Most women are repulsed by it and it''s understandable: why use the messy back door when the front door is so great and feels so good?%0D\
Those who accept anal do it for their guy who is either a closeted gay, or is just curious because anal is still a bit taboo in straight sex.
R2, it prevents pregnancy
r2, you can do it without losing your virginity!
clueless teen girl
Tried it but can''t get off of it.
43% seems high. Where''s that stat from OP?
Link, please, OP.
Julianne Moore, seriously !!
"it prevents pregnancy"%0D\
R4,so do condoms and other forms of contraception.%0D\
I don''t see why a woman would want to be anally inserted (with the pain it entails) to prevent pregnancy rather than having proper protected intercourse.%0D\
Unless she''s a masochist.%0D
I love it.
I wouldn''t say that we''re repulsed by it, but since we don''t have prostate glands we can''t get an orgasm out of it. So there''s less incentive for a woman to present her hole. At least with vaginal sex you get a little clitoral friction that might lead to something.
43% of women have had anal sex once\
3% of women have had anal sex more than once.
I can make up statistics, too!
r12, anal sex DOES lead to orgasm in women. It helps hit the G-spot, as the wall between the anus and the vagina is very thin. The tunnel of the rectum canal positions the male member upwards, just towards the exact point where the G-spot is located, on the opposite side of the wall divider. Look it up, and try it!
R14 = straight guy trying to convince unwilling female
No they haven''t OP. You got the decimal in the wrong place. It''s more like 4.3%.%0D\
Women get nothing from anal and the vast majority of straight men don''t even ask for it. Why would they when they''ve got something better 2 inches away?%0D\
If a guy asked me to do it I''d say, "sure, but you first." Then I''d get the biggest dildo I could find and go to town.
Most younger women today do anal as an alternative to what they call real sex. The same thing with blow jobs. As those acts are considered not to be real sex, they can fool around that way.
[quote]Tried it but can''t get off of it.%0D\
Lube helps with that.
98% of Catholic women.
[quote]As those acts are considered not to be real sex, they can fool around that way.\
But why would they want to, is what I''m wondering? Maybe my body''s a special snowflake, but I know I can''t come from my ass (no prostrate gland) or mouth.
I don''t know R20. Do they actually want to, or do they feel they need to in order to hang on to the guy? %0D\
We''ve all heard of girls who were more than willing to give blow jobs with no reciprocation. I always assumed it was something they eventually grew out of.
OP, does this include women topping as well as bottoming?
I love how R14 always posts on these threads desperately trying to convince everyone she gets an orgasm from anal - because my g-spot is right next door!%0D\
what a goofball.
I know someone who gave guys anal for years before she did ''real'' sex. It''s just a way to give into the pressure and keep a guy happy, but still keep your virginity.
When a (straight) guy says that he has done a woman "from behind", does that mean he fucked her in the vagina from behind, or fucked her in the ass? I don''t think it is always clear, so any survey may be skewed.
There is nothing ''gay'' about an ass. I''m tired of people saying because a straight guy wants to bugger his woman that it''s a sure sign he''s gay.
I hate anal sex; it''s too frigging painful with no pleasure...and I''m a gay guy. I can''t imagine the women feel anything other than torture.
[quote]Most younger women today do anal as an alternative to what they call real sex. The same thing with blow jobs. As those acts are considered not to be real sex, they can fool around that way.%0D\
R17 , your comment I quoted above is interesting. %0D\
Does this mean that nothing gay men do with each other is "real sex"?%0D\
Of course I guess with that line of reasoning it would also indicate that perhaps absolutely nothing lesbians do together is "real sex".%0D\
A more logical conclusion is that "younger women today" might be delusional about what constitutes "real sex"%0D\
To me, anything that provides erotic stimulation that can lead to orgasm is "real sex". %0D\
As for anal, I find that the general anal area is indeed an erogenous zone, but I do not want anything large and painful rammed into my behind.%0D
Lesbian Getting Undressed For An Afternoon of Real Sex
R26, I don''t think it''s a sure sign he''s gay, but it IS a sure sign he''s a selfish asshole since a woman gets nothing from it.
