Rude friends who feel it''s okay to constantly text with friends while you''re hanging out
Am I the only one who has a MAJOR problem with this? I have on friend in particular who will come over to my condo, we'll sit and start having a conversation and the next thing you know he's on his fucking phone texting back and forth with someone, like having a full-on convo. Then he'll snap out of it for a second and say "Sorry!" and we'll resume, only for him to go back at it...leaving me sitting there twitting my thumbs and almost feeling like I'm intruding in their little tryst.
To me this is so incredibly rude and low class. If I take time out of my life to spend 1-on-1 time with someone, is it really too much to ask that they do the same for me? I'm probably not describing this very well, as I'm not good with putting feelings or intangibles into words. All I know is that if I'm hanging out with someone, my focus is on them for that time. If my phone rings I'll either ignore it or quickly answer and let that person know I'm busy at the moment but will call them back when I'm free. But apparently the new "acceptable" is to be physically hanging out with one person while being a chatty Cathy on your stupid cellphone? I mean do people think it makes them look cool or "in demand" by constantly shooting back and forth with others? To me it's completely obnoxious and there are times when I'll just stop talking altogether and it takes all the strength in my body not to just ask him to leave. It truly gets on my nerves. Is this really the world we live in now? Two people can't just sit in time and space together and have 1-on-1 time? How sad.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||05/17/2013|
If I had a friend who did this I would simply say "well, it's obvious you're involved with more important things, so let's meet again when you're free". Then I'd get up and leave. People like that have no sense of social correctness and you have to slap it into them, unfortunately. Some learn, some don't.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||04/25/2011|
I would downgrade that person from friend to acquaintance.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||04/25/2011|
I had a meeting with a director (theater) who was doing that, and the texts were not even business related, they were from friends!%0D %0D I just told him if he needed to take care of that I could step out and meet him some other time. He giggled (of course he was in his 20's), and said don't worry, he was done (notice no apology). %0D %0D It was when the next text arrived, and he was"looking at it "on the sly" that I said something to the effect of "OK I have all the information I need" and cut the meeting short with a handshake. %0D %0D Fast forward 4 months, I am involved in a gala event for which he could have been considered, but was not. Don't know if he'll be stopping by (on someone else's invite of course) but if he does and comes over to say hi, I may just pop my cell phone out and start staring at it.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||04/25/2011|
The worst is couples who text each other from different ends of the room.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||04/25/2011|
A lot of people are always on their phone playing bullshit games like "words with friends" and stuff like that. Such a waste of time and it's beyond rude! And since when did it become okay to leave your cell-phone on the dinner table when you're out at a nice restaurant? Yuck.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||04/25/2011|
This is where it's helpful to take a tip from our lesbian friends on their chat boards;
"I am telling you NOW so I don't have to tell you LATER... don't text while we're talking!"
|by Anonymous||reply 6||04/25/2011|
Wait until he invites you over, only to disappear to make telephone calls.
It was the most cowardly way of telling me our fourteen year friendship was dead.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||04/25/2011|
I found out that I've been droning on and on and my team mate is too absorbed in Facebook to acknowledge me.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||04/25/2011|
GOOD, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who has a major problem with this! I was beginning to think maybe this is just the way things are now and that somehow it's considered acceptable.
One time he was texting and it got to me so bad I finally snapped and said, "Oh, you don't have to text me--I'm right here!" with a big ol' sarcastic smile on my face.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||04/25/2011|
I've been hearing stories about shrinks texting on patient time.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||04/25/2011|
I've had two people do this while we were in restaurants having a meal. I got up on both occasions and walked out. That's how strongly I feel about this.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||04/25/2011|
I have also hung up on people who have cut me off in mid-sentence while we were talking on the phone to answer their "Call Waiting". This has happened when I was calling them long distance. I won't have it.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||04/25/2011|
Set limits on bad behavior you will tolerate then stick to it. Lifes too short for b.s.
