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Anyone A Strict Bottom?

Anyone care to admit to this? Enough with the PC "versatile" bullshit!

by Anonymousreply 20808/21/2015

Is that anything like a Power Bottom?

by Anonymousreply 103/12/2011

Present! I don't fuck, I get fucked. I love it. Love it. Love it. Songs have been written about my hole. It is that good. I sold it for brief time in the early 00s.

by Anonymousreply 203/12/2011

I love to bottom, but I love other guys' asses, so though I love being the one fucked, I love playing with the other's ass.

Or do you mean being submissive?

by Anonymousreply 303/12/2011

"Enough with the PC "versatile" bullshit!"%0D %0D %0D What does that mean? There are tops bottoms and people who like both. Why does that bother you?

by Anonymousreply 403/12/2011

Do you mean someone who is strictly a bottom, or a bottom who is strict in his demeanor? I'm trying to figure out whether you're asking for a Dawson or a Rosa Klebb.

by Anonymousreply 503/12/2011

Looks like TJ Maxx has identified the "strict bottom" demographic.

by Anonymousreply 603/12/2011

I wouldn't say strict.

I'd rather go with firm.

by Anonymousreply 803/12/2011

One thing I won't do is suck cock R7. You are my kind of guy. I love getting sucked off but I don't suck in return. Hate it.

by Anonymousreply 903/12/2011

Hey r.9, r.7 here, you sound like a perfect match for me.

by Anonymousreply 1003/13/2011

99% here. I will occasionally top in 3-ways, getting into the spirit of things. But with my partner I am always the one who gets fucked. Love the cock.

by Anonymousreply 1103/13/2011

[quote]I love getting sucked off but I don't suck in return.

Republican, right?

by Anonymousreply 1203/13/2011

Hm, only 12 posts in 14 hrs. Somebody's lyin'.

by Anonymousreply 1303/13/2011

I am a VERY strict bottom! If my top doesn't hop to, he has to bend me over and spank me.

by Anonymousreply 1403/13/2011

Sorry R12 No I'm not. Were you joking or are you that out of touch and narrow minded? Strange.

by Anonymousreply 1503/13/2011

Me. 5'7" 165lbs. pure muscle.

by Anonymousreply 1807/28/2012

I like to ride my man's dick while he's on his back. I place his hand on my stomach so he can feel his cock go in and out.

by Anonymousreply 2007/28/2012

um, #20, honey- I don't think the penis enters the stomach.

But you could probably put his hand on your throat when he skull-fucks the spit out of you.

by Anonymousreply 2107/28/2012

#21 your attempts at snark FAIL. And your BF, if you have one, has a small dick.

by Anonymousreply 2207/28/2012

I won't top. At my age I just want to lay in bed.

by Anonymousreply 2307/28/2012

My bf.

by Anonymousreply 2407/28/2012

I don't get the "there are no tops" joke. I'm a bottom and I have never, ever had a problem finding total tops. Ever. I'm attractive, I guess, but not a Calvin Klein model. I am very masculine. Maybe that's it. Who knows?

by Anonymousreply 2507/28/2012

[quote]I like to ride my man's dick while he's on his back. I place his hand on my stomach so he can feel his cock go in and out.

Apparently you failed basic anatomy in high school. The only place a cock, regardless of size, goes inside your body is your rectum and possibly colon. There are literally miles and miles of intestinal linings between the stomach and the colon.

by Anonymousreply 2607/28/2012

R19, putting commas after every word is not cute, not dramatic, not new, not interesting. You also misuse hyphens. Don't pretend to be literate.

by Anonymousreply 2707/28/2012


by Anonymousreply 2807/28/2012

Those look like periods at r19. Like the one you're on, r27.

by Anonymousreply 2907/28/2012

What are metaphorical miles of colon R26?

by Anonymousreply 3007/28/2012

Alright, R30, I wasn't truly being "literal," but you really do have a long large intestine in your gut.

by Anonymousreply 3107/28/2012

What is a vers bottom?

by Anonymousreply 3208/03/2012

I love a strickly bottom guy. I'm 95% top and love to please a horny bottom. I get in the mood to bottom on occassion, but he's got to be a masculine and well hung top that knows what he's doing to get me on all fours.

by Anonymousreply 3308/03/2012

I don't know what I would be called. I like being fucked, but I love other guys' asses a lot. I like being submissive a lot but also like switching it up, love choking a guy on my hard cock.

