The lesbians on Datalounge verus the lesbians in your real life\

In what ways are they different?

• On DL they''re imaginary.

  the cheekster

• Stupid skillless racists running on catch phrases...perfect for the moronic masses. They should be taken very seriously as a threat.%0D\ %0D

• No difference. All the lesbians I know come here regularly.

• Now if you had said, The lesbians on the Michfest board vs lesbians in real life....you might have actually had a thread.

• Au contraire, R4. The lesbians on michfest can hold down a job. Lesbians here are unemployed losers who stalk Chely Wright 24/7. A pathetic lot.

• Here on DL they talk to me about how I should talk and what I should do and be. \ \ In real life they just growl at me and smirk because they know how I should talk and what I should do and be.

• Both are mindnumbingly boring. The ones on DL should defect to Zetaboardworld IMHO. They try to steal everything from men anyway, why can''t they let us keep DL?

• That''s NOT FUNNY!

• None of the ones I know in real life use a cane.

• hmm

• Another vote here for cane-free lesbians. I don''t know any gay women in real life under the age of 80 who use canes and I have no idea how that stereotype started but I still laugh at ''caneface''.

• R6, will you marry me?\ \ \ I rarely meet a lesbian, here or in real life, I can stand to be around. They''re sanctimonious, judgmental, uptight, and hyper about every little thing. In addition, they tend to run in packs, and there''s always some kind of obnoxious "leader of the pack" who tells everyone else what to do, and - believe it or not - they actually listen to her. \ \ \ I have no lesbian friends. All my friends are straight people (men and women) or gay men. I swear, if I ever find a lesbian who''s relatively attractive, has a brain, and is fun to be around, I''ll marry her in a heartbeat.\ \ \ But of course, most of the lesbians I''ve known have told me that I shouldn''t even care if a woman is attractive -- I should be looking at her "inner beauty" (another typical sanctimonious thing lesbians say). I''m so sorry that I won''t have sex with a 500-lb. lesbian with tattoos on her neck and missing teeth...

  Lesbian who hates lesbians.

• The ones I know in real life are fun to be around.\ \ The ones on DL who are fun to be around are not noticed for being lesbian, because they don''t make a belabored point of saying so whenever they post.\ \ One regular lesbian DLer is a good friend of mine whose comments are probably often assumed to be those of a gay man.

• r12, are you a Floridian?

• [R12], sounds like you''ve got yourself a whole new thread.

  Anonymous

• R12 - I''m a lesbian and am not "sanctimonious, judgmental, uptight, and hyper." I don''t even run in a pack. I know the type you speak of though. I''m fairly attractive (within the height/weight of where I should be and don''t scare small children with my appearance) and my partner is a knockout. We are out there so please don''t hate us all. We''re just not at your typical lesbian venues (bars, pride events). Don''t give up hope. Oh, and I don''t think you should settle for some toothless wonder with a neck tattoo. I didn''t! We live in Chicago btw - maybe you''re in a more rural area? Good luck!

  Hang in there R12

• I can relate, R12.

• Thanks, R16.

• No canes, no hating of men or fraus, no children, and NO DRAMA.

• r12/18 are you Lesbeau?

• Maybe they are similar. The one in my office is a two-faced, backstabbing bitch who manages to have her nose well up the ass of the male head of our office. She''s definitely not a lipstick lez and he doesn''t particularly like her (I think he''s a bit put off by her dykey appearance), but he finds her easy to use. And she has no clue.

• In real life they''re not as self-hating or masochistic (the only reasons I can imagine any women, straight or gay, hanging around DataLounge).

• u

• The cane stuff was some DL guy from 2002 trying to be funny. And you now take it seriously? LOL. I''ll bet the ones who make the crude jokes are 20 year olds and don''t know a lesbian in real life.\ \ Bitter R12, if you look to the upper classes -- more educated, more income, and over 30 -- you''ll come across many sophisticated lesbians who do not fit your stereotype.

• I don''t have to look at the ugly lesbians on Datalounge.

• R24 is correct

• Real life bitter, bitter bitter man haters most. At least in my life.\ \ DL more tolerant.

• [quote] if you look to the upper classes -- more educated, more income, and over 30 -- you''ll come across many sophisticated lesbians who do not fit your stereotype.\ \ I don''t count myself as upper class, but the lesbians I met who study at the same university are all sophisticated lesbians who do not fit R12 stereotype. With one exception none of us is butch, and when we meet at a regular bar we often get mistaken for a group of straight women. \ \ The picture looks different at places where the ''scene'' is meeting. The worst experience I''ve made was at a panel discussion with lots of lesbians over 40. They behaved like R12 described. Apart from one. And she is the (lesbian) Mayor of our city. There is hope, R12.

• Most of the lesbians in real life aren''t gay men pretending to be lesbians.

• Real life lesbians that I know, want very badly to be men.\ \ DL not so much.

• Yeah, what does she think, she''s a man???? How dare she want male privilege!\ \ It''s amazing how sexism and old 1950s stereotypes are alive and well in the minds of young these gay boys. The same gays who do not want to be seen as ''sissies,'' the same ones who want marriage equality, etc.