My circle is well behaved and respectful to each other if we do take a text we excuse ourselves. One person who was in my circle was a cell phone pig but they got told off numerous times then later we cut them off.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||04/25/2011|
I am with R11. It happened to be once. I said excuse me got up and left.
When I finally let my companion reach me about two weeks later he wanted to know what happened.
"You were busy texting and I felt like a third wheel. Clearly my company was not needed nor desired so I left."
He got it.
Never happened again.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||04/25/2011|
What is it about owning a cell phone that makes people suddenly think every call and text is an urgent, earth-shattering matter which requires immediate attention? I suspect it's much the same thing as what deludes many people into thinking their mundane tweets and facebook posts are actually interesting or even minutely important.
I kind of hope the human race is indeed wiped out in 2012. I'm willing to sacrifice my life if it means wiping the slate clean and starting over.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||04/25/2011|
People truly have lost their minds when it comes to acceptable behavior.
I have clients show up for 2-hour meetings with multiple small (screaming) children in tow. (After being told no third parties may attend the appointment.)
Clients answer their phones during meetings.
Potential clients want to put me on hold to answer their call waiting when I'm doing a free phone consult.
People are animals. On the plus side, all this stupidity means I have more clients. (My line of work depends on bailing people out when they've done stupid shit.)
|by Anonymous||reply 16||04/25/2011|
I've interrupted meetings to tell employees (all 20 somethings) point blank, in front of everyone, to "please turn off your phone and put it away for the duration of our meeting." Then I'll wait patiently, allowing everyone to turn and stare at the embarrassed offender as he/she fumbles to comply. I'm not above shaming people.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||04/25/2011|
If it's a casual thing, and everyone in the room is doing their own thing like reading or chilling out, I don't think it's any more rude than knitting. At meals, NO! During conversations, NO!
|by Anonymous||reply 18||04/25/2011|
I have permanently terminated a long friendship because of that exact behavior. The definition of rudeness hasn't changed; unfortunately, too commonly tolerance of rudeness has.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||04/25/2011|
Such a poser, done with this thread.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||04/25/2011|
Our department took the new hire out to a Welcome Lunch and she sat there during the meal texting under the table. She ended up not lasting very long at her job. I enjoyed my lunch, though.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||04/25/2011|
Being a compulsive texter is basically okay for a friend, but not a partner. Usually when I am having lunch with somebody and they pull out their iPhone they're just doing what I'd like to be doing in a world where societal mores and Miss Manners didn't exist, but it hurts when there's nothing you'd rather do than talk to somebody and they find you less interesting than whatever Aziz Ansari just Tweeted
|by Anonymous||reply 22||04/25/2011|
I often wonder what these people did before this mode of communication. Every 9 out of 10 people I pass on the street has their phone in their hand, I mean can't you even bear to keep it in your pocket? Is that next text so important? And yes I've had a cell phone since they were the size of a shoebox but really, turn them off when in public.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||04/25/2011|
People have truly lost their sense of social propriety these days. Hell, where I live a mistrial was declared because the jurors were texting during the trial.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||04/25/2011|
"The worst is couples who text each other from different ends of the room."%0D %0D No, the worst is couples who sit together in a restaurant and spend most of their time texting. %0D %0D Expect the divorce rate among straights to skyrocket over the coming decades. %0D %0D
|by Anonymous||reply 25||04/25/2011|
[quote]they're just doing what I'd like to be doing in a world where societal mores and Miss Manners didn't exist
Really? This is how you want to spend your time with friends -- by ignoring them in favor of people who aren't there? Why don't you just stay home alone?
|by Anonymous||reply 26||04/25/2011|
Obviously everyone on the thread is over 30.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||04/25/2011|
[quote]"You were busy texting and I felt like a third wheel. Clearly my company was not needed nor desired so I left."
