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I''m too ugly to get laid

So how do I come to peace and accept the fact I'm too ugly to get laid. I get jealous when I hear of guys having a different guy every night. Or guys going to regular sex parties. And I can't be a part of it because of my homely looks. So how do I accept the way I look and know I will never get laid? Serious post.

by Anonymousreply 13201/17/2013

OP, I feel that way too, but then I also feel I'm a LOT better looking than a lot of "ugly" guess I know who get laid regularly.%0D %0D I think a lot of it is attitude. Which I don't have.%0D %0D I also think a lot of it is being able to not care who you have sex with or what they look like. Which I can't do either. %0D %0D I've resigned myself to either just masturbation for the rest of my life, or "paying for it" if I want it from someone else.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 109/08/2011

I think it's attitude too. And feeling like you are in good shape. Not necessarily Men's Fitness Cover Model shape - but healthy for you.%0D %0D A guy with confidence can be super sexy - a little attitude even.%0D %0D Plus if you're just looking for sex, I doubt you are THAT homely. You just need to adjust your self perception and your expectations in what you'll hook up with in the looks department.

by Anonymousreply 209/08/2011

Work out like crazy. You cant really change your face but you can certainly change your body

by Anonymousreply 309/08/2011

Nonsense. One can never be too ugly to get laid. Now too broke to afford a good escort is another thing entirely.

by Anonymousreply 409/08/2011

Useless without pics. Let US be the judge dahling.

by Anonymousreply 509/08/2011

I'm too ugly to get paid

by Anonymousreply 609/08/2011

[quote] Useless without pics. Let US be the judge dahling

I put my photo on Craigslist (face and all).

no response.

by Anonymousreply 709/08/2011

What we are really talking about in gay world is weight.

Fat guys are not desired, regardless of age. If you are slim you can find someone regardless of your age or what your face looks like. Lots of shallow gay men look for body only. Too fat to get laid, yeah I can see that but you can do something about it. Too ugly to get laid, but not fat .... doesn't exist.

Extreme age difference (65 going after 18), well expand your extreme focus.

by Anonymousreply 809/08/2011

there are many guys who only go home with plain looking men. beating up yourself because of how you look is payimg for something you don't want, twice.

by Anonymousreply 909/08/2011

Never put your face on craigslist. That always makes me sad.%0D %0D I usually just post my chest or naked torso. Plus people might steal your pics and use them.%0D %0D Once saw my chest pic being used by a guy who had a nipple fetish. Kinda flattered but kinda freaked out.

by Anonymousreply 1009/08/2011

[quote] I usually just post my chest or naked torso.

I still get no response.

by Anonymousreply 1109/08/2011

I think I'm ugly too, but I've had sex with some HOT guys. Not sure why. Low standards maybe? But a lot of them have made out with me..and I can't imagine making out with someone I consider ugly.

by Anonymousreply 1209/08/2011

Jesus Christ, OP -- even I'VE heard of glory holes.

by Anonymousreply 1309/08/2011

[quote] Too fat to get laid, yeah I can see that but you can do something about it.

What if you have tried EVERYTHING, exercised, dieted, and still cannot lose the weight. What then? How do you accept that you are not desirable?

by Anonymousreply 1409/08/2011

It seems like you operate in a world of extremes. You're jealous of guys who have "a different guy every night" and get invited to sex parties regularly, but you're "so homely" that you'll "never get laid".

Have you tried calming the fuck down and getting some perspective? Why is having "a different guy every night" the only goal? How about focusing on one that you like who might be attainable and seeing what happens?

How old are you? What venues or tactics are you using to "get laid"? And how many guys showing interest in you are you turning down each night?

You sound like every clueless 22 year old twink with less than spectacular looks, bitching because he can't be a big whore 7 nights a week.

by Anonymousreply 1509/08/2011

Bullshit R14. Keep a journal of what you eat and actually count the calories. Keep your calories at 1500 a day. I guarantee you will lose the weight. Stop making excuses for yourself! It is just basic science and the only person you are harming is you.

