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Serious Request for Advice: New Neighbors Next Door Smoke

I'm allergic to smoke, and so is my partner (!) and we're sick for a day after a slight exposure. It's physical, not psychological. New neighbors next door moved in, who apparently like both to spend a lot of time outside and to do their smoking out of doors. It's close quarters between our houses, with their deck close to our property line. We have hollies planted for privacy between them. We haven't met them yet - they moved in last week. My partner and I were out at 9 yesterday morning in our yard. At 9:15 the neighbors were out, smoking. We tried moving to the side yard on the other side of the building, but the smoke followed us. So we went in. We tried later, and out they were again. Same thing this morning. We went out this afternoon. The neighbors came out and started smoking. What would you suggest? Do we wait until we know each other and try to cover the topic, somehow? It doesn't look hopeful - they look like suburbanites who have moved into the city and they appear to drink a lot. Party people. I wish smokers would understand that smoke doesn't just disappear outside where the air is still and people are close to each other. After eight years living next door to the place as a drug hole where teen prostitution went on, and then eight years of sitting next to it empty and derelict, as we landscaped and mowed and did everything to keep it from looking like what it was, it would be nice to have an agreeable resolution. The big problem is that given today's lack of common ground and fractured mores and anger and broken communities, there doesn't seem to be a basis from which to start . . .

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