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How many of you BAREBACK? part 2

Continued from linked thread.

ALL of the younger and older guys who don't use condoms and believe that PREP will protect them from HIV and other nasty STIs are in for a big surprise when they become HIV+ or get Hep C, or maybe they know this will happen since they bareback (have unprotected anal sex), so they get started on the meds early?

The Truvada troll is lying, it's literally impossible to get a STD including chlamydia from mutual j/o.

Be honest.
the DataLounge
--Anonymous
replies 221Nov 11, 2017 9:53 PM +00:00

Nobody on PrEP thinks it will protect them from STIs. Only people who want to criticize people on PrEP say that's what people on PrEP think but they have no idea what people on PrEP think because there is no such thing as mind reading.

--YOU have an agenda
replies 1Nov 11, 2017 10:01 PM +00:00

Oh really R1? Pretty much ALL of my younger gay friends who are on PrEP, and who don't use condoms have the mentality that PrEP will always protect them against HIV and other STIs. When I tell them how they should use condoms, and not have raw sex with every guy they meet who wants to, they just tell me how PrEP makes using condoms pointless and that HIV and other STIs will not happen to them.

Even in the first thread you had people on PrEP who posted about how they believe that it will protect them against other STIs, or some believe that if a top/bottom is on PrEP and they do it raw with him that there's no way they can get HIV or other STIs.

--YOU are the one with an AGENDA.
replies 2Nov 11, 2017 10:29 PM +00:00

God, no. There's herpes and who knows WHAT all else to worry about.

--Anonymous
replies 3Nov 11, 2017 10:46 PM +00:00

Condoms are so 20th century

--Anonymous
replies 4Nov 11, 2017 10:48 PM +00:00

My understanding is that you have to have a follow up appointment a couple of weeks after starting PREP so the Doc can make sure that it’s working—prior to having unprotected sex. A guy I went in a date with told me he was having several encounters a day , bottoming, and not using condoms. He had just started PREP and had no idea about checking to make sure it was protecting his system prior to bareback encounters.

--Anonymous
replies 5Nov 11, 2017 11:09 PM +00:00

These are what are called anecdotes. Anecdotes are not data.

"Pretty much ALL of my younger gay friends who are on PrEP, and who don't use condoms have the mentality that PrEP will always protect them against HIV and other STIs."

They have that mentality, do they? Do they all come to you and tell you "my PrEP protects me from STIs other than HIV?" Do they do that? What do you say to them?

--Anonymous
replies 6Nov 11, 2017 11:29 PM +00:00

R6 I tell them they should not be that naive and that they even if they take the medication, they should still be using condoms and practicing safer sex, as the medication is not going to protect them from other STIs.

--R2
replies 7Nov 12, 2017 12:59 AM +00:00

So what you're saying is, they actually verbalize to you that their Truvada will protect them from STIs?

--Anonymous
replies 8Nov 12, 2017 11:52 AM +00:00

R8 well yes, I mean we're friends so we talk about everything including sex, and how we have it, what we do, etc.

--Anonymous
replies 9Nov 13, 2017 12:30 AM +00:00

To answer the OP: every single one.

--Anonymous
replies 10Nov 15, 2017 3:14 PM +00:00

People do seem to believe that PREP will protect them from everything.

But consider this, the attitude in the 1970s was anything caught could be cured with penicillin or a shot of something. They had no idea this lethal STD was slowly building and about to hit the gay community like a forest fire. If these men had been wearing condoms to protect against STIs how many of them would not have caught AIDS?

My point is, there is no promises that another currently unknown sexually transmitted disease could be out there now that leads to certain death and has no effective treatment. When you think of unprotected sex compare yourselves to gay men prior to the start of the AIDS epidemic and ask yourself what these men would have given for the knowledge they were unknowingly being infected with something that would kill them.

--Anonymous
replies 11Nov 15, 2017 3:25 PM +00:00

That's very true R10 and R11. We are already seeing a huge increase in STIs that are drug/antibiotic resistant, and that were previously not as common the past few decades.

--Anonymous
replies 12Nov 16, 2017 9:05 AM +00:00

"People do seem to believe that PREP will protect them from everything."

I would just love it if we could see the difference between people "seeming to believe" something and people stating that they believe something. And to ask our friends who seem to believe something if that is, in fact what they believe. And to gently tell them that we have a different understanding of the things we think they're getting wrong. Because to come off as judgy as some people do on this topic is a sure way to prevent them from talking honestly in the future.

--Anonymous
replies 13Nov 16, 2017 10:18 AM +00:00

R13 it's not being judgmental to tell people that they should use condoms along with PrEP, and that the medication will not protect them against all STIs.

--Anonymous
replies 14Nov 17, 2017 4:50 PM +00:00

Those are two separate things. People should be reminded about using condoms along with PrEP. People who do it gently are actually helpful. People who do it in a judgmental manner help nobody.

--Anonymous
replies 15Nov 18, 2017 10:41 AM +00:00

R15 even if you tell someone nicely or remind them to use condoms with PrEP they'll tell you that you're being "judgemental", "sex negative", a "prude", "don't have or like sex", that you're being "offensive", etc.

--Anonymous
replies 16Nov 18, 2017 2:37 PM +00:00

People have been barebacking long before PrEP came along. The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably.

PrEP at least will prevent HIV transmission. It's far better than nothing and people were using nothing before.

Period

--Anonymous
replies 17Nov 18, 2017 3:15 PM +00:00

Please--the ENTIRE point of PrEP is to have sex without condoms.

If you use condoms, there's no point in taking PrEP. The recommendation that people use PrEP with condoms is ridiculous

--Anonymous
replies 18Nov 18, 2017 3:17 PM +00:00
The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably.

I can't agree with that. Repetition of a truth changes behaviour. Not all behaviour, but better some than none. It's like smoking.

--Anonymous
replies 19Nov 18, 2017 4:02 PM +00:00

R17 it only failed with people who were into having unsafe sex and who don't care if they get HIV or other STIs or they infect others with HIV and other STIs. Everyone else uses them, and those of us who were around in the 80s and 90s seeing lots of bisexual and gay men die from HIV/AIDS and even Hep C, knows that it's not worth it to go bareback/raw/unprotected.

Now if two people are in a completely monogamous relationship and nobody's cheating, that's different.

There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

--Anonymous
replies 20Nov 18, 2017 6:28 PM +00:00
There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

Of the hundreds of thousands of men on PrEP, three (3) have seroconverted. One had undetermined use of the drug; and one claimed he was infected as the top, which is statistically a long-shot. Other drugs could only hope to be so successful.

Meanwhile, condoms have a failure rate on the order of magnitudes higher, require perfect use every time, and were simply the first resort of a community in shock. There is no shame in realizing that HIV prevention will evolve and change until we find a cure (which I don't find likely). Fun fact: condoms have never been FDA approved for male-to-male contact.

Further, the men who are on PrEP are required to see their doctor every three months and are getting tested regularly as a result. We have finally found a way to get gay men to get tested regularly so that they seek and can begin treatment sooner for a wide variety of STIs not limited to HIV. This accounts for some of the CDC's reported spike in STIs, as well.

PrEP is a good thing.

--Anonymous
replies 21Nov 18, 2017 7:16 PM +00:00
We have finally found a way to get gay men to get tested regularly so that they seek and can begin treatment sooner for a wide variety of STIs not limited to HIV.

That seems dangerously complacent to me. Everyone knows prevention is the best approach to disease.

--Anonymous
replies 22Nov 19, 2017 5:47 AM +00:00

I never bareback. I'm 100% top and all of my sex happens in bathhouses or with a couple of fuck buddies. Prep started affecting my baths experience about a year ago. There were bottoms looking for it bareback before Prep came along, but the percentage has gone up from about 5% to about a third. I have so much experience with this now that I've even gotten pretty good at "profiling" guys to predict who's going to want it raw.

My most recent visit to the baths included an experience that allows me to join a term I haven't heard yet: condom shaming. A bottom who has chatted me up at least a half dozen times in the past year tried with me again. I guess it took him a while to remember that I don't bareback, but he mentioned this eventually. He then continued to ask me why I don't just get on Prep like everyone else, with a tone that implied that I'm a big loser. I could gave given him a much longer answer, but all I said was "Prep doesn't prevent everything." He responded, "Yeah, I guess it doesn't" and walked away, just as he did every other time.

This raises a point for me that I just don't get. Unless you're allergic to condoms, why would anyone turn down a fuck with someone they find attractive (especially in an environment like a bathhouse)? I'll accept that the raw experience is a big deal for these guys, but why does it override everything else to the point of being a deal breaker in a no strings attached situation?

--Anonymous
replies 23Nov 19, 2017 6:35 AM +00:00

I agree, R23, it makes no sense. I hooked up a couple of times with this guy who was my neighbor when I lived in Hell's Kitchen, and though the first two times were great, our fun new friendship came to an end because I refused to fuck him raw. The sex was perfectly hot with condoms but he wanted us to ditch them and I refused, so that was that. We stopped seeing each other, a few months went by, he reached out to me again, but again our relationship hit a wall because I would not do it bareback. And what made it so ridiculous is that, in every other respect, we had really great chemistry and could have had a really great fuck buddy/friends with benefits type of relationship had he not insisted on that one component.

--Anonymous
replies 24Nov 19, 2017 8:08 AM +00:00

As a bottom who only gets fucked with condoms, I've encountered the opposite problem-- so many tops have now gone bareback because bottoms have gone on PrEP.

I actually find it hard to find tops who will use condoms

--Anonymous
replies 25Nov 19, 2017 8:17 AM +00:00

R23 that's because a lot of bottoms crave cock and cum up their ass and will do or say anything to get fucked raw. I've never been to a bath house as that scene and hook ups aren't really my thing. The few one night stands/hook ups I've had happened with people who I met in person in bars.

