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Become an "Alpha" by Not Jerking Off for 90 Days

I'm starting it. You stop masturbating for 90 days. It's really hard, but over time, you develop what are colloquially called "superpowers."

It's been 1 day, and I feel pretty good already! More alert, more into working out, more positive.

Supposedly, you grow to become more of an alpha-male kind of guy... About time, in my case: I've been a morose, pussy weakling for too long.

Anyone try the NoFap 90-day challenge? How did it work out?

People who aren’t on NoFap say we believe in “superpowers.” I say, let them laugh. More superpowers for me. No, I don’t believe in...
replies 113Dec 6, 2017 8:58 AM +00:00

Prostate cancer, here we come (see the pun?)

replies 1Dec 6, 2017 9:01 AM +00:00

Use it lose it, OP.

Proceed at your own peril.

replies 2Dec 6, 2017 9:01 AM +00:00
It's been 1 day, and I feel pretty good already!

Your self-mastery is jaw-dropping!

replies 3Dec 6, 2017 9:03 AM +00:00

If we weren't supposed to jack off, we'd have shorter arms.

replies 4Dec 6, 2017 9:04 AM +00:00

I’ve always limited my ejaculations in belief that there’s great power derived from seminal retention. Even when fucking, I refuse to cum most of the time. And I haven’t jerked off in forever (always felt it made men weaker).

replies 5Dec 6, 2017 9:05 AM +00:00

Your head get clearer, and if you really need to cum, it happens while you're sleeping, so your prostate will be okay.

You start reaching out to people more, getting more social, more risk-taking when it comes to getting out there.

It's just really hard on your groin (the burning, itching desire feeling)... But that's what working out and meditation are for. Cold showers, too.

replies 6Dec 6, 2017 9:07 AM +00:00

R6 seeks approval from his Republican daddy

replies 7Dec 6, 2017 9:08 AM +00:00

That's a recipe for fucking up your body. You'll probably have a wet dream anyway making it pointless. You're not supposed to go that long without relief and your body will take care of it.

replies 8Dec 6, 2017 9:09 AM +00:00

I’m out.

replies 9Dec 6, 2017 9:09 AM +00:00

Rule #5 on that list is the key, not the semen retention.

replies 10Dec 6, 2017 9:10 AM +00:00

Yes, I really want to become an alpha!

--It's been a dream of mine since forever!
replies 11Dec 6, 2017 9:11 AM +00:00

OP it’s called being horny, after 2 weeks you will be super horny. The reason you start reaching out to people more is because you need to get off and want to fuck them.

replies 12Dec 6, 2017 9:12 AM +00:00

So do you get you cub scout dumb fuck badge after 90 days then.

replies 13Dec 6, 2017 9:13 AM +00:00

My voice is relaxing, getting more resonant, and I'm feeling more "Fuck, yeah!" about things...

R12, you're right, but that's the point, to get those urges channeled to action in the real world.

If you can score w/o doing it yourself, so some NoFappers, that's okay, as that's a large part why many of them start in the first place (to grow more outgoing, to meet women, etc.).

replies 14Dec 6, 2017 9:13 AM +00:00

You become the master of your domain.

--Marla the Virgin
replies 15Dec 6, 2017 9:14 AM +00:00
You'll probably have a wet dream anyway making it pointless.

False. A nocturnal emission is nowhere near the same as orgasm and ejaculation. And if your brain and testicles are fried from chronic sex and/or masturbation, it will take a long time before you even have a wet dream as the body will be in a state of recovery.

replies 16Dec 6, 2017 9:17 AM +00:00

R16 is right. Wet dreams are okay in the program/challenge. They're great because they give you some relief w/o your giving into being "weak." Your willpower remains unchanged by a wet dream.

I actually enjoy them. My loins feel tingly afterwards.

replies 17Dec 6, 2017 9:18 AM +00:00

I've done semen retention as well.

Another key is to not even think about sex. So no touching yourself AT ALL.