Am I a pervert?

by Anonymousreply 3408/03/2012

I've found that guys who only like to top have esteem issues in everyday life.

by Anonymousreply 3508/03/2012

Am a total, greasy pig power bottom. Recently converted to Bottomism at middle age. But if a guy wanted me to fuck him, I certainly wouldn't refuse; my mother taught me manners.

by Anonymousreply 3608/03/2012

R19 it is what you endure before you get to the chors bottom.

by Anonymousreply 3708/03/2012

While I won't eat cilantro or bread pudding, I'm not picky in bed. Or on the floor. Or on the dining room table or in the bushes at parks everywhere.

by Anonymousreply 3808/03/2012

I have never been a strict bottom. I'm really quite liberal. I find being on the bottom requires the generosity of a top and therefore feel in no position to be strict.

by Anonymousreply 3908/03/2012

I need the top to face-slap me, does that make me a strict bottom?

by Anonymousreply 4008/03/2012

I'm a total and strict bottom. Love to suck and get fucked, but I don't like to get sucked. I like strict, masculine tops who have no inclination to bottom at all. If I know that a guy bottoms (even a little bit) then he is no longer attractive to me. The role playing aspect of sex is a huge turnon for me, even though I'm pretty masculine in my daily life.

by Anonymousreply 4108/03/2012


What age are you?

by Anonymousreply 4208/03/2012

I like sex with other men. I am not a top or bottom, although I am quite strict in my life generally.

by Anonymousreply 4308/03/2012

I'm 28.

by Anonymousreply 4408/03/2012

R41 is perfection.

by Anonymousreply 4508/03/2012

Agree with R41 about the role play aspect. I'm sick of people saying you must have "issues" because you like what you like. IMO, people who know themselves and are content with their preferences are the most well adjusted.

by Anonymousreply 4608/04/2012

I'm a pretty strict bottom.

Partly because I really love it, and partly because I'm very short, small framed and skinny, and even in the moments I'd want to possibly top (and I do have them…and a decent enough dick to do the job) the other guy looks at five-foot-one-and-change me and would laugh at the idea.

I agree with R41 and R46 - we like what we like and that doesn't make us have 'issues.' But I do get pissed when people are vague or honest about what they like. That seems to happen a lot.

by Anonymousreply 4708/04/2012

I love bottoms...wouldn't have sex without 'em.

by Anonymousreply 4808/04/2012

[quote]people who know themselves and are content with their preferences are the most well adjusted

I believe in people loving themselves how they are, but you ring a cry for being a prissy picky prisspot. No Thanks

by Anonymousreply 4908/04/2012

100% bottom. Everyone always assumes I'm a top, too, which is irritating. I'm 6'1", 175, athletic, outgoing. Tried topping a bit when I was younger but generally could only get half hard. As a bottom, I get rock hard and can usually cum hands free. Why does that drive tops so wild?

With r7 as well. Prefer to suck dick than receive. I can generally get fairly hard but rarely ever cum when getting blown. Highly skilled at giving & can deepthroat big cocks. Love both rimming & getting rimmed, though. I guess my greatest satisfaction comes from hearing the moans of the dude I'm sucking or rimming (or when he's fucking me).

by Anonymousreply 5008/04/2012

I am a strict bottom:

I INSIST on tops who are hard on command

I REQUIRE that all tops fuck me with erections at 90 degree angles

I DEMAND anal penetration to orgasm at least four times a week

otherwise the top is simply not suitable for a strict bottom like I am.

by Anonymousreply 5108/05/2012

I am a strict power bottom. If my hole isn't destroyed by the end of the fucking, the top didn't do it right.

by Anonymousreply 5208/05/2012

If my hole doesn't prolapse after fucking, the top deserves a Vicious Face-Slapping!

by Anonymousreply 5308/05/2012

Is it really role play if you only ever plan one role?

by Anonymousreply 5408/05/2012

that's MY thought as a versatile. Just sounds boring to me.

by Anonymousreply 5508/05/2012

The reason I cannot be with a top is because you have to masturbate while they are fucking you. It is no different than masturbating while inserting a buttplug.

They get to fuck, you get to basically do what you do by yourself anyway. What's the point in that?

by Anonymousreply 5608/05/2012

Because the hot hunky guy of your dreams is doing it to you, not a piece of plastic.

by Anonymousreply 5708/05/2012


by Anonymousreply 5808/05/2012

I don't get bottoming. Any time anyone has been inside me, I just think, "Are you done yet?" I get nothing out of it. Now tickle my sphincter with your tongue and I'm in heaven!

by Anonymousreply 5908/05/2012

I'm not one for having strict roles. Some guys I'll be deadset on topping, others I'm deadset on bottoming for. But in general, if the guy likes to top, I'll bottom for him. If he's a bottom, I'll top him. If he's verse, then we'll play by ear. And both of us win in the end.