For myself as a top I am not into ever doing it raw/bare/unprotected. I don't get with men or women (I'm bisexual) who are into doing this. I'm HIV neg, do not have any STIs and want to stay that way. I am way more into oral sex, so I don't think it would even be worth it to go on or use PrEP, and the side effects of the medication both short and longterm are apparently not fun from what I have read.

--Anonymous
replies 26Nov 19, 2017 9:39 AM +00:00

The self-righteous, prisspotty cunts on these threads just make me absolutely nauseated. If you don't like PrEP, don't use it. Just shut your fucking mouths and keep your nasty judgmental cuntfaced opinions to yourselves.

--Anonymous
replies 27Nov 19, 2017 11:13 AM +00:00
the side effects of the medication both short and longterm are apparently not fun from what I have read

And what would those be?

Everyone knows prevention is the best approach to disease.

And what, exactly, is PrEP, if not prevention?

--Anonymous
replies 28Nov 19, 2017 11:21 AM +00:00
Of the hundreds of thousands of men on PrEP, three (3) have seroconverted.

That's not exactly true. Of the hundreds of thousands of men who adhere to a strict regimen of taking their meds, only three have seroconverted, so far.

--Anonymous
replies 29Nov 19, 2017 11:31 AM +00:00

I take PrEP and have zero side effects. I don't know anyone who takes it who has side effects.

--Anonymous
replies 30Nov 19, 2017 11:50 AM +00:00

And one of those three, R29, didn't adhere to the regimen, which is what contributed to his seroconversion.

This is what makes the argument so silly. If I said to you, here, take this pill, but five out of 100,000 will die from it, would you still take the pill? Now, what if that pill wasn't an HIV-prevention pill, but a boner-inducing pill? That's exactly the scenario with Viagra, and millions upon millions of men pop Viagra like candy despite the known risk, while we prattle on endlessly about the side effects and problems with PrEP.

Having worked in HIV prevention, I wholeheartedly support the FDA requirement that PrEP users get tested (for a panel of STIs) every three months in order to stay on the regimen. One of the greatest hurdles we face is getting gay men to consistently test, and it's one of the best ways to reduce transmission, and not just limited to HIV. Now, I worry about the PrEP shot that would only require a once-a-year visit to the doctor for testing and prescription renewal.

I guess you could say that one of the beneficial side effects of PrEP is that testing is more commonplace and preventing the spread of other diseases and complications, as well.

--R21
replies 31Nov 19, 2017 11:57 AM +00:00

Sorry, the idea of a stranger coming in me makes me nauseous. Call me crazy...!

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--Anonymous
replies 32Nov 19, 2017 12:03 PM +00:00

[quote Of the hundreds of thousands of men who adhere to a strict regimen of taking their meds, only three have seroconverted, so far]

I bet they're disappointed.

R27 seems like a really nice person.

--Anonymous
replies 33Nov 19, 2017 3:04 PM +00:00

Barebacking is the best!!!

--Anonymous
replies 34Nov 19, 2017 3:06 PM +00:00

Forget about HIV for a moment. Aren't any of you BB PrEP whores concerned about getting other STIs, and spreading potentially drug-resistant STIs throughout the community? Sometimes I think we really are our own worst enemy.

--Anonymous
replies 35Nov 19, 2017 3:28 PM +00:00
And what would those be?

Here they are R28, it's really bad for your liver.

Ask a healthcare provider if TRUVADA may be right for you. Please see Important Facts about TRUVADA, including important warnings.
Truvada
--Anonymous
replies 36Nov 19, 2017 3:30 PM +00:00

Exactly R35, all the dudes on PREP are just begging to get Hep C, which is happening.

www.worldhepatitisalliance.org
--Anonymous
replies 37Nov 19, 2017 3:36 PM +00:00

r17 - is absolutely right, [quote]People have been barebacking long before PrEP came along. The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably. PrEP at least will prevent HIV transmission. It's far better than nothing and people were using nothing before. Period

I concur it's another tool in the fight against HIV infections, so why is that so hard for you anti PreP to wrap that around your heads?

r20 [quote]There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

Please stop with the scare tactics, after many, many years and 10's of thousands of people on PreP, thus far there have been only three confirmed cases of a PreP user seroconverting. That's pretty good odds. Don't believe me, google it.

--Anonymous
replies 38Nov 19, 2017 4:04 PM +00:00

Why the fuck would you want to bareback anyway? You're still shoving your cock into somebody's ass, which as I understand it has yet to be the inspiration for any saleable fragrance.

--Anonymous
replies 39Nov 19, 2017 4:07 PM +00:00

Receptive anal sex, with or without a condom, great increases your risk for rectal cancer. Why chance that and a host of other illnesses that come with anal penetration? I stick with oral and kissing. I suggest many of you bottoms do the same.

--Anonymous
replies 40Nov 19, 2017 4:12 PM +00:00

3 seroconversions out of 10's of thousands PreP users. These odds are better than condom use

The Dutch man was engaging in very high-risk sex and adhering well to the daily Truvada regimen.
POZ
--Anonymous
replies 41Nov 19, 2017 4:32 PM +00:00

And that's why they see their doctors every three months, R36, and are screened for liver function as well as STIs. At least if you're on PrEP and begin to show changes in liver numbers, you have the option to stop taking the drug. If you're positive, you can't stop (although there are other HIV drugs that aren't as hard on the liver). Assuming this is what you meant by long term side effects, what are the short term effects that are "not fun from what" you "have read?"

dudes on PREP are just begging to get Hep C, which is happening.

Again, TESTING, R37! If we find guys carrying the Hep-C virus and get them informed and treated, we can mitigate the spread of and eventually eliminate this virus as well. The problem with Hep-C is that there are no outward symptoms for decades after infection, and the virus is replicating in huge numbers, making spread even more likely. PrEP is a rather backdoor (sorry for the pun) method of testing for liver function, as this is how Hep-C presents most often.

R40, did it ever occur to you that straight women face increased for cervical cancer for a reason? Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer. Do you advise that we all somehow hang ourselves in perfect suspended animation? And, you do know that you can get a wide variety of STIs via oral contact, right?

Sorry, I don't mean to be condescending. I knew there was a reason I stayed out of the first thread in this series; everything from the lack of basic knowledge through sex hysteria always gets me. It's like we can't be moderate, well-adjusted, informed and sexually healthy beings.

--R21
replies 42Nov 19, 2017 4:44 PM +00:00

What happens when all you condomless Prep sluts get one non-life-threatening STD after another, progressively weakening your immune system to allow another AIDS-type virus to enter the arena? That's what happened in the '70s, and I feel the same thing is happening now. Five/ten years from now, heaven knows what type of super-AIDS we'll all be dealing with. And we'll have exactly no one to blame but ourselves. Have we learned nothing from history?

--Anonymous
replies 43Nov 19, 2017 4:45 PM +00:00
It's like we can't be moderate, well-adjusted, informed and sexually healthy beings.

Define moderate, Obi Wan.

--Anonymous
replies 44Nov 19, 2017 4:55 PM +00:00
Five/ten years from now

As opposed to now? Do you think that barebacking was invented when Truvada was approved for prophylactic use, and nobody would have developed drug resistance to it before (it was one of the most common anti-retrovirals in use, which is part of how Gilead got it approved comparatively quickly given its widespread use). A leading HIV doctor told me that if there was a so-called "super bug" coming, it would be here. Your supposition that the cause of the appearance of HIV was due to "one non-life-threatening STD after another" is not only incorrect, it reeks of sex hysteria.

If what you mean to say was the HIV spread quickly (which itself is not technically correct; there are documented cases of HIV infection dating back decades prior to it reaching peak infection), then I agree; the same doctor suggested that if gay men would halve the number of partners they have over their lifetimes (one form of moderation, R44, but I was thinking about another, specifically making rational decisions based on fact, when I wrote that), we could end the epidemic today. But that's not reality, and we're better off reacting to and living in the real world.

--R21
replies 45Nov 19, 2017 5:00 PM +00:00

You love to keep mentioning how PrEP users are getting tested every three months. All that does is ensure that for the previous three months, you did not spread disease. If you go out and bareback the next evening and contract as STI, then you will be spreading it for the next three months until you get tested again.

--Anonymous
replies 46Nov 19, 2017 5:16 PM +00:00

And that's worse than not getting tested and spreading it for years? My point is that one of the best side effects (if you can call it that) is that sexually active gay men are getting tested regularly and more often.

--Anonymous
replies 47Nov 19, 2017 5:19 PM +00:00

Is there more barebacking or less since PrEP?

--Anonymous
replies 48Nov 19, 2017 5:20 PM +00:00

I assume so, R48. When I googled your exact question, though, the second result was anecdotally opposite.

But let me cut the chase: call me names for thinking it's better for more men to engage in risky behavior in exchange for regular and more men getting tested and treated for whatever crops up.

?PrEP is controversial even on the gay scene. Does the drug encourage dangerous ‘barebacking’ or could it be the game-changer that wipes out HIV for good? ?Matt Cain decided to take it for three months and find out
the Guardian
--Anonymous
replies 49Nov 19, 2017 5:31 PM +00:00

Why are people perpetuating this myth that all the guys on prep are getting it prescribed by a doctor and having regular health checks?

Not all gay guys want to come out to their doctor. They don't want their sexuality on their medical record for employers to access. Many young guys don't have health insurance or find it easier to bypass doctors and get Prep online and just take it either side of the weekend.

The whole prep situation is just another big disease with a little name waiting to happen.

--Anonymous
replies 50Nov 19, 2017 5:36 PM +00:00

'Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer.'

This is true and it's the reason why the guys on this thread who pride themselves on taking a pounding every weekend will end up with anal cancer further down the line.

