As a child, before I really knew what sex was (say, between the ages of 7 and 10), I used to have bondage fantasies practically every day. (I''m still into bondage now, but it doesn''t dominate my sex life or fantasy life.) Is that common? Or worrying (e.g., evidence of repressed sexual abuse)?
OP... thank you for posting this! I thought I was the only one.\
Did you ever read Nancy Drew books? The author had to be into some kinda kink. Some of that read like bondage porn for kids. And the pictures...
No, r1, but the "Famous Five" TV series from the late 70s was like porn for me. Also re-runs of "Fury" - the boy protagonist always seemed to get tied up and gagged.
I did, but most of them were big in puberty or adolescence. My mom rented East Of Eden, the horrible Rosie O''Donnell BDSM movie and there is a scene in it in which Dana Delaney ties up the guy from Simply Ballroom and sexually teases him and spanks him. I fantasized about doing that to all my friends at school.
r2 was me, obviously.
Oh, honey... I grew up with "The Man From Uncle," "Batman" and the Sean Connery James Bond movies! I always had a tickle in my pants when the heroes were tied up. (Which was often.)
of course the 60''s also had Wild Wild West. Someone producing the show seemed to have a lot of fantasies about Conrad.
I did, too! I thought I was the only one, and so did my grade school playmates. They thought I was wierd, always wanting to play games where we pretended to be tied up and tortured.\
I''m totally not into bondage as an adult, although I still think about it now and then. It''s just that the reality doesn''t live up to the fantasy, not at all.
[quote]My mom rented East Of Eden, the horrible Rosie O''Donnell BDSM movie \
I know that movie has "eden" in the title R3 - but I''m quite certain it isn''t "East of Eden" you are thinking of.\
I dated a hot guy that used to have fantasies about tying up the hot lifeguard at the beach when he was quite young. I found it interesting and stimulating that a kid would even think about bondage at such a young age.\
Guess he wasn''t alone. Congrats boys on your precociousness.
I''ve found bondage interesting for as long as I can remember and I still love it now.\
Something about being tied up and helpless...
Yeah, I know, I spaced - but surely the Kazan film would''ve been more interesting if either Dean or his brother had tied the other up and spanked him!\
The Rosie film is of course Exit To Eden.
So glad I''m not the only one! (I''m a bi chick btw).\
And I totally agree with R1 about Nancy Drew. I swear most of the illustrations were her tied up!
I got my bondage issues out by constantly wrestling my school friends and trying to tear off their clothes.\
I ended up with the Christian boy in my bedroom reading my comics while I''d pulled his whole shirt up around his collar and was rubbing his chest. How he did not catch on I have no idea.
I had weird unspecified bondage fantasies as a kid. I remember being put down for a nap in nothing but my briefs and putting my arms down through the leg holes and playing that I was tied up....I''d writhe around the bed...too young to know what sex was, but knew that being tied up was something that excited me. I''ve never played with it as an adult though.
I had four very specific bondage fantasies as a child. Two of them have stayed with me. The two I outgrew were both leg related, binding my calves to my thighs then putting on pants as though I were an amputee and trying to get down the stairs and such and the other was wearing this plastic casing for a toy bowling game as a brace locking both legs together at an odd angle and, again, trying to get around.
Ditto OP, liked tying myself up before I had any clear sexual thoughts. Still into BDSM fantasies, I''ve never experienced it in real life.
When I was very young I used to masturbate to the descriptions of corporal punishment in old English books, like Roald Dahl''s autobiography. I also remember being very interested in certain scenes in the Thundercats (the BDSM interest has continued. The interest in latex clad anthromorphised felines, thankfully, hasn''t).
Read everything I could find with references to spanking. I also used to sit in middle of back seat in the car and wrap the lap seat belts from either side between my thighs, alternately binding them together and pulling them apart. My mother was capable of ignoring anything.
''Pank me, Mommy! ''Pank me HAWDER!
Not quite bondage, but I remember, as early as the third grade, being very fascinated by my classmates shoes and sneakers.\
Yes, I have a major foot fetish today.
I saw the masturbation scene in ''Equus'' and said "my God, that''s ME!"
I''m glad I started this thread - interesting replies and poll results. Looks like this pre-pubescent bondage fixation really IS a common thing; and I thought I''d get called a freak for asking this. I wonder if this has ever been observed and analyzed by psychologists?
[quote] Two of them have stayed with me\
You told us the two fantasies that didn''t stay with you. Tell us the ones that did!\
Oh, and R1, you''re totally spot on about the Nancy Drew books!
My cousin (gay) babysat for us when we were kids. He's six years older than my twin sister and I, and we're the oldest in our family of - at the time - four siblings.
Anyway, once he and his brother got fed up with our acting up while they were babysitting and so they used clothes line and tied us all up in different ways - they had watched cowboy shows - and left us scattered around the living room until my mother got home. I must have been 11. I think they gagged a couple of us lightly with socks, a new experience for me. I didn't think anything of it, except it was funny.
