In true heteronormative fashion it's the top, who incidentally also picks up the tab on all dates.
What if both are sexually fluid ?
R3 The vers top proposes, You wanna? Vers bottom accepts with, Dunno how about you?
The power bottom
I have a feeling it's usually the bottom who proposes (or at least forces his partner into proposing). Since 90 % of gay population consists of bottoms they usually panic and try to get a ring on their top's finger before they find some younger and fitter ass to bang.
The one with the ring silly!
The top proposes. And once they're married, sometimes the bottom takes the top's last name.
That’s a stupid question OP.
In theory, it should be the top. But in practice, it's usually the bottom.
This question is like that episode of Star Trek: The Next Generation "Darmok"
In that episode, the crew meets a race who seem to speak in gibberish. The words all make sense, but without a common frame of reference, are meaningless.
OP - you ask a question using all the right words - engaged, top, bottom, and such - but you string them together in a manner which is simply gibberish to actual gay men.
It's as if you're not really gay, but are trying to speak our language.
Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra, OP.
Darmok and Jalad at Tanagra.
Thomas of PJ and Thomas did take his husband's last name. There's something subtly dominant about PJ, he made the proposal, and the way they interact leads me to believe that Thomas is most likely the bottom in that relationship.