With that being said, I can understand why some guys are strict bottoms (same with strict tops). We all have our preferences.

by Anonymousreply 6008/05/2012

How do versatiles know when to douche?

by Anonymousreply 6108/05/2012

Guys who SAY they are versatile are really just closeted bottoms. Truly versatile guys are like Big Foot or the Loch Ness Monster - urban legends. And if for some reason they truly do believe they're versatile, it means they suck at both bottoming and topping. Pick a team and stay there.

by Anonymousreply 6208/05/2012

Opps, wrong thread again

by Anonymousreply 6408/05/2012

That's not true, [R62]. At least not in my experience, with the guys I've flipped with during sex, they want to give it as hard/well as they get it and it makes them fuck better. I know I'm good at sex, and I don't really consider myself versatile (although technically I guess I am), I just know topping is fun and bottoming is fun, so why not enjoy and do both? In fact I usually go through zones where sometimes I can only think of bottoming and other times where I can only think of topping.

by Anonymousreply 6508/05/2012

Total bottom here, throw me down and ram it in me hard. The harder the better. Rape me! I also love a good face fuck and lot of cum all over my face.

by Anonymousreply 6708/05/2012

I only like strict bottoms. No versatile crap.

by Anonymousreply 6808/08/2012

And some of us are judgmental about how others get their freak on r66, and some of us aren't.

by Anonymousreply 6908/08/2012

Total waste of sexual potential to stick with only one or the other when you've got a hot partner equipped for both. I'd be bored shitless being stuck forever only doing one or the other.

by Anonymousreply 7008/08/2012

I guess I would consider myself a versatile top. I don't mind bottoming if that's why my guy wants/needs, but I'd be just has happy to never bottom again.

by Anonymousreply 7108/08/2012

Bottoms...have any of you tried putting anything in your crack to open the pores there before sex? I hear putting Noxzema between your cheeks really makes it feel open and heightens the sensation of getting pounded.

by Anonymousreply 7208/09/2012

R70, me too, why even have sex if it HAS to be only one thing?

by Anonymousreply 7408/09/2012

R73 with no bottoms I would have no one to fuck. Ignore him happy butt boys.

by Anonymousreply 7508/09/2012

As we always see with this kind of thread those who identify as vers are painfully insecure. They're vers so you need to be vers too.

by Anonymousreply 7608/09/2012

Strict bottoms make strict tops happy. I especially like dudes who not only are strict bottoms, but they dont want their dude to suck dick either. THey just want a dude to sick back and enjoy every time.

by Anonymousreply 7708/10/2012

I'm 200% versatile. 100% top and 100% bottom.

I have a big fat dick and a gorgeous bubble ass. I started out topping only but was comfortable enough with an ex to get into bottoming. I only tell guys I date seriously that I'm vers though.

I hooked up with a guy like r41 for a few years. Since our first meeting, he was the bottom and I'd fuck the hell out of him. After a few times, he told me that he loved being with a total top like me and that I was one of the best fucks he ever had. A few years later, he hooked up with a guy that had fucked me and found out about it. Next time we talked, he told me about it and that he felt defrauded by my letting him believe I was a total top and that he lost his attraction to me despite claiming I was one of the best tops he ever had. The funny thing is that online he advertises himself as top/vers.

Tops who don't suck dick have issues though. That's like a straight guy that thinks eating pussy is yucky. Oh, and I've never met a top that didn't want to suck my dick, or that wouldn't let me top if I pushed the issue.

The only strict top I ever met was a guy with a big dick and a flat non-existent ass. The only strict bottoms I've met are the ones that are insecure of their topping abilities like the short dude who posted earlier.

by Anonymousreply 7808/10/2012

yes i'm a strict bottom,i just lie there,wherever he want to fuck me on my back and let him do whatever he wants to do

by Anonymousreply 7908/18/2012

Secure, versatile and content. Relax.

Actually, anal is passé, butt occasionally it's a good power play...

by Anonymousreply 8008/18/2012

I really don't get the mindset of some bottoms that they need this total top that never bottomed in their life and doesn't like to suck dick. We all like what we like sexually but that seems like they are sporting some serious issues honestly.

What kind of gay man doesn't suck dick? And why would you not want your dick sucked?

by Anonymousreply 8208/19/2012

R82 Actually, I'm not a huge fan of sucking cock. I do it, but I rarely have a desire to do it. I have to have a real emotional investment in a guy to want to blow him.

by Anonymousreply 8308/20/2012

R83, I had to check the date on your post; I thought I wrote it. I totally get it.