My mother came home and was hysterical and swore that she'd never let them over again. It blew over. Years later I found out it was the definite moment in my brother, who was 10 at the time. He has been seriously into bondage ever since. mainly as the top. I found out he was buying and trading slave women on the S&M black market, having them shipped to him in car trunks (I am not kidding here) and keeping them locked up in a trunk in his bedroom. My sister found out when she was cleaning his house and the trunk made a bumping noise - it was locked but the woman inside started yelling to get out. She wasn't freaking - it was all voluntary - she had to pee.
Anyway, the event that meant just a silly forgettable nothing to me was something my brother fantasized about and dwelled on and finally actualized in - obviously - elaborate and disgusting ways.
People are funny.
[quote] I found out he was buying and trading slave women on the S&M black market\
R24, you said this was voluntary. It doesn''t really sound like it...
Yeah. The gal was rather drugged up - pills - but insisted she was there by choice, and that she and others in the ring would go from place to place (supposedly things were vetted so they weren''t killed or abused beyond agreements) with signed contracts involved. The look always was underground and seedy and done in a way to maintain the vibe of kidnapping, and the bondage and being kept locked up was part of it. \
My sister didn''t tell me about it for months, until after a mishap at the house. She said she never cleaned for him again. My brother, also a raging alcoholic, burned the house down and she was concerned someone was killed in the trunk. No one was there. She had decided not to call the cops based on what the girl (I mean woman but she was in her 20s) told her.\
Like I said, disgusting. I didn''t have anything to do with him after this business came up.
I did too. Like R5, I loved the scenes in James Bond films or TV detective shows where guys were tied up. Especially liked the end of "Goldfinger" where the pilot and crew of the plane are tied and gagged. \
Fueled many a masturbatory fantasy. Would tie myself up and get myself off. Still have the fantasies, but I''m not into humiliating anyone. Just like getting tied up and gagged or doing it to another guy.
Bonnie Prince Charlie
Wow R26. That is an interesting story. Not intirely sure I believe it all, but damn....\
The bondage/fire thing is freaky. That is two things that definitely do not mix.
R28, I''m the R24/26 poster - always enjoy the fun of a silly EST post but in this case it''s completely true, on my honor. So I thought I''d write to say so.\
Two things - the strangeness of the bondage trigger in my brother, whether he''s honest about it or not (I assume he is), and the shock of learning about this sort of human trafficking going on in the subculture of serious B&D. I don''t believe for a second that these women are safe, of course, in any sense.
R29, that whole story just scares me.\
Bondage can be fun as a powerplay kinda thing but when you get into serious BDSM and slave stuff it gets really freaky/unhealthy!
No need for fantasy when you had a father who enjoyed beating you on the regular with your pants around your ankles so you couldn''t run. Not fun.
r32, I wonder if anyone raised in a violent household would be into bondage and discipline.
Honey, my first safe word was "daddy."
Not into bondage, but I remember being aroused by mens socked feet as a child. I would get boners seeing men with shoes off/socks on LONG before even thinking of their genitals or any sex acts. Today socked feet is my biggest fetish.\
Weird how these things can manifest themselves before we''re even sexual. Wonder what causes it.
OP = Janet Jackson
Who the fuck has bondage fantasies when you''re a kid? %0D\
You people are out of your minds.
Any fantasies of being the dominant one?.
I can't believe I'm finally admitting this but I had bondage fantasies as young as 7. I was so confused and had NO IDEA why I felt that way (esp since I was a girl) and had NO idea what masturbation was yet I would do it almost every night (even though I didn't technically "cum" there were always obvious "conclusions"). I would watch cartoons like the Ninja Turtles, Inspector Gadget, and even re-runs of He-Man which were full of bondage scenes and for some reason it would turn me on and I felt so weird. Disney movies were chalk full of great bondage porn and comic books too. Sometimes I would play tie-up games with the neighbor kids and I liked to be both tied up and doing the tying. It seemed like innocent child's play to everyone but I was such a sick little fuck that I ended up jerking off over it at night. Gawd.. *shakes head* I would even tie myself up sometimes and draw bondage cartoons (and threw them away after I was "done"). Here I was 11 years old, nowhere near sexual maturity and thinking I was a "perv".. well, just that one side of myself I denied even existed. I was never molested or beaten in any way, the kink literally came outta nowhere. Now I'm 30 and haven't tied myself up in years. The sleeping pills I take have lowered my sex drive to half what it was and I prefer it this way because the fantasies I would get became really fucked up. I can't even talk about them. I'm much smarter like this. Sex is such a distraction and I feel sorry for these S&M hipsters who spend all this money and time on dungeons and stuff. Get a life. Another strange thing is that even though I ONLY date woman and have never found men sexually attractive or ever wanted to be with one (or kiss one.. yuck) I would still get aroused when I saw them in bondage scenes. WTF does that make any sense?
I used to have bandage fantasies. I wanted the ones with Hello Kitty on them.
yeah i did before puberty. might have started when i saw that episode with poison ivy in batman the animated series. femdom is pure hotness
Speaking of Batman, there was an episode in which the Mad Hatter had Batman encased in plaster; meanwhile, Robin had been captured and kept out of the way. The Hatter's goons did this by -- I'm not kidding -- tying him to a horse made of plaster and GAGGING him.
