Wow, I can't believe I read all 202 comments on this damn topic. What am I doing with my life? Anywho
I am a bisexual woman, married to a bisexual man. Love him to death, Wouldn't trade him for the world and we are on the same page We are honest and open with each other and I am very glad I met him. Even before my 'cop-out'- hetero marriage, (It may look like that on the surface, but I beg to differ.)...I have noticed many things. I have dated all orientations except for non-queer, strait males. Their ingrained homophobia just didn't cut it for me and thus made them ugly, unattractive and just a bore.
When I dated lesbians, they were so paranoid I was going to leave them for a 'walnut sack', they'd raise hell if I even breathed in another man's direction. it's funny because it wasn't I who caused the relationships to end because I was cheating or was a bad lover... it was due to the insecurity of the lesbians. Hell, if they didn't have a bad case of biphobia and jealousy, I would have married my last lesbian ex-girlfriend.
I dated a trans female, She was the first real relationship where I wasn't eyed like a hawk around men.
and then I had a bisexual girlfriend...still, no drama. We had to break up because I joined the military, she couldn't do a long-distance relationship and back then, Dont ask don't tell was in full wing. Forget the gay marriage.
This is why I firmly believe that gay people are right. At first I thought it made sense that us B's would be put in the LGT... after all, we are half as gay as they are... and in the strait's eye's that's still pure gayness. But upon hearing what gays and lesbians have to say about us bi's, we are like the unloved, demonized, dehumanized, untrusted, cuckoo bird cousin in the family whom was twice removed. We should just start our own thing, represent each other and date/marry each other. I'd be willing to even put down my life's savings and get other bi's aware and get caught up in a bi movement. It takes a bisexual to understand another. Bisexuals are usually the more forgiving type, so we typically take it with a grain of salt what gays/lesbians have to say... but since the Gay Rights Movement is taking a turn for more victories, bi's are becoming the N-words of the community. So much, some people only recognize it as the LGT community. It's bad enough the others are trying to 'erase' our very existence as it is. We are neither gay, nor strait and even though we bi's are living life, sexuality for people is to be seen as black or white. To go against it, is an abomination I guess. I feel gay people would not demonize bi's so much if they got to know bisexuals in monogamous, gay relationships instead of just assuming all parties are gay.
Oh, not to mention almost every gay man or lesbian I run into has to go on and on and on and ON about how gross 'rigor-mortis flaps' or 'fish' is. Okay, we get it, you are gay/lesbian. This is not kindergarten. We are grown adults and we know what pee pees and tinkles are... and we should show our preferences for them maturely. If you go out of your way to post your disdain for genitals and want the whole damn world to know about it... it just shows an underlying problem. However, me being bi, I don't see the point, but that's just me.
I am not going to toot my horn or try to make bisexuals out to be 'special snowflakes'... but I will say this upon observation: Bisexuals tend to be the most accepting, fun-loving, open, chilled, laid back, take-it-as-they go crowd. They also don't hold too many grudges. On the same note, I believe that bisexuals need to become more empathetic to strait people and gay people and realize that no matter how far-fetched to us it may seem... there are people who are solely attracted to one gender. I think the only queer-group more open than the Bi is the Trans. Not only are they dating different genders... they aim to change their genders all-together. Though there are occasions when I wish I was male, I would say that firm decision and dedication is too far and beyond even for me.