And I do agree, in general if you are slim you can find someone. Honestly you should be doing it for your health, but let wanting to look more attractive be your motivation if you want.

by Anonymousreply 1609/08/2011

Couldn't you have sex with other ugly guys?

by Anonymousreply 1709/08/2011

you are what you think you are

by Anonymousreply 1809/08/2011

[quote] you are what you think you are How do you project that based on a photo on Craigslist?

by Anonymousreply 1909/08/2011

I'm too out of shape for most gay guys... and not fat enough for the rest. It sucks.%0D %0D I've actually had a guy I found really attractive turn down my advances and push me out of the way so he could go after some 60 year old FAT guy with a hairy back.%0D %0D Sometimes it seems "there's someone for everyone", except me.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 2009/08/2011

Fat is relative, especially on DL. 10-20 lbs overweight? Always a market for that, especially if you're cute/well-groomed and most of it is muscle. 50+ lbs overweight? Better develop a taste for bears and fellow chubsters. I speak from experience. I've spent most of my adult life 10-20 lbs overweight by gay standards and I've often been surprised by the guys I attract.

I agree with the others who say your attitude probably sucks. And craigslist? You're trying to get laid on craigslist? With FACE PICS? There is nothing more unattractive than desperation.

Have you tried meeting people in public, at bars or group events? How would you describe your social skills (and be honest).

by Anonymousreply 2109/08/2011

I'm too ugly in general

by Anonymousreply 2209/08/2011

Concentrate on getting rich. All else will cum. %0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 2309/08/2011

Nobody cares about social skills for sex if you have looks. Social skills are for long term relationships.

Lose the weight - bathe - go to a gay bar - You're In! So simple.

by Anonymousreply 2409/08/2011

OP is one of those trolls who finds "excuses" why every advice isn't working for him.

by Anonymousreply 2509/08/2011

Try wearing fabulous hats. Preferably ones decorated with seed pearls. Always worked for me.

by Anonymousreply 2609/08/2011

OP I sympathize. Sometimes it feels like you get nothing but rejection from the ones you want to accept you the most, and the only thing left is food or booze or something that'll make you even fatter.

It's a horrible circle. I'm semi-coming out of it now.

A lot of it is mental. Get a shrink. Talk out your issues. People really can smell desperation and self-loathing.

I know its cliche but try to limit what you eat. It's annoying when the only thing in the world that gives you pleasure is denied you. But fixate on the sex you'll be having once you're skinnier.

It sounds awful, I know. In an ideal world, we'd all be loved and accepted for who we are. But this is the real world and only skinny boys turn heads.

I'm sorry. Keep your chin up. See a shrink. Indulge yourself in a massage or something.

by Anonymousreply 2709/08/2011

Just curious, the guys who can't get much do you weigh? and how tall?

by Anonymousreply 2809/08/2011

Chi Chi Larue is fat she gets all the social life she can handle. Become a porn director OP.

by Anonymousreply 2909/08/2011

OP, if you're not looking for a relationship but simply want to have sex, why not just pay for it? If you can't afford the $200 boys on rentboy, then just go down to one of those video booths on 8th avenue, you can find some black dude who'll fuck you for twenty bucks. It's not that hard. Just be safe.

by Anonymousreply 3009/08/2011

FACT: Nobody is too ugly to get laid.

ANALYSIS: You're probably too POOR to get laid.

Harvey Weinstein, Sandy Gallin, Flava Flav, and so many others have proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that there is no such thing as being too ugly to get laid. OP, if you have an extra $200 a month, hire an escort and you'll be guaranteed to have sex with a decent looking guy on a regular basis.

by Anonymousreply 3109/08/2011

Why do so many of you assume OP can afford regular escorts? $200 is a lot of money in this economy (and also the extreme end of cheap re: male escorts). Not everyone has that kind of disposable income to pay escorts regularly for sex. Maybe as a once a month treat (if that) but OP is jealous of guys getting laid left and right all around him every night. For that level of frequency he'll be shelling out thousands a month for escorts.

Besides, paying for it hardly counts. We're obviously discussing the ability to seduce another person with one's looks and charm, and not the obvious outcome of an otherwise mundane business transaction available to anyone who can afford it.

by Anonymousreply 3209/08/2011

Ugly white guy > any asian guy

by Anonymousreply 3309/08/2011

"What we are really talking about in gay world is weight.

Fat guys are not desired, regardless of age."

That's not what I find at all. My sex diary has even more entries than my food diary.

