"You're going to use your vacation time in a place halfway around the world you really don't want to visit anyway AND rent a hotel AND spend a fortune AND get us a gift! We're so fabulous and rich we just can't get married locally like those boring normal people!"%0D %0D I hate these selfish assholes.
I hate "Destination Weddings"
|by Anonymous||reply 35||01/17/2013|
OP--I'm so in agreement. A coworker of mine is debating going to her gay best friend's wedding in another city. The wedding itself is on a cruise ship that is going to Nova Scotia.
She would be giving up her yearly vacation by going to this wedding, and ultimately miss 10 days of work. Since we are in a commissioned sales job it hurts more than someone with a different line of work. On one hand, she knows it doesn't make sense to go, but obviously, she wants to support her friends. She can't even attend the wedding and disembark for the cruise. I can't even begin to imagine what thoughtlessness this entails. Said groom has already complained bitterly to my friend that others have called him out on the whole idea.
Weddings have gotten too over the top in my opinion.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||06/25/2011|
over the top, yes, especially when the actual wedding does not matter at all - what matters is their life together after getting married
|by Anonymous||reply 2||06/25/2011|
Oh, here we go again.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||06/25/2011|
A friend is having hers at a lodge in rural Washington State. This despite the fact both her and her fiance's families both live in Tennessee and the couple themselves live in Baltimore and all their friends live on the east coast. We thought about going but we're faced with an out of state move at the end of this summer and can't spare the cash to fly ourselves cross country, rent a car and drop a couple hundred a night on a room in the lodge.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||06/25/2011|
So don't go.%0D %0D It's that easy.%0D %0D Send a gift.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||06/25/2011|
|by Anonymous||reply 6||06/26/2011|
Actually, destination weddings are smart on the couple's part. They usually only have to deal with a handful of relatives who bother showing up for one thing. Passive-agressive, yes, but effective nonetheless.
Meanwhile, the other invitees feel so guilty (not!) that they save money by buying a nice wedding gift (that costs less than a plane ticket, but more than the cheap piece of crap they would've bought if the wedding were in a nearby city).
Not to mention it provides more honeymoon time ;)
Damn...now I'm thinking of having a destination wedding!
|by Anonymous||reply 7||06/26/2011|
Don't listen to R5. Don't go and DON'T send a gift.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||06/26/2011|
R8 beat me to it.
Don't go don't send gift do not collect $200.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||06/26/2011|
I think the idea of destination weddings is just an extention/product of celebrity culture spoon fed to people by People magazine and the like. If no on had read about X and Y couple getting wed in Mexico, Italy, the Carribean etc., etc., I don't think many couples would have come up with the idea of getting wed in exotic locales.%0D %0D Simple solution: respectfully decline and send the usual gift.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||06/26/2011|
[quote]I hate these selfish assholes.%0D %0D I know, they're so ENTITLED, aren't they?
|by Anonymous||reply 11||06/26/2011|
Hallelujah! These things are so selfish, I can't stand them. Beforehand the bride always likes the idea because it will cut down on the guest list, but trust me she will be unhappy when some of her closest friends can't make it, but some of the people she doesn't give a shit about show.
Why do I feel like the only one who doesn't want to spend a week with the same people? That is not a vacation, in my opinion.
Somewhere along the way, weddings turned into a license to be a douchebag. I get that it's your big night. It's not your big week + engagement party + bridal shower + etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||06/26/2011|
They hate everybody and are super pissed at having to buy all those wedding gifts over the years. There is no way they are going to get married without a return on their investment. They don't want your company. They want your cash.%0D %0D If you are rich enough to attend then you are welcome because your friendship may come in handy in the future in terms of connections and invitations to the right parties/events.%0D %0D Also, they are saving a ton on the wedding because they don't have to feed and booze everyone. Basically, they are giving you the heads up on their elopement and expect you to pay for it. %0D %0D %0D %0D
|by Anonymous||reply 13||06/26/2011|
The only way I'd bother going to a destination wedding outside of the lower 48 is if the couple were paying. Otherwise, the invitation better have an itemized list of all the selfless and wonderful things they've done for me over the years.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||06/26/2011|
A neighbor's daughter was having her wedding in the Hamptons (where her parents live), even though she and her fianc%C3%A9 lived in New Mexico. All of her NM friends had to book rooms at hotels (which can cost a lot here). Plus, she was having a bridal shower on Saturday and the wedding on Sunday, since it was kind of a rushed deal. (She became pregnant and needed to be covered by her husband-to-be's health insurance, since she was a self-employed ---and self-proclaimed --- artiste and had none of her own.
So it was going to be an all-weekend affair. People were booked for Friday night through Sunday lat the hotels and inns, airline tickets were bought, etc.
The bridal shower date? September 15, the wedding date September 16.
It didn't happen. Air travel was severely restricted and virtually nobody could make it to the shower or the wedding. She lost a shitload of money from the caterers because she had to cancel with very short notice. They didn't know if air travel would return to normal in time for the weekend, so they couldn't cancel until the last minute. People lost money on hotel rooms. Nobody was cut any slack despite the fact that we'd had an unforeseen air attack several days previously.