• r31, talk about going off on a tangent that makes you sound unhinged.

• Unfortunately, although I love being 52 (and look much younger, so they tell me), that does qualify as "over 40." And although I have dated a few women 30 and under, they bring an entirely different set of issues to the table. \ \ \ I understand what you mean about the "upper classes," but even though I am a multi-degreed professional, in my profession I make very little money, and I tend to act more like the working class lesbian I have always been. This enables me to better connect with the people served in my profession, and I certainly, at this late date, don''t plan to "put on airs" just to meet someone.\ \ \ "Upper-class" lesbians don''t really like me anyway, because I neither look nor act they way they think I should, particularly when they find out my profession. To me, they tend to come off as a bit snooty, and waaaaaaay too concerned with being straight-acting and straight-appearing, similarly to the gay men on DL.\ \ \ But thanks for the suggestions, everyone; I appreciate your kind thoughts.

  R12

• So you DO live in Florida and you ARE Lesbeau, so why not cop to it?

• No canes, no breadpudding.

• If lesbians can be found by bread pudding consumption, then every librarian is a lesbian. Wish I could meet an actual lesbian that was in to me, not too caught up in academia to have a normal conversation, took care of herself, and didn''t try to make up for her lesbianism by adopting other social hangups like major race issues.\ \ I have met lesbians that fit that standard, but for one reason or another they are not in to me. Usually it''s my age.

• Lesbians on the dl are much prettier.

• You tell it, r12.\ \ When it comes to fucking, I tend to be a little discriminate.

• R12 = Chaz Boners ex.

  cher

• Lesbians are all different, just like gay men. Just because some of us wish the 500lb lesbian with missing teeth doesn''t exist doesn''t make it so. It always amazes me that a site with the most critical, over the top gay men have something to say about gay women-hey, we come in all shapes and sizes-just like you and just like the straight people. Why don''t we all allow everyone to be who they are, without limits or rules??Isn''t that what equal rights is all about??\ \ BTW, I am very much a lesbian who always had to tell the gay women in the bar, that yes, I was gay and not just hanging with my gay friends. I get it.

• Oh, gawd, r16 sounds like she is going to have a nervous break down. Take a pill, dear.

• [quote]I''m so sorry that I won''t have sex with a 500-lb. lesbian with tattoos on her neck and missing teeth...\ \ She sounds so cute!

  Aileen Carol Wuornos

• Lesbians in real life are actual lesbians, not bored men pretending to be lesbians to make them look bad.\ \ Again, where is that guy who made such a big deal about how DL was GLBT inclusive? I''d love to know what he thinks of this thread.

• Hey R33, you still trolling LiveJournal and InsaneJournal? I can''t imagine anyone is left on those played out sites to pay attention to you, but I thought I''d ask.

• I don''t know that many in real life but the ones I do know seem to be a mixture of what r12 described with others who are smart and funny and good looking. \ \ The ones here are few. Off the top of my head I can only name two or three posters here that I believe are lesbians, including myself. I tend to stay away from the obsessive threads about celebrities though (like the Chely Wright one). Honestly, I don''t even know some of these celebrities when they are talked about here. I think the last one I contributed to was the Stephanie Miller thread and that was because I''d been listening to her show for many years. \ \ But in my experience, lesbians are pretty obsessive so it doesn''t surprise me that they can have several threads going on the likes of Chely.

  Pornchick

• [quote]lesbians in your real life\ \ WTF??!?!?!?!!?

  MissHelenBedd

• Lesbeau''s post at r12 goes a long way towards explaining why she''s against gay marriage.

• I have three lesbian friends. One uses a cane and has a great sense of humor; one has a very curious mind and is a delightful conversationalist. The third is vivacious and charming and somewhat of a sartorial chamelion - she can go from frumpy, sweats wearing, no make-up, and ponytail to a made-over knockout in about 30 minutes. She is one of the most charming people I know. None of the three are like the obsessive man haters that pop up on DL.

• Please point to the obsessive man-hating posts. I haven''t seen those.

• Most of the lesbians I know in real life have put up with violent assholes.\ \ Just came up on fark: he drowned his wife in the toilet when she came out to him.

  http://www.wlsam.com/Article.asp?id=1957367&spid=

• Lesbeau is just another variant of the self-loathing gay. \ \ ''i''m a lesbian and I hate lesbians''? No, you''re a self-loathing middle-aged woman who is so absolutely convinced of the rectitude of your point of view that you will never be able to sustain a loving relationship with anyone other than yourself.

• Lesbians are preeminently kind and will go out of their way to be a healing catalyst in real life. \ \ That''s my experience. \ \ How they deal with each other may be in wild variance with my limited insight.

• The leswomien I know in real life have no problem with squirrels. Or death.

• Damn.

• This thread takes the cak, so to speak.

  MissHelenBedd

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• Had to revivive any lesbian thread I could find. Where are the lesbians on DL??? Haven't heard a shrill from them lately Seems like they have been completely wiped off DL