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Selecting a personal trainer based on hotness.

Aright, so... I am not a total pig as the title suggests. I joined a new gym recently and had a free training session & evaluation with one guy. While doing cardio, I saw one of the most attractive men I've ever seen in my life (can't find him on their website ATM, sorry). Every trainer is in the $100-125 range per session, and they are all equally qualified. My past two trainers at other gyms were guys that I had no attraction towards, whatsoever...so I don't really care that much about it.

This gym is expensive as hell. And, while I am paying near-rentboy prices (including the membership fees), why not have the fitness model guy? I figure that I work in a field with not-so-hot people all day, I am average looking, my BF is average looking...and we are monogamous (and I rarely even watch porn). But, this would just be for my viewing pleasure - he's obviously straight.

The problem is - how can I transition from the trainer who did my evaluation...and what excuse can I give for wanting to work with the fitness model trainer without seeming like a total pig and being a dick to the guy who did my eval? The training mgr seems like a lesbian, and she was very nice...but she'll know whats up pretty easily.

by Anonymousreply 42April 13, 2021 8:58 PM

Just tell the truth. At $100 a session, they just want your money, regardless of who you go with. I wonder how much more it would be for oral.

by Anonymousreply 1April 30, 2015 4:25 PM

He's probably booked up but do it anyway.

Your current guy will find out about it, be resentful and work the hell out of you.

by Anonymousreply 2April 30, 2015 4:35 PM

OP, newbies are just randomly assigned to new trainers or the training manager's favorite.

Just thank this trainer for his assessment but tell him that you have been observing the training style of another trainer and would like to work with him. He would probably introduce you to that trainer, and they will work out some type of compensation, (and not necessarily financial) between the two of them themselves.

You're the paying client, and at these prices for training to be the most effective, you have to at least really like who you are training with.

by Anonymousreply 3April 30, 2015 4:42 PM

How old are you? My advice is if you're 30, go with the hottie and throw your money away enjoying your weekly "clothes-on hookup without sex" at the gym. If he's not the best trainer out there, who cares? You don't, apparently... and that's ok.

But if you're 45 or older, go with a trainer who knows what he's (or she's) doing. Preferably a trainer who is also age 40+ and experienced, not some young fool who recently took a quickie certificate program. Because the older you get, the more consequential an injury is.

by Anonymousreply 4April 30, 2015 4:46 PM

I'm 35. The beefcake trainer is probably 30 or so. This gym is pretty intense with their trainers' credentials - and they go off site for a month to be trained on the specific approach that is used in this chain.

The first guy did my evaluations, so he has all these plans to fix my IT band, open my chest muscles up (I have bad posture, etc)... and how I'd come in a certain # of days per week, etc... he already developed this massive spreadsheet (without me even saying I'm paying for more...which is part of their sales approach, I guess).

"clothes-on hookup without sex" - haha good way to put it.

by Anonymousreply 5April 30, 2015 4:54 PM

The guy you were assigned to sounds pretty good. Of course, until you start training with him, you never know, but damn, I could use both better posture and IT band help. My trainer doesn't do that. Then again, I wind up using my trainer as a surrogate therapist because I don't have time to do both.

by Anonymousreply 6April 30, 2015 4:58 PM

Oh honey, you are not alone! We are a species that notices and rewards attractiveness. When I'm on the freeway, I will change position to have a more attractive car in front of me. Yes, go for the good-looking one if they are truly equal in skill. It's just human nature, and yes, you're paying a lot - get what you want.

Don't feel bad about what the first guy has done already. Presumably you are paying for this. He got his money either way. Just casually say you'd like to try the other guy (without a reason, and don't give one - that's your business, Mr. Paying Customer), or approach him directly to schedule appointments. If original guy pushes, just say he is perfectly fine, you had no problems with him. You just would like to try this other guy. Leave it at that and don't give a reason. (Or say you have a good feeling about hot guy, because feelings are not like logic that can be argued with.)

by Anonymousreply 7April 30, 2015 5:02 PM

Geez, I figured this thread would be filled with 'don't do it!' 'Save your money!' 'you're shallow for wanting the hottie!'

I've had plain looking BAD trainers and HOT trainers who really know their shit and vice versa.

Go for what makes you happy.

Currently, I'm seeing a guy I was practically in love with. I woke up in 'like' one day, not sure how that happened.

Anyway, he's my trainer and he's a good one.