--Anonymous
replies 51Nov 19, 2017 5:38 PM +00:00

'Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer.'

How come we don't get cancer of the fingertips from all the typing we do these days?

--Anonymous
replies 52Nov 19, 2017 5:39 PM +00:00

R48, there's A LOT more barebacking. People are acting like it's the 1970s, and do not give a fuck if they fuck or get fucked raw. I also know men who are not on PREP but who do it raw/bare since they believe a top or bottom when he says he's on PREP, or HIV poz but undetectable.

--Anonymous
replies 53Nov 19, 2017 7:01 PM +00:00

There's a lot of really dumb young gay guys who think you take Prep like the morning after pill, post exposure, just the once. They buy Prep from their dealers when they buy their weed.

If you're fucking these guys, use a condom ffs. It's this mentality that brought about so many deaths from AIDS and Hep C.

--Anonymous
replies 54Nov 19, 2017 7:56 PM +00:00

It's all well and good for the Prep guys. But what about the poz guys who lie to the dumb bottom about being on Prep and convince the poor cum-craving slut that going raw with them is safe? That's a recipe for disaster.

--Anonymous
replies 55Nov 19, 2017 8:01 PM +00:00

enjoy herpes...

--Anonymous
replies 56Nov 19, 2017 8:37 PM +00:00

There's a lot of really dumb young gay guys who are on Prep. They buy Prep from their dealers when they buy their weed. If you're fucking these guys, use a condom ffs. It's this mentality that brought about so many deaths from AIDS and Hep C.

Fixed that for you R54.

--Anonymous
replies 57Nov 20, 2017 2:44 AM +00:00

Enjoy your super-AIDS and antibiotic-resistent STDs, but please don't expect any compassion from anyone. Your digging your own graves by BB-ing.

--Anonymous
replies 58Nov 20, 2017 7:26 AM +00:00

All this hemming and hawing about super-AIDS and watch the next deadly disease come from kissing or oral sex. ALL of us will fucked then

--Anonymous
replies 59Nov 20, 2017 7:51 AM +00:00

R59 that already happens with certain types of Hepatitis, but it's difficult to get HEP C that way.

--Anonymous
replies 60Nov 27, 2017 4:18 PM +00:00

I took 4 raw loads in my ass over the long weekend. I would've done more, but I was battling a nasty cold LMAO. I'm not on PrEP, but of the 4 guys I hooked up with, 2 told me they're on the PrEP, and the other 2 said they're not on PrEP but clean and 100% DD free. On the remote chance they're lying or not sure of their status, they looked healthy, so if they were poz, they were likely undetectable and unable pass the virus along to me. All good! Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO.

--Anonymous
replies 61Nov 27, 2017 7:39 PM +00:00

"Not all behaviour, but better some than none."

Which does nothing to stop an epidemic.

--Anonymous
replies 62Nov 28, 2017 7:51 AM +00:00

R61 you sound crazy and like you have a death wish. I hope you can afford HIV meds.

--Anonymous
replies 63Nov 28, 2017 8:26 AM +00:00

Europe's HIV epidemic growing at alarming rate, WHO warns.

The number of people newly diagnosed with HIV in Europe reached its highest level in 2016 since records began, showing the region's epidemic growing "at an alarming pace", health officials said on Tuesday. That year, 160,000 people contracted the virus that causes AIDS in the 53 countries that make up the World Health Organization's European region. Around 80 percent of those were in eastern Europe.

The trend was particularly worrying because many patients had already been carrying the HIV infection for several years by the time they were diagnosed, making the virus harder to control and more likely to have been passed on to others.

By Kate Kelland LONDON (Reuters) - The number of people newly diagnosed with HIV in Europe reached its highest level in 2016 since records began, showing the region's epidemic growing "at an alarming pace", health officials said on Tuesday. Around 80 percent of those were in eastern Europe
www.yahoo.com
--Anonymous
replies 64Nov 28, 2017 8:30 AM +00:00

Don't forget all the people on PREP who do it raw who are getting Hep C R64.

www.worldhepatitisalliance.org
--Anonymous
replies 65Nov 28, 2017 9:27 AM +00:00

So many doomsday Mary's on this thread. Enjoy life and enjoy sex as nature intended: raw and unencumbered by unnatural latex. Just make sure your partners are on PrEP and/or poz/undetectable, and you'll be just fine.

--Anonymous
replies 66Nov 28, 2017 9:30 AM +00:00

One thing I like about condoms is they seem to help some tops last longer...

I think sex feels good in all forms. The idea that adjusting a practice renders it worthless is really somewhat babyish.

vignette.wikia.nocookie.net
--Anonymous
replies 67Nov 28, 2017 9:32 AM +00:00

I never had condomless sex until once last month. He was poz but undetectable. I figured I'd give it a try. He didn't come in me.

It was nice but not so earth shattering that I need to have unprotected sex.

Sure, it seems stupid now, but Undetectable = Untransmittable and I was on meth

--Anonymous
replies 68Nov 28, 2017 9:37 AM +00:00

"Yes, I could have worn a condom, but I believe in harm reduction, and the notion of wearing a condom is almost as oppressing as abstinence. I always have open communication with my lovers, and if folks want to wear a condom, I respect that. Aside from open communication, I'd been taking other precautionary measures that made me think I didn't need to. I'd been using Truvada (tenofovir/FTC) ... I was unemployed and didn't have health insurance, so my supply came from friends who had prescriptions and, on several occasions, from a former partner who was in the "bottle business," selling HIV meds on the black market.

Acting on word-of-mouth information about how long PrEP stays in the body, I'd continued having unprotected sex for about two weeks after my last bottle of Truvada ran out."

So much for the "people on PrEP see a doctor every three months" mantra.

--Anonymous
replies 69Nov 28, 2017 9:51 AM +00:00

Looks like he would bareback whether of not he was on PrEP

--Anonymous
replies 70Nov 28, 2017 9:53 AM +00:00

People don't use condoms because sex doesn't feel as good when wearing them. When science comes up with a condom that doesn't decrease sensitivity, everyone will use them.

--Anonymous
replies 71Nov 28, 2017 10:06 AM +00:00

Condoms are for losers. Big time losers!

--Anonymous
replies 72Nov 28, 2017 11:02 AM +00:00

'Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO'

R61. the 'cold' is you sero-converting.

Poz guys always look healthy these days - people aren't staggering around trailing IV lines and weighing 100 pounds in 2017. You will pick up the virus soon enough with this dumb, reckless attitude.

--Anonymous
replies 73Nov 28, 2017 1:01 PM +00:00

'People don't use condoms because sex doesn't feel as good when wearing them. When science comes up with a condom that doesn't decrease sensitivity, everyone will use them. '

I feel sorry for people like R71, born with a numb dick. If you can't feel any sensation through a condom, there 's something wrong with your nerve endings.

--Anonymous
replies 74Nov 28, 2017 1:03 PM +00:00

Wrong, r73. I had the cold beforehand and it's just lingering. I am not seroconverting. Although I did have a "loaded" Veterans Day long weekend a few weeks earlier, but I got the cold a week later, which would be too soon to actually be symptomatic for seroconversion.

--r61
replies 75Nov 28, 2017 1:10 PM +00:00
A guy I went in a date with told me he was having several encounters a day , bottoming, and not using condoms

R5, usually this is called "pulling a train," not "a date."

--Anonymous
replies 76Nov 28, 2017 1:18 PM +00:00

R69, your argument is false because the writer says he didn't have health insurance and was getting his Truvada from the black market. Nobody expects the black market has doctors to monitor one's black market Truvada usage.

--Reading is fundamental.
replies 77Nov 28, 2017 1:23 PM +00:00

The following is an example of how Poo Shoes, aka Davida Rochelle, stirs up shit on this forum. Xe is posting both for and against bareback sex in this thread. Xe's either talking about how gays deserve to get AIDS and die from barebacking, or xe's pretending to be a gay male, telling stories about how xe took multiple loads recently.

The following are all from the same User ID in this thread. Be certain that xe will delete her cookies soon to remove this evidence. IMO this person is a scourge that needs to be removed from this website.

How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Forget about HIV for a moment. Aren't any of you BB PrEP whores concerned about getting other STIs, and spreading potentially drug-resistant STIs throughout the community? Sometimes I think we really are our own worst enemy.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Receptive anal sex, with or without a condom, great increases your risk for rectal cancer. Why chance that and a host of other illnesses that come with anal penetration? I stick with oral and kissing. I suggest many of you bottoms do the same.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 What happens when all you condomless Prep sluts get one non-life-threatening STD after another, progressively weakening your immune system to allow another AIDS-type virus to enter the arena? That's what happened in the '70s, and I feel the same thing is happening now. Five/ten years from now, heaven knows what type of super-AIDS we'll all be dealing with. And we'll have exactly no one to blame but ourselves. Have we learned nothing from history?
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 It's all well and good for the Prep guys. But what about the poz guys who lie to the dumb bottom about being on Prep and convince the poor cum-craving slut that going raw with them is safe? That's a recipe for disaster.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Enjoy your super-AIDS and antibiotic-resistent STDs, but please don't expect any compassion from anyone. Your digging your own graves by BB-ing.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 I took 4 raw loads in my ass over the long weekend. I would've done more, but I was battling a nasty cold LMAO. I'm not on PrEP, but of the 4 guys I hooked up with, 2 told me they're on the PrEP, and the other 2 said they're not on PrEP but clean and 100% DD free. On the remote chance they're lying or not sure of their status, they looked healthy, so if they were poz, they were likely undetectable and unable pass the virus along to me. All good! Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 So many doomsday Mary's on this thread. Enjoy life and enjoy sex as nature intended: raw and unencumbered by unnatural latex. Just make sure your partners are on PrEP and/or poz/undetectable, and you'll be just fine.
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Condoms are for losers. Big time losers!
How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Wrong, r73. I had the cold beforehand and it's just lingering. I am not seroconverting. Although I did have a "loaded" Veterans Day long weekend a few weeks earlier, but I got the cold a week later, which would be too soon to actually be symptomatic for seroconversion.
--Anonymous
replies 78Nov 28, 2017 1:32 PM +00:00

To be clear, the stinking poo is D@v1d@ R0ch3l1e K@nt3r of Las Vegas, Nevada.