|by Anonymous||reply 28||04/25/2011|
r26, I mean that in the way where I'd rather turn a flamethrowing chainsaw on people who write checks on the grocery store than stand behind them and passive-aggressively roll my eyes. Anyway, I honestly don't notice this behavior in my closest, best friends; my mom pulls this shit sometimes but often I'd rather be playing Angry Birds than coming up with something to fill the silence in a conversation with her
|by Anonymous||reply 29||04/25/2011|
Sometimes it pays to be a misanthrope.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||04/25/2011|
[quote]To me this is so incredibly rude and low class.%0D %0D I was with you up until this comment. It *IS* incredibly rude... but what the fuck does "class" have to do with it? Nothing. Why did you bring "class" into it?%0D %0D That says a lot about you, and none of it is good.%0D %0D
|by Anonymous||reply 31||04/25/2011|
I dropped a friend with whom I had been close because of this. We had a couple of conversations about it, but she is very proud of herself as a social networker and enjoys her popularity. She can't focus on a conversation because she's texting with several people, tweeting and checking FB constantly.
Apparently people are comfortable with sacrificing their friendships for social network popularity.
I figure if people can't drive without texting, they probably can't do anything else.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||04/25/2011|
[quote]"...my condo... [quote]Such a poser, done with this thread.
What? WTF was I supposed to call it? My house? It wasn't a house. My apartment? It wasn't an apartment. It was a condo. A shitty condo in Las Vegas if it makes you feel any better. WTF crawled up your ass?
|by Anonymous||reply 33||04/25/2011|
"she's texting with several people, tweeting and checking FB constantly."
This makes me jittery just reading it; how can anyone live it?
I'm serious. How does one cope with his unceasing frenetic communication of what is probably mostly drivel?
If only Americans felt such gargantuan curiosity about history, art, poetry, ...........
|by Anonymous||reply 34||04/25/2011|
[quote]If only Americans felt such gargantuan curiosity about history, art, poetry, ...........
Do you honestly think this is confined to Americans???
Jeesh. Some of you people.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||04/25/2011|
"Expect the divorce rate among straights to skyrocket over the coming decades."
Are you saying gays don't do this? What world do you live in?
|by Anonymous||reply 36||04/25/2011|
R34, she was manic, hyper, and she never relaxed.
When she was watching TV or movies, she was constantly social networking while she was supposedly watching.
I ended it partially because being around her exhausted me. At first I made excuses not to meet her for dinner because it went on throughout the meal. Later I decided to be honest with her and I always told her it bothered me. I understand she is very angry and feels I abandoned her, but in actuality she abandoned our friendship months ago.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||04/25/2011|
"do people think it makes them look cool or "in demand" by constantly shooting back and forth with others?"%0D %0D Yes. Of course, they are wrong. And awful.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||04/25/2011|
My ex used to do this all the time. We'd talk about it then he'd stop for a day and start again. So, then when he'd do it, I'd take out my phone, find a news article and read the whole thing. If he'd try to get my attention in the middle of it, I'd tell him I was reading something and that I'd let him know when I was done.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||04/25/2011|
II was messing around with a guy for most of last summer. It ended the day he grabbed his phone and started texting while I was blowing him. I told him that he should get the person he was texting to suck his dick and kicked him out.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||04/25/2011|
My issue isn't texting, it's Angry Birds.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||04/25/2011|
The best was Jodie Marsh (British ex-celebutard) and her brother texting each other during the funeral of their brutally-murdered friend.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||04/25/2011|
I used to feel strongly about this, but it just happens so often that I just had to accept the fact that it's become a part of our modern society. We are always "plugged in". Technology is a blessing and a curse.
We can't live by rigid etiquette rules from the 19th century forever. Yes, at one time it was considered rude to answer your phone or text when you are already in conversation with someone, but now the rules have changed because our lifestyles have changed.
Many people have to multi-task in their lives. To expect someone to "unplug" completely from their lives just to give you undivided attention is being self absorbed on your part. You have to accept that you are not the center of the universe and that there are other people in this person's life that he/she must also juggle.
