It could still be a pleasurable experience for him. Do him doggystyle so you don''t have to look at Mr. Limpet.
Would you eat Tom Cruise''s ass?
I''ve wondered about this. Some guys are hard and come when they bottom (within a good experience) while others never do, regardless of performance. Completely limp. Do they really enjoy it (bar medical problems)?
I knew a total bottom who proudly boasted of never doing "anything with [his] dick." He wouldn''t touch it and he didn''t like his top to touch either. It was an appendage that simply was there, like a goiter or oversize carbuncle.
Sometimes I don''t get hard, but I don''t seem to have much control over it. It depends if they hit the spot.
I want to make a donation but I can%C3%82%C2%B4t decide between "Doctors Without Borders" or "Bottoms Without Boners"
Bottoms that leak a lot of precum are even hotter than hard bottoms.
After a certain age--and not even all that old--maybe still in your 20s, your dick needs stimulation to stay hard especially if you''re getting fucked. While getting fucked, bottoms are mostly soft unless they''re continually masturbating while getting pounded...and even then bottoms have flaccid dicks for the most part.
Funny you should mention that R8. I usually just engage in oral but consider myself a top for the most part. The last 3 times I tried to top a guy I went soft after I put a condom on. I''m a little worried I''ll end up being a bottom.
I know I''m in the minority, but I love seeing the Eastern European porn where the bottoms never get hard. I almost feel like they''re being pounded so hard that they can''t get hard, on account of the aggressiveness... I know that''s not realistic, but that''s how I choose to interpret it.
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Oral here. I''m a top in the sense that I prefer to take control and have the dominant role if there is one. However, I don''t fuck, and don''t really want to. But I''m certainly not a bottom. I do not want to get fucked at all. No desire, and it hurts like hell. I get no pleasure bottoming whatsoever.%0D\
And R9...if you''re not used to fucking like me, I can go limp if I try...or I shoot way too soon--like almost instantly--so actually attempting to do the fucking is not for me.
I want to see some Eastern European porn.
lol r6, that''s exactly what I thought of. Either donation would be to a good cause.
When I bottom I often get hard especially if my partner touches me. It often takes me just a few minutes only to cum though so there you have it. It is the best way I like having sex.
My 25 y/o FB always gets a hard-on when I fuck him and he always comes, even if it''s the 3rd , 4th or 5th time he''s come in 24 hours. In fact, he''s always hard even before I start to fuck him just out of sheer horniness. Ahh youth!
So if you are a bottom and have a flacid dick while being fucked, are you still enjoying the sex?
A flaccid bottom is also a sloppy hole. With a hard on, everything is tighter and the muscles are firmer. Turgidity has its benefits. With a raging hard-on, a thick cock pistoning the monk in the cave and a clenched hole muscle, honey, ride me hard and put me away wet!
You are so wrong, r.17. How many times have you bottomed??? Twice?? Lots and lots of bottoms leak a lot of pre-cum and go back and forth from hard to soft depending on what''s happening with the top''s motions, speed, etc.
My bf pisses me off when he cums before I start to fuck him. I''m hoping age will take care of that little problem
I always assume my tricks have severe drug problems when they can''t get hard and need a bump.
r18 = hot dog down hallway who needs a spank to tighten the gaping maw.
"A flaccid bottom is also a sloppy hole."%0D\
Is R17 saying that he''s impotent?
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No, r17 is a tight hole, hard cock bottom. \
You are confusing me with r18, the limp drippy dick.
r17, who also likes to top
R11, you think of yourself as a top, but you can''t properly fuck?
This thread is really bringing out DL''s eloquence.
As long as his hole is tight and wet, I''m happy. What else do you need?
R26, you sound like a typical selfish straight cad. Don''t you care if your partner is getting off?
Thanks Op, I''ve been looking for a name for my band for months.
My partner and I have always been versatile--it was a requirement for both of us (fortunately it worked). I understand the loss of an erection when one is really intoxicated, has had a lot of sex that day, or when one is especially stressed. This has happened a time or two every few months for me for the last 5 years (we're both early 30s but have been together for more than a dozen years). It seems to bother him more than me, but certainly not enough to be an issue (he just worries that I have lost interest or something). We have always had really good sex and I can say that for those few times that I wasn't hard that I still really enjoyed it. He's totally a boy stuck in puberty and is always hard. I personally think a sign of true love is consistently coming at the same time (of course this is not always, but definitely most of the time).
"I personally think a sign of true love is consistently coming at the same time (of course this is not always, but definitely most of the time)."
That's so cute, R30. It's not always easy to do, but I agree with you - that's romantic gay love right there.
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Personally, I find it hot.
I can't help but get hard as a rock when I'm getting boned - so hard I can't even touch my cock much until I'm ready to shoot because it pushes me over the edge so easily.
I like it when the top is so aggressive, he DEMANDS that I am soft at all times.
Limp sail at night, faggot's delight - that's what they always say. Or something like that.
Some of ya'll really do enjoy talking about gay sex... so much so that it makes you sound like faggots in high school. Silly litte twits.
If you don't stay hard when you fuck or get fucked you're simply not turned on by the guy. If you are you would.
Most 'mos simply have sex for the sake of having it.
The only thing worse than a bottom without a boner is a boner without a bottom.
[quote]If you don't stay hard when you fuck or get fucked you're simply not turned on by the guy. If you are you would.
IKR? The above explains why guys who fuck women can't be gay, only bisexual.
Hands up anyone who'd have sex with r36. Anyone?
