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What is the Psychological Need to Suck a Man's Cock?

I was after this guy I thought was hot, but he was playing hard to get. So one day I bluntly said, "I want your cock so bad." To him.

He replied, "Why do you want to suck my dick so bad? What is your need? You do it and what then?"

I was taken aback. For once I wondered what compels me to want to do this thing to him. What makes me want to perform oral sex on men? Certainly to pleasure them and make them orgasm. That's the objective, but WHY? So I get him off. Once I've sucked it, what then?

by Anonymousreply 107April 27, 2020 7:25 PM

Hmmm.

by Anonymousreply 1September 13, 2014 5:29 PM

Nothing like a blow job to induce an existential crisis.

by Anonymousreply 2September 13, 2014 5:31 PM

I think it was Freud who wrote about a patient who was obsessed with sucking cock and swallowing cum. I think Freud though that the man was equating cock with breastfeeding and was trying to fill the void of a maternal role in his life. The patient also felt that he was inferior to other men and his obsession may have ben a subconscious method of ingesting their "power" to become like them. I haven't read about this case since the early 90s but thought it was interesting.

However, some people are just sluts. And their oral fixation is so strong they'll suck anything.

by Anonymousreply 3September 13, 2014 5:31 PM

I don't know. I don't care. I just LOVE sucking a hot man's cock. It makes me happy.

by Anonymousreply 4September 13, 2014 5:32 PM

I suck cock, therefor I am.

by Anonymousreply 5September 13, 2014 5:32 PM

I don't get the compulsion to put the organ in my mouth. I mean I'm gay and all and have been all my life, but the act of putting the penis in my mouth trying to cause a man to orgasm... whenever I see a cute guy the first thing I want to do to him is put his cock in my mouth! I want to know why the penis is the target of my affection. Am I fucked up in the head? Seriously, some psychological take on doing this, thinking this.

by Anonymousreply 6September 13, 2014 5:36 PM

It's an intense intimacy, coupled with the knowledge of the pleasure you're bringing him, and his presumed gratitude.

by Anonymousreply 7September 13, 2014 5:36 PM

Who still takes Freudian psychology seriously?

by Anonymousreply 8September 13, 2014 5:45 PM

Gay = sex = sex organs = pleasure. Try sucking their big toe or thumb and see if you get the same feeling. It's pleasure and control. Over-think it and you mess with the pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 9September 13, 2014 5:46 PM

When he asked you "You do it and what then?" your answer should have been "Swallow".

by Anonymousreply 10September 13, 2014 5:52 PM

What then? You have an orgasm and feel good, and I feel better and happier for having giving you one.

by Anonymousreply 11September 13, 2014 5:53 PM

Sometimes a cock is just a cock

by Anonymousreply 12September 13, 2014 5:54 PM

It's control ("I control his ability to orgasm right now.") and trying to get the person to be into you, perhaps wanting to fuck you, or stay with you. Also, people are seeking approval by feeling that they've done a good job.

by Anonymousreply 13September 13, 2014 5:57 PM

I was once told by a priest who was also a trained psychologist that basically you're trying to incorporate the good qualities you see in the other man into yourself. So if you like older men, men with muscles, men with nicer bodies than your own, or as you get older, men who are younger than you, you're trying to get what they have.

by Anonymousreply 14September 13, 2014 6:00 PM

How else will I get him to cum in my mouth?

by Anonymousreply 15September 13, 2014 6:02 PM

[quote]I was once told by a priest who was also a trained psychologist that basically you're trying to incorporate the good qualities you see in the other man into yourself.

