Does your boyfriend ever say mean, filthy, disgusting, and hurtful things to you as he''s cumming?
This morning he said, "Take my load you dirty f-word whore cum dump."\
Is this the way he really feels? Afterwards, I felt like total dirt.
I wish mine would.
you sound like a priss pot
Mine usually says a variation of "Yeah, boy. I''m gonna get you pregnant." But I think it''s because his wife just got her tubes tied so maybe it''s his breeder instinct kicking in.
If he only talks like that during sex I wouldn''t worry. If he calls you names when you aren''t having sex, you might have a reason to be concerned.
Was he just asking you to do his laundry? If so, that''s way out of line.
My boyfriend asked me why I don''t say mean, filthy, disgusting and hurtful things when [bold]I''m[/bold] cumming. I said, "You''re never around--so why bother?"
the dirtier he talks, the more of a whore I feel, the better the sex.
he called you a "dirty f-word"? is he a mormon?
Not often enough, no.
Oh, Charlotte, sweetie.
Send him my way, OP, I love when guys say things like that to me when we''re having sex.
[quote]"Take my load you dirty f-word whore cum dump."\
Sorry, but that''s just not something you say to you boyfriend even in the nastiest of sex sessions. That''s something you say to someone with whom you have no emotional attachment. Sure, he might say, "Take my load," but no the rest of that sentence.\
OP...has he called you this--or some variation on that theme--before? Or was this the first time he said something so degrading?\
You are right to feel like dirt about his statement.
R14, he has said similar things before. He''s called me "jizz rag". He''s told me the only thing that I''m good for is taking his cock and his cum.
my married fb call me a cum whore when he breeds my ass every thursday. I keep it inside until friday just thinking about him.
would you prefer the following:\
"ohhhh my dear, please allow me to share my sacred essence with you!"
R15. He sounds abusive rather than treating you as an equal. \
The only way I would somewhat overlook language like that is if you and he were role-playing and you both had an understanding that his statements were said with no hurt feelings intended and there was a little underlying fun of which both of you are aware. In other words, "you''re both in on the joke."\
However, from your original statement about you feeling like dirt, it doesn''t sound like you have any such understanding with him. It just sounds like he gets off on abusive language meant to hurt and degrade. \
I''m just guessing that he may also be abusive in other ways in addition to sex. This guy is not boyfriend material. Get your self-esteem in order and get out before he continues tearing you down.
You bitches are nuts. You don''t say something like that to someone you love. You say that when you feel CONTEMPT, not passion.\
OP, you and the BF need a little therapy and or descent communication or you need to dump his ass. Dirty talk is hot. Degrading hate speech is not.
Ooh... the effeminates found this thread.
I think it must have been glorius to have him say that to you. I would have been all aglow after that declaration of love. Yum!
[quote]Dirty talk is hot. Degrading hate speech is not.\
OP: These are words to live by and know the difference. Your boyfriend--or this asshole with whom you live--is degrading you.
It would be inappropriate if you were at the grocery store or perhaps a house of worship, but in bed such discussions can be stimulating and fun for all involved!
Emily Post Coital
OP, why did you type "f-word" instead of "fucking".\
You''re probably a pearl-cluching stuck-up cum dump and your thoughtful boyfriend is doing his best to loosen you up.
A lot of us regard this sort of thing as role-playing during sex, and, as such, fun. I enjoy it myself, although maybe not as a regular routine. I like to be surprised.
OP''s BF sounds hawt.
[quote]You bitches are nuts. You don''t say something like that to someone you love. You say that when you feel CONTEMPT, not passion.\
MINCE, PRISSPOTS, MINCE!!!!
Until people realize that degrading hate speech can be hot, this discussion will get nowhere. Context is everything.
hate rape! The New Black!
This thread was funnier when it was a SATC episode. Over ten years ago.
Hey OP? Try not being a dirty f-word cum dump.
Girl, You Better Work!
All of you shrieking about hate speech must be the most boring queens to go to bed with. What the fuck do you do, just lay there?
Stop being a pissy bitch and be a man about it.
It''s possible to talk dirty without demeaning your partner. If this is a hard concept for you, it''s a good test for where your self-worth and respect for others stand.
Oh get over yourself r.36. Some of us think it''s hot and are turned on and also are filled with tons of self-worth. We''re not fragile little emotional cripples like yourself.
OP, you shouldn''t feel like dirt, your partner should. He is projecting. He obviously feels self-loathing for being gay, for having these sex drives, etc. and when he calls you a \
"cum dump," it is very self-referential. He thinks of himself as a figurative "cum dump," if not literally one. He has other issues that need to be explored. He cannot possibly believe that what he says is a turn on...unless both of you are into humiliation.
