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Are There Any Gay Guys Who Aren't Whores?

Is it just a creature of the imagination and fantasy? Is every single gay guy in existence a total slut? Are there any guy guys who don't go out cruising parks and bathrooms or attend "sex parties"? Even my boyfriend who I thought was like me cheated on me, but then of course came crawling back begging me to take him after learning he cheated with a slut that doesn't give a shit about him. Why is it always about sex? Sex and big dicks. That's all gay men think about. Not falling in love. Not finding an actual life-partner. Just sex and big dicks.

by Anonymousreply 198August 2, 2020 9:40 PM

Yes, but why on earth would you want to meet one?

by Anonymousreply 1April 16, 2015 10:16 PM

There are plenty. But don't fool yourself into thinking they want to date your uptight, judgy ass.

by Anonymousreply 2April 16, 2015 10:21 PM

The fat ones.

by Anonymousreply 3April 16, 2015 10:32 PM

The idea of a long-term partner seems nice, but having sex with the same person for more than just a couple times or even more than once seems like a waste of time. It's like reading the same book more than once. How many times would you read it knowing how many more books there are yet to read?

by Anonymousreply 4April 16, 2015 10:52 PM

Yes, there are. With the right partner, sexual familiarity is hot. My partner almost knows every single nerve ending and gets better and better and getting me off.

by Anonymousreply 5April 16, 2015 10:57 PM

The professional cock suckers who will still be trying to play the game at 85 and 90 y/o are out at R2 and R4.

by Anonymousreply 6April 16, 2015 10:59 PM

Slut shaming. That's really original, OP. Women can now be proud whores. Str8 men have always been whores. But us gays have to be constantly ashamed of our sex and sexuality. Why is that?

by Anonymousreply 7April 16, 2015 11:01 PM

R7, It's long been established that gay men have by far the most sex partners. It doesn't even compare with straight men. Straight men have to work a girl over to get sex. Gay guys jus give the look or tap a foot. During GRID the government was documenting the number of sex partners and most gay men they were seeing had hundreds of sex partners a year. No way in the world any straight man could compete with that.

by Anonymousreply 8April 16, 2015 11:06 PM

Mmmhmm R7 is right. Did the "sex party" thread trigger this post? If you read it, the OP of that thread said he never had been to one before (and isn't even going to this one). And, he's 36...that's not exactly the sign of a giant slut pig.

And how many straight men would jump at the chance to go to a party where a bunch of hot naked women were around? I guess that's what swingers parties are...

Not everyone has the same level of sex drive. Find someone who matches yours and don't worry about what everyone else does.

by Anonymousreply 9April 16, 2015 11:06 PM

I can't imagine having sex with random strangers. I think I'm a prude by gay men's standards.

by Anonymousreply 10April 16, 2015 11:06 PM

I'm not. I wish I was, I feel life would be more interesting, but the grass is always greener as they say.

by Anonymousreply 11April 16, 2015 11:10 PM

R8, I think the studies showed that like 5% of the guys were having something like 90% of the sexual encounters - okay, maybe not that extreme, but it really is a small minority who have a huge number of partners (in the hundreds) and drive up the average. Most gay guys have multiple partners, sure, but not a ridiculous number indicating that they're hooking up each and every week.

I think there was a study (discussed here on DL) showing that among younger people, gay men have the same average number of sex partners as their straight guy / girl counterparts - but maybe that's because straight guys and girls these days are more comfortable with the idea of multiple sexual partners.

by Anonymousreply 12April 16, 2015 11:15 PM

men fuck

women make love

by Anonymousreply 13April 16, 2015 11:17 PM

There are lots of homosexual guys who aren't whores, lots of them, more than you think there are.

There are also so many who are virgins, over 30, even over 40.

I am tired of these stigmatizing stereotypes.

We are human beings, each of us has dreams, worries and plans for the future. We don't lust anymore than heterosexual men lust.

Stop the stigmatization of your own kind.

by Anonymousreply 14April 16, 2015 11:18 PM

Its tough for guys to stay faithful. I think we just have that desire to be with many lovers... myself included. Im a nice man but I doubt I can be ever with just one guy sexual for indefinitely. Sad.

by Anonymousreply 15April 16, 2015 11:22 PM

Actually it was an OKCupid study of their own userbase that yielded the statistics. So, not a formal study, but definitely an interesting look at a sample size of hundreds of thousands of young singles:

"Another common myth about gay people is that they sleep around, but the statistical reality is that gay people as a group aren't any more slutty than straights.

Median Reported Sex Partners

straight men: 6

gay men: 6

straight women: 6

gay women: 6

"45% of gay people have had 5 or fewer partners (vs. 44% for straights)"

"98% of gay people have had 20 or fewer partners (vs. 99% for straights)"

"It turns out that a tiny fraction of gays have single-handedly two-handedly created the public image of gay sexual recklessness—in fact we found that just 2% of gay people have had 23% of the total reported gay sex, which is pretty crazy."

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by Anonymousreply 16April 16, 2015 11:22 PM

[quote] There are lots of homosexual guys who aren't whores, lots of them, more than you think there are.

Of course there are, r14, but OP doesn't find them sexy. And, he's taking it out all on us when he's the one with the problem.

by Anonymousreply 17April 16, 2015 11:22 PM

I understand your frustration, OP, but ridiculous, sweeping generalizations make you sound like a lunatic.

There are many of us out there who are gay and not promiscuous.

by Anonymousreply 18April 16, 2015 11:25 PM

r16, that's interesting, although I'm not sure if the gay guys who use a "straight" dating site represent all gays. Most gay guys I know use gay-specific sites

by Anonymousreply 19April 16, 2015 11:28 PM

The majority of gay men have never been to a sex party or cruised in a park.

by Anonymousreply 20April 16, 2015 11:30 PM

I think I've Been with more than 20 by Now...

by Anonymousreply 21April 16, 2015 11:30 PM

I'm not whorish at all, but have had close to 200 sexual encounters in my life.

by Anonymousreply 22April 16, 2015 11:33 PM

I disagree that any gay man can have sex whenever he wants. There are a lot of gay men who for a variety of reasons are very limited in the number of possible sex partners. This creates a lot of forced virgins and abstainers.

by Anonymousreply 23April 16, 2015 11:33 PM

Also, because of the homophobia that runs through societies, many spend their teen years and even early 20's alone without having their first time, not even a boyfriend whereas heterosexual guys start having sex even at 11 years old.

by Anonymousreply 24April 16, 2015 11:35 PM

Jesus Christ, does anyone believe the results of the study posted in r6? Really, that's just insulting.

by Anonymousreply 25April 16, 2015 11:36 PM

As a proud out homosexual who fought for my rights, I feel that enjoying my sexually is a hard won right.

Being a gay man is about enjoying dick, as many & as often as possible

Plus my anus was made for the pleasure of being pounded & the best way to do that us a heavy night at that baths.