These days I can't do it. I feel too BACKED-UP.

replies 18Dec 6, 2017 9:19 AM +00:00
My voice is relaxing, getting more resonant, and I'm feeling more "Fuck, yeah!" about things...

After one day?

--Dr. Placebo
replies 19Dec 6, 2017 9:30 AM +00:00

Well, basically two days, since i started midday the day before yesterday. I was jerking off like 2-4 times a day, so it was pretty bad.

replies 20Dec 6, 2017 9:33 AM +00:00

How long are you meditating for per day, R20?

replies 21Dec 6, 2017 9:35 AM +00:00

Haven't started meditating yet, R21, but I'll start today.

replies 22Dec 6, 2017 9:38 AM +00:00

R22 It needs to be two hours.

replies 23Dec 6, 2017 9:38 AM +00:00

90 days is excessive. But I sometimes takes a week or two off from jerking off, drinking, and smoking weed. Does do wonders for the mood.

replies 24Dec 6, 2017 9:40 AM +00:00

That sounds good. I was grossly oversexed as a teen, and would sometimes masturbate 6 or seven times per day. When I was 17 I tried meditation and almost immediately had a kundalini awakening that started in my head that traveled along my spinal cord like an explosion. Ididn't masturbate for almost 6 months after that. Was too blissed out. But after the kundalini I was too scared and anxious to ever meditate again and didn't do so for almost 20 years.

replies 25Dec 6, 2017 9:41 AM +00:00

This is the craziest fucking thread, full of the craziest (non)fucking people to ever appear on DL. It's funny enough to keep from being completely pathetic, while still in the realm of sadness and stupidity.

replies 26Dec 6, 2017 9:42 AM +00:00
full of the craziest (non)fucking people to ever appear on DL

Honey, I don't know how long you've been here but we have not BEGUN to scratch the surface of DL crazy in this thread. This is pretty vanilla

replies 27Dec 6, 2017 9:45 AM +00:00

Inspiring post about NoFapping.

Hi !!! It's day 4 already. That's mean you are  now cranky, moody and waiting for a trigger to appear so you can quit and back to fap...
replies 28Dec 6, 2017 9:47 AM +00:00

good lord some people are dumb as shit.

replies 29Dec 6, 2017 9:49 AM +00:00

I believe some people probably benefit from no fap, but I just don't have all these problems its supposed to cure. I feel confident, enjoy interacting with people I want to sleep with (even if I won't be able to), and I'm pretty extroverted. For some people they may actually have a lot they can gain from this. I do think porn addiction is a real problem for many. It's not something we evolved around

replies 30Dec 6, 2017 9:51 AM +00:00

Yet another millennial boondoggle. I suspect this nonsense originates from the fact that they were never told they were wrong or mistaken about anything as children, leading to the natural conclusion that the merest thought that pops into their heads must be true because, well, they thought it.

So they run to social media (where else) and post about it as if it were fact, and it promptly becomes “a thing.”

replies 31Dec 6, 2017 9:52 AM +00:00
It's funny enough to keep from being completely pathetic, while still in the realm of sadness and stupidity.

In other words, just another Wednesday on the Datalounge.

replies 32Dec 6, 2017 9:52 AM +00:00

Do you have to refrain from fucking too? Or just jerking off? I can’t remember the last time I jerked off, but I have sex like 3-4x/week

replies 33Dec 6, 2017 9:52 AM +00:00

Have you tried abstaining from masturbation, R31?

R33, some people refrain from fucking, but mainly it's about masturbation. A huge goal of NoFap is to change your personality and motivation so you're out there fucking up a storm - so fucking's probably great on NoFap. It reinforces the idea that "this thing is really paying off as I'm getting laid left and right".

replies 34Dec 6, 2017 9:54 AM +00:00

R33 even when I have a regular thing going with somebody I jerk off sometimes. If you don't live with someone there will be times you want to get off and they aren't around. Plus its fun in its own way.

replies 35Dec 6, 2017 9:56 AM +00:00

I don’t know why people make such a big thing of fucking with nature for whatever reason.

