I''m not attracted to enough people to ever be promiscuous

Are you a woman or a man?

He's a narcissist is what s/he is.

[quote]how some people can date so much%0D %0D What does "date" mean?

Me too. Most people are like you OP.

Nothing is wrong with NOT being a whore, OP. Good for you.

I agree with R5, you have nothing to be ashamed of. But, I'll add that if you're really horny, you can simply be attracted to getting off, not so much the person. Sure, they can't be repulsed such that you can't get turned on at all, but they hardly have to be fantasy material.

Op should understand it's not about the attraction; it's all about the score.

Oh, I'm attracted to enough people alright. It's sadly just that I'm not attractive enough to be promiscuous.

You could still go into it for the money if it's bothering you so much, OP.

it isn't really a problem, I was just noticing the difference between me and two straight guys at work. They seem to be hot for every woman on the planet whereas I just occasionally find a guy cute.(I'm a guy by the way)

Maybe they just want to be seen as players.

"Op should understand it's not about the attraction; it's all about the score."%0D %0D %0D %0D %0D What is the point of scoring with an ugly person? How can you get it up for someone you don't find attractive?%0D %0D

How do they do it, OP? I got two words for you: beer goggles.

i find even if I'm physically attracted to somebody once I get to know them their either a moron or an ass so my attraction dies. I don't bother dating alot either.

OP, Where do you live. In NYC I find it like a candy store personally. But I am not promiscuous. I like to look though.

There are many reasons I am not promiscuous (religious, moral, fear of disease, social stigma,guilt), but one of the very basic reasons is that I find a small percentage of people hot, and of that small group, only a small percentage of them are available or mutually interested in me. I have no desire to have sex with anyone that I do not find very hot. Sex is gross if I am not totally into the physical looks of a person. I know some guys that can have sex with people they don't find absolutely hot. I find that odd. There is no way I could.....

Good question, r11. Why do people want to have sex with someone they don't find to be a hottie? That is strange to me.

He's not saying that he's not promiscuous, he's saying he's not attracted to many people.%0D %0D I'm the same, OP. A good friend of mine says he sees guys he fancies every time he goes out. I can go for weeks without finding anyone attractive and it's rare that I really get turned on by someone. In fact a lot of my relationships have been with people who I'm only half attracted to, as opposed to full on.%0D I recently decided that I'm going to wait until that happens in future.%0D %0D I've never understood the mentality of people who can go to a park or something and just have it off with whoever is there.

"Good question, [R11]. Why do people want to have sex with someone they don't find to be a hottie? That is strange to me."%0D %0D For the same reason people eat McDonald's or Wendy's when they're in a pinch for time. It satisfies one of our most basic desires (hunger) even if it doesn't really look or taste good.%0D %0D

Serial daters dont have any love in them

This thread is filled with Homely Harrys.

but you have to eat, even if the food doesn't taste great. if you can't be with an absolute hot person that pleases your eyes, why not just masturbate>?

People who are promiscuous are not dating.

Some guys are not as driven by looks or body as other guys. I wonder if that is a more feminine trait.

I can't believe people aren't going around with lesions and running sores from the type of risks they take. If they ever outlaw abortion there will be mass deaths as women try to do it themselves in the bathroom. With the level of bed-hopping going on, in ten years everyone will have every std and be sterile. And have bedbugs.

The older the am the pickier I am, I honestly have no desire for anyone but my boyfriend. Ironically when I was young and cute and had more guys to pick from I was less choosy and a bit of a slut.%0D %0D

I'm the same, OP, but I'm a woman so it is probably different for us. It's not so much the looks or the body, but the lack of an interesting personality for me.

I'm the same way, OP. And I think it makes me appreciate the handful of people who *have* caught my attention even more.

He's just not that into you... and you... and you... and you...

I agree, OP.

There's some good wisdom here OP, like R7 and R8.

I had this dear friend/fuckbuddy who I first met at the baths. I later found out that our terrific sexual adventure was his first anal experience. So, one night he came by my apartment and asked if he could borrow $5 for the baths. I told him that was a poor idea since Tuesday was the grossest night of the week. He said he didn't care since he was just going to back into them anyway.