If anyone knows all about sucking cocks, it's a priest!

by Anonymousreply 16September 13, 2014 6:02 PM

This is indeed a mystery to me. An even bigger mystery is why men will pay to do it. No woman would ever do that. Cocksucking-lovers must be truly altruistic people.

by Anonymousreply 17September 13, 2014 6:04 PM

I think it has something to do with submission.

by Anonymousreply 18September 13, 2014 6:04 PM

Echoing R14, I've read similar things about sex in general. It's almost a form of benign vampirism--when you have sex with people, you take a bit of their energy whether you have an emotional connection with them or not. Sex is the joining of energies.

by Anonymousreply 19September 13, 2014 6:04 PM

In the priest's defense, he was very non-judgmental, understanding, and didn't jump my bones, even though I was a cute young 20-something and he was about 45. Some priests are actually nice people.

by Anonymousreply 20September 13, 2014 6:06 PM

Whatever it is, Judy Garland had it. She sucked dick like other people suck mints.

by Anonymousreply 21September 13, 2014 6:08 PM

Good question, OP. It is what it is....

by Anonymousreply 22September 13, 2014 6:14 PM

It pleases you OP. Are you a cockaholic and can't make through the day without one?

by Anonymousreply 23September 13, 2014 6:16 PM

You enjoy doing it? that's why you keep seeking it out?

by Anonymousreply 24September 13, 2014 6:43 PM

For me it's a physical need.

by Anonymousreply 25September 13, 2014 6:57 PM

I've seen posts where men are talking about licking, sucking and "chewing" on labia that a woman was considering having surcically trimmed. They were enraptured by what, quite frankly, looked like shredded chicken filets.

I couldn't imagine being delighted to sucking on that mess, so I can see the how sucking a dick could seem equally odd and revolting.

My first feelings for a guy were a crush, liking seeing his face, feeling excited about seeing him yake his shirt off.

I first heard about what was involved on disparaging ways ( cocksucker, fudgepacker), but that's where I learned what was what. But, for me, the intimacy, physical closeness were what I desired.

It's an interesting Nature vs. Culture question.

I've never been attracted to penises, only to the men who have them.

by Anonymousreply 26September 13, 2014 6:58 PM

Ridiculous nonsense R19. Sex is not about taking, but giving. You are giving pleasure to a man when you do it, and that is the important thing. Really, all your psychobabble sounds self-loathing, most of you.

by Anonymousreply 27September 13, 2014 7:00 PM

Consider the ridiculous and irrational lengths that most men (the hetero majority) will go to fuck pussy. Why do they do that? It feels good, sure, but so does your hand. It's certainly not usually to procreate. They just have to do it, and will do so with any random female who's willing. (Or sometimes not.) The sex drive is not entirely conscious, and if your wiring happens to drive you to suck cock rather than fuck pussy, I don't really thinks there's a "reason" for it.

by Anonymousreply 28September 13, 2014 7:10 PM

But fucking a pussy is a pleasure seeking for straight men. It makes sense.

It is true that it is a bit odd that (most) gay men LOVE just sucking cock, to the point that some will pay just to do that as others have said.

I freaking love it also, god knows why, but I do.

by Anonymousreply 29September 13, 2014 7:16 PM

OP, so did you ever get to suck his cock? If so, what did happen then?

by Anonymousreply 30September 13, 2014 7:30 PM

What about the psychological need to suck a woman's cock? So much damned privilege on this thread. ...

by Anonymousreply 31September 13, 2014 7:34 PM

I get the Psych. 101 reasons (the need to take in missing masculinity, etc.) Also personally, to me, it is an expression of my sexuality. When I do it, I'm expressing myself at my most basic level. I think that is why I enjoy it - most of the time. But sometimes, it's really just a chore. The fantasy is very often much better than the reality. But then again, those times when you're with someone who really turns you on - there's nothing like a good throat pounding.

by Anonymousreply 32September 13, 2014 7:59 PM

It is because you feel inferior. The act of being the receptacle for another man's pleasure is a way of reinforcing that he is superior to you. That you are not really a man. And this is deeply subconscious. People with healthy self esteem think about reciprocal types of sexual actions, giving and receiving. The first thing a man would NOT think about is putting another guy's dick in his mouth but rather being the aggressor in a sexual act, being the one who HAS his dick sucked. That is, if he is self-confident and self loving and self-respecting.

by Anonymousreply 33September 13, 2014 8:11 PM

R32 and OP, I don't like being skull-fucked as much as licking/sucking/kissing the head and along the shaft, and holding/cradling/caressing an erect cock in my hand/arms. I prefer to make love to it than to have my throat pounded. Ugh.

by Anonymousreply 34September 13, 2014 8:15 PM

There's nothing psychological about it. It's pure instinctive sexual lust and desire.

by Anonymousreply 35September 13, 2014 8:18 PM

Oh yeah, that too R34 - absolutely! :)

by Anonymousreply 36September 13, 2014 8:19 PM

I'm with you R34, I am not down for being throat fucked.