I am not into humiliation. He only does it when he''s about cum. This morning he called me a "A dirty bottom cunt boy." He also said that he was going to take me down to the river and sell my hole for $25 a fuck and he was going to take pictures and send them to my parents back home, because that is what I deserved. I think he really thinks I''m a dirty whore.
I''d laugh out loud if someone said that to me during sex. That is some funny shit.
R39, read R38 very carefully. Your boyfriend has a very low opinion of himself.
Next time you''re having sex and he says that again, yell "Yeah daddy, shove it in with the other three loads I took last night!"\
See what he says
[quote]He also said that he was going to take me down to the river and sell my hole for $25 a fuck and he was going to take pictures and send them to my parents back home, because that is what I deserved.\
If only Mark Twain had written gay porn fiction!
The New Adventures of Fuckleberry Him
"I am not into humiliation. He only does it when he''s about cum. This morning he called me a "A dirty bottom cunt boy." He also said that he was going to take me down to the river and sell my hole for $25 a fuck and he was going to take pictures and send them to my parents back home, because that is what I deserved. I think he really thinks I''m a dirty whore."\
He said all that while he was cumming? How long does it take him to shoot a load? Are you sure he was cumming and not pissing on you?
Well, at least we know who CrazyMint''s been screwing lately.
Come home, baby, come home!
OP is a lesbian slash-fiction writer.
Yeah, R45, I wish he''s post here again.
I LOVE degrading sex talk
Sell his hole for $25 dollars a fuck?! The boyfriend sounds extremely hot? I wonder if he ever sells his talents for phone sex?
or writes for comedy - it cracks me up!
Next time he says something like that, punch him as hard as you can in the mouth. He''ll either have the most intense orgasm of his life, or he''ll kill you.
I can''t do that R50. He is bigger and stronger than me. I''m 5''6 and 125 pounds. He''s 6''2 and 210 pounds. There is no way I could ever beat him up and I wouldn''t want to. I really do love him and I think he loves me, but I''m not really sure. All we do is have sex, because he works long hours and I''m still in school. He has a high stress job.
you sound very needy but if you aren''t a troll, if he''s stressed, the sex is probably the best release possible. if you don''t have time ever to communicate then MAKE the time. otherwise you''ll regret it.
Does he leave 200 on the dresser, afterwards?
"OP is a lesbian slash-fiction writer."\
Or straight. Bad writer, either way, and if this were for real (which it''s not), it''d be yet another pathetic loser mistaking DL for her boring, unread/unreadable blog.
Get A Fucking Blog
I''d say "spank me harder, Mother fucker!"
Mother always told me to never allow a man to call me a jizz rag nor a cum whore while being fucked.
[quote] If he only talks like that during sex I wouldn''t worry. If he calls you names when you aren''t having sex, you might have a reason to be concerned.\
R5 said it best. \
R46, why would lesbians write slash fiction?
Brace yourself Effie!
"He only does it when he''s about cum. This morning he called me a "A dirty bottom cunt boy." He also said that he was going to take me down to the river and sell my hole for $25 a fuck and he was going to take pictures and send them to my parents back home, because that is what I deserved."\
He said ALL THAT as he was cumming? Wow - his orgasms last longer than half my relationships.
What do you EXPECT him to say when he''s cumming? Prose from a Hallmark card?
"He also said that he was going to take me down to the river ..."\
Down to the "river"?? Where do you live? And in what century??
I bought this until R39.
I like raunchy talk during sex. But that''s me.\
If you don''t like it OP you need to tell your BF.\
If he get''s off on the fact that you don''t like it. Then dump him and run.
Your my little Hoo-ah!\
I''m gonna pimp you out on the street bitch!\
You are gonna sell that ass bitch!\
My little Hoo-ah!\
I love how OP is a little itty bitty twinky-poo and his boyfriend is a big strapping man with a high stress job.\
Send him to my place! It takes a real man to satisfy MY NEEDS!
Gia G. Lubing up and putting on my Fuck Me Boots!
When my straight married fuck bud tongue kisses me while he he fingers my no no, he calls me his "sweet bitch".\
(and I always cum buckets)
I would too! You''re one lucky bitch!
Wow, I had a huge fight with my boyfriend when he just said, "take my cum, bitch" I told him to go fuck himself for a while after that and he''s never said it again. If he ever said what your loser said I would never fuck him again.
My boyfriend just fucked me and said he would like to stick a machete up my rump and pluck my eyes out with a pair of tongs! Then he came.