Like various dumb diets that make nutritional sense not at all, but are presented as good for you by following some twisted, specious argument.

Ok - if you’re jerking off a few rimes a day - it might well get in the way of doing sone other stuff - but clearly you’ve got plenty of testosterone coursing around your system! - and you body can handle it. If you feel it’s too much - why not just do it once daily instead? All medical research we have right now suggests it’s goof for your prostate to have a regular workout.

replies 36Dec 6, 2017 9:57 AM +00:00

I think it’s a good idea then. People masturbate way too much. I have friends that complain about not having a BF, not having a good sex life, etc. but they masturbate all the time though. I think if they didn’t allow themselves to jack off, they’d go out looking for sex more and meet someone along the way.

Don’t listen to the detractors OP, I think you’re on to something.

replies 37Dec 6, 2017 9:59 AM +00:00

I’ll have to take your word for us since it’s something I’ll never get around to trying on my own. R25 your kundalini energy is supposed to go UP through your spine, not down. Maybe releasing your backed up energy would make it travel in the proper direction.

replies 38Dec 6, 2017 10:15 AM +00:00

Just be careful. I've read other anecdotal reports online of inexperienced people smoking pot, meditating and doing semen retention's and having kundalini energy "breaking through" which although pleasurable, can be terrifying. It's kind of an unmistakable feeling. In my experience the kundalini energy kind of moved where it wanted to of its own will. Its kind of the domain of advanced yogis who have built up their nervous systems enough to handle such energy.

replies 39Dec 6, 2017 10:21 AM +00:00

LMAO I did not sound like R39 when I was on LSD. Interesting that multiple people acknowledge its a thing though.

replies 40Dec 6, 2017 10:26 AM +00:00

mental illness is real, folks.

replies 41Dec 6, 2017 10:28 AM +00:00

[R5, R6] hot trash

replies 42Dec 6, 2017 10:32 AM +00:00

Kundalini energy, lol

replies 43Dec 6, 2017 10:50 AM +00:00

R39 you seem to know a little about it but maybe do more research.

replies 44Dec 6, 2017 10:51 AM +00:00
Don’t listen to the detractors OP, I think you’re on to something.

especially as he was

jerking off like 2-4 times a day, so it was pretty bad.
replies 45Dec 6, 2017 10:51 AM +00:00

The kind of funny thing is, I just signed up a for a popular gay website during Black Friday, and I just ordered 3 Fleshlights - 2 for me, 1 for this other guy. I'll have to wait to use the site again, and to use the FL's.

replies 46Dec 6, 2017 10:59 AM +00:00

R18 here, again.

I learned about semen retention reading some fucked up book called something like The Zen Of Good Health.

The same book also said how unhealthy homo-sex was - yang and yang was a bad idea.

But that female on female sex was fine - that it was 'polishing the mirror'.

That when I man ejaculates, he should only do so into a woman as her natural vaginal juices will be absorbed and will replenish his loss.

I remember the photograph of the guy who wrote it - VERY gloomy looking guy. Eventually I threw it in the trash. It was clearly NOT the book for me.

I'm not denigrating semen retention, just remembering the book that recommended it.

replies 47Dec 6, 2017 11:00 AM +00:00
replies 48Dec 6, 2017 11:02 AM +00:00

R25 Did you experience any siddhis?

replies 49Dec 6, 2017 11:06 AM +00:00

The ultimate in Reddit-osity.

replies 50Dec 6, 2017 11:18 AM +00:00

Perhaps certain people have the perfect hormonal profile that allows them to chronically masturbate and have all the sex they want to no ill effect. But for regular people, many of whom have various imbalances and imperfections, they could be the ones who benefit from giving their hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal - axis a break from frequent ejaculation.

replies 51Dec 6, 2017 1:36 PM +00:00

Can I have your stuff ??

replies 52Dec 6, 2017 1:59 PM +00:00

I just ordered more lube.

replies 53Dec 6, 2017 6:37 PM +00:00

You even sometimes hold back coming when f*^king?!!! Then why get laid??? I'd toss you out.

replies 54Dec 6, 2017 7:22 PM +00:00
Did you experience any siddhis?

