And what is the longest you have stayed at one?\
What the hell? Why hasn''t this thread picked up? All the promiscuous gay DLers, c''mon out!
I''ve been at some underwear parties out on Fire Island, but I don''t know if that counts. I usually got there around midnight and left around 3am.%0D\
I''ve been at bathhouses for no more than 4 or 5 hours at a time.%0D\
Not sure if this counts. Sorry OP!
Empress Michiko of Japan
I try to go to a sex party once a week but, \
somtimes there isn''t one so in those weeks, I\
will go to a sex club.
No thanks, Mr. Wildmon. I''m not going to help you gather anecdotes for one of your disingenuous "studies" of gay male sexual behavior. Peddle your bullshit elsewhere, you hateful, evil bastard.
I used to, in my 20s. I had a neighbor who threw wild parties every couple of months, usually they would end up becoming orgies.\
I also used to go to "hotel sex parties". Those could be pretty amazing. At one in particular I remember getting fucked by five or six guys. Then, after showering and getting ready to leave, this hot daddy type showed up so I let him fuck me too while a bunch of other guys watched and jacked off on me.
old, married, & boring now
Not often enough.%0D\
Only ever attended a few in my life, none in the last half-decade really.%0D\
I miss them. They were fun.%0D
There were drugs involved. It was fucking incredible.
Never. A friend told me once about an "audition" for a sex party that he subjected himself to. He had to strip naked in front of a panel of 8 guys, who all wrote down a score. Later, in the "audition hall" one of the panels guys came out and read out the names of the people who had been picked. He wasn''t one of them. He never quite recovered from the snub, going so far as working out 6 days a week and taking steroids so he''d always be invited in to the A-list orgies. \
Anyway, after hearing that story I was forever turned off by the idea of any group sex scene. Sounds fucking grim beyond words.
r10, wow. Why would someone subject himself to something so heinous? Rejected "by committee?" Nice.
[quote]A-list orgies. \
Who''s considered "A-list" at these orgies? Not REAL stars.
[quote]He never quite recovered from the snub, going so far as working out 6 days a week and taking steroids so he''d always be invited in to the A-list orgies.\
At least the story had a happy ending.
Perhaps if your friend had brought along a pot or two of homemade jam, r10?
Bengali in Platforms
I''m sure your friend will be quite well adjusted as he ages.
[quote]Never. A friend told me once about an "audition" for a sex party that he subjected himself to. He had to strip naked in front of a panel of 8 guys, who all wrote down a score. Later, in the "audition hall" one of the panels guys came out and read out the names of the people who had been picked. He wasn''t one of them. He never quite recovered from the snub, going so far as working out 6 days a week and taking steroids so he''d always be invited in to the A-list orgies%0D\
That sucks for your friend. But, that''s understandable from the point of the "committee" who was just making those cuts to suit their specific set of requirements. Maybe your friend should organize his own orgies or something.
The question is not how often do I attend, but how often do I not attend.
[quote]The question is not how often do I attend, but how often do I not attend.%0D\
Are you just not into group sex in general or is it the quality issue?
Remember that thread about the couple who were tired of being rejected at sex parties, so they were hosting their own and it was a potluck? And people attending had to not be "age-ist" and "looks-ist?" And both guys looked like Groundkeeper Willy''s uglier, out of shape cousins?%0D\
Is that what the pot of jam is in reference to?
Went to ACJ one time which is a gay jack-off group in SoCal that meets once a month.
Does anyone believe R5?
Not all gays are promiscuous whores, slut OP.
In my 30s, I attended one every other month or so... sometimes every month (summer).
I haven't been to one in ages. I'm too old and out of shape to get invites any more (if anyone I know is still holding them, who knows).
Never. I'm not interested in group sex. I don't like people just walking over and trying to get it on with me!
I too. stupidly, went to an "audition" when I was in my 20's and was rejected. I breathed a sigh of relief when I found out a few years later, that 2 of the judges died of AIDS.
About once every two months. They are always hot, hot, hot.
But they are,R23,they are!
Auditioning for a sex party is tantamount to auditioning to get your hair done.
I'm too ADHD to go to a sex party. I wouldn't know where to focus my attentions.
The arrogance of making someone audition for a sex party is pretty breathtaking.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: many gay men secretly wish they were one of the Heathers.
r32, I don't think it's so secret. Many "men" openly act that way and take pride in being a Heather.
Almost weekly until 2003 when I retired from the group sex scene.
And when I say retired, I'm really referring to something more akin to Carousel in Logan's Run.
How could you guys so cavalierly put yourself at risk for AIDS and other STDs by attending these parties? Sometimes I wonder...
Never have. Never wanted to. Haven't even fantasized about that one.
Is the food any good?
Exactly what R36 said. It must be a New York thing.
R38, I've never lived anywhere near New York (the city or the state).
And why WOULDN'T you want to? It's a hell of a lot of fun, with very little stress or pressure or anything like that.
And R35, you can be safe and still play. Sheesh. Educate yourself.
When I first moved to the city, I used to go quite a bit, maybe once a month. It was new, exciting, and a little sleazy. Of course, I was always safe and had a blast. I used to frequent a party in Grammercy which, at the beginning, had some of the hottest men I'd ever seen. White, black, Latin, you name it. All there and all HOT. That party seemed to get a little less strict with the door, and I stopped going. Nobody wants to be one of two hot guys at a sex party and deal with fuggos jerking off watching the two of you fuck around when you inevitably find each other.