I've had many, many of them, and my experience is that the majority of bottoms do lose their erections once you get going. My theory always was the center of physical pleasure shifting so dramatically. Almost like the body was saying, yeah that felt really good, but this is ... OMG!
[quote]The above explains why guys who fuck women can't be gay, only bisexual.
If a guy has sex with women by definition he's not homosexual.
Homo means "man"
Uh, no r42. Homo means "same."
In my youth, when I bottomed a lot, I was always had a boner, but I couldn't cum while being fucked. As much as anyone tried, it just wouldn't happen. After my buddy had finished, he'd jerk me off, or I'd finish myself off. The timing sucked, but the sex was hot.
Then I met a guy who loved giving blow jobs... fantastic blow jobs... No problemo.
I actually WANT to stay soft. When I'm hard I usually cum, then it hurts to be fucked. I really don't care anything about being hard or not or even cumming (like that). Any ideas on what I can do to eliminate erections?
I'm serious. I want to know if there's a trick to not getting hard.
Would it be weird if I said that I actually get turned on by flaccid bottoms?
I think it's a dominance thing. I really get off on seeing the contrast of my big hard dick next to their little flaccid one. Leaves no room for doubt about who the top is and who the bottom is.
R4, I also knew a guy once who had no interest in me paying any attention to his dick. He just wanted to get fucked and was damn good at it.
Why bother? Well, of course, it's more exciting to get fucked while your cock is rock hard, but it can still be pleasurable. I can come without a hard on.
I always have a hard on when I get fucked but as soon as I come, I want the dick out of my ass. It becomes uncomfortable, not painful. It just doesn't feel....right. I always keep myself on edge the whole time I have sex. When the top guy cums, I can cum with his dick still in my ass. Just no more fucking after that point. Btw I like to fuck and get fucked. Life is more fun that way.
Is that wierd?
I am a total bottom pussy and get gang-banged up to 40 times in one session and never get hard.For me,and most insatiable bottoms whores,it's all about our "KUNTS" and having it pounded in long and hard and taking loads,loads,loads !There is no time or need for erections.All the sensation is in the ass for a true bottom slut !The penis is erect and ejaculates only when I masturbate.I am NOT impotent !Just true pussy-boy cunt !I am masculine,HOT,white,slender,32 and luv HUGE black dick pounding at it for hours and using me as a load-dump.I attend private sex-orgies in N.Y.C. where they need bottom Ho'S like me to service the horny,usually closeted Bi tops !
Try getting fucked without a prostate and see what happens.
Speaking from experience, R53?
[54}: Yes, it was surgically removed in November 2007 and I'm not the woman I used to be!
Dear r53, would you please elaborate what your life is like now, post prostate cancer? I'm 50, was a power bottom, and all signs (enlarged, high PSA result) and symptoms are pointing to a prostate cancer diagnosis.
Am getting a CT scan and biopsy next week. I've had so much fun with my prostate for many years, but would prefer to live without it if it takes my symptoms away.
Can you also describe any symptoms prior to your diagnosis?
Yeah, I know. I should google it.
I get fucked without a really hard boner. I love the guy filling me up and making me submit.
[56}: Had an elevated PSA summer of 2007, then a biopsy and several of the random tissues samples came back positive for cancer. Urologist who did the biopsy (a former, married love of mine) forgot to prescribed Cipro (a necessity!) and I almost died from a septic infection.
Shopped around for various approaches: seeding, radiation, radical surgery. I chose the last one which was done with nerve-sparing. No complications. What they don't tell you is that you'll lose about an inch of dick length. It happens when surgeon detaches the urethra from the bladder and then reconnects it. My surgeon said he "stretched" my dick on the operating table, but I still ended up with a smaller dick. It will happen even if you choose the robotic procedure.
I can masturbate and have a thunderous orgasm but no ejaculate any more. Cock never gets fully hard even while jerking off. I choose not to take a steady diet of Viagra. Perhaps that would help with the lack for firmness.
I got fucked the other night and felt nothing other than pain from the latex condom rubbing against my anal opening. No matter how much lube you use, latex can cause tears in the mucosa. And at 65, I have an old asshole, but no hemorrhoids.
Good luck with whatever course of treatment you choose. Your sex life will not be the same anymore.
Thanks for sharing, r58. I need to know the truth. Am "only" 50.
It's been a fun ride; I would just like to be able to pee again.
I used to cum hands-free with screaming orgasms while bottoming. Fortunately, there are other pleasures in life.
Turns out I have a 6cm abscess growing right next door to Mr. Prostate. Am relieved that it is not ass cancer.
Some total macho tops don't want their bottoms to be erect. A lot of tops don't even want to acknowledge the bottom has a penis because it makes the top seem more manly when the bottom is emasculated, so much less manly than the top. A lot of bithugs/homothugs on the DL wont even touch the bottom's penis because they want to disassociate their bottom as being fully male.
It's nice to hear some good news in relation to a scare like that.
R61, I agree with you. My partner is fem and totally bottom. He isn't always soft, but he never pays attention to his dick and doesn't care for it if I do either. I have noticed that he gets into it more if he's soft, which is probably what has got me into it more. I'm beginning to suspect he's the one who's wanting to know how to STAY soft. If it's him, it doesn't look like anyone has really answered him yet. I know he enjoys being soft, and I enjoy him enjoying being soft, so I hope someone has a trick to it.
This is why I think it's him. He mentioned cumming "that way". He has this thing where he orgasms, but it's not with his dick. I've never heard of such a thing in a guy. Anyone else experience this?
Any one can cum when being fucked by a guy, feels amazing