Right now, it works.

by Anonymousreply 8April 30, 2015 5:06 PM

[quote]I'm 35. The beefcake trainer is probably 30 or so. This gym is pretty intense with their trainers' credentials - and they go off site for a month to be trained on the specific approach that is used in this chain.

Well, I'd like to know what gym this is. It sounded as if it might be Equinox, and if so I'd like to know which one! You might have a referral fee coming OP.

by Anonymousreply 9April 30, 2015 5:15 PM

I'm such a pussy I will probably have to figure out when my original guy's day off is - and then schedule one session with the hot one.

I was tetxing with a friend about this - and he just said, why are you spending $115 on this hot trainer who you cant touch (for a body you won't get for years) when a hooker is $150-200? Anyway, separate topic - but funny comment from him. He, of course, told me to go for the hot one - and "do something to make your bulge look big."

My IT band is seriously messed up. My right thigh is 1.5" bigger in circumference than my left, where the pain is. It's been going on for nearly a year - that I have two entirely different sized legs! Either guy could help that - but everyone agrees it's not just a gym thing. You have to modify your daily posture and constantly stretch at home, etc. One hour of a trainer can't undo 8 hours a day of sitting like a cubicle drone.

by Anonymousreply 10April 30, 2015 5:23 PM

Yes, it's equinox. Do you want the $150? haha.

by Anonymousreply 11April 30, 2015 5:24 PM

OP, is a drama queen. Too much! I'm done...

by Anonymousreply 12April 30, 2015 5:26 PM

OP, you should try one of those adjustable computer trays for at work - $40 on amazon. Then stand and work at your desk for as long as is comfortable, slowly building up to standing for longer periods over time.

And get the hot trainer. that goes without saying.

by Anonymousreply 13April 30, 2015 5:27 PM

OP is bored, R12. Sorry if his long rambling posts that upset you...he is literally doing nothing right now.

by Anonymousreply 14April 30, 2015 5:30 PM

Just saw you prefer him. Don't be self concious about it. Everyone knows the score, you won't be the first or the last person that wants to be around the hot one.

However he is no doubt the most popular trainer there, as R2 said he might be booked up but it is definitely worthwhile to try. You are paying good money, why not have some eye candy if you can swing it.

by Anonymousreply 15April 30, 2015 5:30 PM

[quote]I'm such a pussy I will probably have to figure out when my original guy's day off is - and then schedule one session with the hot one.

Yep, that's totally what I would do.

by Anonymousreply 16April 30, 2015 5:34 PM

[quote]My IT band is seriously messed up.

What's an IT band?

by Anonymousreply 17April 30, 2015 6:05 PM

R17, you can see it at the link below.

It causes bad (stabbing) knee pain if it is too tight. It gets tight because the muscles around it are tight or overused. Runners have problems with it often. You can just get issues with it from sitting too much.

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by Anonymousreply 18April 30, 2015 6:10 PM

Seriously, you should try water aerobics. You can get a really good workout and it increases mobility and decreases tightness and pain. I never would have known if not for my own injury.

by Anonymousreply 19April 30, 2015 7:19 PM

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by Anonymousreply 20April 30, 2015 7:33 PM

I'm looking for or a hot massage therapist

by Anonymousreply 21May 1, 2015 1:17 PM

masseur.com, R21

by Anonymousreply 22May 1, 2015 1:46 PM

OP, you get a free pilates session at Equinox too.

But, what are your reasons for engaging a personal trainer in the first place? No matter where you go it can be pretty expensive. There is a thread on this site asking if anyone has ever noticed a significant body change by anyone at their gym. Some interesting responses. Myself personally I've never seen a dramatic change with anyone--even those working out with a trainer.

by Anonymousreply 23May 1, 2015 2:23 PM

Honestly, my results with a trainer have been mostly negligible. I think you only get real results if you work out with one 4-5 times per week, which most of us can't afford. I see mine 2x per week. I go up and down with my weight, but the one thing I have noticed is my clothes fit differently, even at similar weights. I've gone between 180-210 a few times in the 10 years I've worked out with my trainer, and clothes that were tight at, say 200, before I started seeing him are now loose at that same weight. So I've definitely added muscle, however, it's not in the places I'd prefer it (my biceps are meh). The biggest change has been my chest/shoulders/back, which were broad before, but now I look like I could play football for the 49ers. And my waist has gone down. My legs were always huge. But I'm definitely fat/fit (I'm working towards fit/fat).

by Anonymousreply 24May 1, 2015 6:44 PM

The problem is that what most trainers have people do, is not sustainable on one's own in the long run. And/or people rely on a trainer rather than learning how to effectively work out on their own.

by Anonymousreply 25May 1, 2015 7:07 PM

First of all, you can't manage the switch.