The high percentages mean women think sticking a finger in his ass counts as "anal sex."%0D
There have been a few stories over the past couple of years that say more women than ever have tried anal sex at least once. The number who continued to have it was much lower. My personal opinion is that while some women do enjoy it, more do it because the guy wants it and more guys want it because of all the anal sex pron out there.
"since a woman gets nothing from it"%0D\
I get something from it, so please speak for yourself.
Well,you can blame Bill Clinton for that shift in perception, R29. I''m in my late 40''s and I distinctly remember oral as being far more sexual/kinky/intimate than intercourse when I was a young teenager. If you were dating someone you had intercourse first, then you progressed to oral. Now it''s the reverse. Young people consider everything but intercourse to be "fooling around", but not sex. It''s weird to me, but I guess I''m just old.
old straight gal
The first time was because a guy I was dating wanted to try. I liked it. We didn''t have lube so we had vaginal sex for a bit to take advantage of the natural lube and then switched.\
I''ve had anal with other men and women and can get off from it as long as there is clitoral stimulation as well.\
I love the way it feels even when I don''t cum. In certain positions a woman can get g-spot stimulation.\
I''ve never found it painful, but I''ve always been seriously turned on before starting.
Another One of the Lesbians
Technically, r34, one would need to blame Ken Starr and the idiot GOP for wasting billions of taxpayer dollars exploring the issue of whether oral sex is sex. I''m sure we''re in for another round of something similar. Thank you, diebold.
[quote]I know someone who gave guys anal for years before she did ''real'' sex. It''s just a way to give into the pressure and keep a guy happy, but still keep your virginity.\
Yeah, this whore is a "virgin."
Interesting R34. I would have thought it was only "sex" for them when there was a risk of pregnancy.
[quote]more guys want it because of all the anal sex porn out there.%0D\
I agree with R32.%0D\
While on a trip to Florida, I remember overhearing a conversation between two redneck type guys discussing doing anal sex with their women. They were comparing notes and seemed surprised that their women did not like it and refused to do it again. %0D
It would be interesting to see how what percentage of women have had it twice. I suspect it drops from 43% to about 3%.\
I think it''s on every couple''s checklist of things to do, and once you do it that''s it. I also think "anal sex" might involve about 2" of actual penetration in most cases.
I''m in my early 30''s and feel the same as you, r34.
My boyfriend is obsessed with my ass and would probably try anal sex if I allowed him (I won''t), but he is more than happy with vaginal sex doggy style.\
I think that way is win-win for both parties.
The young Hispanic guys at work talk about it endlessly, and if their comments about women mean anything, the bigger the butt the better they like her.\
Maybe there''s a cultural filter that needs to be applied here?
Just because we are posting about women having anal sex, it doesn''t mean we want to hear women posting about THEIR anal sex, or their sex, or themselves, or anything at all. Unless it is about how their boyfriends inevitably are tiring of them.\
Getting back to some DL fundamentals
Not sure whether r23 is a woman who doesn''t get anything out of anal sex or a gay man with a lot of Proven Scientific Opinions on how women experience sexual pleasure or achieve orgasm, but either way they can go fuck themselves\
Having said that, any Women''s and Gender Studies minor worth her salt should be able to get her boyfriend into regular pegging
R43, I believe that translates out into college level boy talk of "the bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin''"
I like big butts and I cannot lie (actually I am lying)
There''s a women-don''t-do-anal troll who had a meltdown in the triple penetration thread.\
The fact is that, like gay men, some women refuse to do anal. Many love it, however.
I''m a lesbian and I love it. I''ve had my gf give me anal with a strap on and it drives me insane. Just because you don''t like it doesn''t mean all women don''t like it.
Many moons ago, before I came out as a lesbian I slept with several men (i.e more than 10) and every single one of them wanted to do anal with me. Straight men love to give anal just as much as gay men do, but they don''t talk about it. They beg you for it in fact.