Btw, I'm not strictly a bottom, but I do prefer to bottom with guys larger (in frame, weight; older is nice, too) and top with guys younger (a year or two) and smaller.

by Anonymousreply 8408/20/2012

I liked to get sucked, but I have never sucked, never will. Not my thing.

by Anonymousreply 8508/21/2012

My MUSSY is always MOIST and ready for a super hard jock boys

by Anonymousreply 8608/21/2012

What is an oral top?

by Anonymousreply 8708/24/2012

I'd never give oral to a guy who doesn't/wont give oral back. A lot of straight girls do that and I always hear my straight male friends moan about how the girls they are with are selfish in bed, only care about their own pleasure. If you expect to be pleasured then you should reciprocate.

I understand everyone has their likes and dislikes, but the whole "I like oral but hate giving it" doesn't make sense to me on a number of levels.

by Anonymousreply 8808/24/2012

r88, that is your right, but I am glad there are a lot of dudes that don't want or expect a dude to reciprocate oral. When they find a dude who only receives oral, they are mutually complimentary. There is nothing wrong with personal preferences and desires.

by Anonymousreply 8908/24/2012

I'm pretty much like R41 as well: total bottom. I love to get fucked. I can get fucked for hours and my ass is still tight the next day. It's insta-tight. I prefer being with a guy that I know has no desire to get fucked (so, total tops). But I don't disqualify versatile guys. I would ultimately just prefer a total top. Also, love sucking cock (and taking a load down my throat), but have no desire whatsoever to receive head. Opposite with rimming.

To the posters who can't handle guys who are strictly one position or the other, get a life. People enjoy what they enjoy. Me having a dick up my ass does not make me a woman nor someone who seeks to mimic heteronormative sexual power plays. It's a bedroom preference; not the complete formation of my identity as a man. And, frankly, I find it much hotter when a guy pronounces exactly what they like. It's assured, confident and totally sexy.

It reminds me of the queer theorist Leo Bersani who described a certain view of "bottoms" as the "suicidal ecstasy of being a woman".

by Anonymousreply 9008/24/2012


by Anonymousreply 9108/24/2012

wow r60 I love you so much. I thought I was the only one. That was well put and I agree with you 100%.

by Anonymousreply 9208/24/2012

[quote] There are literally miles and miles of intestinal linings between the stomach and the colon.

Maybe if you're Jabba the Hutt.

by Anonymousreply 9308/24/2012

"Enough with the PC "versatile" bullshit!"

Fuck off with your "PC" shit...

I'm versatile - you can fuck me, but you better realize that that if I want your ass, then I'll take it...

by Anonymousreply 9408/24/2012

Woop for the Strict Tops and Strict Bottoms! Sex is not PC.

by Anonymousreply 9508/24/2012

Please help me

by Anonymousreply 9608/24/2012

Yes don't make me top pls

by Anonymousreply 9708/24/2012

Guys who are strict tops or strict bottoms are hot.

by Anonymousreply 9808/26/2012

It always amazes me how people can't understand when people like things sexually that they do not. We are all different. I am a strict bottom. I LOVE to get fucked and get off on getting fucked. Fucking does nothing for me, neither does having my dick sucked. It's all about hitting the prostate, baby!

by Anonymousreply 9908/26/2012

I don't like my dick sucked. My g spot is not there. Suck my nipples instead.

by Anonymousreply 10008/26/2012

My nipples are too sensitive to touch.

by Anonymousreply 10109/08/2012

I dont understand bottom guys but I thank god your here. I don't like a dick in my mouth, my ass, I like butts.

by Anonymousreply 10209/08/2012

you sound boring, and you don't know the difference between your and you're.

by Anonymousreply 10309/08/2012

I'm a tall muscular hairy and well hung masculine black man who is 100% strict strict that I'd rather be celibate than be versatile (no joke). I refuse to even be sucked...I only give orally and receive anally and that's the way it has been since I was in my early 20's (i'm now in my late 30's). I don't even masturbate when I get fucked because I am so focused on taking it and satisfying my total top partner.

The only downside is that I don't fit the stereotype of a bottom. If I walk into a bar I am immediately surrounded by twink bottoms trying to get to know me. Tops rarely notice me, and if I do meet one it is usually online, he's usually there because he doesn't meet the stereotype either. As I get older it's getting tough to meet guys now. I don't date versatile because they eventually want to flip and I just don't go there.

