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Do you give gifts to nieces and nephews for Xmas?

Trying to think of something inexpensive but thoughtful I could give six full-grown adults I am not particularly close to. And then there are the six grand-nephews and nieces ranging from age one to 18. What to do about them?

In recent years I've dealt with the issue by not giving anyone anything, but some of them have given me small token gifts the past couple of years so I feel like I should do something.

replies 65Nov 29, 2017 11:32 PM +00:00

Gift cards for all, OP.

Something generic like Target or Starbucks.

replies 1Nov 29, 2017 11:34 PM +00:00
Trying to think of something inexpensive but thoughtful I could give six full-grown adults I am not particularly close to.

For $25 dollars, you can have their names etched in a heart-shaped glass, stating we are family.

And then there are the six grand-nephews and nieces ranging from age one to 18. What to do about them?

For the one year old, all you need to offer is a cute onesie. They are super cheap and under $7. All the 18 and unders, you should get a supersize candy of some sort. They are $10 each. Target has them. You'll be the cool and fun uncle with those gifts.
replies 2Nov 29, 2017 11:57 PM +00:00

Cash is king or gift cards. Amazon will buy them almost anything. Movie tickets are good, forces them out of the house. Dont buy any lame chachskies like R2. No kid wants some cheese glass heart from an obscure uncle.

replies 3Nov 30, 2017 12:07 AM +00:00

If you're a Catholic, give them a Christmas Mass Bouquet, where masses will be said on their intentions for the next year. $3 each. If you are into that horseshit.
replies 4Nov 30, 2017 12:12 AM +00:00

You could get one thing for each family like a cake or an ornament with their last name instead of individual gifts for each adult and kid. That's what I do for my cousins. Saves time and money.

replies 5Nov 30, 2017 12:18 AM +00:00

I give to the one that’s still a kid living at home. The others have never ever reciprocated, so fuck them. It’s not how they were raised to be.

replies 6Nov 30, 2017 12:24 AM +00:00

The ones that are adults that grew up and give back, include them. You don’t sound particularly close to anyone, so for kids I’d suggest just getting a single game like Jenga or similar that anyone can play.

replies 7Nov 30, 2017 12:26 AM +00:00

Joansies Loves Chachskies

replies 8Nov 30, 2017 12:27 AM +00:00

R4 made me laugh

replies 9Nov 30, 2017 12:49 AM +00:00
Cash is king or gift cards. Amazon will buy them almost anything. Movie tickets are good, forces them out of the house.

He said gifts.

Dont buy any lame chachskies like [R2]. No kid wants some cheese glass heart from an obscure uncle.

Not kid!

The adults might appreciate an attractive glass keepsake, because it is thoughtful and inexpensive. It's unique and personal. They can use it as a paperweight or an art piece. Most importantly, no one will be able to regift it, because it'll have their names on it.

replies 10Nov 30, 2017 12:49 AM +00:00

I used to buy for my nephew stuff when he was a child. Now he gets a gift card. He is 19. I will buy until he is 21 then imma done. I only ever saw him at Xmas and didn’t last year as his mom got remarried and he spent it with new family.

replies 11Nov 30, 2017 1:29 AM +00:00

Do people really use gift cards?

I like to buy my nieces books that were favorites of mine when I was their age. The dilemma here is that of my four nieces, only one of them could really be called a reader.

replies 12Nov 30, 2017 1:35 AM +00:00

The only people I do buy for are my nephews. They're 6 and 4. We decided as a family that the adults don't need to buy each other gifts. We're all gainfully employed and if we need/want something we'll buy it ourselves. What we'll do instead is pick a night and go out to dinner or a show as a family. Spending time together is more important than stuff.

replies 13Nov 30, 2017 1:37 AM +00:00

Give them subscriptions to DL, on/y $1.50 a month.

replies 14Nov 30, 2017 1:41 AM +00:00

You could give the older ones a mini-subscription to spotify or netflix. (1-3 months.) Or take them all out for pizza one night.

replies 15Dec 6, 2017 12:22 PM +00:00

My favorite gifts as a kid were obcs.

replies 16Dec 6, 2017 12:39 PM +00:00

I have a niece and nephew and they are both married. They each get a $100 gift card or check for Christmas and their birthdays. My two great nieces get $50.

They are all nice, but they live 2,000 miles away and I don't see them often.

replies 17Dec 6, 2017 1:21 PM +00:00

You could send each recipient a hand-written card that lets them know that a donation was made in their name to The Human Fund.

They’ll either be impressed by your philanthropy or get a good chuckle out of it.

replies 18Dec 6, 2017 1:30 PM +00:00

I send cash $100 to my 15yr old niece. If it gets lost in mail, oh well. If I send a check then MOM(sis) has to cash it and ask about it.

replies 19Dec 6, 2017 1:34 PM +00:00

I see mine once or twice a year, and that's when I give them something. It's more fun going shopping together than sending something in the post. And it stops at age 18.

replies 20Dec 6, 2017 1:37 PM +00:00

One niece and one nephew.