Also, it is rude to spend the majority of the time interrupting conversations with phone calls, but if it only happens once you shouldn't blow your lid.
Most people simply tell the caller that they are busy at the moment and to call them back later. If I stormed out of restaurants every time someone answered the phone in my presence, I wouldn't have many friends or clients!
|by Anonymous||reply 44||04/25/2011|
You are full of shit and probably have low self esteem to boot, R44.
I'm 30 and would never do it. My friends never do it. There one guy I know who does, and we mostly avoid him because it's rude. I do agree that if it only happens once, and they're polite about it, it should be a big deal, but if it's habitual, the person is not worth my time because I'm obviously not worth theirs.
Do young people even make truly deep friendships anymore? I'm only 30, but the 19-22 year olds that I teach seem to come from an entirely different universe.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||04/25/2011|
R44, you are way off-base and completely wrong.%0D %0D And ridiculous.%0D %0D R44, your entire post is nonsense.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||04/25/2011|
I never answer the phone. I talk to people when I want to. My phone is always on vibrate (or silent), I throw it in my bag and reach for it when I want to use it, not because anyone is calling. I'm not ruled by other people's actions.
If I'm dining with someone and they go to the restroom, I'll check my phone. I would never put my phone on the table.
One advantage of being over 40 is that, generally, your peers are better behaved. My friends never do this stuff, we'd be too embarrassed.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||04/25/2011|
We have one "friend" who shows up to social gatherings, slumps in the corner checking his phone and texting the whole time.
After about a half hour of this, he announces he has to "hit a few more functions" and flounces out.
I can't stand to be around him.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||04/25/2011|
"To expect someone to "unplug" completely from their lives just to give you undivided attention is being self absorbed on your part. You have to accept that you are not the center of the universe and that there are other people in this person's life that he/she must also juggle."%0D %0D Clearly it hasn't occurred to you that living "plugged in" is pretty damn self-absorbed in itself.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||04/25/2011|
Um, I have no problem giving others my undivided attention...why is it so hard for them to do the same in return? I know for a fact they aren't texting about anything earth-shattering. But to them every little text warrants IMMEDIATE response. It's very, very sad. The level of urgency they give the most mundane things. It's just incredibly, incredibly rude no matter how you slice it. If someone calls or texts while I have my time invested with someone else, I'LL GET BACK TO THEM LATER IF AT ALL. You're the type of person I wouldn't be able to stand being around. YOU are self-centered.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||04/25/2011|
People are getting ruder all the time and cell phones exacerbate this. It is the death of civility. I am so sick of oblivious people running into me, texting. I hate going to the movies now as it seems shouting into the phone in a theater is accepted. Some people text and answer their cell phones over and over during lunch in a nice restaurant--I don't get this. %0D %0D OK, I'm 42 and an old. But I just don't understand why people find this acceptable behavior. And I would never have a cell phone myself but it was required by my job.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||04/25/2011|
they've done neuroimaging studies that indicate people get the same tiny "reward!" feeling from the email alert and text msg alert tones as gambling addicts get every time they swipe their cards at the penny slots in casinos. triggers a Pavlovian micro-surge of serotonin with every discovery that you've received a new missive, despite the fact that 99.999% of texts and emails are neither urgent nor meaningful.
certainly doesn't justify the behavior but it is an answer to the question "WHY do people behave like this?!" --it's the act of checking for texts/emails or answering calls itself that is addictive/compulsory, not the information received or even the relative importance of the person who's sending the communication.
