I''m not talking about a one night stand or a brief hook up on a business trip or a blowjob in the bathroom at [...], but an honest to goodness, stolen moments, motel off the interstate exit meeting, longterm, emotional and physical affair?
Hey, that''s my life story.
Always The Bridesmaid
Straight people have affairs. We have fuck buds of varying shades.
OP, are you in your 60s ?\
Who else would use the word ''affair'' these days ?
Is it an affair if you have it while in an open relationship and your partner was aware of it? If yes, then several.
Many, many, MANY! I''ve fucked my way all over the world, and enjoyed every fucking minute of it.
What''s worse, an emotional affair or a physical affair?
I can''t remember.
I have also never had a relationship where my partner didn''t cheat on me.\
(sometimes it was the reason for the breakup, sometimes I only found out afterwards).\
I no longer even bother trying to date or find a relationship.
I had a fuckbuddy who I knew during his relationships with women as he went from one girlfriend to another. When he got married we started up again after he''d been married for about a year. Then after he got her pregnant he came over a lot.\
Haven''t seen him in years.
OP = Tiger Woods
Yes. About 5 years ago I was in a committed relationship with the perfect woman. She was nice-looking, with an incredible body - sexy, smart and funny.\
But, I travel a lot because of my job, and can be away from home for months at a time. While on one those hiatuses, I started shacking up with a co-worker, who was great in bed, but completely nuts. \
She stalked and threatened my girlfriend and ruined the best relationship I''ve ever had and probably ever will have. I''ll regret it until the day I fucking die. \
I''m involved with someone else now, but I still love my ex and probably always will.
Damn r14. Did your girlfriend drop you immediately after finding out or did she drop you because of the threats by the other woman?
She threw me out of the house immediately once she found out about the affair, but I think we could have eventually gotten back together if the psycho gf had stayed out of the picture. She just made her life miserable.\
My ex eventually started dating someone else and they''re still together. The psycho gf apparently found someone else to direct her attention to - I haven''t heard from her in years, thank God.
You dykes have the best relationship drama EVER.
Actually, I know a lot of faggots who could give the lesbians a run for their money in the relationship drama department.
[quote]She stalked and threatened my girlfriend and ruined the best relationship I''ve ever had and probably ever will have.\
Oh NO no no. YOU ruined the best relationship you ever had, not the psycho 2nd girlfriend. You don''t bump pussies with crazy, especially if you want to keep your "real" girlfriend. And don''t act all whiny and scarred for life, honey, because your ex-GF is the one who is really scarred, what with being cheated on and stalked and threatened and all.
[quote]Actually, I know a lot of faggots who could give the lesbians a run for their money in the relationship drama department.\
Oh, puhleez. All we have is throwing computers out of high rise windows and screaming matches. You all have the stalking, the crazy and the obsessive revenge fantasies that never die.
You can get a blowjob in the bathroom at [...]? Shit I can''t even get a drink there.
Hey R14, was the psycho gf''s name Ilene or Miggi, by any chance
I am proud to say I have had two ltr''s in my adult life, and I never cheated on either of them - not even as much as a kiss or a serious flirtation at a party or with a friend or friend of a friend.\
I don''t know if either cheated on me. I doubt it. I remain friends with both of them to this day. WE talk once or twice a week. I don''t want to know, if indeed, that is the case. But I don''t really think it is or I would know already.\
And lesbian drama is totally different. Men don''t obsess and stalk and hold things for years the way fish do. We are just built differently.
I was in a LTR and was cheated on by my gf/financee. She had an affair with a co-worker who knew we were together and engaged. It devastated me. Because of the pain it caused me and the way it turned my life upside down, I will never knowingly interfere in someone else''s relationship. I will never act on an attraction if the other person is not single. I would never want to inflict that pain on someone after being put through it myself. And if I''m in a relationship, I will get out first. Anybody who gets involved with another persons partner is the lowest form of life.
[quote]Anybody who gets involved with another persons partner is the lowest form of life.\
It takes two to tango, honey.
Yes, it takes 2 to tango. But if you knowingly do it, you are scum.
Yes, on my previous partner. Come to find out he was nutzo and toward the end, I had to have some companionship. I''ve only ever told my best friend, and no one else. \
He was a straight/engaged guy. Met online and spent the summer sucking and fucking. He was pretty hot. He got married late that summer, finished law school, and started his life. \
Shortly thereafter, I ended my relationship in search of something less insane.
R26, you are nice and kind. Because an affair was done to me and shattered my life, I would like to do it to another person.
The cheater is responsible for their share of scumminess. And, yes, it takes two people to knowingly engage in an affair.
I love the way the fish here want to blame FIRST AND ABOVE ALL, the innocent third party.
The third party has no blame. He is not violating any promise to anyone.
The cheating partner is the bastard, plain and simple. That is the person whose actions directly violate the trust, honesty and partnership.
However, something was missing in the relationship that opened the door for the cheater to leave - and THAT is where it takes two to tango.
If you bitches would take care of your man, none of this would happen.
The truth is, you use sex to grab them, then use it to manipulate them into a miserable life of withholding it knowing full well a man has physical needs.
you think he is going to carry all that lawn shit for you and go with you to furniture sales and lug all that shit and move all that furniture all day, blah, blah, blah, and
Plus listen to all your constant bitching and talking endlessly in circles about your feelings...
