What kinds of people posts on datalounge, in your opinion?
Other than the fact that most people who post here are gay, bisexual or lesbian. I'm straight by the way, so I'm in the minority.
Anyway, I think for the most part, there is always something wrong with people who posts regularly on a messageboard. I'll be the first to admit that. I have no real friends who I hang out with. I have many acquaintances who I talk to at work, but no one I go to the movies with and no one who comes over to my house. Plus I don't have the time for friends at this stage in time.
I consider Datalounge to be an awesome friend. It's there for me when I feel like talking and it's there any time I need it.
[quote]What kinds of people posts on datalounge, in your opinion?
Apparently people who have trouble with capitalization and subject-verb agreement.
Lonely people. Like me. I feel like you're all my friends but we only hang out together because no one else wants us.
You're gay, Gayle!
Cunty grammar queens!
I envision morbidly obese men with open-backed hospital gowns, propped up in their beds and posting from their iPad as they anxiously await their gastric banding surgery.
OP, you may talk straight but you are at least bi-curious.
60% people with high-fuctioning autism or personality disorders. 30% sharp-tongued, bitter old queens in caftans and earrings. 10% "normal" folk who came for the gossip, stayed to observe the freakshow.
And people who enjoy an occasionally smart, revealing dialogue.
It does not happen as much as it once did, but when it does it's a beautiful thing.
It's not like there are any normal messageboards... are there?
I've recently discovered this site and am blown away at the topics and comments. Most of it is pretty funny, but some of it is downright rude. I wouldn't change a thing.
There are many extremely intelligent, cultured people here and fun ones as well.
I almost find some really interesting information here such as links to political articles, suggestions for really good books or music, gossip about Old Hollywood and all sorts of tips about everything.
For this reason, I always return, even though it seems like a harder slog through the shit each time.
This is a great place to come on nights like this when I have no social plans and just feel like hanging out in my sweats. There is always somebody here who makes me laugh or an interesting link to read.
R10 or Married Family Guy: are you ever shocked by the explicit sexual talk here?
Lonely old men without even a cat to call a friend.
[quote]For this reason, I always return, even though it seems like a harder slog through the shit each time.
The problem is that DL once separated entertainment gossip from politics. I loved it that way because I much preferred the politics, so you got to "filter" out the entertainment and so I never had to see countless threads about soap operas or some B-list celeb with obsessed fans.
Yes I am [R13]. I've actually learned a lot about how other people view the world and I am amazed at the lifestyle of some of the posters. I've always been open about topics that include sex but never like this! Straight people get a little uptight about things like that.
Thank goodness for our free access to this fickle Tandy Model 100 computer inside the Save The Children's delapidated tata-somba house.
Well reasoned people post here
Worldly, angry and unhappy.
[quote]Lonely old men without even a cat to call a friend.
I have a cat.
While my husband is on facebook, I read him quotes from this board.
I can't stand facebood and think this is much better!
DL warts and all is awesome. I can see why some straight people would like DL, hetero married life tends to be such a snooze for women and men.
I'm 32 year old straight, white male who lives in a major city. I'm engaged and my fiancee got me into this site. Like right now, she's getting ready so we can go out to lunch and I'm reading and posting here. I find this site funny and engaging, sometimes a little over the top and way off base, but it's a neat place. I also post on Reddit, a site that this place seems to be modeled after.
What do we do when this board goes into deplorable PT and we can't post?
One day I went to Reddit because a few people here have said it's kind of like DL but larger. It's ok but I missed DL.
R19 Misogynists? Yeah thankfully a minority, but a very vocal one.i
i'm a straight female, and i come here for the comments.. some of the things i read on here are hilarious!
I'm gay but don't have many gay friends, so Dl keeps me in touch with the gay sensibility that I never thought I had.
I came of age on the AIDS 80s and I began to associate being gay with that and everything I hated &/or did not identify with. I hated anything gay on the web too. Sites like towleroad or whatever it's called was so depressing and negative...every reported gay bashing in North America turns up there and it's grim.
Then I discovered DL and fitted right in. I like the sense of humour and arrived on an especially good week in about 2007 ('the gaggle of gays on the night of Diana's death video' week, remember that?)
& where else can you go and find one hundred and fifty posts about Looking For Mr Goodbar?
Sometimes people can be unnecessarily mean, but you learn to handle it and it's worth it.