There are at least 25 ''women-don''t-do-anal'' so-called trolls in any given anal sex thread, R47. You know why? The vast majority of women do [italic]not[/italic] want anal sex, and those people are experienced enough in life to know that.
I agree with some of the generalizations that are posted on this thread that it is a sign that the guy is gay. Most likely the guy is so deeply closeted that he isn''t aware he is gay. I think it is really interesting and stupid at the same time to over generalize all straight men like anal sex isn''t true. I know many straight men who puke at the very thought. They have said to me, ewwww! yuck! that is where a woman craps! They generally are grossed out.
R14 is wrong because he or she does not know where the G Spot is located. It is not on the side of the vagina that backs up the anal cavity. It is on the side in back of the pubic bone (the front side). That is why you hook your fingers towards the front of the vagina when inserting them to look for the G spot, and why vibrators that are for G spot stimulation also hook that way.
Maybe, but many gay guys have sex with women at one point or another. Ever heard one talk about having anal sex with a woman?
[quote]When a (straight) guy says that he has done a woman "from behind", does that mean he fucked her in the vagina from behind, or fucked her in the ass?\
"...he''s a selfish asshole since a woman gets nothing from it."%0D\
There is no ''bad sex''- only bad lovers. Most guys get their knowledge of sex from porn, where a big ol'' dick slips in there like buttah. Unless you''re a stretched out old hobag, it''s a delicate operation that requires a lot of preparation and care.%0D\
I''m a gay male and the few times I''ve done it have been with guys who just shoved it in (talk about surprised anal) and it felt like exploratory surgery without anesthetic- yeow. Ain''t no one going there again til they use fingers and tongues and lotsa lube.
No I haven''t R53. But I think in that particular case those guys know they are gay, but have trouble accepting it so they constantly engage in vaginal intercourse in order to reinforce their false beliefs that they are straight. I know this one guy who will not use sexual labels to define his sexuality. He said doesn%E2%80%99t have a problem, and he is self-accepting. However, I think he is still in denial that he is really gay. No label on one%E2%80%99s sexuality is kind of insulting when you think about.
She''s melting down again.\
Honey, just because you don''t like something, don''t freak out that others do.\
Strident, monotonous, dogmatic cunt.
I wonder if they shit all over the guy after it.
You''re in the minority here, R57.
Get Used To It
Not a fan of anal but I love the butthole surfers, does that count?
[quote]The fact is that, like gay men, some women refuse to do anal. Many love it, however.%0D\
You got that backwards, sweetie. Some women love it--very few. Many, many, many hate it.%0D\
Men''s anus and colon have thicker walls and stronger muscles than women''s. This makes anal less painful for men.
Really, R62? I never heard that.
Tig is the OP trolling for partners.
R62 is talking crap. A rectum is a rectum.
Does anyone remember when Ennis had sex with his wife in brokeback? He turned her around - was it for anal or doggy style? I''m a woman and I couldn''t be sure where he was heading in that scene. From the look on Michelle William''s face, I got the impression it was anal. Anybody else think that?
has there been a LINK to this absurd theory?
r66 it was obviously anal. Having actually dated a repressed bi guy in my time I think it would have been more realistic for Ennis to have left the local alt-weekly open on Michelle''s kitchen table with the pages turned to a Savage Love column about pegging, but whatever
R 29 I knew you were a lesbian from the get go! Chill girl! I was talking about what the young straight girls are saying,nothing more than that.Quite a few young straight women do not consider fellatio or anal sex as "real sex" in the same way they view good ole penile/vaginal sex. The one that gets their Daddy to get their shotgun when some young wanker knocks her up!;)You know that type of sex.... That''s what they are talking about also. A blow job is not seen as such a big deal to these young girls, plenty of them blow guys without any commitment because it doesn''t constitute "real sex" in their eyes.I knew a twenty something girl who would blow guys left and right BUT give her pussy to her boyfriend and that made her sucking half of Long Island off OK! :)
r14 Great but there are no men that will take the time to learn that. Thank God for strap-ons!!
Stephen Harper came to the door looking for votes... next thing you know... you''re buggered.