I did experience some siddhis phenomena over several years, both preceding and after I experienced kundelini energy (including a near-death experience before). I was a complete atheist before and non-new age. I tried to get right back to the "blissful' meditative state but only found crippling anxiety. I nearly forgot about it in my 20s and became focused on "normal" day-to-day activities. Now I'm older and my brain has slowed down a bit I feel it's safer to get back into that realm, like many gay men who start seeking spiritual alternatives to sex and drugs.

replies 55Dec 6, 2017 7:38 PM +00:00

'Tis too starved an argument for my sword, to quote the Immortal Bard

replies 56Dec 6, 2017 8:22 PM +00:00

I’m very skeptical of claims that lengthy abstaining from masturbation provides any benefits.

Whenever I abstain for days, I find that I get less horny. In my experience, you either use it or lose it.

Also, masturbation reduces stress.

replies 57Dec 6, 2017 9:11 PM +00:00


replies 58Dec 6, 2017 10:13 PM +00:00

I’ve heard it all now.

replies 59Apr 7, 2018 6:58 AM +00:00

Take Cymbalta. You'll hardly think about your dick. Or anyone else's.

replies 60Apr 7, 2018 7:09 AM +00:00

No, he’s going to have prostate issues. You need to cum.

replies 61Apr 7, 2018 7:11 AM +00:00

R55 There are instructions in the Yoga Sutra on how to cultivate the siddhis.

replies 62Apr 7, 2018 7:16 AM +00:00

Recipe for Alpha cancer, OP.
--Alpha Alpha Alpha!
replies 63Apr 7, 2018 7:21 AM +00:00

As others have pointed out, you basically just forget about it if you don't do it for a long time. Your testosterone levels won't increase at all. You need edging for that.

The health of your prostate doesn't become an issue if you regularly remove the sperm out of it without climaxing when you engage in chastity or edging. And something tells me the straight nerds on that subreddit aren't the biggest fans of milking their prostate with a dildo.

replies 64Apr 7, 2018 7:22 AM +00:00

Working out is just going to raise your testosterone levels and make your balls bluer.

replies 65Apr 7, 2018 7:42 AM +00:00

Will I lose a few pounds and my hair grow back? If yes then I'm willing to try it but my erectile dysfunction probably gives me an advantage.

replies 66Apr 7, 2018 7:45 AM +00:00

People get really defensive when you challenge them to reflect upon their own deeds and choices. There seem to be some very devoted masturbators on this thread.

replies 67Apr 7, 2018 7:52 AM +00:00

Curious to know if OP succeeded in his mission.

replies 68Apr 7, 2018 7:53 AM +00:00

Considering my equipment is still fully functional at 75, not sure the point of this thread.

At 30 years old, I fucked the boy friend at night. Multiple orgasms with boy friend. Then pulled my pud in the shower in the AM.

As somebody already up thread said, use it or lose it.

replies 69Apr 7, 2018 8:06 AM +00:00


replies 70Apr 7, 2018 8:08 AM +00:00
Supposedly, you grow to become more of an alpha-male kind of guy...

This is a top tier candidate for stupidest thing I've ever read on DL.

replies 71Apr 7, 2018 8:09 AM +00:00

I already go days without masturbating, sometimes 2-3 weeks, although I wasn't specifically trying to do a "nofap". The main difference I've felt is that I have more energy. After masturbating there is a climax and you feel like eating and going to sleep, and the next day feels like a mild hangover. Some other side effects are when you finally decide to have an orgasm, it feels 100x better after waiting, and you get hornier in general so do something stupid, like hookup with strangers..

replies 72Apr 7, 2018 8:13 AM +00:00

So what happens on Day 91?

replies 73Apr 7, 2018 8:15 AM +00:00

People honestly believe this bullshit?