The trick is only invest time in guys who like your type. Stop focusing on the guys who don't. Guys who like my type tend to reallllllly like me. Including a muscley fashion photographer for a recent several-month stint.

by Anonymousreply 3409/08/2011

I have seen amateur pics of thin/attractive me fucking obese men and women. Ever hear of chubby chasers?

by Anonymousreply 3509/08/2011

Moe's plastic surgery adventure @ minute 10:00: "Most faces need a little remodeling, but this a total teardown"

by Anonymousreply 3609/08/2011

OP wants to be desirable that's why he referenced gay men who had sex partner after sex partner. I agree with an earlier poster that you should work out. I've been attracted to muscular men since I was 4. Muscular men regardless of how their faces look are attractive to me. Biff Boswell is an example of an muscular man with an average face. I've jerked off to his image many times.

by Anonymousreply 3709/08/2011

There are chubby chasers, bear chasers and plenty of guys who like or don't mind "a few extra pounds". The issue is not weight, the issue is the guys you're pining for (unattainable and uninterested) versus the guys you're rejecting.

by Anonymousreply 3809/08/2011

Weight is not an issue. Hygiene is an issue. i don't mind a guy who is overweight but body odor is a turnoff for lots of people.

by Anonymousreply 3909/08/2011

ATTITUDE dahlink! An air of confidence goes a long way.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 4009/08/2011

Well at least you are not gay, ugly, and black like me. Count your blessings.

by Anonymousreply 4109/08/2011

Do you have a big dick, OP? If yeah, man up and start working out. That should do the trick.

by Anonymousreply 4209/08/2011

Men are shallow so decide to improve your chances and work out and get a great bod. (I'm sure you're more attractive than you think too). Seriously though, have a nice body and men will wanna fuck you.

Confidence goes a long way too, but a six-pack goes further...

by Anonymousreply 4309/08/2011

..Fabulous hats, plenty of seed pearls....

by Anonymousreply 4409/08/2011

start dealing meth/weed/pills. the twinks will follow the bait.

by Anonymousreply 4509/08/2011

Grow a beard, OP.

Or start dating women. Straight women do not care how a man looks.

by Anonymousreply 4609/08/2011

I'm not ugly, but I've never had the confidence.%0D %0D I'm sad because I see people around me who do.%0D %0D

by Anonymousreply 4709/08/2011

If you work on getting laid, as a single person, you have to work on it every time you want to get laid.

If you work on getting a man (a relationship), then you don't have to work at getting laid.

by Anonymousreply 4809/08/2011

I'm not trying to be mean when I say this but you seriously need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and find some selfworth. If you overweight or out of shape deal with it.Also, there is nothing more attractive then someone with confidence,,hands down I go for someone who I find attractive but if I meet someone who's confident in being themself,it trumps beauty

by Anonymousreply 4909/08/2011

Why all the hating on fat guys? There is a big world out there full of guys of all shapes and sizes looking for guys of all shapes and sizes. I have never been interested in the weight obsessed skinny twinks or aging queens who think it is all about skinny. I am not fat or skinny, but hot as hell. I have no problems hooking up with men of all types and ages. It is about who you are and whhat yo are projecting out that draws people to you.

by Anonymousreply 5009/08/2011

OP wants to get the real thing and bears and the other "large" won't cut it, goddamnit!

by Anonymousreply 5109/08/2011

r8 speaks the truth.

I've seen incredibly ugly guys (face-wise) get hot guys because they have decent bodies. "Butterfaces" in the gay community do quite well.

But on the flip side I've seen guys with handsome faces and 20+ lbs of extra weight get rejected/ignored time and again.

I don't get this. For me, face trumps everything else. Even dick size.

by Anonymousreply 5209/08/2011

Really feel for ya, dude. Really.

by Anonymousreply 5309/08/2011

R49...or anyone else, I'm not the OP, but I just want to say sometimes people avoid acting confident because they don't think such an attitude matches their physical appearance.%0D %0D If you saw someone unattractive or deformed taking on a confident persona, wouldn't you not so much think it was attractive, as bizarre and a little pathetic..kind of like a little kid trying to act like an adult...%0D %0D alot of taking on an unconfident persona has to do with sort of pre-emptively apologizing, and warding off criticism

by Anonymousreply 5409/08/2011

If The Situation can get laid, OP, so can you!