[quote]'m 32 year old straight, white male who lives in a major city. I'm engaged and my fiancee got me into this site
Are you hot and your fiancee ugly?
Is OP living in 2013? People can see this site on their phones too you know that right?
Lonely, angry, cynical, fearful people who hate themselves and need to spread their misery so they can have company.
Other than that, they're are some who teach us a lot.
DL is older than Reddit, R25.
Please, "Married Family Guy," don't assume DL's version of being gay is the reality.
This place is filled with elderly gay men who haven't had sex since the Carter administration.
[quote] they're are some who teach us a lot
Ya think, R32?
I always picture a gaunt 30-something male furiously typing away before racing out of his office to micro-manage his staff.
His diet is inspired by Anna Wintour.
He had a taste for cocaine, then tina, and sometimes X, but he's graduated to prescription pharmaceuticals.
His apartment went from 300 square feet with a roommate to 900 square feet in a borough that's been taken over by 20-somethings.
Hidden in his closet beneath many orange shoe boxes are real estate porn magazines featuring salt box houses in Vermont with walls of knotty pine and pellet-burning stoves.
His Hollywood regency would look out of place and he wonders if he should have invested in that spinning wheel.
Disgruntled Republican politicians on the down low.
I've been here for so many years now, it's just a part of life.
I wonder about the people who post how much they hate the Datalounge. Why are you here?
Pointless bitchery, r39. It's what gets us through the day.
R28 -- my mom loves the comments here. To me it seems there are a lot of shallow guys, but the few who present well thought out points make the joint worthwhile.
People who miss Mabel Mercer and the Trucks.
Wondering what percentage are twinks, baby dykes, bi-curious, lesbian, transgender?
I remember the Trucks! Do you know what that means? I am from the Paleozoic era.
I'm one of those gay guys who knew he was gay from a very young age. It seems like it was always a part of my consciousness. I experimented with women and that made me sure. I've been supported in my life by my family and friends. I lived in a semi-liberal, middle-class household in a beach town. You were either a yacht club kid or a druggie loser. Even though we had a boat, I was a druggie loser. I didn't fit in. I only got pushed around by one guy in high school for being gay, and he turned out gay himself! I feel like I've been very lucky. I found NYC. I started hanging out during the Stonewall era, marched in the first parade, and so it's been great to watch the progress gay civil rights has made in the new millennium.
I assume DLers like the variety of subjects, the inclusion of subjects that people in their real life don't talk about, and the ability to discuss a subject ad nauseum. If people had friends in real life who want to discuss Colton Haynes 24/7 and who send each other pics of guys presenting their holes then they would probably spend less time on DL.
Straight female here. I've been coming here since 2001! I first came to laugh at the Ponies, but I've stayed because I like the catch-all nature of this site. You can find posts and comments about anything and everything. I also like the liberal bent to much of the poitical commmetary.
I feel the people on Cam4 are my friends too. I watch them do something so private and intimate and chat with them every night. They know me by name and all always excited to see me. It's like my own Cheers.
I agree with R7, R21, and R32 for the most part.
intelligent funny people who know a lot about people and the way the world works
People with big dicks. GREAT BIG MASSIVE DICKS.
Self-employed people who need frequent breaks.
The luckiest people in the world!
Many of us are here waiting and hoping that Hollywood will give Melba Moore a second chance.
I come here to get all the latest gossip on my hunky faves, Jeremy Renner, Tom Hiddleston, and Benedict Cumberbatch! Teehee! You gays are the funnest! I just lurv your snark!
On what other website are you going to get a Melba Moore reference?
This is the only site where I have laughed out loud and wanted to share posts or remember them to use later as my own.
Straight female, long-time married, with lots of mommy friends, but I need an escape from talking about our kids, their schools, their homework, their peers, how over-scheduled we all are. I like reading grown-up adults' informative, often funny, opinions about travel, culture, politics, books, celebs, past-times, films, etc. Is that so wrong?
[quote]30% sharp-tongued, bitter old queens in caftans and earrings.
R7 I agree but it does seem a higher percentage most of the time... 70%.
Crazy people, drunks, and pill poppers.
I have a hard time understanding why straight people, especially men, would enjoy reading what we say. Still, it's kind of nice in a way.
However, I definitely put them out of my mind and write only for the serious homoes when I'm telling one of my tales.