They get cash because they are fashionistas like their fathers.

replies 21Dec 6, 2017 1:42 PM +00:00

I have but thanks to Repugs, I am now too poor.

replies 22Dec 6, 2017 1:50 PM +00:00

Why are you considering giving something to people you barely even know?

replies 23Dec 6, 2017 2:05 PM +00:00

You have to feed The Xmas Machine with expensive gifts for people you hardly know or like. It’s the American way!

replies 24Dec 6, 2017 2:07 PM +00:00

I do but told my brother I won't after they turn 16 and he is fine with that. He actually welcomes it.

replies 25Dec 6, 2017 2:08 PM +00:00

I recommend the Buy Safe Buy Green Guide, 2017 Holiday Gift List. Because you are mostly giving to a Charity too. There are a few Indie businesses on there, as well.

There is a super cool plush chimp and T-shirt that supports the Jane Goodall Institute on the list. Actually, if you click on the chimp Jubliee, there is another plush toy that is also adorable and supports the JGI, for less money. Ethical Elf **Buy Safe Buy Green Guide, Holiday Gift Giving...
replies 26Dec 6, 2017 2:16 PM +00:00

Dildos for everybody! A fine gift for girls and boys.

replies 27Dec 6, 2017 2:44 PM +00:00

Do six adults who are virtual strangers really want to receive a plush chimp and Jane Goodall T-shirt from a distant relative?

replies 28Dec 6, 2017 2:47 PM +00:00


replies 29Dec 6, 2017 2:48 PM +00:00

NO. They get nothing from me. They are already entitled little cunts who consider anything less than $1000 to be cheap. I'm not going to feed that mentality.

replies 30Dec 6, 2017 3:07 PM +00:00

My niece and nephews don't get anything for Christmas. We aren't close. One nephew only texts me if he needs something. I am still waiting for my niece to acknowledge, or thank me for her wedding gift from 18 months ago. The other two nephews don't even know my address or phone number.

replies 31Dec 6, 2017 3:33 PM +00:00

I will only give gifts to my hot hockey-playing teenage nephews that I have shared a bed with during crowded family get togethers.

replies 32Dec 6, 2017 3:36 PM +00:00

Op did say that he wanted a meaningful gift for relatives he barely knows.

replies 33Dec 6, 2017 3:45 PM +00:00

Give them all tickets to Hamilton.

replies 34Dec 6, 2017 3:45 PM +00:00

If you haven't been giving anything I can't imagine why you'd want to start now. If you're very well to do and have money to throw away go for it but if not keep doing what you've been doing. They won't be expecting anything from you and there is a very good chance it won't be appreciated anyway. And if you do have money to throw around why not give to a homeless shelter or soup kitchen?

replies 35Dec 6, 2017 3:49 PM +00:00

If you wanted to give them something this year bc you will see them, make it something special.

replies 36Dec 6, 2017 3:55 PM +00:00

I wanted to stop this year, but their Dad volunteered that Starbucks gift cards would be a good gift, so I think everybody is giving them same. That’s about ten gift cards.

They’re about 23 and 25.

replies 37Dec 6, 2017 4:07 PM +00:00

Weed. The young folks all love it.

replies 38Dec 6, 2017 4:10 PM +00:00

I gave my niece and nephew $50 checks a few years ago, by mail as I didn’t see them. Neither thanked me, and my nephew didn’t cash his check until March. Their Dad makes big money and buys them whatever they want, so I think it’s meaningless to them. So, I’m not eager to buy them gifts anymore.

I’m fond of my eldest nephew and his wife, but I bought them something unusual and expensive a few years ago, and never heard from them. Same the next year, so that was it. Finished with gifts. I send them a card or otherwise I might lose touch completely.

replies 39Dec 6, 2017 4:19 PM +00:00

You could give them a framed photo of yourself so that they won’t forget what you look like.

Of course, if the frame is too nice, they may chuck the photo and replace it with a picture of someone they actually know and like.

replies 40Dec 6, 2017 4:22 PM +00:00

One year I was flush and wanted to give $500 bills to my niece & nephew. That’s when I learned they don’t print them any more. I forget what I gave. Probably just a $100. My grandmother used to give crisp brand new bills but the bank tellers today act like you’re asking for something impossible, so I gave up with that.

replies 41Dec 6, 2017 4:29 PM +00:00

Send them a POVITICA, a delicious bread/dessert that way they can all enjoy it !

use code U99 at checkout and the entire thing will run you $ 19.99 + FREE SHIPPING

take a look at the site. I've ordered several & everyone has enjoyed them thoroughly.
replies 42Dec 6, 2017 4:32 PM +00:00

Not sure if younger nieces and nephews will appreciate "povitica", unless they are related to Melanija Knav Trump..

replies 43Dec 6, 2017 4:37 PM +00:00

This is so sad that so many of you have such limited contact with your families and nieces and nephews. Though it explains why so many of you have such wild misperceptions about Millennials.

My aunts and uncles get me and my siblings gift cards or checks and have since we were teens. They get that we don't need some random inexpensive gift and that a $100 check we can put towards a pair of headphones or new racing bike is going to be much more appreciated.

replies 44Dec 6, 2017 4:38 PM +00:00


Most people like something good to eat.

replies 45Dec 6, 2017 4:39 PM +00:00

R44, you’re a good egg. I wish you were my nephew, or niece, or whatever.