My Bf usually says something like \
"Oh yeah baby,,,btw did you pick up cheese dip you know I got The Cunninghams coming over tonight oh and yeah, the cable company called and you forgot to pay the bill again and also will you please do something about the cat hair all over the sofa, Get one of those roller brushes or something..."
[quote] He is bigger and stronger than me. I''m 5''6 and 125 pounds [/quote]\
I will fuck you sweetie.
This thread is making me horny as hell!
cum slut whore dumpster or whatever it is
LOL R61! W&W!!
Taking this a step further, does constant screaming or loud moaning bother anyone? It turns me on for a bit but if it''s too loud or constant I feel like it''s being faked. I like a soft moan while fucking and then of course, much louder upon cumming.
Ya....one time as he was fucking me he slapped my ass and yelled "Who is Daddy''s Dirty little girl?" I said "Not I" as I punched him in the mouth...........He never did that again
Jon Benet Ramsey
I love nasty dirty talk you fucking sorry ass pussies.
me too, what a bunch of delicate little school girls.
OK, a guy I really like was on his way to meet me for the first time after two years of talking online, so he says ''I hope you don''t vomit, I want to eat your vomit'' - he does have low self-esteem at times and is a very open and passionate soul, but this, was too weird f for me, it was a shock, I wasn;t ready to hear that, I called him out on it and he ran, now I feel mean.
[quote]This morning he said, "Take my load you dirty f-word whore cum dump."%0D\
The boyfriend sounds like a keeper; the OP, not so much.
He hit me..
It felt like a kiss..
Wow..maybe it''s the heat of the weekend, and this is a DL fever dream, but I''m seeing Liam Neeson giving the "I''ll take you down to the river" speech to a battered Bradley Cooper in a gay remake of "The Burning Bed"..
They''re both naked, of course..
"How''d the hell did you get in? Did you chew through the burglar bars with those horse teeth you use to nick my dick?"
I still love him though
My old boyfriend used to say "Fuck me with that big nigga dick" as he was cumming and then would have me choke him.
last page BUMP
Dirty cum bump
You''re a doormat, darlin''
1) My boyfriend does not.%0D\
2) Sexual roleplay as practiced may include filthy, disgusting and even hurtful language. That doesn''t mean that it reflects how your partner feels about you. It merely means it''s something that either turns your partner on, something he is trying to see if it turns him on, or something he is trying to see if it turns you on. %0D\
3) The fact that he feels comfortable enough to go there actually reveals a degree of intimacy you should be happy about.%0D\
4) If you don''t like it, simply let him know in a loving and affectionate way.
I''m guessing a LTR for R84 is about 3 hours.%0D\
This thread is hilarious.\
What he says during sex is only bad if it makes you feel bad and if he actually treats you like a filthy whore when he isn''t fucking you. How is he treating you outside the bedroom?\
If a person is good to you and just likes to talk dirty in the heat of the moment- and you are into it, all is well. \
You apparently aren''t into it. So stop talking to us about it and tell your boyfriend.
Is this yet another whiny bottom thread?\
The only thing they''re good for is a cum dump.
Tops of the World
stand up for yourself. say "make that MR. whore fucking dirty cum dump".
but you are a cum dump OP.
"Take my sacred essence you dirty f-word whore sacred essence-dump."
Many people find this to be exciting, but in my experience, the person who says these things during sex is usually a very dominant person in real life. This does not mean that everybody who gets off on it is dominant, but the guys that I have encountered were.
I once had a boyfriend who called me pig and said something very similar when he came, OP.%0D\
I didn''t like it. Not because I couldn''t chock it up to sexplay. Not because I found it insulting in its obviously erotic context.%0D\
But merely because I didn''t find it a turn on. Hot talk is great, and it can push the envelope in a berating way, but I just don''t find "pig" to be a sexy use of sexual domination.%0D\
I think, for other reasons, it was clear to both of us that we had reached the end of our rainbow so we broke up shortly thereafter and it never really became an issue.
[quote]Ooh... the effeminates found this thread.\
As if non-effeminates ever say "Ooh..."
I let my man have free reign in the bedroom.. He can say or do whatever he wants. I know men have some twisted fantasies and its better to just discuss with him that bedroom talk is just talk.. No hard feelings after.. It actually makes the sex amazing because the mans confidence is boosted.. And guys love it if u can take it like a whore but love him n take care of him like a wife.
My first boyfriend used to grunt; "Split those ham's" as he fucked me.
