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What Should We Make of Call Me by Your Name’s Age-Gap Relationship?

The heightened scrutiny around sexual abuse in Hollywood, including the revelations about Kevin Spacey, which, thanks in part to his joint apology/coming-out statement, seemed to renew old and damaging associations of gayness with molestation could possibly hurt this film.

For fans of the book and the film, it may feel self-evident that this is not a story of predation. Not for everyone.
Slate Magazine
replies 51Dec 6, 2017 2:52 PM +00:00

Do we really need a third thread discussing this in the last 10 minutes?

replies 1Dec 6, 2017 2:53 PM +00:00

Corey Feldman's thread is his opinion on the film. This one stands on it's own on the subject of the film

replies 2Dec 6, 2017 2:57 PM +00:00

Fine, use this one instead then but there's no need for the same discussion to be going on in three different threads at the same time. No one is discussing Feldman in that thread.

replies 3Dec 6, 2017 2:58 PM +00:00

which is the 3rd?

replies 4Dec 6, 2017 3:00 PM +00:00

The LA Film Critics one.

replies 5Dec 6, 2017 3:01 PM +00:00

What are we to make? Um, nothing. Read Anthony Lane's BRILLIANT review in The New Yorker. People of different ages do have sex with one another believe it or not. My parents were 13 years apart in age, my grandparents 17 years apart. No big deal.

replies 6Dec 6, 2017 3:02 PM +00:00

R6 This. Thankyou.

replies 7Dec 6, 2017 3:04 PM +00:00

Why are we posting old articles to stir up shit?

replies 8Dec 6, 2017 3:05 PM +00:00

Well, to quote the article by Jeffrey Bloomer from OP appears to have cribbed the title of this thread:

It’s a story of first love and lust told from the perspective of a particularly mature teenager on the cusp of adulthood; the relationship is consensual; even Elio’s parents seem to approve; and, in any case, this is a fictional depiction, not an ethical endorsement.

That and the teenager that is depicted in this fictional story was of legal age to consent at the time and was not the object of a skeevy James Woods or Roy Moore who approached teenagers decades younger who were NOT of legal age to consent.

replies 9Dec 6, 2017 3:08 PM +00:00

The LA Film Critics review is more praise then objection on the film- This one stands on it's own on the age-gap issue. I would rather go to one thread then have to dig up older articles on the subject.

replies 10Dec 6, 2017 3:09 PM +00:00

Regardless of how you feel about this issue, The Slate has been publishing hit job after hit job on this movie for the past month and the Twitter gays are all riled up over it. Makes me wonder if it's the Lady Bird people ordering these "think" pieces.

Also, "how should we feel about it"? You need someone to tell you how to feel about something? Or do you imagine the homosexuals as the Borg, all having to hold the same opinion on everything?

replies 11Dec 6, 2017 3:10 PM +00:00

The Lady Bird people? Chalamet is in that movie too.

replies 12Dec 6, 2017 3:11 PM +00:00

Yeah Scott Rudin isn't gonna want to hurt Chalamet's narrative, he knows he's a big draw to his film.

replies 13Dec 6, 2017 3:14 PM +00:00

Whatever, the Three Billboards people, then. Plenty of competition; pick one.

replies 14Dec 6, 2017 3:16 PM +00:00

Three Billboards have enough thinkpieces of their own to deal with. And there's are worse - racism.

replies 15Dec 6, 2017 3:17 PM +00:00

I love articles that tell me what to think.

replies 16Dec 6, 2017 3:28 PM +00:00

R16 And that's why you come here right Mary?

replies 17Dec 6, 2017 3:31 PM +00:00

R17 Right!

replies 18Dec 6, 2017 3:40 PM +00:00

How about people see the film and decide for themselves. Most people that see it have no issue.

replies 19Dec 6, 2017 3:42 PM +00:00

nothing wrong with it

replies 20Dec 6, 2017 3:44 PM +00:00

They're probably boning in real life too so whatever

replies 21Dec 6, 2017 3:45 PM +00:00

Really? And you know this because R21?

replies 22Dec 6, 2017 3:49 PM +00:00

Timothée Chalamet is so hot in this movie btw.

replies 23Dec 6, 2017 3:49 PM +00:00

He's even hotter in Lady Bird.

replies 24Dec 6, 2017 3:51 PM +00:00

R22 Well, wouldn't you?

replies 25Dec 6, 2017 4:05 PM +00:00

we all would.

replies 26Dec 6, 2017 4:05 PM +00:00

Perfectly acceptable. Anyone who states otherwise is envious of men who attract younger men.

replies 27Dec 6, 2017 4:06 PM +00:00

R27 Tell em.

replies 28Dec 6, 2017 4:09 PM +00:00

The jealousy of some people.

replies 29Dec 6, 2017 4:11 PM +00:00

What Should We Make of Call Me by Your Name’s Age-Gap Relationship?

nothing, a horny teenage sets his sights on a hot grad student.

don't feed the pedo trolls.

replies 30Dec 6, 2017 4:16 PM +00:00

What's with the pedo trolls? The character is 17, not 10/11 or younger.

replies 31Dec 6, 2017 4:21 PM +00:00

Well if this is going to be the official thread, here is the article about Corey Feldman; let's discuss!