Those are your needs and he meets them, then you turn over when its his needs being met...
and you want to blame the person who simply takes care of him.
Well, it does take two to tango, sweetie, and when you arent living up to your end of the dance, you are in sick denial to think you dont have a part in it.
R26, I completely agree with you. I''ve never cheated on anyone before, but I''ve had it happen to me. And knowing how that felt, well I would never put anyone through that feeling ever.\
R30, that''s really sad.
if you had been satisfying your partner sexually R26 and 33, it would have never happened. It''s that simple.\
And you can deny it all you want, but you got lazy or fat or bossy, one or all of the three, so your partner left.\
There, I said it. And you can flame me if you want, but you know im right.
Christ MHB you do you on and on and on and on and on\
It''s simple... the person who has the most to lose is the one who is responsible for the repercussions.\
The lesbian @ r14 is wrong because she knew she was jeopardizing her great loving relationship. She didn''t just set up housekeeping she did so with a crazy person. A person she knew was nuts and yet continue anyways. I think the lesbian @ R14 knows and accepts this.
R30 here, yes, but I never have, R33.
R34 you seem to miss the point, they never left they just cheated. If they were unhappy they they should have left instead of living a big fucking lie. They never gave their partner a choice.
EVERYONE STOP! Give me some attention, damn you.
im just saying... if wifey would fish-up and do her womanly duties, the hot straight guy over in "My cocksucking exploits with straight buddy of mine" \
wouldn''t be all up in a bed with with his legs spread and danglin over the edge holdin up a sheet between him and some queen down there \
whose gotta endure the indignity of being called "girl" or whatever it is she has to hear while she is milkin her some hard stiff cock.\
Bless miss thing on her knees. She''s just steppin in where she is needed.
Bless you, r40.
well, that was sort of embarrassing, wasn''t it R38?
R34 is right in my case, obviously in retrospect, the "relationship" or whatever it was, was lacking and weak, but that isn''t the issue. The issue is when the other partner doesn''t have the courage or respect to end it before just cheating. \
It isn''t fair to put the "non cheating party" at risk for STDs.
I was obeyed wasn''t I, fish cunt at 43?
I have never had an affair and i''m very happy i haven''t. I love my bf. \
But i''ve met men in relationships, when I was partnered, that I really wanted to have an affair with.
What if you are in a sexless partnership of more than 6 years? But do not want to break up the family/social unit and want something on the side?
I have, once. I was/am in a long term relationship with someone my own age (40's) who is smart and super successful plus really funny and kind. I started messing around with a very young hot women (20's) who was (I hate to say this but...) rather dumb and not so nice...but ridiculously hot. She was always all over me and complimenting me => like a constant ego boost. I was able to justify it at the time because it was fun and exciting. But as the affair carried on, I started to realize that once the newness faded, it was less exciting and rather tedious. And besides sex, the woman I was having the affair with was no fun. So - I ended it. My partner never found out. The affair woman tried to guilt trip me into resuming the affair but I just ignored her. This will sound sick - but it made me really grateful for the relationship I have. This was years ago and I never strayed again.
Exactly my situation, R47. My partner has been suffering from depression and anxiety for years and was finally put on various medications which pretty much killed his sex drive. Add to that all other pressures of daily life and we went on not having sex in any meaningful sense for several years. I met someone and what was supposed to be no strings attached sex, turned into an affair. He was an intelligent, very successful man with whom I had so much in common. Soon, casual sex turned into dates and sleepovers when my partner was out of town. The guy ticked all the boxes on the perfect man checklist but, in the end, I realized I loved my partner too much and we shared so much, both good and bad, to carry on the affair.
I AM the affair. . . .to remember!
When I'm in love with someone, I'm not immune to other people's looks and charms, but always in a very removed way, with no urge to act upon it. And if the person I'm in love with doesn't color the world in that way, then there's something wrong from the start.
I'm happy on my own and happy being plenty trampy but, like a chemical reaction, both of those things change the few times I've been in love.
Yes, but unfortunately he thought we were an item.
Basically I used him as a two year fuck buddy and he made the unpardonable sin of falling in love with me.
One day I just moved out of state.
He didn't take it well. Was pretty confused and hurt, but I wanted it to be over between us.
Thanks R49 - I met someone recently as well- but not sure if the other person is even interested.
But have some DELUSION that I can maintain both relationships my primary non sexual one and the secondary one. I stumbled on this Private Affairs board and there are lots of threads that make this seem feasible.
However, I posted my scenario on DL knowing I would get a quick call to reality.
They were my destinies!!!!
[quote]Oh NO no no. YOU ruined the best relationship you ever had, not the psycho 2nd girlfriend. You don't bump pussies with crazy, especially if you want to keep your "real" girlfriend. And don't act all whiny and scarred for life, honey, because your ex-GF is the one who is really scarred, what with being cheated on and stalked and threatened and all.
Exactly. No sympathy for the cheater who lost the "love of her life".
Spuds isn't going to answer this thread, Francis, so you'll have to.
Shoot! I don't even know where to find an affair. oh well.