I jerk off regularly, and still lead a very active, social, well-adjusted life--probably because I don't deprive myself. Masturbating relieves stress, helps fend off prostate cancer, not to mention feels great.

This is just another stupid fad sold to gullible saps who are unhappy in their lives, and think this is going to magically change it for the better. Just another placebo re-packaged and sold to the masses who want an magic"pill" to make their lives feel meaningful.

replies 74Apr 7, 2018 8:32 AM +00:00

That would not be good for the prostate at all.

replies 75Apr 7, 2018 8:39 AM +00:00

This no fap thing was started by a black guy who now wishes he’d never even started the whole thing because it’s been co-opted by the Proud Boy losers.

This is nothing but a bunch of placebo-driven, YouTube health guru nonsense. If not jacking off miraculously turned one into an alpha stud then Utah would be overflowing with them. It’s not.

--Tony Woodard
replies 76Apr 7, 2018 8:45 AM +00:00

Poor OP died full of cum.

replies 77Apr 7, 2018 8:47 AM +00:00

I'm trying to work out exactly how R72 is masturbating, if it leaves him with a hangover (albeit a mild one) the next day. Are you using rubbing alcohol instead of lube, R72?

replies 78Apr 7, 2018 9:59 AM +00:00

Is “alpha” a response to transgender women?

replies 79Apr 7, 2018 10:15 AM +00:00

Like, what is an alpha?

replies 80Apr 7, 2018 10:16 AM +00:00

No, R79, "alpha" means achieving power, whether it be over others or over oneself. Possessing power makes men attractive to others.

replies 81Apr 7, 2018 10:18 AM +00:00

How is this any different from those old health textbooks that said "self-abuse" made boys less manly, less able to compete in sports, more likely to be sissies (or Communists, or criminals) or that it made hair grow on their palms?

--Old shame in new clothes
replies 82Apr 7, 2018 10:24 AM +00:00

I don't need either R78. And after watching too much porn, my head gets foggy and starts pounding. Sex requires energy. Feeling tired after = normal

replies 83Apr 7, 2018 10:27 AM +00:00

R81, that’s so weird.

replies 84Apr 7, 2018 10:29 AM +00:00

To teach their own, I must say. If men want to transition into alphas let them.

replies 85Apr 7, 2018 10:30 AM +00:00

It's always a good idea to evaluate your present habits (do they still serve me or am I serving them?).

Personally I do not believe in this alpha / superior vs. inferior bullshit, but when sex / masturbation becomes just a blur or routine where the climax is no longer a thrill that elevates you physically and mentally then it might be a good idea to find ways to re-connect with that wonderful sensaton you feel when you cum. After all change can be a wonderful and exiting experience which may give you the opportunity to discover something new about you which you can appreciate.

replies 86Apr 7, 2018 11:39 AM +00:00

Jesus, there is nothing more beta than dudes obsessing about becoming alphas.

replies 87Apr 7, 2018 11:45 AM +00:00

Blue Mountain State did it better, OP

The team swears off sex in order to improve the schools image and boost their performance on the field. Mary Jo, out of frustration, stirs them into a frenzy.
--Mrs. Thad Castle
replies 88Apr 7, 2018 11:53 AM +00:00

LOL at all the faux Hindu Ayurvedic BS or whatever it is.

They believe in drinking their own urine too - have you looked into that, OP?

replies 89Apr 7, 2018 12:00 PM +00:00

Wait, what's wrong with drinking urine?

--Sarah Miles
replies 90Apr 7, 2018 12:07 PM +00:00

If you aren't the "alpha" / the center of your own reality / the lead in your own movie that is your life you've got some serious self esteem issues.

replies 91Apr 7, 2018 12:26 PM +00:00


replies 92Apr 7, 2018 12:28 PM +00:00

A nocturnal emission is your body's way of ridding itself of rotten degraded semen.