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--Anonymous
replies 79Nov 28, 2017 1:36 PM +00:00

True to form, xe has exited the thread. All posts ceased when xe was called out for xer trolling behavior.

--Anonymous
replies 80Nov 28, 2017 1:51 PM +00:00

r69 - I read that article and that guy is an idiot.

Why wasn't he already on Obamacare, it would have covered his PreP prescription (it covers mine)? He then writes that he went to the LA Gay & Lesbian Center and found that the insurance process took too long. What? Couldn't he wait until his insurance application went through, he had to have unprotected sex right then and now? Also, The Center does have PreP programs for the uninsured, so I don't know the validity of his claims. The author, who supposedly went to Berkley, sure was stupid when it came to taking care of his own body. This article has nothing to do with PreP but is an example of reckless behavior on the part of an individual.

I'm not slut shaming but common sense would have prevented this young man from seroconverting.

for those who didn't read it up thread, here's a link to the article

--Anonymous
replies 81Nov 28, 2017 4:21 PM +00:00

Most of the guys I know get Prep online and it costs about $100 for 100 pills. They take it either side of the weekend and hope for the best. No-one is going to their doctor, coming out and getting homosexuality on their medical record for future employees to see.

SPAZ TROLL ALSO ON THE THREAD.

--Anonymous
replies 82Nov 28, 2017 4:37 PM +00:00

r82

[qoute]getting homosexuality on their medical record for future employees to see.

any moron knows that ALL MEDICAL RECORDS are confidential. The stupidity regarding PreP on this thread is shocking.

--Anonymous
replies 83Nov 28, 2017 4:49 PM +00:00
Nobody expects the black market has doctors to monitor one's black market Truvada usage.

Uh, yeah, that’s the point.

--Anonymous
replies 84Nov 28, 2017 7:03 PM +00:00

Who are these guys taking PrEP just over the weekend? How can they get a script and just take it for weekend use? That will not end well.

--Anonymous
replies 85Nov 28, 2017 7:10 PM +00:00

I have talked to my doctor about PREP and since I don't swallow cum or have unprotected anal sex as a top, there's no point in me going on it.

--Anonymous
replies 86Nov 28, 2017 7:59 PM +00:00

r40 "receptive to anal cancer" so does oral sex makes you receptive to mouth cancer. So we are all doomed, we just have to make choices we can live with and not judge others by their choices.

--Anonymous
replies 87Nov 28, 2017 11:35 PM +00:00

R40 people get rectal cancer from HPV, not from bottoming or receptive anal sex.

--Anonymous
replies 88Nov 28, 2017 11:39 PM +00:00
so does oral sex makes you receptive to mouth cancer

Yes, your odds of oral cancer increase along with the number of your oral sex partners. Overall odds are still relatively low, but oral sex is clearly associated with a higher prevalence of HPV infection, which can lead to cancer.

--Anonymous
replies 89Nov 29, 2017 3:49 AM +00:00

Sex=death

--Anonymous
replies 90Nov 29, 2017 4:57 AM +00:00

Where's the life's a banquet troll?

--Anonymous
replies 91Nov 29, 2017 2:37 PM +00:00

Anal cancer is more likely than oral because butt sex tends to be a lot more rough, disturbing the cells of the lining of the rectum and promoting their mutation.

There's a limit to how hard you can go with oral sex. Teeth and the gag reflex kick in quickly.

--Anonymous
replies 92Nov 29, 2017 3:17 PM +00:00

'How can you get a script just for the weekend'?

DOH, these kids who get it online just buy batches of a 100 at a time.

--Anonymous
replies 93Nov 29, 2017 3:18 PM +00:00

nobody answered the question of fingertip cancer due to increased typing?!

--Anonymous
replies 94Nov 29, 2017 3:24 PM +00:00
Anal cancer is more likely than oral because butt sex tends to be a lot more rough, disturbing the cells of the lining of the rectum and promoting their mutation. There's a limit to how hard you can go with oral sex. Teeth and the gag reflex kick in quickly.

HPV is not HIV. HPV can be transmitted via “gentle” sex just as easily as during rough sex.

--Anonymous
replies 95Nov 29, 2017 5:09 PM +00:00

R94, I think the fingertips are designed for lots of external pressure, unlike the butt which is designed to squeeze out shit, not to be pounded by a big dick. In the past people used their fingers in factories a lot and fingertip cancer was never a thing.

--Anonymous
replies 96Nov 29, 2017 5:46 PM +00:00

R95, not all anal cancer occurs because of HPV. A lot occurs because the cells are pounded regularly, which disturbs them, and they mutate. The more often the pounding, the more likely this is. The rectum was not designed for butt sex.

--Anonymous
replies 97Nov 29, 2017 5:48 PM +00:00

Shut up with your fake news, R97.

--Anonymous
replies 98Nov 29, 2017 7:36 PM +00:00

Almost all anal cancer in gay men is caused by HPV- two strains of the virus are responsible for about 80% of cases.

--Anonymous
replies 99Nov 29, 2017 8:03 PM +00:00

Those fools who are on PREP who do it raw/bare are idiots with death wishes.

www.worldhepatitisalliance.org
--Anonymous
replies 100Dec 7, 2017 7:20 AM +00:00

I'm old, no one loves me and I have no physical contact. Basically just waiting to die.

Gather ye roses while ye may. Sometimes I think old age is a fate worse than death.

--Anonymous
replies 101Dec 7, 2017 7:48 AM +00:00
Almost all anal cancer in gay men is caused by HPV

A new analysis of genital human papillomavirus (HPV) in men shows that infection with one HPV type strongly increases the risk of reinfection with the same type. In fact, men who are infected with the type responsible for most HPV-related cancers are 20 times more likely to be reinfected within one year. This increased risk suggests that infection confers no natural immunity against HPV, as is often the case with other viruses.

Men who are infected once with HPV16, the type responsible for most HPV-related cancers, are at 20 times higher risk of reinfection after one year, and 14 times higher after two years. The researchers saw the same effect in both men who are sexually active and celibate, suggesting that they are not reacquiring the virus from another sexual partner.

An analysis of HPV in men shows that infection with one type strongly increased the risk of reinfection of the same type. The study highlights the importance of vaccination for preventing the spread of HPV in young men before they become sexually active and in older men who have already contracted the virus.
EurekAlert!
--Anonymous
replies 102Dec 7, 2017 7:49 AM +00:00

I won't even kiss or blow anyone anymore. Who knows if an inevitable super-AIDS that can be transmissable through kissing or oral is circulating in the community now, only to make itself known in 5-10 years? Hell, I could even be harboring it without even knowing it, because I have done kissing and oral contact up until this past summer. All these raw fuckers are messing it up for those of us who have played safe.

--Anonymous
replies 103Dec 7, 2017 10:20 AM +00:00

OK I am not that fearful R103 I am just very picky who I have sex with and I have safer sex.

--Anonymous
replies 104Dec 10, 2017 2:55 AM +00:00

AIDS 2 is here! Reports in the NYT of seven gay guys hospitalized with antibiotic resistant bubonic plague.

--Anonymous
replies 105Dec 10, 2017 5:32 PM +00:00

R105 link? Or is this fake news?

--Anonymous
replies 106Dec 10, 2017 5:53 PM +00:00

R105 if true, it wasn't spread by barebacking

--Anonymous
replies 107Dec 10, 2017 7:24 PM +00:00

I'd rather not have sex at all than use a condom.

--Anonymous
replies 108Jan 4, 2018 7:03 PM +00:00

I BB bottom pretty regularly. I'm not on PrEP and for the past year, I haven't been using condoms all the time. My feeling is that the guy I'm giving it up for is either neg and/or PrEP, OR he's poz but undetectable. Either way, I'm home free and not going to contract HIV. The more and more I have condomless sex, the more I've come to believe that sex, whatever the risks, was never meant to be done with latex. Not to be totally crass, but there's nothing like the feeling of warm flesh and jizz filling my hole.

--Anonymous
replies 109Jan 4, 2018 7:21 PM +00:00

R109, why don't you just go on PrEP?

--Anonymous
replies 110Jan 4, 2018 7:52 PM +00:00

I am an elder gay I guess ( 57 ) after being a top all my life I met a man I totally love who is undetectable and who I bottom for now on a frequent basis. I don't think exclusive tops know how intimate and close having a man inside you is. I am on PrEP as a precaution we are both clean of all STDs other than HSV-1 that causes cold sores on your lips and 90% of the population has that.

We are monogamous for now, if we decide to open up the relationship we will negotiate that in the safest way possible, we both adhere strictly to our med regimes and go to each others medical appointments . To me being intimate with someone you love and who turns you on big time necessitates the exchange of body fluids , if Truvada can provide that freedom hell yeah I will use it .

The issue is not PrEP it s a behavior pattern , people were having risking sex with multiple partners long before it came on the scene. The hook up culture has grown exponentially with Grindr and other apps , sex has become transactional and functional. It's easy to lose yourself in a compulsion for sex and drugs.

-- Older and Wiser
replies 111Jan 4, 2018 7:55 PM +00:00

PrEP whores are their own worst enemies.