by Anonymousreply 5509/09/2011

OP, there is no such thing as too ugly to get laid. How do you think you got here?

by Anonymousreply 5609/09/2011

Fat guys get by in heterosexual world, but not in gay world, with only statistically freak exceptions or money changing hands. Denied only by those who are fat or het women who don't have a clue how gay world works.

by Anonymousreply 5709/09/2011

There are fetish markets for those who have a hard time in the bigger market. The feeder/gainer subculture for example. Turn what is a negative into an asset.

by Anonymousreply 5809/09/2011

Glory holes OP, glory holes.

by Anonymousreply 5909/09/2011

I love all the manorexics spinning spinning SPINNING as if their very self-worth depended on it! Plenty of overweight guys do just fine, there are entire subcultures devoted to them. I'm 20 lbs overweight and I have no trouble getting laid if I'm looking for it.

Not one of the posters claiming fat guys don't get laid has an ounce of body fat. Not one.n It's all guys who starve themselves and are slaves to cardio because their whole sense of self is wrapped up in skew perceptions of body image and gay male life.

by Anonymousreply 6009/09/2011

[quote]There are fetish markets for those who have a hard time in the bigger market. The feeder/gainer subculture for example.

There are also traditionally hot guys who, believe it or not, are into ugly guys.

by Anonymousreply 6109/09/2011

R60 there is a difference between being 20lbs overweight and truly being fat, especially if you are taller.

Chubby guys can do fine, but there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that it is tough to be fat and gay, much harder than it is to be fat and straight. It is also true that one of the easiest things an overweight person can do to make themselves more attractive is to lose weight.

I say this as someone who is a healthy weight, if anything around 5 pounds too heavy, not a manorexic.

by Anonymousreply 6209/09/2011

R61 there was one, but he died.

by Anonymousreply 6309/09/2011

Reading R62's post, I was thinking about all of those gorgeous military guys who are married to obese women. I wonder if gay military members are that open-minded.

by Anonymousreply 6409/09/2011

"A lot of hot guys are into chubs, didn't you know that. I get laid by hot guys all the time!"

by Anonymousreply 6509/09/2011

Come on out to Franklin Lakes and I'll suck your cock, OP. No charge.

by Anonymousreply 6609/09/2011

[quote]it is tough to be fat and gay, much harder than it is to be fat and straight

Tell that to a fat straight woman.

I think it's harder to be fat and desire men/seek men who desire you. It's tough to be a fat gay man or a fat straight woman. Fat straight men and fat lesbians do better, because women aren't as concerned with looks.

Regardless, all the posts about fat gay men **NEVER** getting laid are bullshit. As others have noted, there are entire subcultures organized around fat gay men.

by Anonymousreply 6709/09/2011

There's even fat gay porn now.

by Anonymousreply 6809/09/2011

I'm glad I came out in the 70s. I'd be lying if I said that looks weren't a consideration back then, but gay men were much more laissez faire about who they hooked up with. Body Nazism is rampant today.

by Anonymousreply 6909/09/2011

Did the OP say he was fat? I thought he just said he was ugly and not buff. Bars are a horrible place for people with lose self-esteem because they will feed back to you in double dose whatever you put out there. So if you feel too ugly to get laid and go to a bar expecting failure, it will happen. And, I know it isn't easy to just pretend to be confident. People mean well when they tell the OP to be confidet, but how do you do that, by going to a hypnotist? Self-confidence is a gradual learning experience. First must come self-love. Calling yourself ugly is not what a friend would do. %0D %0D Have you tried paid sites like I went there before I met my guy, and I saw lots of so-called ugly guys. Unless the OP has very fussy tastes (looks like the pillsberry dough boy with zits but wants a Brad Pitt clone), then you can find someone at your physical level. Hell, you could even perhaps find someone who would be willing to work out with you, and talk about some of these issues (of course, you have to be careful. THere are zillions of ugly gay guys out there who think they are really hot!). %0D %0D Everyone wants you to work on your body, but I think it much more important for the OP to work on his mind. I suspect that if he did get a nice buff body, he would still have problems getting laid because his mind would still have a negative self-esteem. This happens to a lot of fat people who become thin. They cannot get rid of the self-esteem issues they had when fat. %0D %0D Gotta rush - getting a haircut.