It's at the 3:15 mark.
If I'd been Burt Ward I would have had the biggest boner durnig the filming of that.
[quote]'Pank me, Mommy! 'Pank me HAWDER! by: Haven C.
Did Miss Shawna spank you?
I used to put my Superman, Batman and Robin dolls in precarious situations, having them captured and tied up, usually stripped of their costume. The build up to the eventual stripping and bondage was mindblowing for me. I prolonged it deliberately to get more of a charge. I was barely in elementary school when I used to hide behind the chairs in the living room living out these scenarios. And there was nothing more thrilling than pulling my hero-dolls' shoes off, which is the earliest childhood ocurrence of my foot fetish. Making Robin go barefoot was such a pure and genuine thrill.
It's a result of your diapers having been too tight, OP. Further, you should have stopped wearing diapers sooner; age 13 was a bit much.
I agree with the poster who says the reality never matches the fantasy.
I'm not sure I could truly trust anyone to tie me up.
Iam yong and into bondage and a boy and like to be in tight womens clothing and to be confined and like a slave or dog
I jerked off to the bondage scenes with Paul Mercurio in Exit to Eden.
I also loved to roughhouse with my friends as a kid in junior high. "Wrestling" and restraint which generally led to ripping off their clothes and getting to touch them. It never went all the way even when we were both kind of turned on because it was a small, tight knit suburb and back then (18-20 years ago) there was more stigma than now - I was terrified something would get out.
Also had a big thing for bondage and hypnosis in comics and on Saturday morning cartoons.
"I jerked off to the bondage scenes with Paul Mercurio in Exit to Eden."
What were your fantasies about Paul, R48?
While it's likely that those with childhood bondage fantasies would be more likely to read this post, skewing the poll results, it's interesting that 80% or so report having had these fantasies. I had no idea they were so common.
This Batman trap is totally erotic and turned me on when I was young. Even the Youtube comments mention this.
What I liked about those scenes in Wild Wild West was the fact that Conrad was always half naked when they tied him up. The fact that he was tied up was completely irrelevant, it was just the opportunity to look at the beauty of his pretty face and naked chest that I enjoyed.
A classmate and I started playing around sexually when we were in the 3rd grade. I was completely naive at the time, but he was clearly getting a sex education from someone older. Looking back, I think it was his pervy uncle.
Anyway, by the time we were in the 4th or 5th grade, we were occasionally setting up sex scenarios with light bondage and even rape. I recall he got his parents to buy him some "toy" handcuffs just for us. (He probably told his parents we were playing cops 'n' robbers.) He REALLY got off on the games. They intrigued me but never like they did him.
I wonder where he is today...
"Speaking of Batman, there was an episode in which the Mad Hatter had Batman encased in plaster; meanwhile, Robin had been captured and kept out of the way. The Hatter's goons did this by -- I'm not kidding -- tying him to a horse made of plaster and GAGGING him."
When I was about 5 or 6 my best friend and I would play "Batman," inevitably it would end up with Robin (my buddy) tied up (and we actually used real rope) in the play house with one of those big swinging axes over him (imaginary of course.) To "save," him of course I would have to get on top of him to protect him from the axe and untie him, which would take forever...again and again and again. He wanted to "save," me sometimes but I refused, Batman always saves Robin. I still like to do the saving to this day.
This thread is so bizarre! I totally had bondage fantasies as a kid, and I have NEVER told anyone about this. Watching Batman on TV gave me a funny feeling on a normal day, but if they got tied up? And someone mentioned Nancy Drew, but did anyone read The Hardy Boys books? There was a LOT of bondage in those. So on to my confession: I used to sneak my sisters Ken dolls from her room, strip them naked and tie them up. To this day I have no idea why it excited me so much.
I used to fantasize about being raped very frequently as a child. It's a pretty common fantasy, imo.
OP, were you sexually abused when you were a child? i'm not tryin to be funny..just asking
glad i found this. I've never disclosed to anyone about my childhood bondage fantasies I really thought I was on my own there. I just couldn't understand what was wrong with me, as a female, tying myself up at night and masturbating, getting excited when bondage popped up in books and movies. Then once i started going online I discovered bondage porn and never looked back, I'm straight however, i get turned on by women in bondage as opposed to men. I've never told anyone about this even my long term partner, he ties me up sometimes but i let him think that it's what he wants lol i dk i feel very ashamed and embarrassed and can't admit 'my secret' to anyone, it feels quite nice getting it off my chest here. Just wish I knew what caused it, to my knowledge i was never molested as a child.
A friend of mine works in a huge antique mall. He said they find either Ken or Barbie dolls intricately bound nearly every week. Oh and at least once a week someone shits on the floor.
First boner I can remember, I got watching Mutiny on the Bounty, the one with Brando. Then an episode of Swamp Fox where Tim Considine got flogged. Now, Dreamboy Bondage.