I'm 30 and generally eschew texting/social networking/unnecessary cell phone use etc., but both my 60 year old parents are somewhat addicted to the technology.
what really ticks me off is when ppl insist on using their GPS devices every single time they get in the car even when they know perfectly well where they're going and how to get there. what's more, they'll argue out loud with the GPS if it tries to take them along a different route, but often do what it "says" anyway.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||04/25/2011|
Cell phones turn people into cunts.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||04/25/2011|
I have a group of friends and only one rude texter in the bunch. The most recent was at a party. We rarely have a chance to get together. She's the most vocal about wanting to catch up with people and stay close. Yet, I was in the middle of describing something and she pulled out her phone and answered a text. I just stopped and looked at another friend who was listening and focused my attention on her. I would have said something to the rude one, but it was HER CHILD texting her. HER CHILD who is 21 years old, dropped out of a scholarship, living at home again and working in a fast food joint. Coddling helicopter parent, who visited her child every weekend, 2 hours away, yet she denies being so.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||04/25/2011|
My main point is that it's pointless to care about something that will only likely increase over time. We are an ADHD society and to think otherwise is foolhearted.
|by Anonymous||reply 55||04/25/2011|
I will answer a text from someone important like my bf, family, close friends or business associates but I will excuse myself from the conversation first by going to the bathroom, then I will text. I don't like to make my company feel as if they are second fiddle to my iPhone.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||04/25/2011|
If a friend did that to me, I would ask if I was boring them.
I really don't understand the texting thing. I never have the slightest desire to text anyone, or be texted. In an emergency, talking on the phone is much faster. Maybe it's because I am very nearsighted and I hate small screens.
But I really just don't get it.
And people who text while they're driving should be shot.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||04/25/2011|
[quote] I mean that in the way where I'd rather turn a flamethrowing chainsaw on people who write checks on the grocery store than stand behind them and passive-aggressively roll my eyes. %0D %0D I haven't been able to understand your point or follow your logic but that's besides the point. I just thought I should tell you that rolling your eyes at someone is not passive aggressive behavior but rather point blank aggressive behavior - you're expressing disapproval for all to see. %0D %0D For a lesson on passive-aggressive behavior, see the expert at r40, who just starts reading something else and, pretending there's nothing wrong, just tells his partner he needs to wait until he's done reading.%0D %0D Also, most of the people guilty of this texting rudeness are under thirty. Barring child prodigies and the lucky ocassional multimillionaire star supporting his entire family or performing heart/brain surgery, what phone call to a 20something year old could be that earth-shatteringly important?
|by Anonymous||reply 58||04/25/2011|
I had a student come to my office who wanted to discuss his grade. However, he had an iPod in one ear and a cell phone at the other, and was having a full-blown converation with (I think) his boyfriend. He said to me, "I came to ask about my grade." Then he said to his boyfriend, "Yeah, I'm there now."%0D %0D %0D I said, "Uh, would you mind getting off the phone?" He stared at me, incredulous, and continued his phone conversation. I repeated myself, louder. "Would you mind getting off the phone?" He continues to stare and talk, now telling the bf that I'm being a bitch. Finally, I said to him, "I refuse to talk to you unless you give me your undivided attention. Get off the phone, and take that iPod out of your ear!" %0D %0D %0D He nonchalantly does both (finally), acting as though I have absolutely no reason to be angry with him, and he proceeds to attempt to kiss my ass.%0D %0D %0D This semester was my last. I can tolerate no more of this bullshit.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||04/25/2011|
"... I'd rather turn a flamethrowing chainsaw on people who write checks on the grocery store than stand behind them and passive-aggressively roll my eyes..."
This post was clearly submitted by a world-class asshole.
FYI, R29, one writes checks "to", not "on" a vendor.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||04/25/2011|
[quote]My main point is that it's pointless to care about something that will only likely increase over time.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||04/25/2011|
Did r61 really just compare texting to the Civil Rights Movement???
|by Anonymous||reply 62||04/25/2011|
R62, I think they actually were comparing "having an issue with texting" to the Civil Rights Movement.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||04/25/2011|
OK r61 to r63 are way off base - this is a Dear Abby issue, not a Malcom X issue
|by Anonymous||reply 65||04/25/2011|
R18, get over yourself. There is a major difference between texting and knitting. There is not a person on the other end of the knitting needle interacting with you.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||04/25/2011|
I had a friend who did this to me long distance while she was visiting her sister or running errands or at home monitoring her other phone. Every time she had to interact with someone, she'd just stop listening and I could hear her in the background talking to someone else. I'd ask her about it and she'd say, "no, no, I'm done." And then she'd do it again.