R66, it was definitely anal. Ennis was imagining he was having sex with Jack and using his wife in the process.\
BTW, I''m a woman and I''ve had anal sex several times. I''m not crazy about it--it does hurt but it can be pleasurable...somewhat. \
I don''t like having it all the time--that''s for sure.
Yes straight women do anal and straight men don''t ask for it they just flip you over and go at it.%0D\
Almost every single straight man I''ve been with has been interested in Anal. A few really large dudes didn''t try it but most did and I was okay with it. Kinda like it because it feels like I''m being dominated and I like that feeling sometimes. %0D\
I haven''t had an O from it but it gets me hot and horny and ready for more.
Somehow I doubt anti-anal rants on a gay site represent the majority view, R59.\
But I do understand that entitled cunts can never accept any disagreement with their proclamations.\
Must make life tough...
I love it. Hell, if I had a prostate I doubt I would leave the house again.
One of the lesbians
[quote]Young people consider everything but intercourse to be "fooling around", but not sex.\
R34, I''m in my early 40s and when I was in college everything up to intercourse was hooking-up. It''s not a Clinton thing.\
And I''ve also had anal sex.
[quote]A more logical conclusion is that "younger women today" might be delusional about what constitutes "real sex"%0D\
LOL R69 . I never played the "I want to remain a technical vaginal virgin and delude myself that I am not engaging in real sexual activity" game when I was a teenager. I was never sexually interested in boys so whatever I was doing with girls was just sex. %0D\
I understand what you are saying about young straight girls.%0D\
I really have no argument against your point of view. It''s those illogical young straight girls I have an issue with. %0D\
Of course it is not entirely their fault. We all know girls are socialized to "remain virginal" after puberty even when their hormones are raging, but boys are more likely to be encouraged to be real men and no stigma is attached to "real sex". %0D\
That Lesbian At R 29
R2, that''s ridiculous and R12, you don''t know what you are talking about. The best orgasms I ever had were with anal sex. And I may not have a prostate, but when a guy hits "that spot" I orgasm spontaneously.
I was with a girl in college who would only take it in the ass....for 2 years. She loved it. Made animal noises. And it is true that straight buys love banging chicks butts...it is more socially acceptable than , god forbid, banging a man. *gasp* . With that all said, I have also met many women who use vibrators and/or dildos on their straight guys. I think one note sexuality is all bullshit in straight guys. Pleasure is pleasure and everyone is unique in how they get it. Depends on your predisposition, age, etc., etc, etc
oh come on...we all know women are trash and will do anything if they think it will get them a new coat.
I think anal sex between supposedly religious straight teens who want to preserve their "virginity" is now called "saddlebacking," after that big church in Orange County, CA where that asshole preacher preaches.
It probably deserves its own thread, but is virginity still a big deal? I know losing it is a big deal for guys, but do girls really still give a damn about remaining pure?
Link is NSFW
Men who want women for sex partners are straight no matter what sex acts they prefer. Many, most, probably prefer vaginal intercourse, some prefer oral, some prefer anal, some can only come after some sort of intercourse followed by self-masturbation.
If there is a man who wants to have only anal sex and wants to have it only with a woman, then he is a heterosexual man with a heavy-duty fetish. There are women out there, not many, but some who would be delighted to find him.
If there is a man who can only get off when a woman uses a vibrator on his ass, and he wants to be sexual only with women, then he is straight guy with an ass that likes attention.
Those of you who say that a guy who wants to have anal sex with a woman is in the closet, how about this?
Many women will say that they only want sex with a man, and the sex they want with a man -- what works best -- is receiving oral sex or having a man masturbate them. Why? That's a pretty sure way of getting them to come.
If a man who wants anal sex with a woman is in the closet, is a woman who wants a man, and only a man, to go down on her, or to finger her, or to use a vibrator on her a closeted lesbian because that's the way lesbians do it?
That doesn't make sense.
Sexual response and climax -- what people want and how they can come ranges all over the map. I would think the gay/lesbian/transgendered community would be on to this because their climaxes come about in situations that represent a minority of all sexual situations.