--Anonymous
replies 112Jan 4, 2018 10:55 PM +00:00

A friend of mine is 22. Has slept with around 400 guys. He slept with 40 while taking a week vacation to a gay New Years party. He’s on prep and always fucks raw. He just found out he has two STDs.

--Anonymous
replies 113Jan 5, 2018 12:12 AM +00:00

I'm a total top when it comes to anal so theoretically, my risk of catching something is far lower but I still wouldn't stick my unwrapped dick in a guy that would let someone he didn't know was 100% STI free fuck him bareback, that's just common sense.

--Anonymous
replies 114Jan 5, 2018 2:15 AM +00:00

Yes, all young gay guys on PrEP think it protects them from all known diseases, acts as a discount at H&M and Zara, and constitutes debt forgiveness on their student loans.

--Bitter scared untucked eldergay
replies 115Jan 5, 2018 4:49 AM +00:00

I had amazing raw sex last night with a stud I met on grindr. I asked if he was on PrEP and his reply was "sure I'm on prep, wink wink". I took that to mean yes, although part of me wondered what the wink wink meant. At that point I was so horny, he could've written "I could say I'm on prep, but that would be a lie" and I'd still would've bottomed for him. He. Was. That. Hot! He shot a three-day load in me. Best sex I'd had in weeks.

--Anonymous
replies 116Jan 5, 2018 6:18 AM +00:00

can't you masturbate in private, not on DL, R116?

--Anonymous
replies 117Jan 5, 2018 6:37 AM +00:00

I'm guessing he was not really on PREP R116, go get tested.

--Anonymous
replies 118Jan 8, 2018 12:29 AM +00:00

R116 is a troll,, the same one who used to provide us with lurid descriptions of steam room antics.

--Anonymous
replies 119Jan 8, 2018 10:19 AM +00:00

If you check R116's history, he alternates from being a steam room cum dump to a cautionary worst-case-scenario alarmist.

Therefore it's probably just someone with a vivid imagination that's playing both sides of the fence.

--Anonymous
replies 120Jan 8, 2018 10:29 AM +00:00

I live in a really small town so my "choices" are limited but I managed to get together with this hot daddy who lived in the area, I told him upfront that I didn't fuck without condoms and he said he was cool with that, we got together and pretty much the whole time he went on and on about how good my raw cock would feel in his ass, I didn't go back for seconds.

--Anonymous
replies 121Jan 8, 2018 2:57 PM +00:00

R120 how do you check someone's history here on DL? Or is that only available if you pay?

Good for you R121, I don't get with people who want it raw or like you go back who talk about wanting it raw, and I'm a top.

--Anonymous
replies 122Jan 12, 2018 10:18 AM +00:00

Never

--Anonymous
replies 123Jan 12, 2018 10:27 AM +00:00

Bye, Frau Felicia @r123.

--Anonymous
replies 124Jan 12, 2018 10:53 AM +00:00

Will all end in tears for a lot of hot, slutty bottoms who think this stuff makes them bullet-proof. STIs always emerge, evolve, and make sudden comebacks. Intimate body fluid-to-mucous membrane exchange is too effective a transmission vector. If not HIV, then something else...

--Anonymous
replies 125Jan 12, 2018 11:08 AM +00:00

That's very true R125, a lot of men on PREP who do it BB/raw/unprotected are getting HEP C.

We've known for decades that unprotected anal sex transmits HEP C as well as other nasty STIs including HIV, but these fools will do or say anything to give and take raw cock and cum.

www.worldhepatitisalliance.org
--Anonymous
replies 126Jan 12, 2018 11:13 AM +00:00

While you sex-negs are sitting at home clutching your fake pearls and paranoid about stubbing your toes, the rest of us are out there living and enjoying our lives, which, yes, includes raw, unencumberd sex. Life is a banquet and should be lived to its fullest.

--Anonymous
replies 127Jan 12, 2018 12:24 PM +00:00

The 'Life's a banquet!' troll is back at R127!

--Anonymous
replies 128Jan 12, 2018 12:51 PM +00:00

I love the 'Life is a Banquet' troll with his stories of fetid steam room hook ups. He's suffering the final ravages of Antibiotic Resistant Syphilis so he doesn't have the energy to come on here very often these days.

--Anonymous
replies 129Jan 12, 2018 4:03 PM +00:00

R129 I'm guessing the "life's a banquet' troll is too busy staying home jerking off with his hand and writing erotic fiction for nifty, and reddit to post here now?

--Anonymous
replies 130Jan 16, 2018 7:38 AM +00:00

Two new qualitative studies from Toronto shed light on how stigma affects the uptake of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and the experience of taking it. In the first, young gay men acknowledged that they did not always use condoms but did not see themselves as the kind of ‘barebacker’ for whom they thought PrEP was intended.

“PrEP embodies the notion of bareback sex, which traditionally has been associated with negative elements, and it is quite clear that the young gay men in this research do not want to be associated as a barebacking subject,” writes Julien Brisson in Anthropology & Medicine. “This is one reason why they did not want to use PrEP.”

In the second study, early adopters described concealing their PrEP use because of what it might suggest to others about their sexual behaviour. Nonetheless, most had an overwhelmingly positive experience of taking PrEP.

Two new qualitative studies from Toronto shed light on how stigma affects the uptake of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and the experience of taking it. In the first, young gay men acknowledged that they did not always use condoms but did not see themselves as the kind of ‘barebacker’ for whom they thought PrEP was intended.“PrEP embodies the notion of bareback sex, which traditionally has been associated with negative elements, and it is quite clear that the young gay men in this research do not want to be associated as a barebacking subject,” writes Julien Brisson in Anthropology & Medicine. “This is one reason why they did not want to use PrEP.”In the second study, early adopters described concealing their PrEP use because of what it might suggest to others about their sexual behaviour. Nonetheless, most had an overwhelmingly positive experience of taking PrEP.“Paradoxically, some men said that PrEP use both led them to experience stigmatizing reactions within their social and sexual networks, while also helping to remove stigma, shame, and fear related to HIV, sexuality, and sex with gay men living with HIV,” comments Daniel Grace in AIDS Patient Care and STDs.
www.aidsmap.com
--Anonymous
replies 131Jan 16, 2018 7:54 AM +00:00

PrEP makes total sense for those who have lots of sex, like daily, like I used to in my 20's and early 30's.

For everyone else, it would be nice if we had guidance on if sporadic PrEP use really works or not.

--Anonymous
replies 132Jan 16, 2018 8:23 AM +00:00

R126 Hep C seems to be transmitted whenever there is a direct connection to blood--like in rough sex. Very doubtful that it can be transmitted through oral sex. It is definitely transmitted through sharing needles and that may often come with sex.

--Anonymous
replies 133Jan 16, 2018 8:26 AM +00:00

Well, you could try giving monogamy a chance. Like eating low-carb, it works but only when you actually do it.

--Anonymous
replies 134Jan 16, 2018 8:31 AM +00:00

Monogamy is fine but do you really expect people to be celibate until they find the one?

--Anonymous
replies 135Jan 16, 2018 9:23 AM +00:00

Not particularly, but going for quality over quantity is sure to make one more likely to find the one and more likely to be desirable by others for such a relationship.

--Anonymous
replies 136Jan 16, 2018 9:28 AM +00:00
Very doubtful that it can be transmitted through oral sex.

Are you calling me a liar?

--Danny Pintauro
replies 137Jan 16, 2018 9:28 AM +00:00

R132,

If you google “on demand truvada PrEP” you will see some studies on it. Specific studies for on demand Prep should be coming out soon and maybe there will be actual recommendations on how to safely do this.

--Anonymous
replies 138Jan 16, 2018 9:31 AM +00:00

Dirty whores

--Anonymous
replies 139Jan 16, 2018 9:35 AM +00:00

I know recreactional PrEP users who start taking it on a Friday in anticipation of a very, um, "active" weekend. If you don't take it consistently, is it not effective?

--Anonymous
replies 140Jan 16, 2018 11:46 AM +00:00

One of the reasons for the HIV/AID$ Inc. hoax is that it makes homosexuals scared to have sex, so they buy more drugs instead.

--Anonymous
replies 141Jan 16, 2018 12:00 PM +00:00

Here's a tip, don't be a bareback cum slut.

--Anonymous
replies 142Jan 16, 2018 1:42 PM +00:00

Like all super powerful chemicals PreP will have detrimental long term effects on the internal organs. If it can repel the HIV virus, it will also be doing damage to tissues and nerves. The life expectancy of the perpetual Prep taker is probably only 60, rather than 90.

--Anonymous
replies 143Jan 16, 2018 4:12 PM +00:00

science?

--Anonymous
replies 144Jan 16, 2018 4:15 PM +00:00

R143,

Do you even know what drugs are used for PrEP? Do you know their mechanism of action? Do you know how long they’ve been used?

I’m not on truvada, but I can’t stand your ignorance.

--Anonymous
replies 145Jan 16, 2018 4:30 PM +00:00

I do know their mechanism of action and friends who are taking Truvada as part of Haart have been told to expect liver, heart and kidney problems after about 20-30 years of use.

--Anonymous
replies 146Jan 16, 2018 4:48 PM +00:00

Sadly more than likely there will be issues eventually, either the drug will be revealed to cause unforeseen side effects or organ damage after longterm use or thanks to all the barebacking idiots out there now, the virus will eventually mutate and become resistant to PrEP and then the shit will really hit the fan.

--Anonymous
replies 147Jan 16, 2018 10:03 PM +00:00

Say for whatever reason, you go cold turkey on Truvada, how long does it stay in your system to provide protection? A day? A week? A month? Hypothetically, if you were to just stop taking it, and then have receptive BB sex a week or two weeks later, would still protect you from contracting HIV from that encounter?