So I have no interest in trying to pretending to be straight & copy the failed lifestyle of monogamy. Gay marriage please!! Our gay forefathers would be horrified

by Anonymousreply 26April 16, 2015 11:37 PM

r16, gay men who can pick up others easily are not going to be on OKCupid. It would be expected that those with few partners would be almost all the people on the site.

by Anonymousreply 27April 16, 2015 11:38 PM

Good point, r27.

by Anonymousreply 28April 16, 2015 11:41 PM

R26 In ancient times, same-sex unions existed.

Being homosexual has nothing to do with being promiscuous; it's only who you feel attracted to.

Whether you will be promiscuous or not is an individual's trait; not a collective one.

by Anonymousreply 29April 16, 2015 11:42 PM

I'm sorry, what was your question?

by Anonymousreply 30April 16, 2015 11:43 PM

"Also, because of the homophobia that runs through societies, many spend their teen years and even early 20's alone without having their first time, not even a boyfriend whereas heterosexual guys start having sex even at 11 years old."

Very few het guys are having sex at 11, although I agree with the first part of what you wrote....

by Anonymousreply 31April 16, 2015 11:44 PM

I was having the gay sex at 11.

by Anonymousreply 32April 16, 2015 11:47 PM

Oh yes, because hetero guys are never promiscuous and so being promiscuous is liberation from hetero norms...

by Anonymousreply 33April 16, 2015 11:49 PM

I recently ran into an old friend that I hadn't seen in years.

He told me that he's had AIDS for the last five years but doing okay. He spends several nights a week going to the gay sauna and having sex with multiple partners some protected some unprotected

He told me very few people ask his status. I have asked him if he always used condoms and he told me no and I asked him what about the other people and he said well that's their business and the responsibility to protect themselves so if they don't have a condom or don't ask him to put on a condom he doesn't suggest or tell him that he has AIDS

I was shocked by his reckless behavior and attitude don't wish to see much more of him

by Anonymousreply 34April 17, 2015 12:53 AM

they exist.

by Anonymousreply 35April 17, 2015 1:01 AM

You're right, OP, there are none, nada, zilch.

Feel better now, you judgmental turd? You are the only pure drama queen around!

by Anonymousreply 36April 17, 2015 1:10 AM

I'm very shy so I've never been able to just meet someone and immediately have sex with them. Sadly a lot of gay guys think I'm weird for not being into casual or anonymous sex.

by Anonymousreply 37April 17, 2015 1:32 AM

You can tell who the whores are because they get so angry and upset over this thread. And like the other poster commented, they will never find love. The will still be haunting bathrooms and parks when they are in depends.

by Anonymousreply 38April 17, 2015 1:40 AM

I have a partner and I have never cheated on him. I have been tempted but I have not. Even when he cheated on me I did not. So there op. I'm tired of the stereotypes too.

by Anonymousreply 39April 17, 2015 1:50 AM

Depending on your definition of a whore, then maybe.

by Anonymousreply 40April 17, 2015 1:52 AM

I had plenty of sex when I was 18-35 or so, but was never a t-room queen, or sex party type. I will say that sex and the pursuit of new dick has just not been the overwhelming force in my life, as it seems to be in lots of others. I like it to be reasonably "special", I think.

by Anonymousreply 41April 17, 2015 1:55 AM

R34 aids or HIV? There's a difference

by Anonymousreply 42April 17, 2015 1:58 AM

R4 made a brilliant analogy by comparing having sex with the same person more than once like reading the same book over and over again. It's dull, even if the book is really, really good.

With so many options out there why not keep sampling every item on the buffet?

Prudes are such tiresome people; truthfully I can't think of s worse quality to have.

by Anonymousreply 43April 17, 2015 2:00 AM

OP, there are a lot more of them than most in here would have you believe, however most of them are in relationships, it is their nature. They don't want a lot of sexual partners, so of course they partner up. Occasionally one of them will screw up and cheat, often with liquor involved, and they find themselves like you suddenly alone. Keep looking, they are out there, you just have to find one.

by Anonymousreply 44April 17, 2015 2:00 AM

If all you want or need out of life is sexual thrills, yeah, I can see how a promiscuous life suits.

by Anonymousreply 45April 17, 2015 2:14 AM

straight men don't fuck around because women don't like sex????I hear MANY MANY 'Gay'-label men said they fucked a TON of women for free.

by Anonymousreply 46April 17, 2015 2:28 AM

[quote]Prudes are such tiresome people; truthfully I can't think of s worse quality to have.

Well, there's shallowness, immaturity or idiocy, to start.

by Anonymousreply 47April 17, 2015 2:39 AM

a whore with a heart of gold

by Anonymousreply 48April 17, 2015 2:40 AM

R47, who cares about those things when you're sucking on a big cock?

by Anonymousreply 49April 17, 2015 2:42 AM

It's a shame that R2 thinks someone is judgy, just because they want monogamy. Probably someone that I would not want to be friends with

by Anonymousreply 50April 17, 2015 2:44 AM

and there's:

aggressiveness, aloofness, arrogance, belligerence, bitchiness, boastfulness, callousness, carelessness, compulsive, cruel, dishonest, harsh, impulsive, inflexible, intolerant, irresponsible, patronizing, resentful, rude, ruthless, secretive, selfish, self-centred, self-indulgent, sneaky, superficial, thoughtless, unreliable, untrustworthy, vain, vengeful or vulgar.

by Anonymousreply 51April 17, 2015 2:47 AM

R49, see idiocy or immaturity and try to understand that past a certain age nothing's what it used to be, at least where flesh is involved.

by Anonymousreply 52April 17, 2015 2:48 AM

Yes. Many of the closet cases, as just one example.

by Anonymousreply 53April 17, 2015 2:52 AM

You're a whore darlin'

by Anonymousreply 54April 17, 2015 3:17 AM

Posters on this site go DEEP into mean-spirited stereotyping and broadbrush condemnations of other groups...but get angry and hurt when it happens to us.

by Anonymousreply 55April 17, 2015 3:21 AM

Everyone does, eh?

Us, eh?

You're a whore, and a self-righteous single-minded cunt, darlin'.

Just you.

by Anonymousreply 56April 17, 2015 3:40 AM

ALL gay men like diva pop music...

by Anonymousreply 57April 17, 2015 3:43 AM

I used to be but then I met my future spouse and we've been together 28 years, without cheating. Sex is STILL very creative and good.

by Anonymousreply 58April 17, 2015 3:44 AM

Pretty much.

Peggy Lee is the tits!

by Anonymousreply 59April 17, 2015 3:45 AM

r50 Wanting monogamy is a completely different issue from calling other (actually, ALL) gay men whores. One is a personal preference and a desire for a certain type of relationship. The other is small-minded, mean-spirited, and yes, judgy.