--Anonymous in Anaheim
replies 46Dec 6, 2017 4:43 PM +00:00


replies 47Dec 6, 2017 4:45 PM +00:00

They prefer gift cards and that's fine with me. I'm giving everyone gift cards, I'm too stressed and depressed this year to deal with shopping, I can barely bring myself to buy groceries most of the time. I may actually give them cheques to save the trouble of getting gift cards.

replies 48Dec 6, 2017 4:49 PM +00:00

Sex toys

replies 49Dec 6, 2017 4:50 PM +00:00

Y'know what...? I did so gladly for 5 nieces and nephews year after year after year, in spite of the fact that not a single one ever said thank you or acknowledged my gift in any way. (Yeah, R44, Millennials are soooooo thoughtful. ) I finally decided: fuck 'em. They're all post-college now, and I'm definitely post-them.

replies 50Dec 6, 2017 4:50 PM +00:00

Those povitica thingys look pretty good.

--I'm hungry
replies 51Dec 6, 2017 4:59 PM +00:00

I realize I'm going to sound very "bah humbug." I'm single and for years I've always been expected to buy gifts for 9 of my nieces and nephews ages 6-19 despite making way less than my siblings and their spouses. I've gone the full out decent, expensive, store bought gifts route, the gift card route and the quality hand made gifts route.

I've yet to receive anything from them or their parents in return sans a single thank you card one year and their forced "say thank you to your Aunt" appreciation. I feel cheap and scrouge-like, but I'm done with it. No gifts this year. Besides which, it's not like I can compete when their parents are giving them laptops, hockey jerseys, and guitars for gifts. One more reason to hate the holidays.

--Call me Ebineiser
replies 52Dec 6, 2017 5:00 PM +00:00

Send each sibling's family a RID kit with the following note:

" Hi hon, thought this would come in handy in case one of my lovely nieces becomes a big ole whore ! "

-love Uncle David
--Uncle David of course
replies 53Dec 6, 2017 5:00 PM +00:00

Ann Landers always used to say, if they do not send Thank Yous, you stop giving.

replies 54Dec 8, 2017 2:38 PM +00:00

The best most of these brats should get is a vicious face slapping and a talkin' to.

replies 55Dec 8, 2017 2:52 PM +00:00

ha. i buy for my siblings and small children and that is like candy. who are you trying to impress?

replies 56Dec 8, 2017 3:25 PM +00:00

Send some money to charities in their name and make sure they know it. That will piss them off for the ungrateful shits they are and do some good for someone at the same time.

replies 57Dec 8, 2017 4:48 PM +00:00

Donate money yo a charity in their name but DON’T tell them! In fact, don’t tell anybody, keep your charitable contributions confidential. That will really piss them off!

--Of course, no one ever does this.....
replies 58Dec 8, 2017 4:51 PM +00:00

I stopped in on the way home from my mothers to drop off some presents to my 30 something niece and her two children. I'd been driving for 4 hours in summer and had to ask her if I could use the bathroom and if I could have a drink of water. She asked me nothing about myself, despite some recent big changes in my life that she knows about. If I hadn't been busting for a shit and thirsty I'm not sure we would have had any conversation at all.

replies 59Dec 30, 2017 2:42 AM +00:00

R41 thanks, that reminded me of my grandmother who would always do the same for Christmas and birthdays. Mind you that was before ATMs and debit cards. I think Visa was called Chargex at the time.

replies 60Dec 30, 2017 3:02 AM +00:00

We have a nephew and two nieces. The boy is 8 the twins are 13. The boy gets what he asks for, while the girls get some jewelry or chotchke.

That said, the girls falsely accused their dad of molesting them. I wanted to send them lumps of coal with the note inscribed with the two commandments applicable, one should honor they mother and father and thou shalt not bear false witness.

replies 61Dec 30, 2017 4:28 AM +00:00

Nothing to any relatives except a hot 18 year old nephew that works during summers as a lifeguard. I gave him a car this year and he was SO appreciative.

He can barely walk the past week, but he can drive.

replies 62Dec 30, 2017 5:08 AM +00:00

One niece and one nephew; both are in their 20s now. I send them a nice bottle of wine from a vineyard/brewery local to me each year that they cannot get in their state. I do not have children, so they may have a role in which nursing home I end up in.

replies 63Dec 30, 2017 6:34 AM +00:00

I just have 2 nieces who are very young. I enjoyed shopping for them.

I tend to agree with R52 about being the only single relative, and buying for the other siblings and their spouses. I end up buying twice as much, while making less than 1/3 of what she and her husband make financially. I enjoy being creative in gift giving, but it's never reciprocated - always something off my Amazon list that isn't even wrapped.

This year, I spent more on my pets than the relatives.

replies 64Dec 30, 2017 6:43 AM +00:00

No. Fuck them. They are selfish greedy changelings who, like their parents, seem committed to giving birth to illegitimate kindergarten classes.

replies 65Dec 30, 2017 9:29 AM +00:00