by Anonymousreply 7009/09/2011

confidence...most likely that;s op's problem and it's really hard to fix.

by Anonymousreply 7109/09/2011

Typically the ugly and the obese do not want the other ugly and obese men, they want perfection and anyone who denies them perfection is shallow.

by Anonymousreply 7209/09/2011

OP, whatever you do, don't become a gym rat. A hot bod on guy with a seriously ugly, repulsive face as yours only makes that face that much uglier and more repulsive. Accept your limitations, and take up a hobby to channel your sexual energy, like crocheting or scrapbooking.

by Anonymousreply 7309/09/2011

Oh gawd fuck you, R73.

OP is dealing with serious self-esteem issues. It's mental, probably inherited from parents and/or family who sensed he was gay and pre-shamed him. I know mine did.

To this day, whenever I walk into a gay bar, I instantly assume that everyone is happier, healthier, better looking and getting more sex than I am. Even at Rockbar. Then, as I get drunker, I get more and more convinced that I'm the ugliest piece of shit to ever live.

It's debilitating. Therapy helps, but only sort of.

by Anonymousreply 7409/09/2011

R74, thanks for sharing your internal experience going to a bar. Even handsome guys can go through that. But in all seriousness, if this is what happens in a gay bar, why would you go? %0D %0D Since I was a kid, everyone kept telling me how handsome I was, so I assumed it was true. But I still had internal self-doubts as a person, and at times would wonder "What if I go home with this guy and can't get it up?" That is the least thing you want to worry about while hooking up with a guy. %0D %0D But I have been told all my life (28 years) that I am pretty good looking, and DNA was on my side so my body was hot and all I needed to do at the gym is put a polish on it. But I understand that some of the worst ugliness is inside, as we deal with our own feelings. Maybe that is one reason I was an escort for 6 years - I wanted the continual stroke to my ego that I got from men paying me for my so-called beauty. But getting rid of inner-demons isn't that easy. My life long wish was that I was as shallow and seemingly happy as a lot of goodlooking gay guys appear to be on the surface. But the more I met, the more I realized just about all of them had some sort of issue inside. %0D %0D So Op, it is not you against the world. The human condition is that of doubts and issues. Some of us just hide it better than others.

by Anonymousreply 7509/09/2011

OP there are some guys that get off on dudes that are just really appreciative of a good fucking. Thats why guys with low self esteem make great bottoms!

by Anonymousreply 7609/09/2011

r23 wins and probably stays winningQ!!!!

by Anonymousreply 7709/09/2011

There is no "too ugly" as long as you have a big dick and aren't fat, OP

BIT if you're fat, even a big dick can't mitigate that.

by Anonymousreply 7809/09/2011

[quote]It's tough to be a fat gay man or a fat straight woman.

Nope. Fat straight women can still get laid anytime they want because straight guys are so undiscriminating. They may not want to be seen in public with a fat woman or tell their buddies about her, but they sure as hell will fuck her if she lets them. Then they'll probably leave her, but we're only talking about getting laid here.

by Anonymousreply 7909/09/2011

[quote]Typically the ugly and the obese do not want the other ugly and obese men, they want perfection and anyone who denies them perfection is shallow.

This never ceases to strike me. So many gay guys -- of all ages, sizes, colors, and looks -- seem to want perfection, when they don't live up to that themselves. They'll settle for nothing less, and become pissed off when they're rebuffed. And they're the first onse to turn up their noses if a guy they don't believe meets their standards smiles at them! These guys will live lonely, angry lives unless they learn some humility.

by Anonymousreply 8009/09/2011

[quote]What we are really talking about in gay world is weight.Fat guys are not desired, regardless of age.