--Anonymous
replies 148Jan 17, 2018 5:38 PM +00:00

R148 , after your last unsafe encounter that involved semen exchange you should remain on Truvada for 28 days before stopping

--Anonymous
replies 149Jan 17, 2018 6:16 PM +00:00

I would not be surprised if that's true R143. Personally I just use condoms with any women and men who I have sex with-I am bisexual and a top-and I assume that whoever I am with could be HIV+. But I've had women and men who I was in relationships/partnerships which I thought were monogamous cheat on me.

--Anonymous
replies 150Jan 18, 2018 3:39 AM +00:00

I'm a healthysexual. Most of the time.

--Anonymous
replies 151Jan 18, 2018 5:16 AM +00:00

#MeToo R151.

--Anonymous
replies 152Jan 19, 2018 6:20 AM +00:00

My friend of PrEP went hog-wild (literally, since he's a piggy bottom) last weekend for the long MLK weekend. He BB-ed with a bunch of guys, including one foursome in which he was essentially "triple-dipped." He is not worried about contracting HIV. He is very cavalier about it, but I'm worried for him and for all the guys who engage in this type of behavior, thinking that PrEP is some magic bullet. I fear that 5-10 years down the line, we will learn otherwise.

--Anonymous
replies 153Jan 19, 2018 7:20 AM +00:00

Your friend sounds too stupid to live R153, is he a meth head as well?

--Anonymous
replies 154Jan 19, 2018 9:10 AM +00:00

No he's not a meth head. He's got a great career track, great apt, great body...checks all the urban gay male boxes. But I think he's a sex addict. He came out and started having sex later than most (at 25) two years ago and was from a very religious family, and it's like he's making up for lost time. I think he generally used condoms before he went on PrEP, but he's gone crazy with the hookups since going on PrEP. I'm practically a celibate nun compared to him, and he laughs and jokes about. When all is said and done, I'm concerned that he won't be laughing 5-10 years down the line when some sort of super-AIDS manifests itself.

--r153
replies 155Jan 19, 2018 9:18 AM +00:00

There's definitely some kind of addiction going on R155, he sounds like he's out of control.

--Anonymous
replies 156Jan 19, 2018 9:21 AM +00:00

Bag it, fellas!

PrEP may be giving some homosexual and heterosexual users a false sense of security.
The Conversation
--Anonymous
replies 157Jan 19, 2018 9:50 AM +00:00

What about poops?

--Anonymous
replies 158Jan 19, 2018 9:56 AM +00:00

That article is pretty meaningless R157.

The issues it brought up:

1.) truvada doesn’t protect against other STIs. We know that. That’s why condoms should be used in conjunction with PrEP. No one uses condoms for oral, and STIs can be transmitted orally.

2.) truvada is less effective for women. Good thing gay men don’t have vaginas.

3.) truvada-resistant HIV. This happened twice. Considering how many people use truvada as their only form of protection, the odds are still favorable- better than condoms alone. Condoms + PrEP is the best form of protection. Being on PrEP will not increase resistance. Only people who are ALREADY positive and take their meds INCONSISTENTLY can develop resistance.

That article is just another attempt to scare people. The Conversation (whoever they are) should be ashamed for publishing such an article. Sometimes I feel people out there want more gay men to seroconvert.

--Anonymous
replies 159Jan 19, 2018 10:08 AM +00:00

And here come the PrEP shills, right on schedule.

--Anonymous
replies 160Jan 19, 2018 10:15 AM +00:00

I'm in my 20s. I take prep. I bareback often. At some point I'll settle down and stop taking it, but for now I'm having fun.

--Anonymous
replies 161Jan 19, 2018 10:17 AM +00:00

Don't worry R161 the fun never lasts.

--Anonymous
replies 162Jan 19, 2018 10:19 AM +00:00

All you PREPers should check with your insurance to see if non-essential HEP C cure at the patient's request is covered by your insurance. In some countries, you must wait until you are near liver failure before getting it. Fun! Out of pocket cost for the elective treatment - 80-100K for 12 weeks.

You see, you are likely barebacking with some POZ guys and poz guys get HEP C through normal bareback sex. No fisting or needles necessary. So they could pass it on to you.

--Anonymous
replies 163Jan 19, 2018 10:38 AM +00:00

R120, you are correct, and it's a classic Poo Shoes pattern. Play both sides of an argument, alternate among posts talking about what a diseased whore he is, and being a maiden aunt.

Here's a picture of him on a day off from being a Bellagio Maid, telling a Las Vegas city council meeting how evil marihuana is.

Imgur: The magic of the Internet
Imgur
--Anonymous
replies 164Jan 19, 2018 10:42 AM +00:00

When my marriage fell apart I went to a psychiatrist, who happened to be stocky and very hot, in his office, shared with his shrink wife, I sucked his thick dick, and he fucked me very hard. Since he only had one condom and he wanted to do it again, I let him bareback me, but he came in my mouth. He said it was not dangerous this way. So now, especially after my epic bareback rape in the sauna, I do bareback a little if the feeling is good, but they have to come in my mouth. No Prep, I hate chemicals.

--Slutty bottom
replies 165Jan 19, 2018 10:54 AM +00:00
R165 I went to a psychiatrist, who happened to be stocky and very hot, in his office, shared with his shrink wife, I sucked his thick dick, and he fucked me very hard.

Did he charge you for the therapy session?

--Anonymous
replies 166Jan 19, 2018 11:51 AM +00:00

No no...he was a little angry because I hadn't cleaned, and I insisted that I wanted to see him again, but he started sending emails about art galleries he was visiting with his kids and shit like that, and he didn't understand why I was self- conscious, about his wife, so I ended it. Hot fuck he was. Very big sporty legs, great ass, curly hair, a nice beard, and lots of chest hair, I am sorry it was a one sesdiin therapy only

--The slutty bottom
replies 167Jan 19, 2018 12:06 PM +00:00

Session not sesdiin. Autocorrect is out of control.

--Anonymous
replies 168Jan 19, 2018 12:08 PM +00:00

The next deadly disease can come from anywhere. We're fixated on diseases spread by semen but it could come from touching, kissing, sneezing.

Everyone is so scared the next disease will come with barebacking when it could be something totally different from HIV

--Anonymous
replies 169Jan 19, 2018 12:32 PM +00:00

I am convinced that the greatest SDT vessel is poppers. I am pretty sure there are studies about that. Makes sense too.

--The slutty bottom
replies 170Jan 19, 2018 12:44 PM +00:00

These PrEP sluts are turning themselves into human lab rats just so they can take raw loads from strangers, that will never not be anything but sad.

--Anonymous
replies 171Jan 19, 2018 12:57 PM +00:00

R153 ALL the men on PREP who I know believe that it is some magic pill that will keep them HIV neg and they ALL totally ignore how you are supposed to use condoms with it, and that you can get a lot of other nasty STIs from having unprotected sex like Hep C, herpes, syphilis, HPV, etc.

That's very true R163, a lot of men who are on PREP are getting infected with Hep C when they bareback.

www.worldhepatitisalliance.org
--Anonymous
replies 172Jan 27, 2018 1:36 AM +00:00

What was his name R165?

I know someone who actually did have sex with their therapist but it turned out the therapist was a sexual predator/hebephile and having sex with my friend who was a legal adult, and young teenagers who saw him. My friend never had sex in his therapist's office but he fell in love and instead of his creep of a therapist telling him how they could not do anything or to see someone else for therapy and cutting off communication/contact he had sex with one of his clients.

--Anonymous
replies 173Jan 27, 2018 1:40 AM +00:00
R17 My friend never had sex in his therapist's office but he fell in love and instead of his creep of a therapist telling him how they could not do anything or to see someone else for therapy and cutting off communication/contact he had sex with one of his clients.

I ask this with LOVE, but is above sentence missing a word or something?

Kind of fascinating. Was he reported for the underage stuff? (Not that having sex with current clients is exactly A-OK, either.)

--Anonymous
replies 174Jan 27, 2018 1:51 AM +00:00

R173 Oh luvvy I wouldn't remember, I am a slut anyway. The next day I had another prick up my ears. But he was very nice. Very decent. I reached for him once after a few months. He was " experiencing with a str8 couple". That scream STD to me. I cut off

--We' re french hon, no big deal
replies 175Jan 27, 2018 7:13 AM +00:00

My husband is essentually a BB slut LOL. And before you clutch your pearls, we have an "understanding." He has a very high sex drive, much higher than mine, so we decided to have an arrangement as long as he went on PrEP, which he was more than happy to do. Laugh if you must, but despite our arrangement, we love each other very much (which is why we got married!) and would never do anything to put the other's health in jeopardy. FYI, he hates condoms, as do I. Using condoms outside the marriage never even came up for discussion and we certainly never use them IN the marriage. So he pursues his BB dalliances with guys he meets on the apps, CL, and the occasional bar hook-up. It's made him a happy person because he can somewhat satify his seemingly insatiable sex drive, and it's actually spiced up OUR sex life. When he fucks me, I ask him to describe a BB encounter he had, and listening to him give details of fucking some twink raw and watching a bucket of cum ooze from his pink ass makes ME cum faster than anything. So, you could say that PrEP has spiced up our marriage.

--Anonymous
replies 176Jan 27, 2018 7:42 AM +00:00

Good for you R176. If it works well, more power to you.

--Anonymous
replies 177Jan 27, 2018 7:57 AM +00:00

Thank you, r177. This type of arrangement isn't for everyone, but it works for us.

--r176
replies 178Jan 27, 2018 8:01 AM +00:00

R174 yes the therapist was reported for the underage stuff, is no longer a therapist, is/was in prison, and is a registered sex offender.

