What is this about? How can people not know they are doing it? Also, what is the psychological and/or physical motivation? Do you know anyone who smacks?
You don''t know you''re doing it because your chewing of food sounds louder to you with your mouth shut.\
Sounds louder to the rest of us, of course, and should be a hanging offense.
Smack Their Faces! Smack Their Faces Viciously!!!
It is very uncouth and gross, and the sign of a very ill-mannered, poorly brought up person.
So gross, I have to get up and move away. Ew.
People who aren''t in the habit of breathing through their noses are forced to smack when they eat.%0D\
Lots of people have nasal issues.
Why don''t people around them keep at arm''s length so they don''t get slapped?
My step father does it. It''s horrible. He has these weird lips that are totally flat where they meet each other, too. Every single meal, smack, smack, smack. It''s revolting.
I always make sure to smack vigourously when I eat, it simply makes the meal much more enjoyable!
r9, you deserved to be killed.\
Smacking or slurping, which is worse?
My dad does it sometimes. I visit my parents once a year and I often make an excuse not to eat lunch with them because of this. He also puts a lot of food on his fork, so he leans forward to catch all the food in his mouth before some falls back on the plate. I think the overloaded fork bothers me more than the smacking. I mean, it''s not like the food will run away before he eats it.
R10, you deserve a better sense of self. You truly do.
I believe in smacking while I eat. I warn people who bruise easily to sit at the end of the table. And I never dine with hemophiliacs
Smacking actually makes the food much tastier I think. If you can''t handle it, maybe you should just stay at home then.
R11 = typical ill-mannered gross bore
Let''s all try it and see if it makes the food better.
I feel that you all should really chill out. The obvious answer if the offenders are close or are family is, just ignore it. If in public, relocate to a different area/table. Simple...your neurosis is solved. Next!
My parents always insisted on no smacking. And "please" and "thank you."\
And we were poor. What happened to "good breeeding," poor or wealthy?
And GET OFF MY LAWN!
I smacked and slurped until I was 16. I was never told any differently, had no idea I was doing anything wrong. \
Similarly, I had never known that you''re not supposed to sniff if your nose is running, that you''re supposed to blow your nose instead. I had always assumed that sniffing was preferable to letting your nose just run. \
Then I spent a year with a German family as an exchange student. I emerged from that experience with a fresh new set of manners.
Actually, R11, sometimes the food will run away before you can eat it.
[quote]The obvious answer if the offenders are close or are family is, just ignore it. \
Just. Not. Possible.
It drives me insane
People who smack their food while eating are disgusting pigs. They also chew with their mouth open and talk while eating....letting food fall out of their mouths. Ugh! It makes me want to vomit.
My partner had lovely table manners in his twenties. Then, he spent three years on the road with an old blues gypsy. Now, he slurps soup from three inches of the spoon, vacuuming it up from a good distance away, smacks, and chews with his mouth open.
R19, actually it''s the other way around. Any ear/nose/throat doc would tell you to avoid blowing your nose unless absolutely necessary. It''s traumatic to your turbinates.
Ever eat in the dining hall at Gallaudet University? It sounds like an antelope stampede on the Serengeti.
My former best friend used to do this constantly. He sounded like a pig at the trough. I knew he knew better too because he wouldn''t do this whenever we went to a restaurant. Only when in private. I could understand if he was some churlish teen but he was in his 30s for god''s sake.
My roommate does this when drinking juice. I asked him why, and he told me it tastes better.%0D\
Same thing when eating chocolate. So fucking annoying.
My mother shovels huge pieces of food into her mouth to the point where are cheeks look like a blowfish and she also talks with her mouth full. It''s so gross and my sister and I have chided her about it numerous times. I remember going to family holiday dinners and people looking at my mom like she was crazy. I find it even more bizarre because she is so well kept in everything else.
I am as intrigued as I am repulsed by it. I feel like I am missing out on something by not smacking and yet it makes me crazy.
I was sitting here trying to deal with the sound of my partner eating a salad, and I googled "smacking while eating," and here was this thread in which I complained about him nearly two years ago.