Ditto, R62. I never imagine straight men lurking on DL. I don't really get it.
r60 - Nah, I think there are at LEAST 40% straight posters/lurkers, mostly women, and mostly ok. But then there's some who are just trolls and some who are out for a thrill: 'ooo, look at those colourful gays. how amusing they are to me!,' like the dork at r25.
r62 & r63, for some reason this thread has encouraged the few straight guys who post here to come out of the woodwork and identify themselves, but the polls have shown they are a very small percentage of DL'ers. I actually remember straight guys showing up at about 1% of the DL population. There are lots of straights here, but they're practically all women.
Since I moved away from Palm Springs, DL makes me feel still a part if this crazy, funny, bitchy gay world that I miss.
R25, I find Reddit difficult to navigate (I guess I'm too old) but my 24 year old daughter is a Redditor and we often compare notes about the similarities between DL and Reddit (one of them, sadly, being misogyny). And yeah, I'm a straight married woman. Been here at least 10 years. I found this place through a fandom which shall not be mentioned and I stayed for the pointless bitchery and political commentary.
I don't post a lot but I enjoy the randomness of the topics and DL is always the first place I check for breaking news. My other go-to site is Gawker but I just read the comments there and have never posted. I find the comments on Gawker to be generally quite intelligent as well. I guess I'm basically a lurker.
I kind of suspect that R64 is correct about the demographics here. I don't personally know anyone else who posts here, but my husband, daughter and several friends know that I do. Based on my experiences in my past fandom (to which I plead temporary insanity), there are a lot of straight women on the obsessive fan threads here.
This place really provides a nice escape from the reality of boring Suburban life. I totally get that most of this stuff isn't reality either, but I enjoy the freedom of expression here since most people, especially men in the Suburbs, are really not very liberal. I work in Manhattan, so I always feel I am part of two worlds so DL keeps me connected to the open, liberal part.
Minions of evil puppet masters.
Reddit leans a bit too young hetero male, ONTD & Tumblr leans young female social justice warrior, City Data leans too conservative...but DL is juuuust right.
[quote] ONTD & Tumblr leans young female social justice warrior
R70 I've heard the ONTD crowd described this way before on DL. I'm curious because isn't ONTD a celebrity gossip site? Why would a social justice activist bother posting there? I'm not trying to be snarky in the least, it's just that I am in my forties and puzzled by the idea of teens and twentysomethings advocating for social justice on celebrity forums. I don't get it!
Streep Loons (TM)
Straight black woman, there's a puzzle for ya ;)
In recent years, the number of product, reputation management, and political shills seems to have increased.
Smart consultants know that winning the hearts and minds of the DL community can make or break a product, a politician, or a celebrity.
Why so, R73? I've been here for 10 years.
[quote][R70] I've heard the ONTD crowd described this way before on DL. I'm curious because isn't ONTD a celebrity gossip site? Why would a social justice activist bother posting there? I'm not trying to be snarky in the least, it's just that I am in my forties and puzzled by the idea of teens and twentysomethings advocating for social justice on celebrity forums. I don't get it!
ONTD used to be about celebrities, but over the years, the real gossip has dwindled and more and more posts are little more than wank bait. The "SJWs" make it their mission in life to call out anything and everything they construe as racist, sexist, ableist, etc. An innocuous post about a new tv show will consist of 75% comments complaining about the racial makeup of the cast. A poorly worded "problematic" Tweet from a C-list celebrity will be torn apart and the celeb will be permanently placed on the shitlist. The SJWs hate men, they hate white people and they especially hate straight, white cisgendered men more than anything.
Most of them are probably aged 16-21 or so. They've taken one cultural studies class and are now experts on privilege and oppression. Think of them as future Michfest attendees.
[quote]I consider Datalounge to be an awesome friend. It's there for me when I feel like talking and it's there any time I need it.
I too post and read here a lot because I have virtually no friends. Even so I consider Datalounge to be an abusive partner.
[quote]I also post on Reddit, a site that this place seems to be modeled after.
r25, gurl, you really tried it with one. Somebody needs to give the boyfriend a history on Datalounge.
I recognize the type, R76. Blissfully self-involved and unaware of her own narcissism.
There's some really funny people here and a lot of interesting links and viewpoints but sometimes there are posts that are so hate-filled and vicious I need to stop visiting for a while. There's a lot of trolling goes on which is ruining an otherwise entertaining site. Maybe I'm showing my age that I just don't find trolls to be funny or edgy, just tedious.