--Anonymous
replies 179Jan 27, 2018 10:48 AM +00:00

I'm a bottom and I let the top decide if he goes raw or not. I have never met one who volunteered to wear a condom and I really don't care one way or the other. I got on PrEP two years ago and now I really don't care. Sex is just better in the heat of the moment. Condoms ruin the moment.

--Anonymous
replies 180Jan 27, 2018 10:54 AM +00:00

R176 are you on PREP?

--Anonymous
replies 181Jan 27, 2018 11:03 AM +00:00

Wow, just wow...at some of the vitriol in this thread (as I read it for the 1st time). Think I'll just try sharing a personal anecdote, without the flame-throwing.

I'm late 50s and not on PrEP, but considering it; just exited a long 1-on-1 relationship and now enjoying a few semi-anonymous hookups. Most recent CL hookup was with a late 30s guy who said he's on PrEP.. I've had some STIs in the distant past (including Hep-A), so I'm cautious now. While we right in the middle of 69ing without condoms, he brought up him fucking me. I smiled and said, "That's hot, but maybe next time." (I'd mentioned "no fucking" before we got together.)

At that point, we were holding each other's erections and negotiating -- he said, "But I'm on PrEP." I stuck with my "next time"...and we soon found other fun ways to achieve a big finish. My point is: I'm glad that PrEP exists to prevent HIV, but there really are other STIs to consider, especially when you're having sex with guys you don't know that well. And, don't be afraid to talk about what you want.

--Stay horny and healthy for years
replies 182Jan 27, 2018 11:49 AM +00:00

Guess I should add: I routinely get the full panel of STI tests once a year, and come up negative on every time. Testing is good for everyone.

--r182
replies 183Jan 27, 2018 12:19 PM +00:00

I listened to an interesting TED talk about how much of the HIV in the west is caused by Type B and all the research as been on that strain. Types A and E are far more aggressive and taking over the Phillipines and is slowly entering the west.

The speaker was warning not to be complacent, assuming we're figured out HIV. The Types A and E are going to get to the west and cause another wave of illness.

--Anonymous
replies 184Jan 27, 2018 12:49 PM +00:00

Personally, as someone who is NOT on PREP I would not risk doing it raw/bare with anyone even someone on PREP.

--Anonymous
replies 185Jan 27, 2018 1:29 PM +00:00
I listened to an interesting TED talk about how much of the HIV in the west is caused by Type B and all the research as been on that strain.

From that TED Talk, which was by infectious disease specialist Edsel Salvana:

While overall new cases of HIV continue to drop in the world, this trend may be short-lived when the next wave of more aggressive and resistant viruses arrive. HIV has a potential to transform itself into a new and different virus every time it infects a cell. Despite the remarkable progress we've made in reversing the epidemic, the truth is that we are just a few viral mutations away from disaster.

There are nearly 100 subtypes of HIV, with new subtypes being discovered regularly. HIV in the developed world is almost all of one subtype: subtype B. Mostly everything we know and do to treat HIV is based on studies on subtype B, even though it only accounts for 12 percent of the total number of cases of HIV in the world. But because of the profound genetic difference among different subtypes, some subtypes are more likely to become drug-resistant or progress to AIDS faster.

We discovered that the explosion of HIV cases in the Philippines is due to a shift from the Western subtype B to a more aggressive Southeast Asian subtype AE. We are seeing younger and sicker patients with high rates of drug resistance. Initial encroachment of this subtype is already occurring in developed countries, including Australia, Canada and the United States. We may soon see a similar explosion of cases in these countries.

And while we think that HIV is done and that the tide has turned for it, just like with real tides, it can come right back. In the early 1960s, malaria was on the ropes. As the number of cases dropped, people and governments stopped paying attention. The result was a deadly resurgence of drug-resistant malaria.

We need to think of HIV not as a single virus that we think we've figured out, but as a collection of rapidly evolving and highly unique viruses, each of which can set off the next deadly epidemic.

--Anonymous
replies 186Jan 29, 2018 5:14 AM +00:00

Thanks for posting that R186.

--Anonymous
replies 187Jan 30, 2018 10:52 AM +00:00

Publix Grocery Chain Denies PrEP Coverage to Its Employees

One of the more prominent supermarket brands in the southeast, it has taken a hard line against including the HIV-prevention medication known as pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) in the insurance coverage it offers workers. But it remains a mystery whether the company is blocking coverage for PrEP due to cost concerns or the growing cry of employers (such as Hobby Lobby) that don't want to cover medical care for issues or people they deem morally objectionable.

Publix officials did not respond to written questions about the company's rationale for omitting coverage of PrEP for its employees, but public health advocates believe it was unlikely due to costs.

--Anonymous
replies 188Jan 30, 2018 1:05 PM +00:00

R188 why should they pay for the toxic, and highly expensive PREP when the men who take it are not even going to use condoms or have safer sex?

--Anonymous
replies 189Feb 1, 2018 12:24 AM +00:00
R185 Personally, as someone who is NOT on PREP I would not risk doing it raw/bare with anyone even someone on PREP.

That's because you're sane.

--Anonymous
replies 190Feb 1, 2018 12:33 AM +00:00

There's a local guy I am friends with who wants to have sex with me and become FWB. I have never had sex with him, as he's on PREP, into barebacking, and believes that even though PREP supposedly protects you against HIV that if you get any other STIs those can easily be cured with medications. :- I know that's not true, and I would really not be surprised if this guy is HIV+ or has other STIs.

--Anonymous
replies 191Feb 6, 2018 10:25 AM +00:00

What an interesting story R191.

Very thought provoking

--Anonymous
replies 192Feb 6, 2018 11:13 AM +00:00

Well R192, it's one reason why a lot of us will not have sex with any guy on PREP as they all bareback.

--Anonymous
replies 193Feb 7, 2018 4:48 AM +00:00

I have lost hope that condoms alone will help us stem this epidemic.

People are going to have to use Prep and anti-retrovirals. All this together will bridge the gap until we eventually get some sort of vaccine

--Anonymous
replies 194Feb 7, 2018 11:16 AM +00:00

R194 So what happens when different strains of HIV become resistant to those drugs? Or when or if the drugs stop working for someone who is taking them? Also, the side effects both short and longterm for PREP and anti-retrovirals are not fun, but if you are HIV+ or living with AIDS they are better than not being on any meds at all.

--Anonymous
replies 195Feb 7, 2018 11:27 AM +00:00

I'd rather have no sex at all than use a condom. And I know MANY who feel the same.

--Anonymous
replies 196Feb 10, 2018 4:55 PM +00:00

Taking PrEP may constrain your options for long-term disability insurance:

Three years ago, Dr. Philip J. Cheng, a urology resident at Harvard’s Brigham and Women’s Hospital, nicked himself while preparing an H.I.V.-positive patient for surgery.

Following hospital protocol, he took a one-month course of Truvada, a cocktail of two anti-H.I.V. drugs, to prevent infection. Later, because he was an unattached gay man, he decided to keep taking Truvada to protect himself from getting H.I.V. through sex.

But when Dr. Cheng applied for disability insurance — which many young doctors do to protect a lifetime’s worth of income should they be hurt — he was told that, because he was taking Truvada, he could have only a five-year policy.

Insurance brokers, gay-rights advocates and staff at medical clinics said in interviews they had heard of numerous such cases. H.I.V. specialists say the denials endanger men’s lives by encouraging them to drop PrEP if they need life, disability or long-term-care insurance.

Insurers have denied life and disability coverage to men taking Truvada to prevent H.I.V. infection, say gay rights advocates and medical experts.
www.nytimes.com
--Anonymous
replies 197Feb 12, 2018 2:15 PM +00:00

"Taking PrEP may constrain your options for long-term disability insurance:"

That constraint needs to be removed from the equation, not the taking of the PrEP.

Then again, it's hard to argue against stigmatizing groups of gay men in a thread where so much of exactly that is going on.

--Anonymous
replies 198Feb 13, 2018 2:42 PM +00:00

I just had bareback sex once again last night with my 6'4" English fuck bud and it was HEAVEN.

--Anonymous
replies 199Feb 14, 2018 9:03 PM +00:00

R196 I know people like that as well, I find them very odd. As a top I always use condoms and don't ever do it raw/bare for anyone even bottoms and women-I am bisexual, who tell me how bad they want my cum in their ass or pussy.

--Anonymous
replies 200Feb 15, 2018 5:03 AM +00:00

R199 was life a banquet for the two of you? Were you passive?

--Anonymous
replies 201Feb 15, 2018 5:11 AM +00:00

No I was active, and yes it was yummy

--Anonymous
replies 202Feb 15, 2018 3:03 PM +00:00

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) just released a report about HIV trends for people under 30 in the U.S., and the numbers show an increase in one particular group: 25- to 29-year-olds.

Although we're seeing an overall "flattening" in the number of HIV infections in younger demographics — which is certainly better than an increase — the results shouldn't be taken as too encouraging.

What's worrisome is that the younger demographic of 13- to 29-year-olds makes up a disproportionate number of new HIV infections. The CDC says this group made up 23 percent of the U.S. population in 2014, but accounted for 40 percent of diagnoses that year.

Millennials aren't taking the most important preventative step.
Mashable
--Anonymous
replies 203Feb 27, 2018 8:33 AM +00:00

Interesting R203.

I think we will start to see a decline in new cases over the next few years since PrEP has become more accessible. Sadly, the population at highest risk for seroconversion (black gay men) is the same group who historically has had relatively poor access to healthcare.

--Anonymous
replies 204Feb 27, 2018 9:57 AM +00:00

Not surprising R203 considering people in that age group have the mentality that as long as they take PREP or the other guy(s) are on PREP that they can take/give all the cum they want in both holes and not get HIV or any other STIs. These fools are crazy and I would never have sex with anyone like that.

--Anonymous
replies 205Feb 28, 2018 10:50 AM +00:00

Bareback really IS the only way. If we can't do that, then Abstinence, Here We Come !

