistic and practical and give him and you space. He might have a girl back home he hasn't told anyone about or be in an interracial relationship with a female nobody knows about. Or an older woman, or women! Who knows.

Just toughen up and be prepared for whatever life throws at you because you can't always read the signals clearly and that applies to all of us.

You are young and have plenty of time to get into relationships and fall in love/get hurt/start again. Don't get too heavy and just enjoy your time away being independent more than trying to fall in love. If it happens it happens but assume he is straight and then you can't get hurt so easy.

If you have a big butt then that's fine too. You are what you are and a lot of guys love big butts. Ignore the DL scream qweens, they're all old and ropey.

Good luck - but be prepared for life's potential knocks.

by Anonymousreply 16309/25/2011

Op, I just heard the awful news. Your roommate was killed in a fatal car accident on the way back from Philly. He was found with another guy's dick in his mouth.

Time to shut down this thread and try a new story line.

by Anonymousreply 16409/25/2011

My new mesh tank top from AE:

by Anonymousreply 16509/27/2011

R165, absolutely stunning.

by Anonymousreply 16609/27/2011

We have warned you repeatedly about those eyebrows. Grow them lower, and never arched like that.

by Anonymousreply 16709/27/2011

What's your tattoo of Javi?

by Anonymousreply 16809/27/2011

OP lost his cuteness a long time ago. Get some help, kiddo. You're frightening.

by Anonymousreply 16909/27/2011

I think Javi is sort of sexy, but he needs to thin out his eyebrows. This is the USA, not Puerto Rico. Assimilate, young man!! Join the melting pot!!

by Anonymousreply 17009/27/2011

Hey, Javier, wanna fuck? You said you have a big ass. Let us be the judge. Please post a picture of your butt, thank you.

by Anonymousreply 17109/27/2011

Javi-Don't hit on or have sex with your roommate.

It's tacky and like someone else said yeah he could be hetero/straight.

Even if he's bisexual or gay that doesn't mean that he wants to have sex with you since you're his roommate.

Get out and meet bisexual and gay men and date them, go on Manhunt, use Grindr, or make a profile on or gaydar if you're in the UK.

Better yet just get out and meet new people and become friends with them.

by Anonymousreply 17209/27/2011

R172, Oh, are we still pretending that there is a roommate? I thought it was pretty much assumed that Javier created this from his imagination. He's done it before. I am waiting for a brand new thread about being in a Sultan's male harem, and feeling sad that he never gets picked anymore to spend the night with the Sultan. Also, like Rudolph the Rednosed Reindeer, Javy is never invited to play in any harem boy games. How can we help? What do we advise?

by Anonymousreply 17309/27/2011

R173 I don't know Javi I just started posting here.

by Anonymousreply 17409/27/2011

Who and what is a Javi? I don't get it - is it an inside joke?

by Anonymousreply 17509/27/2011

From my understanding, that is the name of the OP. In another thread, he posted a picture of himself and asked if he was handsome. Problem was that the picture was not of him but of his ex boyfriend, whom he was hoping to insult by having DL people post nasty remarks (which they did and always do).

by Anonymousreply 17609/27/2011

Yeah Javi, if your roomie was gay he would be bouncing you on his dick in between classes. You look perfect for that.

Dont listen to these old bitter queens, you're a cutie.

by Anonymousreply 17709/27/2011

Javy, I'd do you anytime. You are really cute and deserve a good boyfriend to adore you and take care of you, give you love and support. Also someone special to share cocks and asses with. You aren't mainstream model material but you are hot!!!

by Anonymousreply 17809/27/2011

So why are people feeding the messed up troll?

by Anonymousreply 17909/27/2011

Well Javi, what are you waiting for? We want to see pics of that virgin culito. Chop chop!

by Anonymousreply 18009/27/2011

My ass:

by Anonymousreply 18109/27/2011

Cmon Javi, everyone's ass looks big when the camera is that close. Redo!

by Anonymousreply 18209/27/2011

R182, I can't take a nudie with my roomie in the room. He already looked at me weird when slid down my bball shorts and took that picture, lol

by Anonymousreply 18309/27/2011

r181 THAT'S a college dorm? WITH THAT comforter and sheets?