And no worries, I wouldn't want to be friends with your stupid ass either.

by Anonymousreply 60April 17, 2015 3:51 AM

The whores are much louder and more visible than those who are more conservative (for lack of a better word); the same is true of the stupid, the ignorant and the emotionally stunted. For a variety of reasons, people on the extreme ends of various measures make more noise than everyone else. So they always seem to be more numerically significant than they really are.

by Anonymousreply 61April 17, 2015 3:56 AM

Uh, R58? We need to talk.

by Anonymousreply 62April 17, 2015 4:22 AM

[quote]I was supposed to go to a sex party this weekend but now I have a (non STD) lump on my dick.

Why don't you try to hook up with the OP of this thread? He's not going to be invited to any orgies for awhile...until his non-STD (right) lumps go away.

by Anonymousreply 63April 17, 2015 4:46 AM

just asking the question conjures up the visions of hand-wringing insecurity I had when I was just coming out. of course there are gay guys who aren't 'whores', and guys who are, so what?

I find consumerism, celebrity worship, lack of empathy, parasitic attachment to electronic devices, learned helplessness, and lack of curiosity much bigger turn-offs. To me, these feel like side affects (typo, and it fits) of the current 'gay culture'.

you can't control another person's life for very long. holding them responsible for your happiness, asking them to fill your empty place, that's a sad and presumptuous one-way street.

by Anonymousreply 64April 17, 2015 5:47 AM

That's all well and good, R64, but are there any gay guys who aren't whores?

by Anonymousreply 65April 17, 2015 12:13 PM

I'm not, but only because I'm lazy and antisocial.

by Anonymousreply 66April 17, 2015 12:37 PM

It changes, OP. I gather you're under 40.

by Anonymousreply 67April 17, 2015 12:40 PM

All you have to do is imagine what straight guys would be like without the societal restrictions on them. By nature, males want to spread their seed and women want to nest and find the male who can help them do that. I have heard so many straight guys pine for the ability to be as able to get laid as easily as gay guys, without the dating rituals and convincing the female they respect them and won't think they are slutty for having sex too quickly. Why are fathers always worried a boy is "only after one thing"? It's a male thing, not a gay thing. Gay guys just have the ability to get that kind of sex because we can find like minded guys without the trickery or hoops most straight guys have to jump through just to get laid. (Hopefully)

And yes, there are plenty of gays who aren't "sluts" because I am on the sluttier side and I seem to attract mostly guys who are very anxious to be monogamous and I freak out. I would rather be in a more open relationship.

by Anonymousreply 68April 17, 2015 1:08 PM

OP, OF COURSE there are gay men who aren't whores. Stop whining and stop asking such stupid questions.

by Anonymousreply 69April 17, 2015 1:54 PM

OP is Witchie-Poo/DR and a woman so don't bother.

by Anonymousreply 70April 17, 2015 2:44 PM

Not by choice. By design. Why would anybody want to go to bed with a flaming sissy like you?

Who'd make a pass at you---I'll tell you who---nobody. Except maybe some fugitive from the Braille Institute.

by Anonymousreply 71April 17, 2015 3:05 PM

I've been happily partnered for over 25 years. In the first couple of years I think that we both worried some about monogamy. After that, not so much.

What some of us learn is that there are many other factors involved in sex other than love and many other important factors involved in love other than sex.

I tend to think that gay men who are obsessed wit total sexual monogamy are either deeply insecure and / or simply determined to believe in some traditional, hetrosexual female fantasy regarding the perfect life.

by Anonymousreply 72April 17, 2015 3:16 PM

[quote]Are There Any Gay Guys Who Aren't Whores?

Of course, dear. They are known as quadriplegics.

by Anonymousreply 73April 17, 2015 3:20 PM

Apparently every gay guy but you is a whore, OP. It wasn't that hard to figure out.

by Anonymousreply 74April 17, 2015 3:20 PM

Look, OP. Any male with a healthy level of testosterone in his body wants to go out and fuck. That's what men do. They fuck. Lots. It's biology, and it's hardwired in.

Except for the boring ones who think that all gay men are whores, and nobody wants to fuck them, anyway, because they're too boring and

by Anonymousreply 75April 17, 2015 3:54 PM

There are two kinds of gay guys OP: whores and those who wish they could be whores.

by Anonymousreply 76April 17, 2015 3:55 PM

Gay men have sex as often as straight men wish they could.

by Anonymousreply 77April 17, 2015 4:01 PM

I recently broke up with a guy I had been with for 4.5 years

When we started dating we agreed to monogamous. It's the way we both were in our previous relationships.

It was great & although I traveled extensively for work and could have fooled around I was never tempted because I made a commitment.

Around the 4yr I knew something was up & he confessed he hooked up with a guy ..,,. He said it was nothing, he loved me, wanted the relationship to work So I decided to forget about it & move on.

2 months later I found out again he hooked up with the same guy.

Then I dumped his lying hoeing ass!!

My question was he always a hoe, really think he only hooked up with one guy during our relationship but not sure.one thing I did learn from that relationship is one somebody is unfaithful that's it they crossed the boundary and they will not respect monogamy even if they say so. either you accept it and move on or you leave them.

So yes some guys are not whores but gay culture leads us to think if we are not whoring we are missing out.

by Anonymousreply 78April 17, 2015 4:05 PM

I doubt, all gays are whores. Not possible, anyway. Some people would never be satisfied, or happy by being slutty.

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by Anonymousreply 79April 17, 2015 4:11 PM

I had a friend who moved from city to city after he had slept with has many men as he possibly in one area before moving on to the next location. I became friends with him when he was in a fairly large city and stayed here for 5 years. When he was tired of the scene and didn't see any new potential fucks out there he moved to France. He even had sex with homeless men he picked up on the streets. His presence was everywhere : every dating website, every bar, every sauna, everywhere. He fucked a lot of men. When he felt no one wanted him anymore, he left the city. He's totally average in looks and body with a tiny dick.

Yes, I know. He doesn't represent every gay men out there but this behaviour is totally unique to gay men.

by Anonymousreply 80April 17, 2015 4:20 PM

Research indicates that the smarter a man is, the more likely he is to be monogamous. (I don't know why we needed research on something so glaringly obvious.) See if you can find some Mensa types to hang out with, OP.

by Anonymousreply 81April 17, 2015 4:40 PM

Sweeping generalizations coming from gay people are just as harmful as those that come from heterosexual people.

The incapability to understand that people are not robots programmed to do the exact same thing is tiring.

Regardless of sexual orientation, gender or whatever, SOME people are promiscuous; SOME are not, SOME want open relationships; SOME want monogamous relationships, etc.

Perhaps this in another expression of internalized homophobia since some seem to blame everything on homosexuality.

by Anonymousreply 82April 17, 2015 4:45 PM

r80 wow that's a real hoe!

by Anonymousreply 83April 17, 2015 4:52 PM

What research R81? I find the smarter the guy the more he realizes that men aren't supposed to be monogamous and will feel less stigma about sleeping around.