Now, I'm kind of over it. I had an interest, explored it, and moved on. No harm, no foul. I think I just kind of outgrew it.
Not everyone is like you, R24. How presumptuous, to think that everyone has fun the exact way you do...
Um, since I have no desire to get AIDS...never!
This never interested me.
Plus I've never done drugs (except an occasional drink) so I probably wouldn't fit in.
has anyone ever been to this? I know they have these for just about every city.
They sound filthy, just totally unhygienic. I don't want no STDs, so no thanks.
I went to one when I turned 22. I was methed out and they just used me up. I was the bottom for 9 guys. No condoms, no testing, but they plowed into me. Filled every hole I had with cum. Now that I'm sober, I would like to do it, so that I'm aware of what I'm allowing to happen to my body. Being worshiped by all of those guys would be a total headrush.
They aren't worshipping you.
[quote] They aren't worshipping you.
Unless they are Asian guys
Just how sex negative are you r50? Gay men don't defile each other. And the act and art of sex is not wrong in any form between consenting adults.
That's not a real phrase, dear. Are you in your 40's or 50's?
I visited Amsterdam once. It was on a Sunday and there was a bar that had a sex party. I was told the first and third Sunday afternoon of the month this bar has a sex party, and the second and 4th Sunday afternoon some other bar has it. The guy telling me this was lamenting the fact that if there is a 5th Sunday of the month, there is no sex party. Awwww. I'd be a big ol' whore if I lived there.
There aren't enough 22 and under sex parties.
R46 are you negative?
Never. No desire to take those kinds of risks with my health.
[quote]And the act and art of sex is not wrong in any form between consenting adults.
Fair enough, but I wouldn't call taking 9 strangers' loads while too drugged up to exercise good judgement "right" either.
Forty and fifty years ago, most gay men fought a battle just not to feel ashamed about having any kind of sex with each other, so they went overboard and now any suggestion of any kind of limit is threatening and labelled sex negative. They feel betrayed that what they fought for isn't enough. That it might morph into something mainstream is confusing and threatening to them.
That's why you see posts on here ranging from 'you are sex negative' to 'filthy and unhygienic.' The previous uniformity of what it meant to be gay is shattering (the variations always existed, hence the small number of gay men who set up conventional relationships that lasted for fifty years, but now they are not anomalies).
In ten or twenty years the sex obsessed, promiscuous gay man will seem as historic and inexplicable as the people who believed in segregation or prohibition or women without the vote. Gay relationships will be formed in every social setting, with the bonus it will always be a lot less effort to get laid!
Gay sex parties will seem as obscure as straight swinging parties... they'll still exist but most people won't live like that.
I'm going to one tonight. It's in LA
I went to the one last night at Paddles in Chelsea. It was fucking hot. Fucked some daddy with a hot body and a hot hole, then after a ton of play got sucked to completion by some guy from London I think. Also ran into a guy I went on a single date with two years ago that ended up having a HUGE dick that I sucked. Nipple play with a hot Euro guy with a huge dick, some twentysomething Jew gagged on my cock. And I blew this other white dude with an enormous dick. Hot times. Fun and totally safe. I'll definitely go again.
It all seemed fun, safe, and SAFE. I heard guys audibly tell partners to put condoms on more than one, which was fun. It was a safe and cool environment to explore sexuality and it was heartening to see so many hot guys playing safe.
[quote]The arrogance of making someone audition for a sex party is pretty breathtaking.
I hate looksism, but come on. It's a sex party, not a poker game. Would you want to have sex with anyone who just shows up?
Been to parties that turned into sex parties, but have never chosen to go to one intentionally. Now I'm curious, but too shy to pursue it.
[quote] The arrogance of making someone audition for a sex party is pretty breathtaking.
The only way for a sex party to work, is if all the participants and attracted to one another.
If there is just one bad apple, the whole thing falls apart.
Sad but true.
Never. Some things are only good in fantasy.
[quote]Fair enough, but I wouldn't call taking 9 strangers' loads while too drugged up to exercise good judgement "right" either.
That's sex positive, Mary. This is what we're striving for.
A huge cock trumps lookism any day...okay well a huge working cock.
[quote] A huge cock trumps lookism any day...okay well a huge working cock.
So you would take the cock of a 70 year old, morbidly obese guy. As long as it was working and HUGE
Do we have that correct?
I attend on the day of the full moon
You gay guys are gross, no wonder so many of you have STDs. You would never catch lesbians doing group sex with strangers.
Well if anyone ever wondered how AIDS spread so quickly and easily,there you go.
Not every group sex party involves HIV+ men infecting other men through unprotected sex, you morons.
I attended one party here in NYC and hated it. Stayed for hours. Left angry. I think I shot only two loads. It was supposed to be selective, but man -- the guys were not my cup of tea.
They all wore condoms, though, as far as I could see.
R69, that's because women generally do not have the sex drives that men do. We are wired quite differently. If women did, you can bet that there would be straight group sex parties attended by hetero men and women. Are you really that ignorant?