So could someone please explain this post to me from Hex's blog?
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caterpillxr said: how is being dfab a privilege?
grumpypedant:
hexetal:
being dfab but trans means that the patriarchy views you as moving away from femininity and towards masculinity (regardless of how you identify) and rewards you thus. being dmab and trans means that the patriarchy views you as moving away from masculinity and towards femininity (regardless of how you identify) and punishes you thus.
so being dfab and trans gives you privilege over people who are dmab and trans.
But on the other hand, if you’re visibly or openly dfab, then people pull the whole “put woman in her place” thing. And Dmab trans people have to deal with being perceived as efeminate and betraying their [imagined] manhood, and people can be pretty horrible about that, too.
Dfab and dmab trans folks both have it rough, albeit in different ways, and I don’t think it’s fair to play the more-oppressed-than-you game when we should be supporting one another and trying together to overcome the issues that trans people of all genders and descriptions face, gendered stereotypes included.
#oppression olympics
siggghhhhh
listen bud, it’s not “who’s more oppressed than who” it’s literally that dfab trans people have institutional power over dmab trans people. yes, dfab trans people have it rough, but that doesnt stop them from benefiting from the oppression of dmab trans people.
"trans people of all genders and descriptions" do not experience trans-ness all the same way and we shouldn’t lump them all together. it’s rude, and erasive, and gross.
it all boils down to - dfab trans people are seen as better by the patriarchy and benefit from the patriarchy. even if we’re viewed as women by others (as i often am), when people are misogynistic, since we are very distinctly NOT women, we are not harmed by transmisogyny.
dmab trans people, on the other hand, are punished by the patriarchy. if they are seen as men, that is a violent misgendering, and they are harmed by it.
so like, calm down. it’s not the worst thing in the world to admit privilege.