He declined my offer to help him out right there, right now. All I could think was, "My goodness, look what I've done."

I echo those who agree with OP. My friends over the years have questioned whether I am indeed gay since it's so extremely rare that I meet someone who interests me.

Drinking helps, a lot!

"The older the am the pickier I am."

I retired recently. While I was never seriously out of shape when I was working, I'm now hard core about working out (and eating properly) and it has paid off. I'm in the best shape of my life.

Ironically, I now find very few guys of any age, young or old, attractive. The vast majority of them have serious physical flaws, i.e. skinny legs, too much body fat, not enough definition, etc.

Are you dead now OP?

This thread is years old...

promiscuousness is not about you being attracted to people. It's the need for people to be attracted to you.

And getting your rocks off, R35.

I agree OP

This past Saturday I went to the gay neighbourhood and didn't find anyone attractive enough to be bothered with. No my taste in men is not set that high but it doesn't help that there are several current looks in the gay community which are a total turn off.

OMG, R37, whatever you do, don't say 'bow ties'....

OP, I am at the extreme low end of average looking and I am quite promiscuous.

No one has ever had sex with me because of my looks, it's because I can easily deep throat a fire hydrant.

Most gay men standards are absurdly high.

Go to any gay club, it is the same small group of guys that EVERYONE hits on.

People refuse to hit on people that happen to be their same general level of attractiveness, they only want to chase the hotties, it is kind of sad really and why people will go home alone.

I don't consider it something to be proud of OP, it seems absurdly shallow to me.

R24 You are right on!

After a rather awkward sexual experience in which I could barely get it up, I was curious if other guys have an easy time of getting erect for just about anybody, as long as they're having sex. I don't know, maybe my perceptions have been warped by too much porn, but unless I find the person attractive (or they're just really good at sex and at making me feel horny), I'm not going to get hard without a lot of imagination.

I don't know, can you guys get it up for anybody? I will say all the guys I've been with have been hard, which makes me feel like the odd man out... (or maybe it's because I'm attractive to them, hopefully).

[quote]I don't consider it something to be proud of OP, it seems absurdly shallow to me.

Having some standards is shallow? So not being shallow is sleeping with anyone? What strange reasoning. Some men can't be aroused or intimate with someone they're not attracted to. It's pretty simple to understand. Not being attracted to someone doesn't automatically mean 'high standards.'

I had a friend who would actually hit on homeless men. He even hit it off with a homeless man in France when he traveled there and invited him to his place. The 'homeless' man actually made the trip this side of the Atlantic and they continued their fucking...but then my friend kicked the homeless man out from his apartment after he realized he was completely crazy.

So I guess according to your logic my friend is not shallow, hmm?

[quote]but then my friend kicked the homeless man out from his apartment after he realized he was completely crazy.

It took him that long to work it out?

I think finding people attractive is to do with something inside you and how you're feeling in general.

The same as finding the things around you beautiful when you're happy.

I think OP sounds depressed and I've been there so I know how it feels to find the world ugly and unsexy. To rarely notice attractive people or people who turn you on. It's not just about good looks or a great body or finding 'your type'. It's to do with feeling good inside. The world is a reflection.

[quote]It's not just about good looks or a great body or finding 'your type'. It's to do with feeling good inside. The world is a reflection.

I think everyone is confusing what OP said.

What you're talking about is about being a relationship. Something deeper. No one needs that deep connection for a one night stand. OP says he can't be promiscuous because he can't find that many people attractive to him which is *normal*. You can be depressed and be the biggest whore in the world, finding validation through sex and intimacy.

I could not imagine having sex with anyone that I didn't find extremely hot. I think sex with anyone other than someone you find very goodlooking and sexy is revolting and repulsive. I can't even fake it.

Ha

[quote]I think sex with anyone other than someone you find very goodlooking and sexy is revolting and repulsive.

A lot of (maybe most) people can't be so picky.

They make do with what they can get.

But what is point if you are not red hot attracted to a person? I would be celibate if I didn't happen to find someone who I found to be red smoking hot.

I identify with OP. I’m only interested in hotties

I go for 7s but I'm a 3 on a good day. Porn helps take the pain away.

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!

R50 = BUMP TROLL. This thread dates to 2010. Bravo!