I've easily slept with hundreds of guys at 31 and hope there are hundreds and hundreds more to come.

by Anonymousreply 84April 17, 2015 4:53 PM

I love how r84 thinks his gut feeling is worth more than actual study results.

by Anonymousreply 85April 17, 2015 4:56 PM

Sluttiness in a gay guy is a turnoff for me. It betokens effeminacy in the sense of not being master over of his appetites. I prefer a Spartan over a Persian

by Anonymousreply 86April 17, 2015 5:02 PM

I find that the smart thing to realize is that that men aren't supposed to be anything. If you are "smart" enough to know that your aren't trying to fill the emotional void by sleeping around, then by all means have at it.

by Anonymousreply 87April 17, 2015 5:04 PM

R80 What your friend did isn't unique to gay men, it's unique to sex addicts.

by Anonymousreply 88April 17, 2015 5:04 PM

[quote]men aren't supposed to be monogamous and will feel less stigma about sleeping around.

So you want to dispel the stigma of sleeping around by sleeping around?

by Anonymousreply 89April 17, 2015 5:07 PM

Are there any freeper posters like OP who have found something better to do than to post on a gay site?

by Anonymousreply 90April 17, 2015 5:08 PM

I think monogamy, faithfulness, fidelity - all that nonsense - is just a bunch of heteronormative malarky.

I've been in a committed, long term, same-sex relationship for 25 years. Neither of us are 'whores', but also, both of us are free to 'hook-up' with someone else if the opportunity presents itself - as long as we tell (as in share the juicy details) with each other.

For instance, my husband works in an investment bank - and there is a particularly HOT young banker that he would do in a NY minute. If the opportunity arose, my partner knows that he can act on it. In fact, I hope he does! It would be so hot. Same goes with me.

Ironically, in the 25 years we've been together, those 'forays' have been actually quite few. But things didn't end bitterly and in tears because of a meaningless hook-up. I seriously shake my head and simply don't understand when I see my straight married friends (and the heteronormative wannabes) totally self-destruct over something so ridiculous.

by Anonymousreply 91April 17, 2015 5:17 PM

[quote]it's unique to sex addicts

There's no such thing as addiction to sex.

[quote]I've been in a committed, long term, same-sex relationship for 25 years. Neither of us are 'whores', but also, both of us are free to 'hook-up' with someone else if the opportunity presents itself

so you're just friends.

by Anonymousreply 92April 17, 2015 5:22 PM

Some gays go into a Mary Haines dramatic fit over finding their partner kissed a shop bottom.

by Anonymousreply 93April 17, 2015 5:23 PM

r81 must work for FOX news. "Some people say..."

There is no such research substantiating fraulina's tortured claim.

In my anecdotal, informal survey I have found the smarter and more charming the guy, the more likely he is to get hit on and thus, the more likely he is to have more sex.

now THAT is common sense.

by Anonymousreply 94April 17, 2015 5:30 PM

Well, that explains it,r81.

by Anonymousreply 95April 17, 2015 6:06 PM

Tiger Woods can have twenty plus mistresses in different states all at the same time. Arnold Schwarzenegger can have handfuls upon handfuls of titties and ass, knocking up his nanny housekeeper. But they're just being men! Gay men have to be pillars of pure maiden virtue. OP, take your internalized homophobic bullshitt elsewhere! Gay men are men! Period. I bet a million dollars OP hasn't even had as many sexual partners as his straight contemporaries but gay men are all whores. You're pathetic!

by Anonymousreply 96April 17, 2015 6:28 PM

It's super hard for really HAWT guys to remain faithful. Temptation is everywhere.

It's way easier for the fatties, the fuglies, and the normies to remain monogamous. It's not like anyone is beating down their doors.

If you want a faithful partner, trade down and marry a good-hearted fat, fugly normie. Or just adopt a pet.

by Anonymousreply 97April 17, 2015 6:38 PM

In the straight world we have a saying:

A man is only as faithful as his options.

by Anonymousreply 98April 17, 2015 6:44 PM

"Or just adopt a pet."

But can you recommend a breed that won't eat you when you die alone? Thanks.

by Anonymousreply 99April 17, 2015 6:46 PM

So many helium heeled mattress backs in this thread.lol

by Anonymousreply 100April 17, 2015 6:55 PM

R98, this has nothing to do with 'faithfulness' or one's options. Men are sexual beings. We enjoy sex. We think about sex a lot. When a gay man acts on his sexual nature and impulse, it's considered perverse. When straight men do the exact same thing, it's considered natural. Apart god's plan and design. In both cases, all one is ever witnessing is the human male sexuality at its core. To act like gay men are more whorish than any other male is a complete fallacy.

by Anonymousreply 101April 17, 2015 7:05 PM

Because hot, wild promiscuous sex and love and life commitment to someone special are wonderful things and many of us have not drunk the Victorian cool-aid that they are mutually exclusive.

by Anonymousreply 102April 17, 2015 7:08 PM

OP, you type fat.

by Anonymousreply 103April 17, 2015 7:10 PM

"Smart men are less likely than dumb ones to cheat on their partners, according to a British study. Satoshi Kanazawa of the London School of Economics and Political Science called sexual exclusivity an “evolutionary novel” quality that would not have benefited early man, who was hardwired for promiscuity. Today’s world doesn’t give any evolutionary advantage to men with multiple sexual partners. But only smart guys are able to cast off the psychological baggage and assume new behaviors."

by Anonymousreply 104April 17, 2015 7:24 PM

I'm the last one, after that, extinction.

by Anonymousreply 105April 17, 2015 7:28 PM

"The reasoning is that sexual exclusivity in men goes against what would be expected given humans' evolutionary past. In other words, (it would not have) have benefited our early human ancestors, but higher intelligence may be associated with them. "The adoption of some evolutionarily novel ideas makes some sense in terms of moving the species forward," said George Washington University leadership professor James Bailey, who was not involved in the study. "It also makes perfect sense that more intelligent people -- people with, sort of, more intellectual firepower -- are likely to be the ones to do that."

by Anonymousreply 106April 17, 2015 7:29 PM

OP is the frau that has brought you such compelling threads as My Black Boyfriend Kissed His Ex and My Cousin Does Steroids. She (and it is a woman, folks) is a troll. A white, suburban yoga pants wearing Starbucks sipping Volvo driving cunt. Ignore her.

by Anonymousreply 107April 17, 2015 7:32 PM

Howard Stern has often wistfully wondered how it would be to be a gay guy, just being able have quick, hot fucks with other dudes, instead of jumping through expensive, tedious hoops to get a relatively minute amount of pussy.

by Anonymousreply 108April 17, 2015 7:44 PM

My personal trainer (who's straight) is constantly wondering the same thing, R108. He's told me that he really wishes he liked cock because of how easy it is for us to get laid.

by Anonymousreply 109April 17, 2015 7:45 PM

I've been monogamous for 30 years.

I'm also fat. I should point that out because people seem to think there's some connection there.

I'd also like to point out that I've been overweight for about 10 years due to middle age. The first twenty years of monogamy I turned down a lot of opportunity.