I get jealous of the small framed, blonde, very young looking total bottoms...they probably don't log on data lounge to bitch about their situation because they're way to busy getting laid. Oh well, at least there is always porn and toys for when I get too old :)

by Anonymousreply 10510/16/2012


Is it a mental/psychological thing? Have you never enjoyed getting a blowjob?

by Anonymousreply 10610/16/2012

Yeah, it's gotta be psychological. I will get rock hard giving a bj, and totally lose it if someone even mentions giving one to me. Ditto if they even mention "flip fucking".

I'm used to getting my way and make a lot of money in my line of work, so I suspect that is how I wound up wanting the opposite in the bedroom. It's embarrassing but I just don't get turned on unless I am in bed with an extremely selfish top.

But I don't see deeper psychological problem with it. I think my sex life would be perfect if I met my opposite in a power top.

by Anonymousreply 10710/16/2012

Guys who learned to like bottoming are ok, but they dont beat guys that LIVE to get fucked. There is nothing like a bottom that can get slammed for hours and cum multiple times. Most of the time, those guys are strict bottoms and have taking dick down to a science.

r105, do you mostly have sex with black men?

by Anonymousreply 10810/20/2012

I was always thinking about it and thought myself as a weirdo, but i would never ever be a top, or be a one who fucks, it simply does not interest me, i just want to get fucked and laid.

by Anonymousreply 10910/25/2012

If I'm with a younger guy, I prefer to top, but if I'm with an older guy, I want to be the bottom.

by Anonymousreply 11010/28/2012

I am a total pussy-boy bottom with a true "KUNT" that must be fucked bare-back constantly.I prefer HUGE black dicks pounding into it long and hard and using me as a load-dump !I sleep with a BIG black dildo up my ass all night long !OH YES...I shove it up there and hold it in place with some elastic and tape over the hole and ass-crack to keep it secure and prevent slippage.Just a drop or two of lube.It feels great and when I wake-up,I masturbate and then pull it out and run it through the dishwasher to clean and sanitizie it.Often I also wear it outside to go shopping,church,even to work !Does this sound a bit Kraz-eee? You should try it !

by Anonymousreply 11111/11/2012

I've been described as a "power bottom". I love and truly live to get fucked. I've spent an entire weekend getting worked over by my 50+ yo boyfriend. We would usually get rough because I could take it not only without complaining (the benefit of experience), but getting rammed hard is the way I prefer to cum. We broke up when he decided he preferred guys in their early 20s...years later he emailed me and told me he now regretted it because no one could take his size (very thick 9) and stamina (hours), night after night, like I could...and I'm a nice, normal drama-free masculine guy, lol. He was white, but I've dated black, hispanic and a few asian men...all total tops.

by Anonymousreply 11212/02/2012

see Craigslist. there are lots of strict bottoms

by Anonymousreply 11301/05/2013

Do some of you keep up with the diseases many gay men have? Some are primarily in the gay community. I sent some friends a list. Keep getting checkups and use protection!

by Anonymousreply 11401/19/2013

For you bottoms, is it true about eventually having to use tampons because the sphincter no longer works like it should? Some friends were telling me this. If so, I wouldn't want to lose a body function.

by Anonymousreply 11501/19/2013

there are a huge number of strict bottoms, as Craigslist will reveal

by Anonymousreply 11601/25/2013

I have come a huge number of dudes that are straight bottom. Craigslist is full of guys looking to be totally bottom, who want a masculine dude who not reciprocate in any way. Strict bottoms like dudes who are totally in control, totally Alpha Male, totally macho.

by Anonymousreply 11702/03/2013

I am [quote]very[/quote] strict, but I'm no bottom.

by Anonymousreply 11802/03/2013

I consider myself a pretty strict bottom I have topped only one guy but I am bi I love to eat pussy and fuck pussy but I would love to lick pussy and bottom for a nice big cock or her strap on fuck me while I suck a nice big cock!!!

by Anonymousreply 11902/10/2013

Bisexuals are usually more likely to be strict top than strict bottom. Interesting...

by Anonymousreply 12002/15/2013

I couldn't top to save my life. I would totally suck at it; but my hole has brought grown men to their knees.

by Anonymousreply 12103/02/2013

R121, that is nothing to brag about

by Anonymousreply 12203/03/2013

My hole has made a grown woman cry

by Anonymousreply 12303/04/2013

there are lots of strict bottoms, an oversupply.

by Anonymousreply 12403/09/2013

I am a total oral bottom. Not into anal at all, but I love getting face fucked and oral cockworship, edging and drinking cum.

by Anonymousreply 12503/26/2013

I'm a vicious face-slapping cunt

by Anonymousreply 12605/04/2013

I'm a bossy bottom but I can't say I'm strict about it.

by Anonymousreply 12705/04/2013

[quote]my hole has brought grown men to their knees.