The brain is the primary sexual arousal organ. When I was young (straight male) I could come if I went down on some woman with whom the chemistry was really intense with no other stimulation.
I can't do it now because the hormone levels have dropped, so what you like to do and can do changes from person to person and with the same person over time.
Women, from my experience (quite a whore in my time, 40 partners or so) and from what I have read, are, typically, slower to respond but they can respond to more diverse stimulation. Women who are multi-orgasmic can also keep going longer than men.
Remember, we are talking a range of behavior -- I had a girl friend whose response time was faster than mine. Too bad she liked someone else better.
By diverse stimulation, here's what I mean. Some women in the right place with the right chemistry can have orgasms from back rubs and breast caressing.
Dirty talk can push some over the edge -- there is a video going around now showing a woman having a climax on a roller coaster.
I understand that some women can have climaxes while leaning against a washer in a spin cycle or while letting the shower wash over them. I could have done that at 15, but not at 60.
Somebody here said that if you wanted anal sex with a woman and you were a guy, then that meant you were in the closet because all the straight men HE knew thought it was disgusting.
A lot of straight guys do. A lot of straight guys thinking going down on a woman is disgusting, probably more than think anal sex with a woman is disgusting, actually.
I knew a straight guy one time who thought having a woman go down on him would be disgusting. Well that's a minority opinion, but hey, it's his cock and his brain. If he's happy with it, and so is she, great!
A small subset of women enjoy anal sex, just as a small subset enjoy public sex, being fucked in the armpit, being teased by the hour, whatever. Just because a woman does not have a prostate does not mean she cannot have an orgasm having anal sex.
Here's a link, NSFW, that illustrates how all the nerves and tissues in the anus and vagina are interconnected. If the sex wiring and the brain's desires are in tune, then women can have orgasms many different ways, including having a penis in their ass.
R83 nails it. Life isn''t simple, and neither is physiology. My most intense orgasms have come from anal. I''ve also orgasmed from having my neck and back licked and bitten.
r84 = failed comedian
How do lesbians have anal with their gf''s??
I wonder if it''s easier or more difficult for a woman to take a cock up the poop shoot? I mean, they have the empty cavity of the vagina to absorb some of the bulk. But they are smaller-framed than a man. And they have no prostate to make it all worthwhile.
Let''s not forget: men don''t marry the up-the-butt girl.\
r87, it''s poop chute, not poop shoot.
[quote] I don''t see why a woman would want to be anally inserted (with the pain it entails) to prevent pregnancy rather than having proper protected intercourse. Unless she''s a masochist.%0D\
Unless she''s a fundie and wants to stay an official virgin. %0D
Anal is messy business. You have to ''eliminate'', douche and pre-lube. Then you should start off with a smaller dildo to get things loosened up down there.%0D\
Imagine the horror stories women can tell concerning men who thought they could just shove it in porno-style!
[quote] it''s poop chute, not poop shoot.\
Have you eaten at Taco Bell lately?
[quote]43% seems high. Where''s that stat from OP?\
R83 - str8 guy into anal.%0D\
Lesbians who like anal are perverts.
[quote]Women get nothing from anal and the vast majority of straight men don''t even ask for it. Why would they when they''ve got something better 2 inches away?%0D\
I love how R16 seems to have no clue why a nice tight hole is better than her sloppy loose gash.%0D\
I recently worked with a girl who told me that her boyfriend loves doing anal on her, (although she can take it or leave it), and just recently, he''s allowed her to stick a finger up his ass. Guess he''s "anal curious".
Is there a link for this statistic, OP?
Wow, R86 had to think three whole months about this topic before formulating a question.
[quote] As those acts are considered not to be real sex, they can fool around that way.%0D\
So, all gay men are virgins then. No wonder we''re so judgmental.
My best friend (a straight woman) LOVES anal sex. I don''t really get the appeal (I''m a woman, never tried it and don''t have any plans to) but she really gets off on it. I imagine the orgasms stem more from a psychological thing than a physical thing, but she doesn''t care, and why should she?