People who smack while eating don't have any manners. It's obvious no one ever taught them how to eat properly. Give them a break, they don't know any better. They're trash
Most people know they do it and I think they just don't care and actually do it because they want to annoy people. They smack their food like a baby and privately wish someone would say something so they can just smack louder. It's manipulation, plain and simple.
You're all such a bunch of delicate hothouse orchids.
Fat women coworkers I've known have done this. Yes, the fabled cubefrauen.
Going out to lunch for some special occasion, first they'll study the menu commenting how they really aren't hungry. Then they'll start to commiserate about how they could share a salad, but the sausage alfredo lasagna is really good if you order it with extra cheese. Then they'll quietly, in a defeated way, as if the menu had no options for their smaller tastes, order the lasagna and the fried ravioli as an appetizer. (Oh, no, I don't want to take yours to share. They're small portions, only five or six ravioli. I'll just get my own and take the extras back to the office for Debbie."
They commence eating silently and delicately, but within two minutes the smacking begins. Extra bread arrives because it all disappeared before the main dishes were served. More butter, please, yes. More diet soda. Smack. Smack. Snuffle. Smack smack.
And then the vocalizations start. The little moans and groans as the sausage in the sauce just tastes sooooo good, doesn't it? Yum. Do you want some of mine, Shelly? No thanks, Val, we had the same thing. I told you the extra cheese made it better.
And then, with the smacks and groans, the rocking starts. A pseudo-sexual rocking, elbows on the table, thighs rubbing together, lips pursing wetly with creamy sauce and darting jabby little tongue tips dashing out to lap the sausage bits from the mustache shades and the chin flaps.
And just as the forks are scraping against the plates in a percussive shriek, the turtle chocolate caramel amaretto cheesecake arrives, to a gush of orgasmic release.
It's so rich.
Gone in three bites, no matter what the size of the serving. And the sticky, cakey smacking with a syrupy gurgle in their throats announces that the lunch hour is up. They're so happy they leave a full 10% tip before straining to rise. The table inevitably tips one way and then the other as they do.
Are you published, R34? You should be.
Until I was hopelessly distracted by R34, I was going to say that slurping (slightly different than smacking but no less offensive) must be customary in Korea. I've known several people who came to America from Korea who do this at every meal, formal & casual, unless someone kindly & privately explains that this is not our custom. They also tend to tuck their napkins in their collars, like lobster bibs.
I live in Scandinavia now and for all the vaunted social welfare and progressivism, they have the most appalling food habits. Smacking, chomping, clanging cutlery on plates, scraping, hovering. You'd think they were a bunch of heathen Vikings.
r19, I think you hit the nail on the head. The offender might not be aware. Who would feel comfortable telling someone that? One of my old friends does it. He was raised upper middle class and attended an Ivy League university. He's skinny, too. I've never been able to tell him - too uncomfortable. One would have to rely on a family member/spouse/partner. It's somewhat annoying, but I can live with it.
I had a roommate who used to do this. He told me that it made food taste better. He was my last roommate...
I had an elderly co-worker who would eat at his desk and smack away. He also would snort when he wanted to clear his nose. That happened at least a few times a week. So. Fucking. Gross.
>>> You're all such a bunch of delicate hothouse orchids.
No, we're just not trash. We just don't understand why you INSIST on eatting like an animal. Your parents must be really primitive if they didn't teach you the most basic table manners when you were a child, but just because they are low class doesn't mean you have to be. Learn from this. Civilized adults don't eat like this
R34 must work at the same company as I do. He/she is telling the truth
This is concerning "smacking food".
My reply is to the person that says to smack their faces, smack their faces viciously.
There is a solution to almost everything and that's not the way to do it. If it's your child smacking their food you certainly don't smack them in the face.
We can talk to our children about this type of mannerism and make it better from there.
I have never smacked my child in the face for anything that he has done and I never will.
Smacking someone in the face is totally inappropriate!!!