And dear god R33, I hate to hear what you think about bottoming.

by Anonymousreply 37September 13, 2014 8:19 PM

I am inclined to agree with R35. While there's no context for how OP broke the news to the guy whose cock he wanted to suck so bad, it sounds like the guy was offended in some way or at least wants more than just some guy sucking his cock.

by Anonymousreply 38September 13, 2014 8:22 PM

My lust and desire is expressed in wanting to fuck. I get the "it feels like a chore" part r32 mentioned. I am not oral so I don't have the need to suck though I do really enjoy kissing and as I said fucking.

by Anonymousreply 39September 13, 2014 8:22 PM

OK, OP, but did you get that guy or not?

by Anonymousreply 40September 13, 2014 8:38 PM

I have a deep psychological need to suck THIS man's cock... NSFW

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by Anonymousreply 41September 13, 2014 8:45 PM

R41, you do realize that man has hair on his back, don't you?

by Anonymousreply 42September 13, 2014 8:48 PM

R41, he would look so much better without the beard. I don't get beards. The hide the face beautiful. I don't mind a five o'clock shadow or stubble, but a bushy weird is gross.

by Anonymousreply 43September 13, 2014 8:52 PM

WTF...wait a second.

Someone was having their labia surgically "trimmed"?

by Anonymousreply 44September 13, 2014 8:53 PM

So you chased after him just for cock, not because you wanted to get to know him?

by Anonymousreply 45September 13, 2014 8:59 PM

R41. No total cock shot. Damn.

by Anonymousreply 46September 13, 2014 9:04 PM

As a child, I'd open a Cracker Jack box and wolf through the molasses nubbins and nuts to get to the prize. I have simply swapped to a less sugary snack.

by Anonymousreply 47September 13, 2014 9:05 PM

R44 Yes. Image in link, NSFW. From a subReddit where people ask strangers to assess their bodies, etc.

She thought her labia were too big and ugly, and was thinking of trimming them.

Hundreds of comments from straight guys rhapsodizing on their beauty, their desire to lick, suck, and gnaw on them. Enthralled.

To me, it looks like the maw of one of the "Predator" aliens, or raw chicken.

I have 0% of the attraction that the straight guys had for this. No offense, I just don't have an erotic reaction to the image.

So, beauty really is in the eye of tge beholder.

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by Anonymousreply 48September 13, 2014 9:05 PM

Yes, I do, R42! Grrrrrrrrr... :)

by Anonymousreply 49September 13, 2014 9:10 PM

That's the objective, but WHY? So I get him off. Once I've sucked it, what then? Suddenly I found myself wondering: does giving head actually suck?

Across town, Samantha was getting the kind of head every single girl in Manhattan was hot for, at New York's newest - and trendiest - hair salon... Blow Job.

by Anonymousreply 50September 13, 2014 9:17 PM

I always thought it was a more controlled form of intimacy - I suck guys off all the time, but I'd only kiss certain guys, and rarely bottom at all. I suppose the comfort is in making the guy cum, and feeling some sort of accomplishment there or something.

by Anonymousreply 51September 13, 2014 9:20 PM

bump

by Anonymousreply 52September 16, 2014 12:25 AM

Why pathologize men who suck cock? Women suck cock, women suck pussy, men suck pussy, men suck cock.

by Anonymousreply 53September 16, 2014 12:43 AM

Most straight women do NOT look at sucking cock like most gay men do. There is a monumental difference there.

by Anonymousreply 54September 16, 2014 12:48 AM

They call it a blow JOB for a reason.

by Anonymousreply 55September 16, 2014 12:52 AM

OP is just bored.