Call Me By Your Name is getting a lot of Oscar buzz but some are questioning why in a time when sexual misconduct has gripped the nation.
replies 32Dec 6, 2017 4:23 PM +00:00

Pedophilia is an attraction to pre pubescent children.

It's like calling a banana an apple.

Words have meanings.

replies 33Dec 6, 2017 4:24 PM +00:00

they are immune to logic or facts, best to ignore them

replies 34Dec 6, 2017 4:24 PM +00:00

R34 I should but I wonder if there's something mentally wrong with them that they're so focused on this stuff.

replies 35Dec 6, 2017 4:25 PM +00:00

The only critic so far who watched this movie and still had a problem with the age difference was Armond White. Which should tell you something.

replies 36Dec 6, 2017 4:27 PM +00:00

R36 I don't even think he did to be honest. He wrote that review for a conservative website. He wrote another review for OUT which didn't even mention the age difference. He's just pandering for clicks like the troll he is.

replies 37Dec 6, 2017 4:28 PM +00:00

Even the fucking Christian Science Monitor critic didn't have a problem with it!

replies 38Dec 6, 2017 4:29 PM +00:00

1% of people that have seen it have an issue with it.

replies 39Dec 6, 2017 4:37 PM +00:00

They're two beautiful men fucking. I say we enjoy it.

replies 40Dec 6, 2017 4:46 PM +00:00

anyone would think chalamet was in diapers

replies 41Dec 6, 2017 4:59 PM +00:00

R40 This. Why do some people get upset about something beautiful?

replies 42Dec 6, 2017 5:02 PM +00:00

It's the fraus, R42.

replies 43Dec 6, 2017 5:03 PM +00:00

Call Me By Your NAMBL.A

replies 44Dec 6, 2017 6:31 PM +00:00

Would have been hotter if the character was 15 or so. That'd have been smokin.

replies 45Dec 6, 2017 6:33 PM +00:00

Or even 13, or 11, amirite, R45?

replies 46Dec 6, 2017 9:54 PM +00:00

The ultimate goal is to make society think of the age of consent as an arbitrary number.

No big deal. Case by case basis. Etc.etc.

BTW, has anyone seen a female leading the charge to lower the age of consent? Nope, just horny guys who want to bang the high school jock and/or cheerleader.

replies 47Dec 7, 2017 12:10 AM +00:00

R47 But saying it's not a case-by-case basis goes against everything we know from developmental psychology. People don't suddenly turn sexual overnight once they hit 18. Claiming otherwise would be saying Earth's rotation around the Sun somehow has magical powers. The same number currently applies to everyone in a particular country because that happens to be an efficient legislative and judicial solution.

I found the age of consent set at 16 way too high when I was 15, but now find it acceptable. When I grow older, I'll probably find it too low. There simply isn't one perfect magical number that people will ever agree on. Also, saying Italy's age of consent laws are not as good as American laws just because... well, they aren't American, is highly problematic in itself. I mean, you're entitled to that opinion, but the rest of us can also hold an opinion that you're a nationalistic prick.

replies 48Dec 7, 2017 6:03 AM +00:00

Making it a case-by-case basis would mean that a board of physicians and mental health professionals would need access each individual child and certify him/her ready to have sex with adults. This is impossible, R48, and you know it. If you were a horny 15 year old, too bad. You had to wait a few years to hop into bed with adult men.

Civilized societies decide upon an age and enforce that by law.

Renowned pedophile R. Kelly had an R&B hit called "Seems Like You're Ready."

Let's stick to a fixed age of consent; not what horny minors and pedos crave.

replies 49Dec 7, 2017 7:19 AM +00:00


A cool trick- if you open this thread in incognito mode, you can FF the OP over and over until this thread just disappears.

replies 50Dec 7, 2017 11:08 AM +00:00

When I was 16 and cruising blacked out video arcades, the men I engaged with for sex (glorious 1970s sex), were both pursuers and the pursued. The only thing that mattered was the presence of a hard, throbbing cock. Old, young, fat, muscular, hairy, smooth, all it took was a hard throbbing cock. At 16 yoa, i was a lifelong member of the LOBSQ. Many, many times I would be the one to give the mercy BJ to the guy who was hanging out too long to be serviced. We had respect for our predecessors back then. The day I turned 17, I believe I turned 17...{{{blush}}}.

replies 51Dec 7, 2017 2:50 PM +00:00