Doggy is nothing to brag about, really.

by Anonymousreply 12805/04/2013

Really 1 in 20... wow I did not know that! wow!

by Anonymousreply 12905/21/2013

you can be a strict anything as long as can push it all in you and cum in your mouth

by Anonymousreply 13006/03/2013

I am a strict bottom, I mean versatile is very acceptable. But then again I love the whole top sticks to topping Nd bottoms sticks to bottoming. I love being the feminine man and looking sexy for my masculine man...

by Anonymousreply 13106/06/2013

I have topped before but it doesn't really do anything for me. Same with getting my cock sucked. Does nothing for me. I will do it if I'm in a relationship and I have to, but would rather not be in a relationship with a guy if he isn't a total top.

Sucking a bigger, masc, older, hairy guy's cock, seeing how much it's pleasing him, I LOVE that. Especially if you're monogamous so you don't have to use condoms so he can shoot it wherever he wants. I'm not femme (not that there's anything wrong with that) but I want him to be the man in the bedroom and take control and use me for his pleasure.

Really passionate kissing is the best and I love getting fucked. If the top knows how to do it right I can cum without even touching myself and shoot all the way up to the headboard.

Man it's been way too long.

by Anonymousreply 13206/06/2013

When I could get it up and maintain an erection for hours and fuck grateful people with my nine inch dick and skillful and intuitive body and mind, I was definitely genuinely versatile.

Those days are, alas, gone.

by Anonymousreply 13406/06/2013

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by Anonymousreply 13506/06/2013

Why would anyone want to be a strict bottom? That hurts.

by Anonymousreply 13606/12/2013

(132) I'm right there with you. Been too long since I came from being fucked without touching myself.

by Anonymousreply 13706/12/2013

R136 If it hurts the top is doing it wrong.

I love being fucked and I love everything about that feeling.

by Anonymousreply 13806/12/2013

100 percent top. I don't suck cock either.

by Anonymousreply 13906/12/2013

Never bottomed, never will. Not my thing.

by Anonymousreply 14006/12/2013

[quote]I want him to be the man in the bedroom and take control and use me for his pleasure.

Threads like this always make me wonder if I'm the only top whose main goal is getting my partner off. Thats what turns me on the most.

I guess it's good I found him since it seems like so many bottoms just want to be used. Or maybe that's just the guys here.

by Anonymousreply 14106/12/2013

Total top. Total bottoms dominate me. I have always been mussy whipped

by Anonymousreply 14206/12/2013

R141 It's not just about being "used." That quote is taken out of context. I get double the pleasure the same way you do because I not only get the physical stimulation of having a man on top of and inside me, I get the mental stimulation of knowing he's enjoying it, too.

We said the same thing without you realizing it. We both get pleasure from pleasing our partner.

That said I'm sure there are guys who don't care if their partner enjoys it as long as they get off, but I don't think that's specific to bottoms or tops.

by Anonymousreply 14306/13/2013

Point taken r132, and I wasn't trying to call you out personally. It's just something I've seen a bunch of times here, bottom guys saying they don't want any reciprocation and exist only to be used as a fuckhole or whatever. No thanks.

Sexually you sound like my BF. Hope you have or find yourself a good man.

by Anonymousreply 14406/13/2013

With "strict" types it's a lot more mental. The scenario language is part of the turn on. You see it a lot on hookup site ("looking to be used" etc.)

by Anonymousreply 14506/13/2013

If I'm not strict they come all over the carpet.

by Anonymousreply 14606/13/2013

I'm strict now fuck me long time!

by Anonymousreply 14706/13/2013

"use" language I can get into, it's more the 'reciprocation not wanted' type stuff that is not appealing.

by Anonymousreply 14806/13/2013

Gratuitous ass.

by Anonymousreply 14906/13/2013

R141 It's all good, no offense taken, just trying to explain.