[quote]As those acts are considered not to be real sex, they can fool around that way.\
I love that. I''m a lesbian and I actually used that against a bible-beating acquaintances when they found out (not successfully of course, but the reaction was hilarious).\
"I only eat pussy!" I said. "No disgusting sodomy. No pre-marriage intercourse either!" I told them I was keeping myself pure for Jesus and acted scandalized at the heathens all around me lol.
I just find it hard to believe the average straight woman likes anal sex. I''ve always assumed it was just porn stars who are into it.
[quote]I just find it hard to believe the average straight woman likes anal sex. \
Well every survey I''ve ever seen backs you up. But I think the OP was just talking about "tried it". Not "liked it".\
[quote]A Redbook poll of 26,000 women found 40 percent had done it but only 12 percent liked it. In Puerto Rico %E2%80%94 and Latin America as a region seems to be highly butt-sex-friendly %E2%80%94 80 percent of female college students surveyed said anal sex was always or almost always the guy''s idea.
We do have anal sex. I don''t want it all the time but every now and then I like it. %0D\
What''s the big deal, so what we like it r101. I find it hard to believe that men like to suck dick, really hard for me to believe it.
Do you take an enema, R103?
I believe the 43%. I tried it once, but really didn''t feel good at all. So, I bet there are many more like me, who would help make up the 43%
I''m a perverted lesbian who enjoys anal with women and who has enjoyed it with men in the past.%0D\
The pain is minimal and more anticipatory than anything else, the good feelings are amazing. There are so many nerve endings in and around the anus that are largley ignored most of the time. Once they get some attention they send pure pleasure throughout the body.%0D\
I can''t imagine it feeling even better, but it must since the guys talk about how good it feels to have their prostates rubbed.
I love anal, too, with men and women. I actually prefer it to getting fucked vaginally. The orgasms are much more intense.
I don''t believe that percentage for 1 second.
just imagine what percentage it would have been if women had prostates?
Is taking a pinky up the ass considered anal sex?
lesbian who wants to jump on the boat
I''m game, cuz my vagina is otherwise occupied.
Woman with $51.22, some pills, some heroin and empty bags in her cunt
r104, never and there were no complaints of any kind. No lube either. Usually after vaginal, I get flipped over and I''m ready to receive.
I am a married woman and I have anal and it doesn't hurt, it feels amazing- it combines the stimulation of the g-spot and the sensations of vaginal sex. I have had orgasms during anal. So all you nay-sayers try not to act like you know about something you know nothing about.
R113 You go girl!
You guys...I didn't want to mention it--but damn, anal sex...now that's what I'm talking about.
No birth control necessary, Rick Santorum
I for one LOVE anal sex!!!
But my husband says he finds in painful, so he only will let me strap it on a few times a month.
So how come it's only hell, fire and damnation when gays have anal sex?
I'm a gay man. and I don't do it because I don't find any pleasure in it--and it hurts like hell. But I don't care if someone else does it as long as they act responsibly and use a condom.
All I see here is a huge amount of either bigoted old fashioned prudes or religious zealots mis quoting and or mis understanding their teachings. The Op's numbers are absolutely accurate. Look around You bunch of dorks! I'd hate to married to any of You selfish, egomaniacs!
I tend to use the back door when the front door is too far away.
R2/10= resident homophobe frau. Get lost bitch.
How many are exclusive tops?
Look, vaginal sex can be messy and painful too. There's a lot of homophobic bullshit going on here. Most straight guys do not know how to fuck women. Most straight women prefer oral anyway. there is not one "natural" way to have sex. You have to KNOW what you're doing.
This thread is useless without pictures.
On second thought, never mind.
Is this relevant?
[quote]Yes straight women do anal and straight men don't ask for it they just flip you over and go at it.
What fucking kind of straight men do this? Serial rapists?
If any guy ever shoved it in my asshole without clear and unmistakable permission, I would immediately get dressed and leave.
Does anyone call it Greek style anymore?
I'm actually going to break off with a guy who wants anal to the point of fetishness. He's pretty much perfect except he's a little too into anal sex to the point he wanted to buy me a training kit with different sized butt plugs.