--Anonymous
replies 206Mar 3, 2018 4:32 PM +00:00

LOL R206, that's funny. Personally I am way more into oral sex getting, giving/69, kissing, and j/o with body contact. I have done anal sex as a top but only to a partner since he wanted it, and I used condoms but most of the time we would just do oral sex.

--Anonymous
replies 207Mar 5, 2018 2:43 AM +00:00

A friend of mine who is HIV neg and practises safer sex, said how bareback sex is always worth it, and that he only does it bare/raw with a partner who he is in a longterm monogamous relationship with.

--Anonymous
replies 208Mar 8, 2018 11:46 AM +00:00

A presentation at the recent 25th Conference on Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections describes what appears to be another case of infection with HIV in someone consistently taking PrEP. However a lack of monitoring and a failure to give the subject an HIV test around the time he experienced what may have been HIV seroconversion symptoms means that it is difficult to be 100% certain that this is a case of PrEP failure.

Because of lack of monitoring, t is impossible to say whether the patient caught HIV that was already resistant to the PrEP drugs tenofovir and emtricitabine, or whether resistance developed as a result of his staying on PrEP for a month after suspected symptoms of acute HIV infection were seen.

A presentation at the recent 25th Conference on Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections (CROI 2018) describes what appears to be another case of infection with HIV in someone consistently taking pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP). However, a lack of monitoring and a failure to give the subject an HIV test around the time he experienced what may have been HIV seroconversion symptoms means that it is difficult to be 100% certain that this is a case of PrEP failure.Two cases were presented in 2016 of people who were infected with drug-resistant virus despite taking PrEP, one in Toronto and one in New York.  A third case from Amsterdam in 2017 did not involve drug-resistant HIV.In this case, because of lack of monitoring, it is impossible to say whether the patient caught HIV that was already resistant to the PrEP drugs tenofovir and emtricitabine, or whether resistance developed as a result of his staying on PrEP for a month after suspected symptoms of acute HIV infection were seen.The case features the first time that analysis of tenofovir levels in hair have been used to establish retrospectively that the person infected had been consistently taking PrEP over the time he is thought to have been infected.The case involved a 34-year-old gay man from North Carolina and was presented by Joshua Thaden of the University of North Carolina, which has long hosted a key HIV clinic and research centre – it was one of the first clinics in the world to offer protease inhibitors in the 1990s.The patient concerned had a negative HIV test in December 2015, and started taking PrEP in February 2016. He insists that he had no sexual contacts between those two dates. After three months, in May 2016, he decided to stop taking PrEP as he said he didn’t think he was at risk, but resumed against two months later in July 2016.This is all taken from the patient’s retrospective account of his PrEP history. Although he was told he should attend at the end of his first and third month of PrEP for HIV testing and monitoring, he was given not just one month’s prescription but one month with eleven refill notes – so essentially a year’s worth of PrEP at once. He was not contacted when he failed to turn up for his monitoring appointments. So until January 2017, which is as far back as direct measurements of PrEP in his hair can go, we only have the patient’s assurance that he took PrEP regularly every day from July 2016 onwards.The patient stayed on PrEP until April 2017. In March 2017 he came down with symptoms suggestive of HIV seroconversion illness – namely fever and muscle ache.  However, HIV seroconversion symptoms are notoriously unspecific. The patient was given a test for influenza A and B at this point, but it is impossible to rule out that his symptoms could have been due to another viral infection. If he had been tested for HIV at this point, acute HIV infection might have been detected.He did test HIV positive when he came back for a test in April 2017 – having spent at least another month on PrEP with HIV infection. At this point his viral load was 27,000 copies/ml – typical of a ‘steady state’ infection rather than acute HIV, when viral load is usually higher. He was also tested for PrEP drug levels, which were found to be adequate, and for HIV drug resistance. He turned out to have K65R and M184V, the two signature resistance mutations against tenofovir and emtricitabine. He also had K103N, which is the most common resistance mutation to the first-generation non-nucleoside reverse transcriptase inhibitors (NNRTI) drugs efavirenz and nevirapine.He was put on an initial antiretroviral therapy (ART) regimen of rilpivirine, dolutegravir and boosted darunavir and quickly became virally suppressed, with the darunavir being withdrawn from his ART in July 2017.Because the patient had gone unmonitored for so long, it was decided to analyse tenofovir levels in his hair. These showed that he had tenofovir levels consistent with seven-day-a-week dosing between 15 January 2017 and 15 April, when he stopped PrEP. But measurements cannot go back beyond that,The researchers think that the most likely scenario is that he was infected with a virus with at least the K103N NNRTI mutation in March 2017. But were the signature PrEP resistance mutations also in the virus he acquired, or did they develop as a result of him staying on PrEP for a month – or more, if he actually caught HIV earlier – while HIV positive?On the one hand, infection with HIV with both K65R and M184V is very rare, as confirmed by another presentation from Seattle at this conference (see this article), but these mutations can develop relatively easily if someone stays on PrEP while HIV positive. The researchers therefore think this is the most likely scenario.But if his virus only had K103N when he was infected, this brings up the troubling possibility that this is the second case of PrEP breakthrough by HIV that has no prior resistance to PrEP. We will probably never know, because the chance to catch his infection in the process of it happening was missed in this case.
www.aidsmap.com
--Anonymous
replies 209Mar 9, 2018 6:50 AM +00:00

R209 what about the men who are already HIV+ who are on HIV meds that still give and take cum loads and do not practice safer sex?

--Anonymous
replies 210Mar 9, 2018 12:25 PM +00:00

Not as much as I would like. Is anyone available? :-)

--Anonymous
replies 211Mar 9, 2018 4:28 PM +00:00

Where's the "Life's a banquet!" troll?

--Anonymous
replies 212Apr 9, 2018 11:03 PM +00:00

I just reconnected with an ex-fuck buddy from a couple years ago. (He reached out to me online.) Still a nice guy and the chemistry is still there but so is the same issue that came between us the first time: he's looking for someone who will fuck him bareback and, since I refuse, he said perhaps we should just be friends this time around. I told him I'm perfectly fine with that.

It's not that I don't like him (I do) or that I wouldn't like to throw out the condoms (I fucked bareback once several years ago and know how freaking incredible it feels) but I've had more than a few scares with STDs in my day and just don't have any desire to take that risk ever again. And it's not like we would be exclusive (neither of us wants that), so who knows how many guys he could be fucking on the side (and how many without condoms). Perhaps he reached out thinking I had changed my mind on this issue in the two years since we last talked but I haven't. He's more than welcome to find someone else for sex and we'll just keep it to friendship this time.

--Anonymous
replies 213May 13, 2018 4:52 PM +00:00

You should give it a go if you like this guy. As a top, the risks really are extraordinarily low, unless the mere thought of it freaks you out - which it obviously doesn't.....

--I would
replies 214May 14, 2018 4:56 PM +00:00

Don't do it R213. I had something like you describe happen to me but the guy I once dated was married, with a husband who thought the guy I had once dated was faithful and monogamous and that's not the case.

The guy I was once involved with briefly wanted me to do other gross things to him besides bareback sex like cum in his ass, piss up his ass, and then pull out so he could suck me off and go ass to mouth. I am not into any of that sexually at all, and I figured since he wanted me to do that to him he had done it with others, so I just cut off contact as it was for the best and I'm not a homewrecker or into helping people cheat.

Also, despite what R214 said, a person who is active/top can get infected with HIV or other STDs. The risk for HIV is not as great as being fucked raw as a bottom, but it's not as low risk as oral sex is either.

--Anonymous
replies 215May 14, 2018 7:35 PM +00:00

True R190, an older gay friend of mine in his early 50s told me how he has stayed HIV neg by always using condoms and if a man wants it raw, bare, is on PrEP, or is into drugs or the whole PNP thing how it does not matter how hot they are, don't have sex with them and find someone else who is not so risky.

--Anonymous
replies 216May 15, 2018 9:10 AM +00:00

Not worth the risk

--Anonymous
replies 217May 17, 2018 12:41 PM +00:00

No it's not R217, and yet people both young adult men, and men who survived/lived through the pandemic all think it is fine.

--Anonymous
replies 218May 21, 2018 2:31 AM +00:00

I’m in my 30s and partnered. If I were single, I would definitely go on PrEP. Even though I was generally careful, there were times I stupidly had sex without a condom and then freaked out for 6 months. Also, when you’re in your 20s, there’s a good chance your “monogamous”partner is not so monogamous.

I went through my single years without knowing about PEP (maybe it wasn’t even available at the time) and I am lucky those few bad choices didn’t have lifelong consequences.

--Anonymous
replies 219May 21, 2018 3:19 AM +00:00

R219 at any age with a gay man in a supposedly monogamous partnership you should assume that your partner is not being monogamous, or has slipped up and seen someone on the side, and this even applies to if you are in an open relationship as well.

--eldergay, just being realistic.
replies 220May 21, 2018 8:07 AM +00:00

I found this on Tumblr, it makes me very glad I am not into hook ups, or being taker/passive/bottom or vers for anal sex at all. A friend of mine who is really a lot more into anal sex than I am who has safer sex, told me how bottom/vers men who want it raw/bare are common, and how it is best to avoid having sex with anyone who wants it raw/uncovered.

uncensoredpleasure “I thought he might freak out if I fucked him raw from the start, so I put on a rubber to stretch him out and get that hole nice and open. When I took it off, he didn’t say anything, but just in case I fucked him faster and held him down until I pumped my load in his hole. It’s what you wanted, isn’t it cuck? Your husband’s pussy leaking some stranger’s load on your bed? You’re welcome.”

--Anonymous
replies 221Jul 9, 2018 12:27 PM +00:00