They decided to reschedule the wedding for the Christmas season and then said "fuck it" and got married in a courthouse in NM.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||06/26/2011|
R15, I bet your neighbor's daughter still manages to horrify people when she gets into why 9/11 was so horrible.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||06/26/2011|
That story does sound annoying, but at least the parents lived in the wedding location. I get more mad when the bride and groom decide to have the wedding where NO ONE lives, as in a coworker of mine - his family is in Boston, her family is in San Fran. They got married in Florida. WTF?
|by Anonymous||reply 17||06/26/2011|
So MHB finally regained her computer privileges%0D at the state mental asylum. Wonderful.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||06/26/2011|
An in-law's brother pulled this shit insisting everyone follow him to Hawaii. I'd never witnessed a grown man throw a temper tantrum before.
His family, having serious corporate farm money, informed him they'd present gifts after the couple repeated their vows at a church in Iowa - followed by a potluck so the aunts and great aunts could bring their favorite dish.
The Turtle Bay pictures feature a small wedding party coked out of its fucking mind while the Iowa pictures focus on the bored newlyweds in a paneled chapel.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||06/26/2011|
Well if it's a fun destination and you get some sort of discounted stay/travel I love it.
If someone wants me to come to a party in the Caribbean that they're paying for, sign me up. But if they think it's cute to guilt trip you because you don't want to go to Bangladesh for your vacation, that's minus one on my friends list.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||06/26/2011|
r4, if the wedding is at the Salish Lodge at Snoqualmie Falls, definitely go - it's truly fabulous.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||06/26/2011|
R23, tell your brother that, in the bluntest possible terms. Once a bride or groom gets these bridal magazine fantasies fixed in their addled little heads, the only thing that will drive it out is a chorus of disapproval from their nearest and dearest.
Destination weddings are only appropriate for people with 1% money and lesiure time, and as brides and grooms are usually suffering from temporary insanity, someone's got to remind them. If not for your own sake, do it for everyone else they've invited.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||12/20/2012|
Seriously, you don't need to go.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||12/20/2012|
One of my friends has lots of odious relatives that had to be invited to her wedding. Solution? Paris. Weeded most of them out. Those of us who went really wanted to be there.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||12/20/2012|
[quote]One of my friends has lots of odious relatives that had to be invited to her wedding. Solution? Paris. Weeded most of them out. Those of us who went really wanted to be there.
So the odious ones were the poor ones.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||12/20/2012|
Poor? No. Weird and cheap? Yes. Mainly just weird.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||12/20/2012|
They should call the engagement announcement the "pre-divorce" traditonal fame whoring.
The destination wedding "diving for dollars".
I recommend "warm & cozy" darlings.
I learned a great deal at camp Cupcake.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||12/20/2012|
[quote] I won't be taking my children (they will be 3 & 5 at the time) as I don't think Thailand is an appropriate place for children
Children in Thailand? I hear there are houses, schools, parks and kindergarten classes filled with the inappropriate little fuckers everywhere you look.
R23, you are a mean, provincial little frau.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||12/20/2012|
I've made many trips to Thailand with my children over the years. It's a wonderful place for them. People are such wimps. I'd be more worried taking them to America.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||12/20/2012|
A-fucking-men to that brother.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||12/20/2012|
Of "hatch, match, and dispatch", the match is the only opportunity for pulling the strings on your own spectacle...and, boy, do people abuse the privilege.
There's nothing wrong with a distant wedding, so long as it's not passed off as a self-paid "destination" for more than a scant handful of attendees -- and no arm-twisting.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||12/20/2012|
Aside from the red light districts in Bangkok and Phuket, Thailand is a perfectly lovely country for children, particularly near the beach and in the countryside. Agreed that the Aussie frau needs to unclench.
Btw who the fuck is on a thread-bump bender this week?
|by Anonymous||reply 34||12/20/2012|
Bwa ha ha ha ha ha! Looks like I've pissed off a few people with my assertion that I don't think Thailand is a good place for me to take my children...oh well, I guess you can't please everyone & as I wasn't out to please anyone it really doesn't bother me...
Here's something else to bunch your panties a little more...the Thais are the most xenophobic bunch of arseholes I've ever has the misfortune of meeting...every single last one I have has the displeasure of crossing paths with has been anti-white (but pro-money so quite happy for the tourist dollars to pour in). It one of THE most dangerous places on the planet for white people to travel to due to a governmental free pass for any Thai national who decides to rob, swindle, rape or murder a white person! Don't believe me? Google it...it's an eye opener!
Call me racist if you like...I disagree, I dislike everyone equally.
Also, as far as provincial goes, I've probably travelled more than most of you (due to an unfortunate work requirement) so I'm not sure that's accurate...I am mean though...I'm grumpy & I don't like people so that's accurate.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||01/17/2013|