I'm sure that fact will be dismissed rather quickly.

by Anonymousreply 110April 17, 2015 7:49 PM

[quote]Tiger Woods can have twenty plus mistresses in different states all at the same time. Arnold Schwarzenegger can have handfuls upon handfuls of titties and ass, knocking up his nanny housekeeper. But they're just being men! Gay men have to be pillars of pure maiden virtue.

Are you dumb or something? Both were ridiculed by everyone in the media. Tiger Woods' career has been in shambles since this came out.

by Anonymousreply 111April 17, 2015 7:53 PM

I don't think it is easier for us to get laid.

That's pure stereotyping.

Some people have high sex drive while others don't.

Some people like it polygamous while others monogamous. It depends on the person; not on sexual orientation.

by Anonymousreply 112April 17, 2015 8:02 PM

"I've been overweight for about 10 years due to middle age."

Honey, middle age doesn't make you fat, food does. And laziness.

by Anonymousreply 113April 17, 2015 8:03 PM

R111, are you fucking straight or something because I was making a comparison of the sexual license of straight men vs gay men. Try strapping your thinking cap on a little bit tighter next time, you dumb cunt. And you can quote me on that.

by Anonymousreply 114April 17, 2015 9:12 PM

There are some of us who aren't interested in sex at all (cue the self-loathing troll). So, yes, some of us aren't whores.

by Anonymousreply 115April 17, 2015 9:26 PM

It would be interesting to discuss why some people who belong to minorities love generalizations as if they knew them all and had a special right to speak for an etire group.

Sometimes we complain about heterosexual people stigmatizing us when we have that kind in our own group too.

I notice it with some effeminate gay guys who think ALL gay guys are inherently effeminate or as weare discussing here, ALL homsoexual men are whores.

by Anonymousreply 116April 17, 2015 9:57 PM

I Capricorn.

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by Anonymousreply 117April 17, 2015 11:20 PM

How can you not be interested in sex R115? Sex is what defines us as homosexuals.

by Anonymousreply 118April 17, 2015 11:24 PM

[quote]Sex is what defines us as homosexuals.

You appear to be exactly the type of sex whore that the OP is describing.

by Anonymousreply 119April 17, 2015 11:26 PM

Sexual orientation: sexual, emotional and romantic attraction to one, the other or both sexes.

If you don't feel the need to have sex with the same sex but still feel romantically attracted to the same sex you are homosexual.

There are in fact asexual homosexual people. No interest in having sex with someone of the same sex but still they fall in love with someone of the same sex.

by Anonymousreply 120April 18, 2015 12:30 AM

I wasn't a slut until I hit about age 25 or so and finally gave up on finding another guy "like me." I decided if I couldn't beat 'em, join 'em.

But as far as sex parties, parks and/or public bathrooms--hell no. That's just gross.

by Anonymousreply 121April 18, 2015 12:36 AM

[quote]I tend to think that gay men who are obsessed wit total sexual monogamy are either deeply insecure and / or simply determined to believe in some traditional, hetrosexual female fantasy regarding the perfect life.

I just don't want anal warts.

by Anonymousreply 122April 18, 2015 12:36 AM

But you can't fall in love without sex. That's a fact. The two are too intertwined. Without sex two people are just good friends.

by Anonymousreply 123April 18, 2015 12:43 AM

R120 has made the most sensible analysis so far.

by Anonymousreply 124April 18, 2015 12:46 AM

[quote]I tend to think that gay men who are obsessed wit total sexual monogamy are either deeply insecure and / or simply determined to believe in some traditional, hetrosexual female fantasy regarding the perfect life

You couldn't be more incorrect

It's strange that people who profess this laissez faire attitude regarding sex with strangers as okay but ask them if they'd go to stranger's house to play Monopoly with them or watch TV with them or cook something with them, wouldn't that be weird? Wouldn't you want to know them before doing any of those things? But there's nothing strange about going to a stranger's house and going down on them and have mechanical sex (since you don't really know them).

There's nothing I dislike more than "traditional, hetrosexual female fantasy regarding the perfect life". Being monogamous is not about being monogamous but being with someone who actually knows you and enjoys being around you, enjoys your company. Unlike a stranger, you know what drives your partner crazy in bed, etc. Monogamy is simply the side effect of such a deep relationship not its raison d'être.

It sounds like that's too alien for many of you to understand.

by Anonymousreply 125April 18, 2015 12:56 AM

Being together enough to make it work with someone else is too much work for most of us. We don't have the self respect.

by Anonymousreply 126April 18, 2015 1:08 AM

You've got things all wrong, R125. It's because we don't know anything about the other person that all inhibitions can fall away and the sex can be truly wild and passionate.

If I want to play Monopoly or watch tv or cook I have friends to do that with. When I use grindr and CL to hook up I don't even care if I learn a name. I just want sex. After we're done I can go on with the rest of my night.

Why have sex with the same person more than a few times tops. That's so boring.

by Anonymousreply 127April 18, 2015 1:13 AM

Monogamy is not a heterosexual invention nor its monopoly either.

by Anonymousreply 128April 18, 2015 1:19 AM

R126 Speak for yourself. Your characteristcs as a person don't define a whole group of complex and diverse people with different backgrounds, life experiences, expectations, etc.

by Anonymousreply 129April 18, 2015 1:21 AM

Oh, yes. Sadly.

by Anonymousreply 130April 18, 2015 1:23 AM

R127 You're in for a very very sad time when you get close to the age where only a longtime partner who loves you would still desire you. You need therapy or something. Sad.

by Anonymousreply 131April 18, 2015 1:35 AM

"Why have sex with the same person more than a few times tops. That's so boring."

Is this some sort of contest? The person who fucks as many different people as possible wins a prize?

by Anonymousreply 132April 18, 2015 1:39 AM

You'd think so, R132.

by Anonymousreply 133April 18, 2015 1:42 AM

R132, The prize starts with three letters.

by Anonymousreply 134April 18, 2015 1:45 AM

You are homophobic R134. I've had sex with over 300 guys and am HIV negative. Get tested all the time and am always safe. Fuck you!

by Anonymousreply 135April 18, 2015 1:48 AM

Wow. That's...wow.

by Anonymousreply 136April 18, 2015 1:55 AM

Mind you, the last hundred fell into his hole, never to be heard from again.

by Anonymousreply 137April 18, 2015 1:58 AM

How do you have sex with that many guys? How do you meet them? At the club, gym, some random place? Through online hookups? I'm not into online hookups. Where does the bulk of those guys come from?

by Anonymousreply 138April 18, 2015 2:02 AM

They're almost all from online hook ups. Love grindr and scruff. Craigslist too.