by Anonymousreply 56September 16, 2014 1:59 AM

Good question OP. I'm a top bit every now and them I feel the urge to suck a cock.

by Anonymousreply 57September 16, 2014 2:04 AM

Most of the psychobabble going on his thread is coming from lesbians with serious penis-envy ISSUES.

by Anonymousreply 58September 16, 2014 8:21 AM

You're an alive human being who is sexual and has sexual desires. Not hard to figure out.

by Anonymousreply 59September 16, 2014 8:34 AM

Well, I can just imagine what the "why eat ass" thread is going to look like...

by Anonymousreply 60September 16, 2014 8:37 AM

Honey! They don't call it a job for nothing!

by Anonymousreply 61September 16, 2014 9:08 AM

But like don't you SMELL ASS when you suck cock? Real life, not like in porn. A man's ass emanates a smell of shit, especially asses with hair on them. You get your face all down there and you get a whiff of poo! What to do about that?

by Anonymousreply 62September 17, 2014 5:56 AM

Hey, Scat Fantasy Troll at r62: maybe you want to find a different forum for your freakshow kind.

by Anonymousreply 63September 17, 2014 6:03 AM

R62, Never sucked a dick but I would not think it would smell like shit and ass. Far more likely that the guy would smell like nutsack sweat depending on how long it's been since he showered.

by Anonymousreply 64September 17, 2014 6:09 AM

OP must be a troll. Why were you taken aback, if it's even true?

You want to do it because it feels good. Hello!?!

OP was also taken aback when the man asked why do people drink water and he couldn't figure out it's because people are thirsty.

by Anonymousreply 65September 17, 2014 6:10 AM

Women will ruin this thread with uninformed, unwanted babble in 3, 2, 1...

by Anonymousreply 66September 17, 2014 6:17 AM

What R4 said.

by Anonymousreply 67September 17, 2014 6:52 AM

Like eating a pussy smells any better, R62. If anything, pussy smells like the stench of shit and fish coagulating together, so in the end I think we get the better deal, hon.

by Anonymousreply 68September 17, 2014 6:53 AM

[bold][italic]What is the Psychological Need to Suck a Man's Cock?[/italic][/bold]

OP,

It means you have a good work ethic.

by Anonymousreply 69September 17, 2014 7:43 AM

[italic]By the way:[/italic] OP is also R6 and R62.

R63 pointed out that [R62] is "Scat Fantasy Troll."

This thread has gone on long enough.

by Anonymousreply 70September 17, 2014 7:48 AM

He sounds like a waste of your time, OP.

by Anonymousreply 71September 18, 2014 2:41 AM

I like my men freshly washed before sucking.

Part of the pleasure is seeing they are up for you to suck it. I think you are all over thinking this.

As for this guy - he must have a small cock.

by Anonymousreply 72September 18, 2014 2:50 AM

It's like eating a hot dog at a baseball game. Ya just gotta!

by Anonymousreply 73September 18, 2014 3:30 AM

R28, there is an incredible primal feel to fucking a woman that doesn't happen when I fuck men.

I think this primal feel is what straight guys are seeking with their almost ridiculous pursuit of pussy.

But sex is also about who you connect with. Straight guys do not connect with other guys the way gay or bi men do, and is not about sex. I think straight men and women connect in this way.

by Anonymousreply 74September 18, 2014 3:41 AM

I like it because it seems like a really intimate act, and the fact that you're doing something that brings the guy a lot of pleasure. Of course, it depends on how good you are at it.

by Anonymousreply 75September 18, 2014 3:47 AM

You know, sometimes a cock is just a cock. Just sayin.

by Anonymousreply 76September 18, 2014 11:23 AM

R68, clearly not speaking from experience.

by Anonymousreply 77September 18, 2014 1:17 PM

R62, I'm sorry that you're so repulsive that you settle for homeless men and others with poor hygiene as your sex partners, but I've found that men who shower daily and wash themselves thoroughly do not "emanate a smell of shit".

by Anonymousreply 78September 18, 2014 1:30 PM

I'm guessing r74 is a bi guy.

by Anonymousreply 79September 18, 2014 7:40 PM

When I haven't sucked a cock in a while, I get depressed. Sucking just one cock makes me feel better immediately and lasts for days. Sucking a whole bunch just magnifies the effect until at some point I pretty much get a "high" off of it that lasts for days.