OP, if I send you my email address and a first class plane ticket, can you send him to me for a vacation in the French Quarter? Hmmm?
i love good dirty talk as much as the next guy, well, besides half the MARY's here. but I was having sex with this 21 year old Brazilian guy, super cute, and super dirty, and he kept saying, 'fuck my doody-hole, daddy, give me your babies.' I felt that was too sick even for me, so to shut him up, I spit into his mouth and came on his face.
But I disagree that people that are dominant in the bedroom are like that elsewhere. In real life, I'm a prancersizing cube frau who is meek as a mouse. Wish I was more like I am in the bedroom in real life.
All you AIDS infested 'mos are into scat and porn and piss and B&D and S&M and bestiality and pedophilia so why would you think otherwise?
R103? Get cancer and die slowly. Please.
OP, that would be fine with me as long as he was hot enough. If you're only marginally attractive to him, I can see how it'd get irritating. Plus I think it helps to be bdsm-attuned to get into that. I am, sounds like you aren't. Don't let him get you down, dump him if necessary.
Sounds like you're living the life r99, that all us submissive bottoms want. Be grateful for it, it's only been fantasy for me.
OP, when he says that to you scream back "fuck me harder! you fuck like a girl!" then slap him.
r99 & r66: just how many straight women are posting here/
I decided r99 was a gay guy because he ends it by saying "take care of him *like* a wife." But maybe I misread it. R99 better not be a woman, especially without making that perfectly clear. Gay or straight, the opinions of women aren't really appropriate or welcome in this thread.
R109 Speak for yourself. I don't give a flying fuck for the gender of the person commenting. If I think it's funny or interesting or just tedious then that's what I think and the person behind the comment is unimportant as far as that goes.
Anyone and everyone can comment and your misogynistic fuckwittery is unwelcome to me - a man, in case you want to feel like a Mary Superior and tell me I'm not welcome.
fuck, just reading that made me hard.
OP send him my way.
I need r99 in my life!
do lesbians like dirty talk during sex? and does it usually involve crocs, transmissions and janet reno?
Sin never dies, whores.
Gay men hate each other
He just wanted to spice things up if he was really degrading u he d be beating you an saying these words to other women he was just painting an exotic picture in his head to make his orgasim feel less routine. My guess is this guy has self esteem issues...he just needs his ego stroked every once in awhile so instead of taking his " degrading " sex talk so personally just lean your head back an say "yes fuck me like a dirty whore with that fat cock im your cum dumbster fill me up mr. Whatever his last name is lol " ....and yes to answer your question i am married an my man definetly knows how lucky he is :p good luck and if u still feel degraded run him in the ground that way your the one in control he can only hurt u emotiomally if u let him. Show him ur not intimidated by his new fetish an switch it over on him an make him ur bitch if he starts taking advantage to cause pain...toughen up chick fuck that meat stick slap him in the face an call him a douch bag cum before him jump off his dick an make him jerk off if hes hurting ur feelings...u have the pussy...u have the power dont ever forget that ;)
Mine tells me I smell bad. It is so hurtful, but I know he thinks it's a turn-on because it's just not true.
Sex is dirty and degrading - only if it's done right
r61 and r66, great posts!
My bf is into degradation during sex. I was a total Mr Vanilla 'til I met him. Now I can make your BF sound like Martha Stewart, OP. It doesn't do much for me (I just love to fuck, not so fussed about the roleplay) but he loves it and it doesn't spill over into our day-to-day life. If you don't love it, tell him.
My boyfriend always talks about filthy, disgusting things, but that's because he works at the Department of Sanitation
A female friend of mine was walking along telling me that her new boyfriend likes to talk dirty, I said like what?
She told me the stuff he said (god so fucking hot) and I kind of blacked out a little. I fell off the curb and wound up on one knee before the dizzy went away. She laughed. I seriously envied her for quite some time.
R124, are you a boy or a girl?
R124, male. Guys can hyperventilate too ya know. And besides the stuff she said was so hot...so hot. I don't remember the specifics now, but I wish I did.
TY r124. I guess you know what bf looks like so that can add to knowing the "pillow talk"
Take my Mormon load, you little diving bitch!
Dirty talk can be great but guys who like to choke or hit during sex freak me out.
I like to be choked an if i was hit when having sex id just hit back my man an i are crazy like really really crazy i fucking love it do anything he wants i feel if u dont meet ur mans needs he ll probably cheat
A married guy I used to fuck liked for me to talk mean and trashy to him. One day while he was showering beforehand, I programmed his home phone number into my landline along with *67 to block my number. As I was fucking him in the missionary position I reached over and hit the speaker phone button and dialed his home number and hit the mute button and his wife answered and said hello three or four times. He heard his wife's voice but didn't know I had hit the mute. I told him "tell your wife you're a dick sucking faggot and like to get fucked in the ass". He came right then and then he reached over and jerk the phone cord out of the wall. I didn't get to come in his ass before he got off but it was worth it to see the look of panic on his face when he heard his wife's voice and then heard what I said to him, not knowing she couldn't hear us.