Do you go to MARY! College?

by Anonymousreply 18409/27/2011

Ewwwww! Just ewwwwwww!

by Anonymousreply 18509/27/2011

Take a pic of the soles of your feet, Javi.

by Anonymousreply 18609/27/2011

J.V. as in junior varsity?

by Anonymousreply 18709/27/2011

Javy, you seem to need confirmation about yourself. Here goes:

1. You are sexy. Get used to it!

2. You are hot. Get used to it!

3. I love your lips. Get used to it!

4. You are probably a wonderful sensitive guy. Get used to that too!

5. YOu do not need to yearn for a straight guy.

6. It is OK to be afraid of gay sex, but don't let that stop you from meeting gay people. Unlike DL, most of them are pretty friendly in a gay club or whatever. Bars are a very different story and tend to invoke whatever low self-esteem issues you may have. There's lots of snobbery and "attitude" in bars that is missing in other genres. (See your original thread, where some folks gave Penn specific suggestions to you).

7. As they are telling the kids "It will get better". College sort of sucked for me, but I met and fell in deep love with a guy after college at my first adult job.

8. Your ass looks fine. It is round and has a nice bubble effect.

Learn to love yourself. Gay friends will help with that.

Now, if this entire 2 threads have been fabrications of your mind, and there is no roommate, that is OK. I understand. But you can be authentic here. The bitches will insult you no matter what you type, but there are a few people here who will help you. Just be your true self.

by Anonymousreply 18809/28/2011

Javi, you still haven't provided us with another pic of your ass yet.

by Anonymousreply 18909/28/2011


by Anonymousreply 19009/28/2011

Not really interested in joining any gay organizations or clubs. Never have or never will fit into that crowd. Don't like being around other gay guys because they're too stuck up. I'm okay with myself (sort of) so I don't really need any gay pride parades or GSA's to validate who I am.

So far, my roommate is still hot and straight as ever. Kind of quiet these days since this past weekend.

by Anonymousreply 19109/28/2011

OP get out and meet people, you're not going to really meet people if you just stay in your dorm all the time.

by Anonymousreply 19209/28/2011

I try and meet people but nothing ever goes past small chit chat. Everyone seems to have formed their own cliques already and I feel so left out and alone. My roommate has his own friends, and he invites me to tag along but I don't wanna look like the loser "third wheel" when he's with his other guys. It's just embarrassing at this point, like he doesn't even ask me if I do anything interesting because he knows I'm such a loser.

by Anonymousreply 19309/28/2011

Asshole Javy who called us hater fags in another thread, fuck off.

by Anonymousreply 19409/28/2011

Check out post 25 on the linked thread. This Javy/Javier guy is nuts.

by Anonymousreply 19509/28/2011

Another lovely thread started by Javy. He's bi, yes?

by Anonymousreply 19609/28/2011

Dude, stop bumping my threads and obsessing over me. If you don't like me and think I'm a troll, then steer the fuck clear of my topics, because I'm going to be here for a while, so you're just going to have to deal with big booty, Puerto Rican ass!

by Anonymousreply 19709/28/2011

I really want this Asian dude in my class!

by Anonymousreply 19809/29/2011

Ewww, OP, ur freakin hideous.

Clearly your roommate isn't attracted to you. Why would he be?

Give it up.

Also, you are incredibly tiresome and annoying and I hope that you die in a fire.

by Anonymousreply 19909/29/2011

OP, you don't join a gay organization because you actually care about it, you just join for the ability to meet guys. Get it? If there was a gay group for saving the red spotted river slug, you'd go just to check out the guys. You aren't even trying to play the game. Then you sit alone and feel sorry for yourself. Are you the only Puerto Rican on campus?

Please start a new thread on a new topic. This is really getting boring. In reality, you are probably the biggest slut in your town.

by Anonymousreply 20009/29/2011

Who is the obsessive person bumping all my topics, posting Facebook pages? Dude, whoever you are, you're a fucking moron! Stay out of my threads and stay out of my life. Don't involve my roommate in your petty faggotry, okay?

by Anonymousreply 20109/30/2011

Hi Javi, hope you are doing ok. You sound kind of angry in your last few posts. Try not to take your sexual frustration out on others, it makes you sound like a beyotch.

by Anonymousreply 20209/30/2011

[quote]Stay out of my threads and stay out of my life.

LOL. He thinks they are HIS threads? Javy, this is not the place to tell anyone to not do something. You're just asking for it now.

[quote]Don't involve my roommate in your petty faggotry, okay?

ASSHOLE: YOU are the one who is posting his photos here!!! YOU are the one who is posting about him in thread after thread!

