Some of that's mythmaking though, [113]. For example, supposedly Spencer Tracy wrote in his diary - "Jean Harlow died today. Grand girl." Who read his diary? I've never read anything else about his diary.
We don't know why she drank. Look at what she did, not what was said or what she said. She and her mom spent time in LA when she was young when her mother made a failed attempt to become an actress. They went back to Kansas. When she was sixteen, she married a 23 year old rich guy and where do they elope to get away from mommy? Beverly Hills, California. From Kansas, where mommy still lives.
Big coincidence, right? No interest in being a film actress, not her. Supposedly she and he didn't do anything but socialize and drink and then she got extra work - forced upon her, of course, somehow, even though mom was still back in Kansas and her husband had money.
Harlow also posed nude in Griffith Park. The photographs are beautiful and natural, but mom didn't make her do them. Mom does show up in L.A., Jean gets pregnant. She can have the baby with her rich husband, or she can have an abortion and keep doing bit parts. She had the abortion. Sorry, no mom can FORCE their kid into an abortion. Stars back then had abortions if they wanted their career to stay on track, or weren't married. Jean was married, not a star, no real career, didn't want a career, but had an abortion? Really. I'm supposed to believe she didn't want a career, mom whipped her out of bed every morning?
Jean managed to marry and elope without her mother, so her mother couldn't possibly have had total control. The abortion was Jean's choice too. Just sometimes it seems to me people, including biographers, fall over backwards not to look at the obvious. Moving to Beverly Hills, the abortion, dating Hughes, dating a mobster. She dated power people, not people her age, once her first marriage was over, to get her career going. All the while just wanting to be a housewife? Come on.
There's too much of a gap between what Jean Harlow said she wanted and what she actually did, who she married and dated, and the choices she made between her career and personal life. It was very popular back then for all actresses to say they wanted home and hearth. Every time there's a point in Harlow's history that doesn't look good, the mother gets the blame. Not saying mother was good news, but nobody was stopping Jean from visiting her father, nobody was stopping Jean from a lot of stuff. When she wanted to do something she did it. When she needed to sell the house her mother loved, she sold it. This passive stuff is just a way to remove all responsibility for herself.
She'd been married to McGrew, had a romance with Howard Hughes, and dated a mobster - and that's just what's on the public record. Yet people still pretend she married Paul Bern out of naivete and didn't learn the deal til the wedding night. Sure.
When she got sick on the set of Saratoga, her mother was on vacation in Catalina. The horrible mother who was such bad news. This must be why William Powell called her mother back home to care for Jean. He was working - and they weren't really "together" anymore - even though Jean could afford a nurse and had staff.
Not saying mom was healthy, but her boyfriends were no worse than Jean's choices in men. I don't believe Jean was totally passive, actively wanting nothing more than marriage and a child, but was too weak to say no to mommy. That sounds like plain fantasy with no oomph or intention behind it to me, based on her choices. She had a rich grandfather in Kansas who'd have loved to have her back home.
This doesn't make her a bad person. But she made all the classic choices of a narcissist who sees in men roles she wants them to play in her life, and doesn't see them apart from what she needs from them. She was married and divorced three times by age twenty-two, and somehow the guy who resisted being Husband No. 4 is the bad guy. She had talent all right.