Unfortunately it's been a very long time for me now. Nearly a year.

by Anonymousreply 80September 18, 2014 7:50 PM

R62, the men I'm with me don't crap, so I never have to worry about it. I advise you to choose your partners wisely.

by Anonymousreply 81September 18, 2014 7:58 PM

Is lust a psychological need? Is fun? Sucking a big beautiful dick attached to a sexy man- is one of life's great thrills- one that can be repeated as well. And when attached to love or even like- one of the greatest reasons to be alive.

What a screwed up jerk you messed with OP.

by Anonymousreply 82September 18, 2014 8:13 PM

But what about the smell of a man's anus when you blow him? Especially a guy's butt on a steaming 105-degree day? What do you do about that smell. It repulses me, the smell so close to the ass.

by Anonymousreply 83September 19, 2014 3:09 PM

R83- if you don't know what to do- then stay in bed- today and all days- and try not to post on DL.

by Anonymousreply 84September 19, 2014 3:18 PM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 85September 30, 2014 1:03 PM

Look, there's Witchiepoo at R64 admitting that she never sucked a dick.

Is this nutcase frau still claiming to be a "young, attractive, queer male?"

by Anonymousreply 86September 30, 2014 3:24 PM

Witchiepoo is also at R3 spouting some Freudian nonsense about breast feeding. Oh, no, she's not a Frau.

by Anonymousreply 87September 30, 2014 4:16 PM

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by Anonymousreply 88May 25, 2015 10:16 PM

I just love to suck cock but it scares me that mabe theres the chance of catching something

by Anonymousreply 89June 5, 2015 11:26 AM

In all of my years I have never once sucked cock and smelled shit. I have a really slutty lesbian friend who said she has never smelled shit when face glazing with a lady. She did appreciate the text and said to say "Hi DL".

by Anonymousreply 90June 5, 2015 12:11 PM

What about the psy need to get it sucked? Looking down at someone slurping and gagging. Should I start another thread?

I'm a "pleaser" and would rather be commanding a man's cock, having him thrashing and whimpering.

by Anonymousreply 91June 7, 2015 6:34 PM

Sucking cock is possessing an individual at a most intimate level. The act creates a connection between two guys where each is desirous of the other. During the time of the act both mo's are flooded with body chemicals that create a euphoric connection with one another. That is why gay guys like to suck cock.

by Anonymousreply 92June 7, 2015 6:43 PM

It's an exercise in the appreciation of power and using it for pure pleasure, instead of pain. It's the center of masculinity and the dictator of male strength over the entire body. Because of the development of that perfect, fleshy set and its influence on hormone production, men can almost literally move mountains, trees, fight off enemy hoards.

But when I'm furiously sucking on a hot, throbbing cock, almost expanding out of my lips, I'm in control of all that power for a little while and can reduce the most powerful man in the World to whimpering compliance until I get what I want: The uncontrollable explosion of his hot, salty cream, his fluids shooting down my throat and all he can do is lay there and twitch as I suck his balls dry.

by Anonymousreply 93June 7, 2015 7:05 PM

I dunno. All I know is that I LOVE sucking cock---NOT a pounding throat fuck, though! I ADORE kissing, sucking, licking and oh-so-gently nibbling with my lips on a pretty cock. Just even thinking about how a soft cock gets rock hard as I slurp my way up and down a big, juicy cock gets me excited! I'm giving pleasure and I'm the one in control and for some reason BOTH of those things turn me on.

by Anonymousreply 94June 7, 2015 8:43 PM

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by Anonymousreply 95June 28, 2015 11:40 PM

Suck a cock IS THE PARADISE, IS THE HEAVEN, IS THE TOTAL HAPPYNESS

I NEED SUCK PENIS ALL THE TIME

by Anonymousreply 96May 14, 2016 3:58 PM

Why ask why? Just keep sucking.