Yes, R80. Many a time I've been following an interesting topic only to see it dry up because a commenter full of insight or gossip was shouted off the thread by naysaying bitchy malcontents.
Join the DL Facebook group and you'll seem most of them. Or us?
I ditto R67 comments. I am a 40 something year old married lady who also browses Gawker and Datloumge. My daughter wants me to switch to Reddit but I think it is too confusing. She thinks DL is for "old folks" and I need to update. But I am here to stay .
I see gay people.
Stupid W&W. Is the short bus reading today?
I love DL. The different topics can be funny, informative and sometimes poignant. I think we get all kinds of people here and that's what makes it fun.
The people who try to shit all over any thread piss me off, and they are kind of pathetic. I've noticed lately threads where the OP is slammed for nothing, really, and it's not even fun "pointless bitchery'"---just cuntiness for no reason other than to make themselves feel better. I think it may be just one person, actually.
R87, 100 men on this board are clutching their pearls right now and thinking, "Is he talking about ME?"
Apparently, a lot of people who believe in astrology.
[quote] I always picture a gaunt 30-something male furiously typing away before racing out of his office to micro-manage his staff.
Most of the bitches who post here haven't been "gaunt" since birth. They're 50-somethings who live in the Principality of Caftania, drink Riunite on Ice, and wet their pants with glee at the mere mention of something from their youth.
I also think that a lot of smart people with interests in culture and politics post here. There are some GOP trolls, but they reliably get the thrashing they deserve.
Lots of insightful comments mixed with great humor.
I visit DL when I travel for work - that is all the time.
Think DL is a great place.
I've read some posts here on DL and laughed so hard that I literally had tears running down my face. Don't think I can say that about any other website I've visited.
I need the laughter in my life...wish there was more.
I'm 52, gay, overweight, two cats, no friends.
I agree with R92. There have been things posted here that have made me laugh so hard that I've lost control of my bodily functions.
Have you ever tried to explain to a friend or a co-worker that you just read an online post titled "Ferret in the Dishwasher"?
You sometimes have to wade through a lot of drivel and drek to find said gems, but they are HILARIOUS!
Totally agree with [r93]. Been lurking and posting for a long time. There was always a lot of dreck, even in the so-called golden era but it remains a reliable source of great amusement and often insight. I don't own a caftan and gave up my simple hoop earring, by the way.
Partnered straight-ish white female, 40 and liberal, here. I occasionally wear caftans, but only at home and never with pearls. I have few friends but many friendly acquaintances. I believe in astrology.
I come here not for presenting holes and soap threads, but for gossip, news, politics, entertainment, and gay perspective. Some posters are humorous, some get in the way with deep vitriol (I usually skip right by them), some are informative, and some are simply compelling writers that give me something to think about.
I like all the gays (caftans, old, young, meat heads, flamers, fashionistas, grammarians, prisspots, socially just, Darfur minders, the insecure, the monied, the poor) except the abusive ones (who worry me).
I saved the best post I've ever read here in email (back in July), because it applies to anyone, gay or not, if they hide:
"...coming out means you don't compartmentalize your life to accommodate your perception of the smallness of others. You give them the benefit of the doubt that they are rational people who are old enough to understand you as a full human being.
You're not a secret agent. You don't hide your beliefs, activities, loves, or desires from the people in your life. You expose yourself to judgment and criticism the same as any other adult.
You're no longer just a witness to heterosexual drama. You're an equal who is facing the same shit as everyone else - no better, no worse..."
I'm a (gay) married middle-aged white guy in Philly. In a addition to my husband I have a loving, accepting family and loads of friends, male and female, gay and straight. I'm politically liberal and have lived in cities (not suburbs) my entire life.
Sometimes I feel like a freak here. I'm openly gay with zero shame about it, but I see a lot of self-loathing and closeted posters here. I'm urban and liberal but I see a lot of backwards, racist rural posters here. I've found real love but sense a lot of bitterness and loneliness here. I have friends of all stripes but see a lot of racism, misogyny and homo/bi/hetero-phobia here.
I do believe that most of these impressions come from a handful of unusually prolific posters here; there's likely a high correlation between the level of unhappiness in ones life and the volume of posting they do. Still, this place is depressing sometimes.
On the plus side, some of you bitches are very funny and intelligent.
For some reason, DL attracts a bunch of radical atheists and blasphemers. A disproportionate number if godless types post here.