An empty prostate is a healthy prostate.

replies 93Apr 7, 2018 12:34 PM +00:00

I never jacked off until I was 20. Very religious, conservative upbringing. I always had nocturnal emissions though, which was always annoying having to wake up at night and clean myself off. Finally, I couldn't take it anymore and jerked off to photos of some of my fraternity brothers and the new pledges. Nowadays, I still don't jerk off much since I've never been used to it. I get my release from boyfriends or hookups. If I don't cum after a week, I always get wet dreams so I try to jerk off at least once a week so my prostrate will be healthy and I don't have to wake up and clean myself. As for superpowers, yeah whatever.

replies 94Apr 7, 2018 12:52 PM +00:00

You don’t contribute to homophobia here, do you R94?

replies 95Apr 7, 2018 12:55 PM +00:00

I love DL science.

replies 96Apr 7, 2018 1:11 PM +00:00

"Why Men Should Masturbate 21 Times A Month According To Science"

Calling all men – we have good news! Whilst it may seem hard to believe, masturbating frequently may actually result in a significantly lower risk of prost
replies 97Apr 7, 2018 2:23 PM +00:00

I think you may be on to something. I have been celibate in every way for 4 years, and I have not been with another man by choice for 35 years. Although I regret not having love in my life, I think I am no longer beholden to sex for assertion of my identity, no matter what the expression of my identity may be. I am not self-effacing but am happy to be dominant if need be.

replies 98Apr 7, 2018 2:23 PM +00:00

You fear the AIDS R98? The gay cancer?

--I’m speaking in your language
replies 99Apr 7, 2018 3:30 PM +00:00
I think I am no longer beholden to sex for assertion of my identity.
I am not self-effacing but am happy to be dominant if need be.

All that free time without sex or relationships and you didn't spend any of it on non-cringeworthy communication skills and vocabulary, honey? But glad it's all worked out for you.

replies 100Apr 7, 2018 3:38 PM +00:00

This is just a talking point from the far (ish) righ, like Gavin McInnes.

“Jerking off takes the lion out of men! Your supposed to be chasing your wife up the stairs at night!! Be a real man like me!”

Says the drunken Proudboy. Have you all heard of the Proudboys? A bunch of 30-45 year old frats guys that drink, take adderall/Coke to drink more and talk about The West and how ________ is ruining it.

The guys he founded Vice with must get a good laugh out of how goofy he is now.

replies 101Apr 7, 2018 3:42 PM +00:00

I'll take Incels for $200 please Alex

replies 102Apr 7, 2018 3:48 PM +00:00


replies 103May 14, 2018 6:35 PM +00:00

Guys need to jerk off that often?

replies 104May 14, 2018 6:41 PM +00:00

I've stopped masturbating while driving. It interferes with my texting.

replies 105May 14, 2018 6:42 PM +00:00

Since taking a break (I hope) from a guy I care so deeply about, I have had no interest in masturbating. I have lost all interest. I’ve been on Sam-E though the past two days and feel better.

replies 106May 14, 2018 6:46 PM +00:00

Maybe I’ll become alpha and wow him back. 🙄

replies 107May 14, 2018 6:50 PM +00:00


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replies 108May 14, 2018 6:51 PM +00:00

OP is a total jerk-off, anyway.

replies 109May 14, 2018 6:57 PM +00:00

Agreed, R102. See also:

... of love
the DataLounge
replies 110May 14, 2018 7:45 PM +00:00

Remember, each time you toss-off, Jeebus kills a kitten.

replies 111May 14, 2018 7:57 PM +00:00

Alright, this thread is completely uninteresting. Blocked.

replies 112May 14, 2018 7:58 PM +00:00

So this is basically aimed at anti-social guys who spend all their time watching porn, masturbating and saving themselves for Kate Upton or Rihanna-level hot and higher, and thus have no social skills or self-esteem, right?

replies 113May 14, 2018 8:07 PM +00:00