Sharon in Arkansas
I thought all 'mos like to shoot smack while eating. I guess it is meth they like to do
r35 I live in Korea and Koreans are simply uncouth. They also push and shove, spit everywhere, and drive like maniacs.
We call them peasants in suits. I'm sure they have some choice names for us, too - but at least I can eat like an adult, not a toddler!
(I have lived all over Asia and this has not been a common occurance. Thais especially have great table manners.)
It has been my experience that a disproportionate number of jewish people eat this way. Smacking loudly, mouths open, talking with mouths full. So disgusting and aggressively obnoxious.
My mother was rigid in her teaching of table manners and sitting up straight. NO SLOUCHING EVER. I'm grateful now too. She was poor when young but her family at least had good manners and grooming.
R42, I think you are on the wrong board. You might be better off on a Million Moms board or something. There's a lot of hyperbole on this board, and you clearly can't discern it.
Worse than smacking to me is chewing (and especially crunching) with one's mouth open. I have a co-worker who eats carrots during meetings and crunches away with his mouth open. It is disgusting. He also has bad allergies and hocked a loogie once into a garbage can during a meeting! I couldn't believe no one said anything, particularly the team leader. Gross.
I hope Sharon in AK is not real. No one could be that dumb.
R34, you made me weep with laughter! Thank you!
I arrived to this forum while trying to figure out why my wonderful husband has this marriage-threatening flaw.
Whoever chalked up smacking to an inability to breathe through the nose while eating....have you ever considered coming up for air? Try it sometime, it is quite simple. Pause the chewing, part your lips barely to let air in, inhale, and resume chewing quietly after closing your mouth.
My Korean coworker does slurp his soup. And never flying Korean air again. Even grandmas elbows and shoves.
I'm some countries, such as Japan, slurping in a noodle house is to show the chef their appreciation for the food. This only applies to noodle house, not in other settings. So, each Japanese gets turned into a Hoover vacuum cleaner sitting in the noodle house. If you close your eyes, you think you are at the ocean.
But smacking is just utterly disgusting.
[quote]hocked a loogie once into a garbage can during a meeting!
OMFG that is disgusting!
If someone did that in front of me (especially at a business meeting), I think I would barf, I really do.
Remember on I Love Lucy when Fred said, Ethel smacked her lips like a cow. And then Lucy said, "Yeah you do chew like a cow." And then Desi said "Mia ca-knee-ah..." and they all ganged up on Ethel.
Then as they pulled into Albuquerque Ethel decided to get her revenge.
People who smack and slurp while they're eating sound like dogs licking their own genitals.
I was recently at a sushi bar and was completely surprised as I watched a guy, in his early-twenties, and in college (I gathered this from his sweatshirt and conversation) who not only smacked his food, slurped his soup, talked with his mouth open, and regularly had food drop from his mouth to his plate.
I couldn't understand how someone gets to be that age and is completely unaware of how disgusting his eating habits are.
I was also confused by why the person he was with, looked like a father or an uncle, did not tell him to stop.
R50 & R54 you are my two new besties!! My hubby does this and had a nasal passage injury. I agree that there is a way to learn not to smack food via this breathing method. I know BC when I was a kid I had enlarged adnoids and also had a hard time breathing thru my nose. After my mother chided me relentlessly I learned this method. Eventually my face grew into my adnoids but I still know this is something that just takes the desire and effort to learn.
Dear black Jesus. Don't eat with the eat with the help.
A woman at work does this..... LOUDLY. And clips her toe nails over the waste basket. She brings in left over KFC and it is like the 7circles of hell.
"She's my mother!" *Pish!* "She's my sister!" *Pish!* "She's my mother!" *Pish!* "Please pass the peas!" *Pish!*
My best friend does it,and is aware and doesn't give a shit,his kid does it too. When we go out for dinner it sounds like someone stirring chowder in a rubber boot.
One of the administrative assistants in my office did this for years with gum, chewing it and smacking out of the side of her mouth. I found it beyond gauche. I don't know if someone finally said something to her, but she doesn't chew gum in the office anymore.
I know all about smacking while eating? It's guaranteed to happen to me on rare steak night.