Second, stick with the trainer you've got and flirt a little with the trainer you find hot.

It's a win win.

If the hottie's in to you, it's better to see what happens without having the training relationship.

If the hottie's not in to you, it's far better that you don't have an ongoing training relationship with him because it will just remind you that he's rejected you.

And if all you want is to flirt with the guy a little without any serious attentions toward his body, heart or soul, it's much easier to do it on the qt without him being your trainer.

by Anonymousreply 26May 1, 2015 7:15 PM

That's a good answer R26...he's definitely straight though. I think it would be bizarre to switch & not comfortable for anyone involved. He probably saw me staring at him when I was doing cardio, though I tried to look elsewhere - he was right in front of me.

The reason I want a trainer involves a few things

1 - IT band so messed up that my right thigh is 1.5" larger in circumference than left (where I have the problem). They measured this at the evaluation. I could see a physical therapist but they are not as good as trainers, IMO. They know the ways to stretch out the legs / hips / etc...and strengthen things. I've done every YouTube foam roller technique you an imagine, and I still have it. It's a very common problem.

2 - I tend to do things wrong with weights, but only slightly enough to change the exercise...e.g., bench press - I'll lift my shoulders too close to my neck, working the serratus muscle and another muscle that actually pulls your shoulders forward (adding to worse posture)...not this does not end up even working the pecs. Good form is something that people sort of brush off - but if you don't have it - you wind up with bad posture, lack of gains (aka wasted time and money), and injuries. So, trainers help - even if you are experienced, chances are you'll want to add 10 more pounds to an exercise, and then cheat your form to get it done.

by Anonymousreply 27May 1, 2015 9:07 PM

Lost 50 pounds by eating clean and Cardio. I lift for strength and endurance. Once I take off another 20 I'll hook up with a personal trainer. At that point the goal will be to build pretty muscle and look hot with my shirt off. Any personal trainer I hire is going to have to take his shirt off and show me what he's got. If he isn't jacked and ripped, he's not the trainer for me.

by Anonymousreply 28May 1, 2015 9:18 PM

take the less hot guy--after a few sessions the novelty of the hot guy will fade. also, hes never going to be into you so why punish yourself

by Anonymousreply 29May 1, 2015 9:19 PM

[quote]Honestly, my results with a trainer have been mostly negligible. I think you only get real results if you work out with one 4-5 times per week, which most of us can't afford.

Unfortunately, that is the result for most people who work with trainers and it isn't the trainers fault. Twice a week is okay, (and you're right! that's the most that the average person can afford--if that), but it really comes down to what the person/client is doing the other 5 days. Most of us are just trying to get through the exercises that we don't really pay attention to our diets, or the routines that a trainer is taking us through. It's like many of us see the "trainer" as the magic pill that will solve everything. In many cases it's almost like a wasted effort. Sure! some of us will see "some" type of improvement, but it's probably not the results that we REALLY want.

I've worked with NUMEROUS trainers over my years and there have only been 2 that have guided me to the level of where I wanted to be--looking like a bodybuilder. The first one was actually somebody who I hired for a massage, (YES. One of those types of massages), and he had such a SICK body that I convinced him to be my trainer. He isn't licensed either,(as a trainer or massage therapist), but knew exactly what to do. As he said; "I know what I like to see about a man" and "You will be able to take a wrinkled shirt and put it on without ironing it!" I went from a medium to a large to extra large! As you wrote R24; "The biggest change has been my chest/shoulders/back, which were broad before, but now I look like I could play football for the 49ers." His fee was $50/hr with a 2 session/wk minimum. What was good about him is that we worked out together. Alas, he moved to another state.

The other,(and no I do not work for them),is this place that I linked to. These guys are trainers to celebrities and their whole goal is to produce significant results in a short-term period...and they do! They're expensive but I found that it was money well spent. But, it was after the program ended and the upkeep which became my problem.

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by Anonymousreply 30May 3, 2015 1:36 PM

[quote]The problem is that what most trainers have people do, is not sustainable on one's own in the long run. And/or people rely on a trainer rather than learning how to effectively work out on their own.