I have a straight female friend who lives for having her partner speak dirty (whore, jizz, cum, etc.) and relishes lying in cum post-fuck.
[quote]I like to be choked an if i was hit when having sex id just hit back my man an i are crazy like really really crazy i fucking love it do anything he wants i feel if u dont meet ur mans needs he ll probably cheat
If you fuck like you write, I'd hit you, too.
I think he's trying to make the sex more exciting. I've been talked to like that during sex a few times. It's kind of hot.
The earlier posts in this thread are hilarious. Best giggle I've had reading a thread in ages.
OP, I'd like to hook up with your boyfriend. Just reading that turned me on. This is the hottest thread I've read here ever.
A little dirty talk goes a long way,but if he only does it when hes cumming Id get over it and not take it personally.Just be glad youve got a big stud to fuck you,in 20 years your gonna WISH he was there spewing obscenities in your ear!
I have a straight married fuck buddy who spits in my face and calls me "piece of shit faggot" while he fucks me.
Interesting how many people here are turned on by such behavior. .. Yet, they would probably be the first to call someone who has great relationships with other guys, but doesn't pay lip service to the gay agenda, "self-loathers." .. You people are funny. Sick, but funny.
Clarifying: great SEXUAL relationships with other guys.
Why does gay sex always seem to end up being tinged with degradation,humiliation or mild violence?
My bf would say "You're a talentless good for nothing piece of shit and you will never amount to anything" while he's cumming. It's pretty hot.
How many of you out there got
big ol' hateful anteaters, let hear you scream!!
That's what I'm looking for this evening.
I put one leg on the microwave
and the other one just across the blender.
R143, you sound like a hillbilly
R138I have to tell you, a straight-identified married man who fucks you on the side but spits in your face and calls you utterly demeaning names as he does it is no kind of buddy.
You're feeding his hate, if he doesn't stick a knife in you one day, it'll be someone else that gets hurt. He needs a shrink.
R143 - Are you with the Bolshoi? My mind is reeling.
[quote]Why does gay sex always seem to end up being tinged with degradation,humiliation or mild violence?
Hon, it's because by definition male gay sex is between two men. It's a competitive sport I can resonate with.
So sex can't be romantic,loving or purely about giving and receiving pleasure because two men are involved?
Maybe it's because gay men are just inherently fucked up.
This is the wittiest thread I have seen here in years. This is why I stop in at DL.
R148 - No, no! R141 said "TINGED with degradation, humiliation or mild violence."
Look around you. Men, gay and straight, can love each other, and share pleasure (obviously in platonic or sexual ways depending who they are), while being competitive, domineering, playfully insulting and humiliating. It's testosterone at work.
If the man you're in a relationship with hates your (or his own) guts, I think in most cases you should be able to tell.
This thread is making me not feel so bad about being single.
I wish he would.
[R141] Because it's hotter that wsy.
Let him have his fantasy- you have yours. But I feel that gay men have a hate for each other because of their self hate and they see themselves in each other. When they take their hate out in bed and want to punish and humiliate their partner, it is empowering and gives them a sense of self worth.
op= misshelenbedd's lover.
Is this another Penthouse Letters wannabe thread?
You guys have weird sex lives. My BF says filthy, disgusting, passionate, and loving things when he cums. No mean or hurtful things.
If someone called me anything hateful or degrading in or out of bed they would be gone.
I wish he'd say mean, filthy, disgusting, and hurtful things to me when I'm cumming. That can be SO HOT!!!!!!
filthy and disgusting is great during sex, OP, YOU CRAZY
my question is why calling your sex partner a whore is a turn out, is it only whores who enjoy sex or give their bums so freely, what is the catch?
Yes, thankfully I'm not in the room to hear them, so it doesn't bother me anymore.
I would imagine only people with psychological problems do this...both parties involved: those that do it, and those that like it.
My lesbian lover used to scream, "But you ARE in a wheelchair, Blanch. You ARE!" Always made me cum buckets.
YES MY BOYFRIEND CALLS ME A FAGGOT WHEN HE IS CUMING,THEN MAKES ME STAY ON IT THEN MAKES ME DRINK HIS PISS,BUT HE SO HOT
"Oh my God. I'm back. I'm home. All the time, it was... We finally really did it ... You Maniacs! You blew it up! Ah, damn you! God damn you all to hell!"
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