It's so easy to hook up with guys in Hell's Kitchen.

by Anonymousreply 139April 18, 2015 2:04 AM

If it you're happy and safe, that's all that matters. Ignore the haters.

by Anonymousreply 140April 18, 2015 2:07 AM

So when you have a one-time opportunity to have sex with a super hot guy, you tell him you can't because you've already reached your moral limit for the year?

by Anonymousreply 141April 18, 2015 2:14 AM

I get what you are saying OP, sometimes I am grossed out by how sexually depraved some gay men can be. However, all men have strong sexual desires and monogamy is impossible for most. Open relationships are a good option if you and your lover want to stay together. I am not advocating cheating all the time. I am talking about just safe sex with someone you desire physically, not building a relationship with them. You and your partner should always be open and honest with each other. I think you are more hurt over the fact that your ex tried to have a relationship with this person than the cheating, as you should be, dump him and move on.

by Anonymousreply 142April 18, 2015 2:26 AM

I could have sex with the same guy if I was very attracted to him. However, I'm not sure that I could live with someone again.

by Anonymousreply 143April 18, 2015 2:31 AM

It's just sex. Are you people really that devoid of anything else about you?

by Anonymousreply 144April 18, 2015 2:31 AM

I think 45 is the magic number when gays stop wanting to sleep with lots of guys and want to settle down with someone special. Guys who still want to act like sluts after that are sad and have low self-esteem.

by Anonymousreply 145April 18, 2015 2:36 AM

R131 is missing the point. You see life as either / or.

In truth, many if not most guys who are involved in long term relationships have also had some sexual activity with others. Whether it is frequent or occasional, it happens and it does not have to impact the importance of the relationship. (I've been in a relationship for nearly 20 years.)

The sad thing about this argument is that I am almost certain that most of the people posting who seem to be obsessed with the idea of total monogamy for gay men, have actually never had a lasting "relationship" or very many casual encounters, so it is all about validation of their insecure, fantasy as opposed to real life.

It's the same group of isolated, frightened guys with limited experience who think that all gay men are into anal sex because that is what they see in porn.

There is a disconnect from reality from many posters here that is weird.

Our battles were about winning the same legal rights as hetrosexuals, not to aspire to approximating their frustrating personal lives.

by Anonymousreply 146April 18, 2015 2:50 AM

R146 is on point.

by Anonymousreply 147April 18, 2015 3:04 AM

OP - instead of complaining about how gay men are only interested in big dicks, maybe take a look at the DL thread which references the 250 year old dildo which was recently unearthed. Eight very thick inches. Big dicks matter. Size counts. Excluding the anti-size queens running Ancient Greece, huge cock always has - and always will - rule the playing field. Gay guys didn't invent the desire for big meat, so don't go dumping them and slut shaming them for following a natural attraction that the rest of the world has no trouble understanding.

Hell, even Doris Day said a man needs to be well hung. What more do you want?

by Anonymousreply 148April 18, 2015 3:06 AM

R146, your post is filled with contradictions.

[quote]it does not have to impact the importance of the relationship

Of course. That's a guarantee, right? You speak for everyone in an open relationship or a relationship of convenience.

[quote]The sad thing about this argument is that I am almost certain that most of the people posting who seem to be obsessed with the idea of total monogamy for gay men, have actually never had a lasting "relationship"

Hmm...you have more of a friendship or an open relationship of convenience more than a "relationship" so suffice it to say you never had one either.

[quote]Our battles were about winning the same legal rights as hetrosexuals, not to aspire to approximating their frustrating personal lives.

So according to your logic all long lasting gay relationships should always be open relationships or relationship of convenience because all gay men sleep around but also because none of hetero relationships are open relationships or relationships of convenience like yours. Gotcha.

by Anonymousreply 149April 18, 2015 3:09 AM

what is GRID?

by Anonymousreply 150April 18, 2015 3:22 AM

R150

AIDS used to be called GRIDS: Gay Related ImmunoDeficiency Syndrome

by Anonymousreply 151April 18, 2015 3:34 AM

Thanks!

by Anonymousreply 152April 18, 2015 3:50 AM

If you are promiscuous that's you. You cannot define others based on your own behaviour because your behaviour only speaks about yourself, your inclinations and decisions.

In no way your homosexuality dictates if you will be promiscuous or not.

Certainly, if you wish to have sex as much as you can with different men all the time, you will find the instances and places to meet those people and you will avoid men who don't have in interest.

I have nothing against those who want to be promiscuous as long as they take care of themsleves and their partner; what really bothers me is the sweeping generalizations.

by Anonymousreply 153April 18, 2015 4:07 AM

Show me the non-generalizer and I'll show you a non-human.

by Anonymousreply 154April 18, 2015 4:35 AM

R4

And we wonder why so many of us die alone, eaten by our cats.

by Anonymousreply 155April 18, 2015 4:38 AM

Angry single people who can't get laid are all the same.

Sluthate.com is mentally ill straight guys with no friends or chance at ever getting laid talking about what sluts and whores girls are... go figure!

by Anonymousreply 156April 18, 2015 4:41 AM

Replace the appropriate words with "gay men"

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by Anonymousreply 157April 18, 2015 4:42 AM

R156 is right

But I still can't get rid of the smell of yesterday's hook up. Showered three times. Changed sheets.

The bad smell didn't start until about 20 seconds before I came..

Maybe it was premature old man smell.

by Anonymousreply 158April 18, 2015 4:50 AM

Well I'm clean. I live alone with two cats and haven't had sex for 10 year. Once one of my fellow gays INFECTED ME with HIV, which turned into full-blown AIDS after I got pneumonia. Had no idea I carried the virus. I gave up on the gay lifestyle, devoting my time to survival. Occasionally I go to a few local gay bars, mainly to play pool. Not to pick up anybody because, of course, I'm carrying a deadly disease and I'm not counting on a condom for protection. I have noticed a predilection with gay men for wanton, careless sex which disturbs me. I mean, AIDS is out there and the number of infections in the younger set has been rapidly increasing. I don't like people who are foolish. I prefer to hang with guys who have hobbies, interests, and such, that does not involve cruising and sex parties and shit like that. Kinda creepy to me. I'd rather go camping in the desert with guys, have a fire, lay down on the ground and look at how clear the stars are. Or go to a comic book convention, to the movies or out to dinner at a fun place. Fun times, rather than drugged out drunken times with losers who are obsessed with penises. Kinda ignorant that lifestyle.

So you're not alone. Not all of us are "whores" just because we're gay and like cock instead of cunt! You aren't finding us because we're not in the sex market or out in seedy bars or bathhouses. We have other interests.

So don't stereotype all gay mens. We, THE GOOD ONES, are stay at home types who have parties, can cook really good dinners such as Coq au Vin, have gardens that look fantastic, have pets, and friends who, like us, just want a break from the constant sex shit attached to "the gay mystique."

Buck up. And forget looking on shit sites like Craigslist. You'll find more weird fuckers there than you do here or out in the trashy pissy bars.

Just some sage advice from a nice old Queen born in 1959 when cars were made out of real steel with iron blocks and toothpaste had lots of fluoride in it to kill those nasty teef cavities. Kisses!