Hope I do eventually find a guy like you. Your bf sounds like a pretty lucky guy.

by Anonymousreply 15006/14/2013

I had a demented bottom tell me that"the bottoms make all the rules." He enjoyed being penetrated anally more than sucking,fucking,licking,swallowing or any other sexual activity.As far as I know he never topped in his entire life.....

by Anonymousreply 15106/14/2013

Nothing like a bottom that makes good sound effects as he gets his hole beat, masculine dudes need not apply! unless you are just masculine outside the bedroom

by Anonymousreply 15206/14/2013

It's my understanding that bottoms can't fuck. They can't stay hard long enough.

by Anonymousreply 15306/14/2013

Also, I've heard that straight men who do gay porn, if there is any such thing, always bottom because they can't stay hard because they're not turned on.

by Anonymousreply 15406/14/2013

r154, could that be why so much gay porn puts me to sleep these days? You can tell the difference between a guy that is taking it for a check and one that really wants to get his hole gutted.

by Anonymousreply 15506/14/2013

I find it hard to believe that any straight men do gay porn, unless they're so drugged out they don't know what they're doing.

Yes, I know gay men do straight porn, but that's different because gay boys/men have been conditioned the same as straight boys/men, that heterosexuality is wonderful and normal.

by Anonymousreply 15606/14/2013

I'm strictly Bottom. I have no dick, ALL you have to do is show up! Just Holla. NO Women PLEASE! JUST YUMMY MEN. I would love to have 2 men at Once! I Cant wait 2 SUK U OFF!!I Live ALONE SO PLEASE, Make Me SCREAM!

by Anonymousreply 15706/18/2013

some of all are a mess

by Anonymousreply 15806/20/2013

Total bottom here. I've tried topping, but it's just not for me. Sexually, total tops are the best match for me but I seem to wind up in relationships with vers/tops. I always worry they're missing something. I'm never dating versatile guys again. The last two I dated were constantly asking me to pay attention to their asses. I told them both, "Who is the bottom here?" I even expressed concern with both when they said they wanted to date that I wasn't sure it was going to be a good sexual match. Turned out I was right.

by Anonymousreply 15906/20/2013

I get mistaken for a bottom all the time (i'm 22, blonde/blue, 5'8, 150... twink poster boy with thick 8.5" cock), which I HATE... cause the reality is that I LOVE to fuck and am 100% top only. Don't even like sucking or playing with my bottom's cock (and my ideal bottom agrees with me it's all about my cock and his holes). The hottest bottoms I find tend to be older, masculine, with hot bods... yet are comfortable being total bottoms. Love seeing them with completely limp and if they can't keep their hands off, wearing a jock. Love to cum quick and seed/lube their cunt, then start pounding their wet sloppy hole marathon style their cunt with my their ass cunt with a couple of loads Can fuck a couple of rounds, so a big plus if the can take a marathon fuck

by Anonymousreply 16006/28/2013

I would hope that anyone who is a strict bottom is very monogamous and selective. It is not the healthiest thing.

by Anonymousreply 16106/29/2013

I just think a top man needs a boy who know how to bounce his ass on his top look seduce and love giving a nice wet blowjob. Gay relationships with total tops and total bottoms are the sexiest. The art in one man taking and making the other man submit too him using strong force..

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by Anonymousreply 16307/22/2013

The art? Do shut up.

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by Anonymousreply 16507/25/2013

I'm most comfortable with … (the one who is most of the time topping) tops. I tried to top my boyfriend, and even when i came inside him, i couldn't feel satisfied so i very rarely top him. the thing is i am also very tiny (well defined though) guy with a long thick cock, on the other hand my bf is taller and wider. This situation helps me be bottom easier as well. I love rough sex, and i love to get feminine. I moan a lot and ride him like a slut so so i let him know how much i enjoy by moaning :) All these aside, he makes me cum twice without stopping sometimes and without even touching when he is inside me. Other times i like playing with his butt a lot and he likes to be submissive to me.

Even-though I discovered that i don't need strict limits like "total something" with my partner, i like bottoming and he likes topping more :)

by Anonymousreply 16608/11/2013

Anus anus anus!!

by Anonymousreply 16708/11/2013

Another "bottom only" here. I can (and have) topped, but for me there's nothing like taking a thick, hard cock in my ass. The truth is that I'm not too picky about the rest of him, if a top has a cock that turns me on. Sex is basically just physical gratification anyway; why not just enjoy it for what it is and get it how you like it most? It took years to get my partner to agree, and accept a sexually open relationship. We definitely have hotter sex together now, although he still won't consider a threesome if there's a chance the other man will fuck me. It's my latest, greatest challenge to convince him the more I put out for other men, the better I'll put out for him.

by Anonymousreply 16808/11/2013

R168, you forcing your monogamous boyfriend into an open relationship , sounds like a recipe for success!

Sounds like you want him to be you pimp not your bf.

by Anonymousreply 16908/11/2013

R160 sounds like a horrible top. His bottoms won't even get hard when he fucks them....