I worked with a guy - the manager, actually - who ate like this. It was a furniture store and he would do this just out of sight but not beyond hearing. The sound was unbelievable, slurping and smacking. Customers would ask what that sound was, and I would just shrug. I never said anything to him because I think anyone over the age of 6 should know better. But he was an asshole anyway so I'm not surprised.
There is no excuse for this kind of thing. Anyone who does this knows exactly what they are doing, have been told by others to please stop but they continue doing it. People who do this are passive aggressive, inconsiderate and ill mannered. They don't deserve to eat with other adults. I'm an American living in the middle east. Don't even ask. I refuse to eat out anywhere, ever. A pig is a pig is a pig.
I hate smacking, especially when it's accompanied by those moaning notes of pleasure many women seem to associate with the acme of life's satisfactions. Meaning fast food and sugar.
My roommate does it and it is one of the most obnoxious things in the world. Especially since she is always eating. But after living with her for a year now and meeting her parents I know why she smacks. She eats, as my grandfather would say, like a cow. And shovels food. What I mean by "eating like a cow" is she eats with her mouth open so the person with her must watch the horrible show of her food and listen to it. What I find the best things to do are to ignore it in public, try not to eat alone with her in a quiet place, don't watch, and lastly and most importantly is to put headphones on and just listen to music.
And as for slurping, I tend to ignore it anymore as it is a socially accepted thing in some culturessuch as asian cultures. But again if it annoys then the best remeby is headphones and music.
People don't mean to do it and other people need to be more polite when responding to smackers. As one who does and does not mean to it really hurts to see comments like this. I hate that I do it and I honestly don't know how not to do it, why don't you people saying "Smack those who smack" have some MANNERS YOURSELF?!
It's repulsive and regressive. In civilised societies only infants get away with slurping and smacking and oohing and aahing as they are consuming food or drink. From the age of about 2, a child should be trained by its parents to eat in a dignified way that is considerate of others. They are called ''table manners'' and people who don't possess them should be challenged.
R68 that's like claiming someone ''doesn't know'' they are coughing loudly or spitting. Of course a person damn well knows they are slurping or smacking as they eat, unless they are learning disabled or deaf. The world is simply divided into people who exercise restraint and show consideration for others, and those who do not.
[quote] The offender might not be aware
When I first met my husband I told him that his table manners were appalling to me. He cleaned it up a little. But as the years went by, he got messy again. I politely asked him not to make grunting noises when he eats and to be aware of food smeared on his face. His response; "It's not important. What's important is that I am a good person."
I said, "You can be a good person who has good table manners. The two are not mutual,y exclusive."
"You make a big deal out of nothing."
"Manners aren't nothing. They're behaviours we adopt so we don't offend others."
He didn't care. Also refused to teach his son table manners. "It's not important. He's a good person."
I don't eat with them.
I could not go on a second date with a slurper/smacker, let alone marry one.
R44, one can shoot meth, too. You might like to try it.
It's a black thing.
Like when people fart at the dinner table...just ignore it.
I worked in a furniture store...oh dear.
For the people complaining about the Vicious Face Slappers:
The Slapper is one or more people who occasionally post this message, perhaps to highlight how inconsequential the OP's (or others) complaints are. I think it's quite funny, even though my e-face was slapped viciously on one occasion. I hope I don't get my face slapped viciously again by writing that this post is usually not meant to be taken seriously.
Likewise, the grease fire thing is also not to be taken literally, nor is the "I wish you get cancer" comment.
i think it's almost like a tic, a form of a seizure specifically a petit mal type. As many are unaware they are even doing it. Don't be mean to them. My pa pa did it, when i was a child, and hewas diagnosed with end stage renal disease secondary to metal toxicity from Rheumatoid arthritis treatment. I miss him every day.
OP, look up the word 'misophonia'.
Go to an old school Jewish Deli and you can't avoid liver lipped old people eating egg salad sandwiches with their mouths open. I once broke up with an other-wise great boyfriend because he smacked his lips while eating. He was a mouth breather and had sticky saliva too. I just couldn't over look it.