The last straw was when she called to wish me a happy birthday and 2 minutes into the conversation, her other phone rang and she wanted to get it and call me back. I hung up on her and took my phone off the hook. She has never apologized, but she's stopped doing it.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||04/25/2011|
HUGE rule of thumb: nothing texted is EVER that important.%0D %0D When was the last time you heard of a national leader, big CEO, birthing mother, college acceptance committee, big broadway producer, delivering big news via text???
|by Anonymous||reply 68||04/25/2011|
No, it's not necessarily URGENT, like life threatening, but if it's from an important person in your life, you at least want to SEE what it is, if only out of curiosity.
I'm sorry, but if my boyfriend texts me, I'm going to look at the message. I honestly don't care and my friends do the same thing. I'm not going to play "text tag" with someone, but I will at least LOOK at the message.
Also, it IS possible to text with someone and talk to someone else at the same time.
I'm guessing that the average age range on this thread is at least 40 yrs old.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||04/25/2011|
It makes no difference what age anyone is, R69.%0D %0D Rude is rude.%0D %0D Just because you consider yourself special, R69, it does not mean that you are actually special.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||04/25/2011|
Another vote for incredibly rude and off-putting here. I'm glad that I have real friends, not showpals.
|by Anonymous||reply 71||04/25/2011|
Rudeness doesn't just come from the young. My mother was telling me over Easter that she can not stand that her sister-in-law has interupted every phone conversation they have had in the last couple years become of her call waiting. It isn't like they talk very often, and the last phone call was initiated by my aunt, she still ended it in favour to talk to an incoming call. This woman is older then my mother and probably in her mid-60's. Half the time I think that it is just a way for her to tell my mom just how important she thinks her time is.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||04/25/2011|
r69 you are so wrong - if it's from your boyfriend, it can wait like any other crass interrupting issue back in the 1940's%0D
|by Anonymous||reply 73||04/25/2011|
[R69] Fine--see who it is, read the text even. But when you start firing texts back and forth with someone while you're in the presence of someone else, it excludes them, it interrupts the conversation and it is RUDE. It can also make whoever you're with self-conscious, as they may think you're texting about them.
If I'm with someone and receive a text, I will often check to see what/who it is, but that is where it ends. I don't text them back. I'll either put the phone back in my pocket and get back to them later (they'll live, trust me) or chances are I'll never respond back because their text was so mundane and useless to begin with. I'm not saying TOTALLY ignore your phone if you're with someone else and it rings or otherwise beeps or alerts you. I'm saying use common courtesy and only respond to the damn thing if it's really freakin' necessary. Otherwise you're just being an asshole.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||04/25/2011|
I had a friend who did that, R72. When I hung up on him, he called back and said I hurt his feelings. When he asked why I hung up, I said it was because he's the one who called me and he should not have kept me waiting. He thought about it and called back a couple of days later to say he would never do it again, and he never has.
It's perfectly acceptable if someone explains they are expecting an important business call and may have to interrupt our conversation.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||04/25/2011|
[quote]I've been hearing stories about shrinks texting on patient time.