Mr Trainer, I pretty much agree with you except that I think that what most Trainers have us do IS sustainable. The problem is, (in my opinion), when you no longer have a person pushing you that you're not as prone to push yourself, or just simply seek to do better. My complaint is, (and is it really the trainer's fault?), is that they don't teach you, or encourage you, to become independent of them. A lot of it has to do with the mindset of the client.

by Anonymousreply 31May 3, 2015 1:47 PM

[quote]Any personal trainer I hire is going to have to take his shirt off and show me what he's got. If he isn't jacked and ripped, he's not the trainer for me.

And that's a good point, R28! You have to admire/respect your Trainer. Their body is their business card! Also, the client has got to have some sense of what he wants and learn about how he will get there. I hired an Equinox Trainer, (the one that did my evaluation), and he was good--very good, except he did give me what I wanted. His approach to exercise was more Kinesthetic and he was absolutely correct about pointing out my mistakes and positioning my stances, etc to get the BEST result from each exercise he had me perform. I did learn from him BUT it wasn't what I wanted. I'm in this game purely for the aesthetics and he was never able to sate that desire fully. That's why OP you should make a switch to the other trainer. You will be much more motivated to work.

by Anonymousreply 32May 3, 2015 2:01 PM

[quote] Unfortunately, that is the result for most people who work with trainers and it isn't the trainers fault. Twice a week is okay, (and you're right! that's the most that the average person can afford--if that), but it really comes down to what the person/client is doing the other 5 days. Most of us are just trying to get through the exercises that we don't really pay attention to our diets, or the routines that a trainer is taking us through. It's like many of us see the "trainer" as the magic pill that will solve everything. In many cases it's almost like a wasted effort. Sure! some of us will see "some" type of improvement, but it's probably not the results that we REALLY want.

Agreed. And I have seen results, but like I said, it's more in the way my clothes fit and the shape of my body than it is having big "guns" (which I have to admit would be nice.) I suppose I could go in on my off days and just blast my biceps every day. Is it worth the money- maybe? I look at it as a primer. when i do reach the goal weight, i'd like to step it up more.

by Anonymousreply 33May 4, 2015 4:51 PM

I switched to the right trainer for me. He's tough on me; my last one wasn't. My current one joked, "I'm just enough of an ass-hole to make this work."

There's truth to that. I'm finding he works for me.

I'm just over 50 so it's now or never.

If I don't have results by the end of the summer I'll re-evaluate.

by Anonymousreply 34May 4, 2015 6:31 PM

ug, long story short my trainer had to switch gyms and he's getting caught up at the new place and has to put off training his regulars for a week; I had no idea I was going to miss the routine, schedule, and comfort I found in working with him.

Driving me NUTS!

by Anonymousreply 35May 7, 2015 3:54 AM

just find one that escorts on the side. then you can pay him for fucking too.

by Anonymousreply 36May 7, 2015 8:48 AM

I was in a similar situation but the opposite reason. My assigned trainer was PERFECTION. Ripped with a handsome jaw, blond, gorgeous blue eyes (I don't even like blue eyes) and a warm/comforting smile.

I couldn't work with this Adonis, I kept getting flustered. I took on a trollish looking beefy guy instead. Mr Perfect didn't mind, he said that "not everyone is the right fit for everyone" and told me that guy was good and he'll take care of me.

by Anonymousreply 37May 7, 2015 12:28 PM

OP, go. With the guy that is less attractive to you. Believe me, I've been there, and having the hot one will only bring you depression.

by Anonymousreply 38May 7, 2015 12:47 PM

I always select a trainer on the length of his erect cock

by Anonymousreply 39May 7, 2015 1:14 PM

I would have thought having a hot one would make you look forward to your workouts and make you work harder to get his complements. This would justify the results.

But then I can see eventually falling for him and the frustration and depression it would cause.

by Anonymousreply 40May 8, 2015 3:39 PM

The bottom line is that you have to know what you want to get/learn from your trainer short-term. Is it routines, weight levels, etc. Most people hire a trainer for 10-12 sessions, (because it is expensive), and that equates to 2-3 times a week.

The problem with that month is that in many cases you're just beginning to know your trainer and finding that comfort level. OP, you should do whatever is necessary that is going to get you the best results for that month. Don't worry about hurt feelings. These are big boys and girls. They can handle it.

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by Anonymousreply 41May 10, 2015 12:54 PM

My dream trainer

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