by Anonymousreply 97May 14, 2016 4:10 PM

Strange

by Anonymousreply 98June 7, 2016 9:01 AM

R93

Your description is pretty amazing. Can't wait to try it once I find myself the right boyfriend

by Anonymousreply 99July 28, 2016 9:08 PM

I suck your cock. You blow your load. I swallow it. It's over. Why over think things?

by Anonymousreply 100July 28, 2016 9:10 PM

Love for one’s fellow man.

by Anonymousreply 101August 20, 2018 12:53 PM

I think it’s just a very primal need to be close to another man, to get very close and be very submissive, to breath in his essence, to bond with him in the most pleasurable and intimate way imaginable, and to make yourself the outlet for ecstasy and release.

My favorite moments when blowing a guy, other than the big finish and drinking down his reward, are when he touches me while I’m throating him, whether it’s a squeeze of my shoulder or grabbing the back of my head. Affectionate hair tussles and other light touches are sweet, and holding hands while burying your face in his crotch is heaven. I love being affectionate with guys.

by Anonymousreply 102August 20, 2018 2:30 PM

More!

by Anonymousreply 103August 20, 2018 7:04 PM

There is that intimacy. There is something beautiful about producing for her, knowing she enjoys it, and wants to get as much as she can. I’d cum for her every day but she thinks it would be unhealthy for me. Hmm. Well, perhaps we should take off one day every week.

I consider it an obligation (no complaints!) to feed her big loads, which she does appreciate. She really is dependent on it, and that’s fine: her smile is pleasing to me.

by Anonymousreply 104July 20, 2019 3:23 AM

For me, when I think about sucking another man's dick, I can feel the thought set off something primal, raw and hungry in my gut that runs all the way down to my dick and makes it rise to the occasion. Juices begin to flow at the thought. From the thought, I'm already drinking in his presence, masculine energy, the way he looks, bulging briefs, his smells (a little sweat from the day mixed with cum that's been seasoning all day from the heat between his legs), the way his bare bulge feels in my hands and across the stubble of my face and lips. As the head of his dick slides between my lips, I'm tasting him, his precum, the sweat, and the warmth of his throbbing dick. I get more excited feeling the way it grows in my mouth. With everything I do with my tongue and the insides of my mouth, I feel closer and closer to him. With every move of my tongue on his dick, I get more excited by his sighing, and groaning and tightening of his muscles. I love knowing that he is just as turned on by the idea of sharing a part of his raw essence with me. A part of him is becoming a part of me. The whole act of sucking another man's dick is hard to separate into any one reason for wanting to suck a dick. Like my thoughts, all the reasons for doing it run together into a wild fusion of energy as I join with him in this moment. The thought of his excitement becomes my excitement especially as his dick spasms, his body tenses and his dick gushes again and again with the taste of his thick, milky masculine essence into my mouth. In joining with him in this amazing moment, especially if he's sucking me off at the same time it's one of the most intimate and all consuming things two men can share with each other. The psychological need for this comes from the oldest and wildest parts of the brain. When it comes to describing the psychology of sucking cock it is pretty basic but, at the same time, goes beyond words. When two men suck dick it's is a deep psychology of loving, joining, empowering and becoming something more with each other. It is about feeding a hunger for the masculine and connection. There is beauty and spiritual connection in sucking another man off that is savored over and over again by a hungry mind that wants to be wrapped in the rush and intensity of these moments between men.

by Anonymousreply 105August 31, 2019 2:44 AM

[quote]He replied, "Why do you want to suck my dick so bad? What is your need? You do it and what then?"

Damn. That would turn me on even further.

by Anonymousreply 106March 4, 2020 3:51 AM

I like the way r105 puts it as well. If you’re doing it right, all of your senses should be illuminated. You should take in his unique scent. You should get a good taste of him. Hear his moans. Feel his body as pleasure alternately tenses and relaxed his muscles. Look into his eyes as you make him yours.

by Anonymousreply 107April 27, 2020 7:25 PM
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