Several years ago, I had a doctor who would interrupt in the middle of a visit -- hell, in the middle of a sentence -- to leave the room and talk to another doctor about their upcoming fishing trips, etc. I have no doubt that nowadays he is texting during patient visits, too.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||04/25/2011|
When you are hanging out with people, eventually someone goes to the bathroom. That's when I check the texts, and may fire one back. %0D %0D If I find I'm getting a lot of texts, and I also have to go to the bathroom, well, I kill several birds with one stone while in there.%0D %0D And that goes for anyone I'm hanging out with, no matter how close I am to them. I wouldn't dream of interrupting eye contact and regular rapport in favor of someone not with us.%0D %0D The only exceptions are when you're with someone and you are BOTH waiting for someone to join you, and you might keep the phone out to wait for a text from them needing directions, stating ETA, etc...stuff like hat.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||04/27/2011|
I think it may have something to do with smoking becoming unacceptable in our society. People like to have something to do with their hands. It is a nerve thing. In the old days you would light up when out with friends etc. Now you really can't do that so you poke about with your phone. Just a thought.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||04/27/2011|
A few weeks ago I was eating out with a friend. Neither of us had our cell phones out but there was a family of 4 sitting at a table near us...Dad, Mom and 2 sons, about 10 and 12. The Dad was on the phone, the Mom was texting, and both sons were either texting or playing games on their phones. I don't think they ever said a word except to the waitress. I found that really depressing. When I went out with my parents it was always a time we talked and enjoyed each other's company. Times have really changed and I don't think for the better.
|by Anonymous||reply 80||04/28/2011|
I hate this particular behavior. Usually, I will nip it in the bud when it happens or just stop interacting with the offender. But recently, a good friend of mine has started keeping her cell phone on the table when we meet for lunch. She will answer the phone with no thought, not even a "sorry, I have to take this." She's a small business owner so I understand her need to be accessible for clients but she hasn't always behaved this way. I can only assume that her behavior has changed because of the way she perceives me. I have gotten the feeling that she views me as a sounding board, someone to bounce ideas off of and ask for advice. But when it comes to returning the favor, she zones out.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||04/28/2011|
I've actually had a couple of dates who either texted or took a phone call while we were at the table. One actually said, "Yeah, I can talk." I got up and left that one after five minutes of listening to him talk about nothing. We hadn't ordered food yet, so I didn't have to decide whether to stick him with the bill. What kind of moron actually ignores his date (first date, in fact) to take a call from a friend or to text?%0D %0D Yes, yes I know ... they just weren't that into me.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||04/28/2011|
I'm curious @82, did they try to contact you later?
|by Anonymous||reply 83||04/28/2011|
R83 - No. I told the texter after dinner that I didn't think we were compatible and wished him good luck. I tend to be pretty direct with people. I don't think I was [italic]rude[/italic], but I guess he might disagree; who knows? I told the call-taker that I could see he had something more important to do, gave him a dirty look and got up and left. I didn't hear from him again, but I didn't expect to.%0D %0D They both asked me out, not the other way around, so I don't think it was just disinterest. Maybe they really didn't know any better. Anyway, I'm glad it happened right away instead of later after I had invested time and effort into dating them.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||04/29/2011|
Thanks for the dish. I'd have done the same.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||04/29/2011|
Oh I hate it! People texting, sexting, gameplaying and Facefuckingbooking while you are trying to engage them face to face.%0D %0D I blame Apple, MySpace, MicroShaft, Kindle, Macbooks and Steve Jobs among other techies who all thought social networking and ever increasing legions of Sims would benefit humankind! %0D %0D Grrrrr!
|by Anonymous||reply 86||04/29/2011|
I wonder whether all these compulsive texters behave the same way no match which friend or group of friends they are with? %0D %0D So if you're out for drinks with one friend you suddenly feel the need to be in constant phone contact with a second friend, but if you were actually out with that second friend then the first friend would suddenly be more appealing. %0D %0D It does seem that a lot of people cannot be happy with what they have in front of them and are always searching for the "cool party"
|by Anonymous||reply 87||04/29/2011|
How about having someone fly across the country to visit and to attend your college graduation, and responds to most of your comments with "Hmmm? What did you ... oh, he's so funny, listen to this part." I don't know the person he's texting and have extremely little interest in what he says. Ohhhhh, and how about the blurry pics he took at the graduation because he was so busy texting?! If you are with me, then be with me.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||05/17/2013|