Who died and named you King Queer? Just go to Cam4 and see how many fat and old people have viewers. They have viewers because some find them attractive. Different strokes as they say. You don't have to find them a turn on but don't you dare speak for everyone.

by Anonymousreply 8109/09/2011

onse = ones

by Anonymousreply 8209/09/2011

You say that R80 but the truth is I find it easier to get laid by hot guys than by fat ones as a fattie myself. Fat people tend to have personality issues.

by Anonymousreply 8309/09/2011

That is to say, an overwhelming negativity. I don't think it's because they only want hotties themselves. It's because they don't want sex as long as they are ashamed of their bodies. They only want love and they can't get that without the other.

by Anonymousreply 8409/09/2011

OP = Right Said Fred on sodium pentothal

[italic]I'm too ugly for my shirt too ugly for my shirt

So ugly it hurts ♫

And I'm too ugly for Milan too ugly for Milan

New York ugly Japan[/italic]

by Anonymousreply 8509/09/2011

Fat straight men and fat Lesbians do better, because women aren't as concerned with looks.

Thats bullshit Fat Lesbians are not that accepted.

Straight fat women yes they can always go get a Black man.

Fat Lesbians do not do better unless there're butch.

Fat straight men are fine as long as they bring home the bacon.

by Anonymousreply 8611/07/2011

OP, first of all, I have to wonder if this is true or if it's just a low self-esteem issue.

Should it actually be true, you'll have to adjust, work on other parts of yourself, and try to find whatever it is you are looking for in the love/sex department based on what you have to offer. You may be surprised that even if few men find you at all physically attractive that there may be a few who find you amazingly hot. Meanwhile, jealousy will kill your soul and truly make you an ugly human being inside and out if you let it. I'm not saying to deny your feelings, but accept them with some humor and grace and find a way to enjoy life.

Above all, cope with the fact that we live in a cruel age. Don't buy in to the mindset of the assholes.

And know that you are not alone. The world is full of hundreds of millions of people who are not going to be considered physically attractive by the general population.

by Anonymousreply 8711/07/2011

I'm hideous too. Physically so unappealing. Kinda weird because my parents ans siblings are very attractive. I feel like a huge practical joke from Mother Nature, a total biological error. I'm so unattractive even the other ugly gym trolls ignore me. No one can clear a sauna or steamroom of hot, horny guys faster than I can. I should probably put that on my resume. Would look a lot better than the loser proofreading stuff I have on there now. I try not to be jealous of other guys but I am. I'm angry that I got the short end of the stick and there's nothing I can do about it. I've started hiring escorts just for some basic human touch.

by Anonymousreply 8811/07/2011

Puleeeze. Plenty of fat straight women get laid. Get out of the house someday and you'll notice dozens of married chubby gals. You have to acutally get off the internet and get OUT into real life to see this.

by Anonymousreply 8911/07/2011

Fat ugly girls can get laid because straight guys aren't as picky as gay guys. A pussy's a pussy's a pussy for straight guys. At the end of the day, that's what it's all about for them. Gay guys are more discriminating...they want at least passable looks and avg bod and a decent dick, none of which I have.

by Anonymousreply 9011/07/2011

R88 - R90, physically, you sound like my sister. She's 52 and mentally challenged too. Has hunky boyfriend three years younger.

by Anonymousreply 9111/07/2011

Forgot to add the most important part: she thinks she's hot stuff. That's why she isn't a complete loser.

by Anonymousreply 9211/07/2011

[quote] Fat Lesbians do not do better unless there're butch.

Fat lesbians simply pair up. Although I know lots of lesbian couples where one is fat and the other thin.

by Anonymousreply 9311/07/2011

Go to a bathhouse. Play safely. There's someone for everyone. If you want it to happen, you can get laid. Sex isn't as free-flowing at a bathhouse as you might imagine; you may strike out there too. But eventually, you'll become more comfortable there, and you will get laid.

by Anonymousreply 9411/07/2011

R93, do you live in a trailer?

by Anonymousreply 9511/07/2011

Lower your expectations.

by Anonymousreply 9611/07/2011

There truly is someone for everyone. My best friend of 33 years truly is hideous. Never told him that. Hes managed to have sex with a few decent above average guys. If he can get laid anyone can!

by Anonymousreply 9711/07/2011

There really is no such thing as too ugly to get laid. Maybe too ugly for casual sex, especially if you want to score with someone less ugly than yourself. And perhaps if you're as much of a Debbie Downer about other things as you are about your love life, your personality won't be able to save you, either. Unless you're actually dramatically deformed, though, it's just a matter of raising your self-worth and improving your personality and/or lowering your expectations. Find some chubby 60 year old on Grindr, I'm sure they'll hit it.