What a head case.

by Anonymousreply 20309/30/2011

OP get help.

by Anonymousreply 20409/30/2011

2day was awesome! A guy actually spoke to me in a non customer voice, and I finished my paper early. Ah, life is good

by Anonymousreply 20510/03/2011

Oh my god, really? Please take all of your problems to a therapist. This is not the place.

by Anonymousreply 20610/03/2011

I feel like we're drifting apart. I've met some people finally, and he has his friends. Guess it's for the better. The less I see him the more the attraction wears off. I was in such a sad place the first couple weeks of school, now I'm just goin' with the flow (:

I just wish I could meet a hot gay dude somewhere round this bitch

by Anonymousreply 20710/05/2011

Bitch, I thought you got banned.

by Anonymousreply 20810/07/2011

Hi Javi, glad you are starting to move on.

by Anonymousreply 20910/08/2011

At last!

by Anonymousreply 21010/19/2011

Javi is not moving on he still trolls this site and claims he attends Penn State when he doesn't at all and it's just total BS. See linked thread.

by Anonymousreply 21110/19/2011

Trolldar his posts and FF all of them.

by Anonymousreply 21210/19/2011

Javi STFU nobody believes that you are actually a student at Penn State.

You're posting total lies and BS about actually attending there when everyone knows that you do not attend the main campus or any other campuses.

by Anonymousreply 21310/19/2011

How very special for you, R213.

by Anonymousreply 21410/19/2011

R214 try having some idiot troll like Javi claim that he went to your college/university if you attended one and see if you get sick and tired of his threads and pointless bullshit and lies.

I'm not the only person here on DL who attended penn state who is sick and tired of Javi and his troll ass, he should be banned.

by Anonymousreply 21510/23/2011


Deal with it, punk. Dude, you're a punk ass bitch, you can easily not come into any of my threads. It's your obsessive ass that keeps bumping them to the very top, almost every single fucking day. Complaining about me being a troll, claiming I don't attend PSU, blah blah blah BITCH, get off my fucking dick.

by Anonymousreply 21610/23/2011

R139 more proof Javi is nothing but a troll, phony, and full of shit.

Leave this site nobody here is fooled since you're a troll.

by Anonymousreply 21710/23/2011

I'm not going ANYWHERE, R217. Deal with me, I'm here to stay.


by Anonymousreply 21810/23/2011

Why does Javi's room look like a room that would be found in a mother's basement? Where does this so-called "roommate" sleep?

by Anonymousreply 21910/23/2011

I think everyone one would be nicer to Javi if HE was the hot, sexually ambiguous jock.

by Anonymousreply 22010/23/2011

I quite like Javvy actually, at least he'll put a name to his posts, unlike some others. I don't recall it being all that easy being gay & going to college; give the guy a break.

by Anonymousreply 22110/23/2011

R221, the point is, ALL his posts are about HIM. He does not offer anything to other threads. No wit, no fun, no commentary. The only time he posts, is when it is about him.

Something tells me if you had a friend like this, who only started and participated in conversations about himself, you'd ditch him pretty quick.

by Anonymousreply 22210/23/2011

[quote]ALL his posts are about HIM.

That's not quite the truth. Ive seen Javi discuss celebrity asses and some actors. You cant be so hard on him, he's just a sensitive 18 year old twink.

by Anonymousreply 22310/23/2011

[quote]You cant be so hard on him, he's just a sensitive 18 year old twink.


by Anonymousreply 22410/23/2011

Javi is a troll, an idiot, and not even attending any college or university.

by Anonymousreply 22510/24/2011

op= 12 years old

by Anonymousreply 22610/24/2011

It's pretty well established that Javy doesn't go to Penn State. He's a liar.

by Anonymousreply 22710/24/2011

yeah Javi isn't at Penn State at all or any university, he's a troll and a poor excuse for one at that.

by Anonymousreply 22810/24/2011

God this site is boring now.

by Anonymousreply 22910/24/2011

People who think Javi the troll is entertaining need to get out more.

by Anonymousreply 23010/24/2011

The OCD people who feel the need to tell us Javi is a troll over and over need to get out more.

by Anonymousreply 23110/24/2011

Why don't you anti-Javi trolls come after MHB with this kind of vengeance? He adds nothing of value.

Oh, that's right, it's because he only spews hate against women {{snort}}.

Love you Javi---fuck the haters.

by Anonymousreply 23210/24/2011

I'm back, bitches! Well, semester's over, and I I didn't end up getting with my roommate. However, we did become extremely close, and I'm still holding out that something could develop down the line. I'm just happy it's finals next week.


by Anonymousreply 23312/10/2011

How about you go ahead and bump all your threads then

by Anonymousreply 23412/10/2011

I'm back. Sophomore year!!!

by Anonymousreply 23501/04/2013

Javi, if its really you then post a pic of your ass so we can know for sure!

by Anonymousreply 23601/05/2013
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