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by Anonymousreply 159April 18, 2015 5:19 AM

R158, take hydrogen peroxide and put it on q-tips and swirl it around inside your nostril.

This is how I get rid of nasty sweaty nutsack smell from my being embedded in my nose. You can use it all the way from your nose to your lip.

by Anonymousreply 160April 18, 2015 5:22 AM

I guess I'm a slut wannabe. I'd do tons of guys because I'm a horny fuck, but I don't want t bad enough to make the effort. I'd rather find a man, marry him and be monogamous, but til then, at least in theory, I'll sleep with any hot guy that comes along. I have a young friend however, soooooo handsome, educated, great career, dreamy eyes,(I love me a man with dreamy eyes). He and I aren't going to happen because of the age difference, but if he doesn't have feelings for the guy he is attracted too, he's not interested in having sex with them. He wants to date, not sleep around, and won't sleep with a guy unless they are in love.

by Anonymousreply 161April 18, 2015 5:27 AM

Summer's coming, by the way, and that uncircusized dick and balls are going to funk up and smell like rotting cheese. I suggest washing the junk with this new body wash by Summer's Eve. It's designed to kill the funk germs of the genitalia! Summer's heat makes sweat funk. PLAN NOW

by Anonymousreply 162April 18, 2015 5:30 AM

Need advice on how to retain for as long as possible the nasty sweaty nutsack aroma in the air and on my person.

by Anonymousreply 163April 18, 2015 5:32 AM

My poll came out a little different:

Number of partners

straight men: 6

gay men: 395

straight women: 6

gay women: who really knows

by Anonymousreply 164April 18, 2015 6:57 AM

You realize that the OP is none other than Witchipoo, right? I trolldar'd her in some other thread and guess who came up yellow?

by Anonymousreply 165April 18, 2015 7:12 AM

[quote]The idea of a long-term partner seems nice, but having sex with the same person for more than just a couple times or even more than once seems like a waste of time. It's like reading the same book more than once. How many times would you read it knowing how many more books there are yet to read?

You don't know how the book ends, though, r4.

I mean, other than in tears.

by Anonymousreply 166April 18, 2015 9:00 AM

Wow R159 is some asshole. The "GOOD ONES" are the sex negative ones? Quite the label you gave yourself there.

I assure you I am a very "good person," I just like to have a lot of sex and prefer doing it with many different people. Because you had a bad experience doesn't make all sluts horrible people- in fact we're usually nicer, kinder and lovely than the Puritan prudes like you.

by Anonymousreply 167April 18, 2015 9:23 AM

r167, you are unhealthy. That kind of behavior speaks to a deep rooted need and vacancy within yourself.

by Anonymousreply 168April 18, 2015 9:25 AM

No, it doesn't speak to any "deep rooted need" R168. There are different sex drives out there, and that's that. People who willingly become infected with HIV by taking anonymous loads in slings at the bathhouse are another story (and do fit your amateur psychoanalysis) - but we are not talking about that level of "slutty" behavior.

People who feel the need to denigrate those who are having more sex than them are jealous, insecure, and likely fug.

Straight men do it too... sluthate.com where ALL women are dirty slut whores who only sleep with "Alphas"...and they are SOOOOO bitter and angry...just like many on this thread.

Thanks R167 for pointing out that "good ones" bs.... I cringed when I read it but didn't feel like replying.

by Anonymousreply 169April 18, 2015 9:33 AM

How am I unhealthy? I always fuck with a condom; hundreds of guys and no HIV. Crabs a few times and gonorrhea once that was easily treatable.

I don't have any deep-rooted need, except maybe for more cock. You don't know me- yet you think there's a vacancy in me? Ha. I'm leading a very happy, fulfilling life. Work hard, play hard and enjoying my time on this earth.

by Anonymousreply 170April 18, 2015 9:36 AM

I think we might have fucked R170.

I have the exact same attitude...always use a condom, and also got crabs a few times lol. Now, it IS a freaking headache to clean all the sheets and towels and boxers...and Rid Rid Rid... Ugh. I'm hairy...and the only solution is to basically shave down to a #1 blade. I wish I just had gonorrhea since that's just a shot, but not yet... I try to always pee after a BJ and I used to take doxycycline for skin problems which I think prevented it from taking hold if someone ever had it in their throat (even though full on gonorrhea is resistant to it as a treatment...maybe it works as a preventative?)

#SlutTips

by Anonymousreply 171April 18, 2015 9:48 AM

You're a smart cookie, R169.

I cringed and almost didn't respond to the "good ones" comment either, but then decided I just couldn't let it slide.

As you say, the levels of jealousy, holier than thou judgments and pop psychology diagnoses in this thread are at an all-time high. It would be funnier if it wasn't so plain pathetic.

by Anonymousreply 172April 18, 2015 9:48 AM

I'm a hairy guy too and had to shave completely to get rid of them too. Nasty little things, aren't they!

Love the #slutTips idea for a thread. I'm sure we all have our little tricks we know.

I was at a sex party when I was 25 or 26 and I remember some guy saying, just remember to drink a lot of water on your walk home and take a long piss when you get there. I took his advice, and don't know if it actually does anything, but I've been STD free since then.

by Anonymousreply 173April 18, 2015 9:56 AM

haha we should do a slutTips thread but it might get to be a magnet for the puritans.

I actually learned in health class in high school that you are supposed to pee after oral (especially true for women and general sex since their urethra is more susceptible to everything)... so I try to do that. And wash the peen down with hibiclens too. You'd never guess I'm actually kind of a hypochondriac and super clean. I mean, considering I've had quite a few nights at steamworks and a lot of partners, I am still a germaphobe (weird huh??)...lol. I just warrshhhh myself down when I get home...and after most encounters (unless they are super super hot - then I let it linger for a while).

I only swallowed the jizz of a guy I was dating... never barebacked (even with him) and i'm mostly a top anyway , but I just don't want things hiding in the ass hole to get in my peen.

new tag: #ResponsibleSlut #Hibiclens #WarshYourVagina

by Anonymousreply 174April 18, 2015 10:10 AM

R159 is a genuine sweetheart, you seem to have the problem R167...

By the way, it wouldn't harm you to show some sensitivity. The guy is infected with AIDS, a promiscuous selfish slut like you infected him. Stop acting like a boorish ape. It's about time you put yourself in someone else's shoes.

Oh...and by the way you don't seem 'nicer, kinder and lovely'. What you wrote before was extremely insensitive.

I didn't mean to degrade you by writing all this. You just shocked me with your irresponsible reply, that's all. You kind of hurt me.

by Anonymousreply 175April 18, 2015 11:02 AM

"I just like to have a lot of sex and prefer doing it with many different people."

I'm guessing there are few, if any, repeat customers. The stench of desperation never really goes away, does it?

by Anonymousreply 176April 18, 2015 12:14 PM

R167 you are a complete and utter asshole.

by Anonymousreply 177April 18, 2015 12:34 PM

I don't really care if guys are what is colloquially being called sluts and whores. That's your choice, it's your life.