by Anonymousreply 9811/07/2011

I was, briefly, dating a really nice, creative, successful, interesting guy who had severe acne scars and I realized I would be ashamed to introduce him to my friends because of his appearance. I felt like a real asshole, but I broke it off. I was never going to feel comfortable with his skin and he deserved to be with someone who didn't feel vaguely embarrassed by his appearance.

by Anonymousreply 9911/07/2011

r95, do you really believe fat lesbian remain alone? Have you ever attended a lesbian event??

by Anonymousreply 10011/08/2011

r99, that sounds like the premise of a very special episode of Facts of Life.

by Anonymousreply 10111/08/2011

I'll fuck you, OP.

by Anonymousreply 10211/08/2011

I agree with the poster who said you can change your body.

Sure you might not have a nice face. But if it is really important to you then change your lifestyle. If you are fat that isn't "being ugly" that is you not wanting to keep yourself healthy that other people notice you.

by Anonymousreply 10311/08/2011

Anyone can get laid with enough money or personality. Ugly hot exists.

by Anonymousreply 10411/08/2011

Very true, Rosie.

by Anonymousreply 10511/08/2011

You can't exercise away giant moobs. Lifting weights will only serve to further emphasize them.

by Anonymousreply 10611/08/2011

R105, I forgot to add "for whores."

by Anonymousreply 10711/08/2011

Here's how even ugly guys can get laid:


I've seen men I consider absolutely hideous get laid by extremely cute young thangs because he enticed them with coke. It's club kid catnip.

by Anonymousreply 10811/08/2011

Seriously, If it were to come right down to it, as they say... There is someone for everyone. well maybe not but hey what you consider less then hot may very well be someone elses hot.. losing weight is one thing. Changing your attitude about yourself is something else. If you believe your worth it and you have to be happy with yourself before someone else can love ya or want to be with you.. I lost 140lbs (though I have gained some back) but it all started when i decided that even Heavy i was ok with me then i could start to make the changes.. No its not Stuart Smalley as it were but Damn Believe in yourself if you want anyone else to.. It's not about im too ugly to get laid its how you choose to look at yourself. That's how others will see you. If you believe your a good looking guy then you will project that.. Been there done that Have the tshirt or omar tent to prove it as it were.. Am I as thin as I would like?? at the moment no because i haven't been diligent as I should have been. My BF likes me for me met me when i was 30 lbs heavier and just tells me do what i have to for me. and for the record lol yes hes a model actually .... but ya just never know who you will find or attract... Smile Believe in yourself Make the changes you want and need to make!! Peace out

by Anonymousreply 10911/08/2011

I love fat and ugly guys as long as they like being sucked and rimmed and kniw how to lie there being serviced. Or just let me be their bitch.

by Anonymousreply 11011/13/2012

How did you lose the weight, R109?

by Anonymousreply 11111/13/2012

Ever notice that the most beautiful people are the ones who are beautiful INSIDE, where it REALLy matters? Think about this. Sophia Loren said this years ago, and it is still true.

Work on the inside. What are your interests? What is your line of work? Take those things seriously, they are you. BE POLITE & RESPECTFUL to ALL, I don't know what you look like, but let me say try working out, take care of hair, dress, dress neat at least (avoid stupid style trends),taking care of yourself.

Oh, and as for the sex parties and such: YUCK. Who needs THAT? Just do your thing in life, follow your path, you will meet that someone special. Trust an elder gay on this one, those sex parties are nonsense, they usually lead nowhere. Big deal, sex parties. Making LOVE to someone special is CELESTIAL. Trust me, I have experienced both worlds PUH-LENTY of times. Sex parties may be great for a story or two, but as a way of life, no. Great way to get a disease, do you think those people give a darn about YOU?

I don't mean to get all preachy-teachy here, but I have been through this. You probably look just fine, but don't see it.

by Anonymousreply 11211/13/2012

Personality and self confidence overcome the physical for me. I appreciate something about anther that flips my switch. Cute legs, nice hair, tasty tits, hot butt or a vulnerable quality.

by Anonymousreply 11311/13/2012

That's why I am having plastic surgery in South Korea. It's actually popular there. Jealous bitches?

by Anonymousreply 11411/13/2012

Retaliate financially whenever you can.

by Anonymousreply 11511/13/2012

Truth for me is beautiful is boring.

by Anonymousreply 11611/13/2012

What R3 said. Seriously. A hot body can always get laid no matter what the face looks like. That's why I just bought a Bowflex ;p

by Anonymousreply 11711/13/2012

OP, you disappoint me. Hot guys expect homely guys like you to be really good in bed.