I've had plenty of bottoms, and I've NEVER had one without a hardon.

by Anonymousreply 17008/11/2013

I didn't "[italic]force[/italic]" my partner into anything, R169. I intuitively knew he'd be more sexual, and more personally satisfied in his own sex-life, if I convinced him to experiment with somewhat broader parameters vis-a-vis our own sexual relationship. Obviously I had my own motivations, but I let him bring himself up to speed at his own pace, and only then let myself have the many kinds of strictly sexual contacts I enjoy most, but he can't offer me on his own.

I don't need a "pimp", and, unlike you, I imagine, I have a lifetime partner who wants me to enjoy sex as much, as often and as varied as I want and need.

by Anonymousreply 17108/11/2013

Out of curiosity, what do you guys want that you can't get from each other?

by Anonymousreply 17208/12/2013

[quote] i love to get feminine

Do you mean high-pitched squeals?

by Anonymousreply 17308/12/2013

r166 is my kind of bottom.

by Anonymousreply 17408/12/2013

Gay men are like old cookie jars. Many more bottoms than tops.

by Anonymousreply 17508/12/2013

[quote] Many more bottoms than tops.

Have you never heard of the AIDS epidemic?

by Anonymousreply 17608/12/2013

I'm a very strict bottom. I give orders and use a whip.

by Anonymousreply 17708/12/2013

[R173] That's not what i meant...Maybe it's a wrong word to use, i don't know. I just like being flipped, lifted around by my man and love moving my hips around while i'm taking it. I don't moan very high pitched even though it gets a bit pitchy when it gets harder and deeper. It's probably not pitchy like what's in your head :). Sometimes i like dominating my man, but when he overpowers me, i love it! I think everyone has different taste about these after all ;)

by Anonymousreply 17908/15/2013

too much information, r179!

by Anonymousreply 18008/15/2013

R180 I'm sorry for being inappropriate :(

by Anonymousreply 18108/15/2013

I like high pitched squeals and moaning

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by Anonymousreply 18410/17/2013

strictly top

by Anonymousreply 18510/17/2013

I would hope that any strict bottom would be monogamous and very discriminating.

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by Anonymousreply 18711/26/2013

I only like to be fucked and I live to suck , I won't fuck a mans ass , I will fuck a chicks ass no problem there ,

by Anonymousreply 18801/06/2014

You rock r179, thx for the smile.

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by Anonymousreply 19002/10/2014

Too many bottoms in here! I find bottoms to be very tedious and in constant need of attention. I'm versatile myself and don't understand the strict bottom role, I guess I do, in that they have a feminine, passive persona that turns them on. I can be passive too, but its not a must for me to get off.

by Anonymousreply 19102/10/2014

I'm married to one. We started out versatile, and I liked that a lot, but he hasn't topped in like 3 years. He's lucky I don't have a huge craving for getting fucked; I can live without it.

by Anonymousreply 19202/10/2014

There are many on social media

by Anonymousreply 19305/05/2014

oh boy

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by Anonymousreply 19507/17/2014

Total cocksucker bottom here, not versatile at all, ever. Very monogamy oriented, but high sex drive. Love it rough

by Anonymousreply 19609/16/2014

[quote]Bisexuals are usually more likely to be strict top than strict bottom.

Not IME. Every bi guy I've been with wanted to get fucked.

by Anonymousreply 19709/16/2014

Honestly I feel stupid topping, maybe it's a self-confidence thing. I'm like, "Oh Harvey, you look ridiculous."

by Anonymousreply 19809/16/2014

r197, not the Latin and Black bi dudes I know. In fact, many of them had a strict "don't touch my butt rule" or "I don't touch your penis" rule.

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by Anonymousreply 20209/22/2014

minnie, go take a xanax, you cunt!

by Anonymousreply 20309/22/2014

As I say in my Grindr Profile:

There are 3 things in life you can depend on: Death, Taxes and My Being A Bottom.

Every frigging "top" wants to be versatile - just pop a Viagra and continue to me without the need for my dick in your ass. My tongue is more than enough.

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by Anonymousreply 20509/23/2014

When my boyfriend and I have sex it is never a question who is the bottom. I am his girlfriend ( a guy) and he is my boyfriend. He screws me and I get screwed. It is the only way I would and he would have it. We both love it.

by Anonymousreply 20606/08/2015

Total bossy bottom here. I never top, nor would I want to. Even frotting, he's still the top. I'll suck him, but he never sucks me, he just finishes me off with his hand if need be. It works for us.

by Anonymousreply 20706/08/2015

Many are

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