What frustrates me personally is guys who deal in volume but won't cop to it. If that's who you are, great. But don't lie to people about it or cheat on them or waste their time and their feelings. It's just grown up and honorable to be clear about who you are and what you want.

by Anonymousreply 178April 18, 2015 1:47 PM

But should I be sensitive, R175, when he is the one who went on the offensive first? Declaring himself (in all caps no less) one of the "GOOD ONES" demonstrated a high degree of moral superiority, misplaced judgment and hubris that was disgusting.

What happened to live and let live? I respect his right to live a puritanical lifestyle, but don't look down on me or others who choose not to. Is that so much to ask? Like the fact that he enjoys coq au vin (make me barf) makes him better and more "sophisticated" than a slut? Slut people can enjoy good food just as much as a chaste person can.

His logic was insulting and full of holes. I wasn't just going to let it slide.

by Anonymousreply 179April 18, 2015 2:05 PM

Please don't feel bad, R179... you're both too... complicated... for anybody to want to deal with for long.

by Anonymousreply 180April 18, 2015 2:24 PM

Guys, this is D*vida back and calling y'all a bunch of diseased f*ggots. Ignore her. That's right, she's BACK, after being kicked off other boards, and giving up on George and Amal. She's been starting multiple threads. Her usual intent is to monopolize the board in her attempts at being den mother or something.

by Anonymousreply 181April 18, 2015 2:31 PM

This thread is proof that the sluts greatest power is rationalization.

by Anonymousreply 182April 18, 2015 2:44 PM

R182 is right. Everyone goes through a slutty stage, but I'm tired of this rationalization by calling other sex-negative or slut shaming.

There is a small percentage of the gay population who are sex addicts.

It's not a sex drive difference.

by Anonymousreply 183April 18, 2015 5:02 PM

I thought I had one, OP. Craigslist told me differently. Guys really ought to learn to log out of their emails and phones.

by Anonymousreply 184April 18, 2015 5:05 PM

Well I didn't have the need to go through a "slutty stage"! Don't try to make things neat as a pin for your mind by generalizing.

Yes we gay men love cock, but that doesn't mean we have to be slobs about it! There seems to be a stigma associated with men sucking cocks, likely derived by Christianity's insistence that we are foul deviates who should be put to death. And this revulsion is being applied to OP's idea of men being "slutty."

Strt8 men are notorious pussy hounds. So lets call them "sluts" then! And whether you want to believe it or not, WOMEN are always thinking about COCK as well, for they give them orgasms.

In an normal day, men and women, whether they are straight or gay, think about the sex act because it's gratifying. They think about past fucks, they look at others who they are attracted to and think about fucking them. A day doesn't pass where a person does not think about the sex act.

So OP's "gay men who aren't sluts" reference looks to be that of someone closeted, or straight with latency issues, or simply a troll.

by Anonymousreply 185April 18, 2015 9:03 PM

R178 is very very right. I believe what he/she says. Everybody has a right to be whatever they want to be, but they should not hurt other people by letting them believe something else. Unfortunately sluts are deceptive and they love it...

*coughs

R179, i don't think that people who don't fuck everything that moves are puritans. We all have some dirty thoughts, now and then, and some maybe more often than that(including me...)

Fortunately, some people can hold back and don't realize all of their fantasies. I don't think that would make them more happy, anyway. I mean you always have to long for something in this life. I think that this longing protects us from the END.

I feel that it's sexy to hold back and give yourself to someone who is not completely inappropriate for your heart. That's not too much, or something ideal, that's just beautiful and it's not something out of reach...

by Anonymousreply 186April 18, 2015 9:18 PM

I think the idea that ALL gay guys are kind of hypersexual and have no desire to be monogamous and form a family comes from gay culture, but gay culture doesn't represent nor can it speak for every gay man on this planet.

Funny that, collectively, we speak about celebrating diversity, but at the same time, there are voices among us who cannot see that just like any other group we are not homogeneous; we are diverse and that diversity means, among other things, some want to have an endless list of sex partners and other want to have only one forever.

We share the same attraction for the same sex, but what we want when it comes to our sex lives varies from person to person.

by Anonymousreply 187April 18, 2015 11:49 PM

[quote][bold]So don't stereotype all gay mens.[/bold] We, THE GOOD ONES, are stay at home types who have parties, can cook really good dinners such as Coq au Vin, have gardens that look fantastic, have pets, and friends who, like us, just want a break from the constant sex shit attached to "the gay mystique."

Your "ONE OF THE GOOD GAYS" life sounds like something out of the Birdcage. Talk about a stereotype.

I'm monogamous and like rock and roll, bowling and fishing. Since I don't fit any stereotype does that make me one of THE GODLIKE ONES?

by Anonymousreply 188April 20, 2015 5:33 PM

The best sex is that which grows from love.

by Anonymousreply 189April 20, 2015 5:37 PM

In other words you're fat r159.

by Anonymousreply 190April 20, 2015 5:38 PM

Can you stop being sarcastic to R159? R188, you twist his words. He never trashed rock and roll, bowling and fishing! He just wrote about the qualities he considered good in a gay man. Give him a break, okay? He is certainly alright, don't make him seem as if he is the bad guy, here. (Maybe you flirt him by pulling his leg, of course...you know better, i'm afraid.)

R190, grow up. It's embarrassing and tasteless. R159 wrote a sincere, out of his heart reply and you gave a poor, cold and sassy one sentence reply.

by Anonymousreply 191April 20, 2015 5:54 PM

Never had a slutty phase. I'm 50 and my slutty years would've been right when the plague hit and i watched friends get sick and die. In a way i'm grateful i skipped that phase.

by Anonymousreply 192April 20, 2015 6:42 PM

I've been slutty for about 10 years now and I no longer think it's a phase, but who I am.

There's no reason to be ashamed of sleeping with as many guys as possible.

by Anonymousreply 193April 20, 2015 6:44 PM

R193, nobody said that you should be ashamed. Only if you hurt others... Take care, beastie.

*cuddles R192. Take care too, sensitive and thoughtful baby

by Anonymousreply 194April 20, 2015 6:57 PM

...........

by Anonymousreply 195April 14, 2018 6:00 PM

No, there aren't.

by Anonymousreply 196August 2, 2020 9:09 PM

"The idea of a long-term partner seems nice, but having sex with the same person for more than just a couple times or even more than once seems like a waste of time."

You don't have to have sex with only your partner if you can work it out with them.

by Anonymousreply 197August 2, 2020 9:38 PM

There are plenty, but half of those would be if they could be - not everyone has the confidence and social skills, and physical skills to be a whore.

This is what women say about straight men "all men are dogs" - and while we know that's not completely true, it's partially true. And more would be dogs if they thought they could.

by Anonymousreply 198August 2, 2020 9:40 PM
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