You're the one counting yourself out. I agree with the advice of work out and be really interested in sex - naughty, dirty even. We expect that from you.

by Anonymousreply 11811/13/2012

OP? Lena Dunham can get laid. There must be hope for you.

by Anonymousreply 11911/13/2012

There is not too ugly to get laid, there is too scared to get laid. Try to be open about yourself to the person that you sexually like and maybe you get lucky. Just knock on some doors. It will surprise you when you see that not all of them are closed. Well, if all doors are closed or you are too scared to risk rejection, then turn to gigolos, or if you can't do even that, please yourself with masturbation. As Woody Allen said “Don't knock masturbation. It's sex with someone you love.”

by Anonymousreply 12011/13/2012

This never happened.

by Anonymousreply 12111/13/2012

Grow a beard, cultivate a nice beer belly, call yourself a bear.

by Anonymousreply 12211/13/2012

OP if you don't want to or can't pay for maybe a tiny bit of plastic surgery to fix or improve whatever you dislike about your face, how about work out and get a bangin' body? It's not easy but trust me, once you do you won't regret it. I'm someone who looks at the body first then face...there are some guys who are not good looking at all but who really turn me on cuz their body is just so hot. I know I'm not alone in that feeling either.

Look at the guys in the link...none of them are good looking but have hot bodies...I'd fuck with them lol and no I'm not saying you have to get a bodybuilder body...just put on some muscle :)

Also, maybe see a good hairstylist and see what he/she thinks would be the best hair for your face.

Best of luck to you :)

by Anonymousreply 12311/13/2012

An arrogant ugly guy who throws a mean fuck is the hottest thing in the world.

by Anonymousreply 12411/13/2012

There's a dude on my Grindr. Hot as fuck. Like extremely hot. He will do anything for $75. Just sayin. There are options.

by Anonymousreply 12511/13/2012

Step out of yourself for a moment and imagine that there are others who do not think you are ugly at all!

Some guys are attracted to chubs for example, while others are attracted to greasy biker types. Everyone's different in their tastes, you must realize this.

You think of yourself as ugly because you do not look like your ideal or what you have convinced yourself is good-looking to others.

All of this self-loathing is embedded in your mind. You're creating the illusion. You're creating the repulsion.

Just relax. Try to be kind, friendly, supportive and loving to others and this will change how you appear to others and how you feel about yourself.

Remember, the gay life is a tough life based on youth and appearance. When that fades you will have to make friends not based on sexiness, youth and looks. That is shallow. You'll be in for a miserable life if you don't stop putting so much emphasis on appearance and start upgrading your inner attractiveness.

The world's not cut and dry as your mind has accepted all these years. Right now, out there in the minions of men, there a guys who will actually like you and quite possibly get hard over you and want to share their sperm with you on a regular basis. That's right, girl, there are men in the world who actually will get hard and fuck you -- and you don't even know it, because you are limiting your scope to the shallow and pretentious gays. And that's a recipe for disaster.

by Anonymousreply 12611/13/2012

Wow, some of you bleeding hearts should c'mon over to the frumpy frau thread (Mrs. Patraeaus). She's being skewered for not being attractive enough to keep her man.

by Anonymousreply 12711/13/2012

Well R127, we're not fucking women!

by Anonymousreply 12811/13/2012

I doubt if ugly is your real problem, op. I believe it's immaturity.

by Anonymousreply 12911/13/2012

im a good looking guy an love to have sex with big woman and skinny woman an ive found that the best sex is always with someone who hasnt had much sex, its a turn on for me to be with someone who is ugly, big, skinny, etc if i could see your pic or know where your from id be glad to hook up :)

by Anonymousreply 13001/17/2013


Like give you the AIDS. That will pretty much solve all your problems. You can also become a meth addict while your at it.

by Anonymousreply 13101/17/2013

R123 is extremely out to lunch with his bizarre post and beliefs and suggestions.

by Anonymousreply 13201/17/2013
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