I remember when people used to get banned. Some people from Detroit were banned. Or was it Dallas?
I remember red tagging and separate forums for politics and gossip. And I remember when threads got banished to a Freaks and Flames so that the two idiots who had taken over the thread could endlessly argue with each other and not bother anyone else.
The horoscope, supernatural and the serial killer threads are all the product of straight women and they are mostly badly educated people.
And yes, I know there will be a post from someone claiming to be a gay male with a PhD in physics who frequents those threads. Suuuuuuure.
People who have posted on this thread who say they believe in astrology and horoscopes, I want to ask you about that.
I'm not sneering or being sarcastic or cunty. I genuinely want to know why these things are meaningful to you. I assume most of you had at least 12 years of education. I could be wrong, but that is the assumption I am going by.
What was it in your twelve years of education that led you to believe that objects trillions of miles away from you have something to do with your personality or events that will happen in your lives? . The constellations in western astrology are collections of stars that are nowhere near each other. They don't even look like what ancient people assigned to them. Orion doesn't really look like a hunter. And it was named by a group of people who believed that there were gods and goddesses that were running their lives.
Chinese astrology/horoscopes are completely different from Western astrology. They saw different shapes in the sky than westerners did. So who's right when it comes to horoscopes? The West or China? . They can't both be right because they are too different from one another.
Things in the night sky are very far away and what looks like a collection of stars is purely random, since there might be billions of miles separating the lights you think are a constellation in the sky.
So why do you believe in it? What is the rationale behind believing that random collections of lights in the sky have a profound effect on your life? I really want to know.
I like you, R101.
I don't believe in the horoscope jazz r101, but what's the difference between that and religion? Sometimes you just take a leap of faith, right?
straight woman here,I love all you bitches and have forever. I have a big ole B.A and no interest in ghosts or astrology but I do like the serial and regular 1 person killers. How do you function r110 when you hate half the world.
A lot of people who enjoy astrology just think of it as harmless fun and don't take it too seriously - it's "accurate" when it suits their purposes. Kind of like gossip, really.
You must believe in the supernatural, R103, since you replied to a post that will occur in the near future.
[quote] don't believe in the horoscope jazz [R101], but what's the difference between that and religion? S
There is no difference and I didn't say there is one.
However, I understand why people [italic] believe in [/italic] religion. It's because they have been told since birth that they must believe in it. They have spent a lifetime being told about it; that it is true; that there are dire consequences if they do not believe in their particular religion.
There's nothing of the sort surrounding astrology. Society does not teach children astrology; parents don't teach their children astrology; kids don't go to classes instructing them in astrology the way kids go to Sunday School or bible study or Catholic school or synagogue. Religion permeates the lives of people since birth; astrology doesn't. In fact, we are taught in school that Greek gods and goddesses weren't real. We're taught science, which is why we know that constellations are a man-made construct. People aren't told since childhood that they will go to a place of everlasting torture if they don't believe in astrology.
So why do people believe in horoscopes and astrology?
Sorry I just signed my post R103 and I am R101. I apologize for the confusion.
It's just for fun, R103. It's a lot more harmless than believing in Wall Street. That's the big religion these days.
[quote] A lot of people who enjoy astrology just think of it as harmless fun
But we have people in the thread who say they really believe in it.
I love this place and scan looking for witty gems. I know there are some great people here whose lives may be on hiatus for various reasons; unemployment,health problems and/or addictive issues. I always do wonder when some posters, who are obviously in a lot of pain, work out their psychological issues here. I can always see their personality disorder ruining their lives and irritating others. People here have given a heads up to so many troubled people, including suggesting Aspergers as the root of ones current troubles. There is a subset of wise, worldly and witty characters present at this web address like no other gossip domain out there. The trolls are always called out, allowing us to scan over them.
R101 In regards to your astrology question, I tend to agree that random personality traits are just placed with random constellations in an attempt to provide meaning and order in our chaotic world. However from a scientific standpoint the day and month your birth date falls upon during the year has been shown to affect the path your life takes. Studies have been done that show that the month of July produces the fewest babies that go onto become CEOs (only 5.87%) relative to other months. The logic of this phenomena is not due to the stars, but more socially related. People born in July tend to be the youngest members of their elementary school classes compared to those born later in the year (i.e nearer to the beginning of the start of the school year) Studies have shown that older students do better than younger students in school and that early success is often rewarded with leadership roles and better learning opportunities throughout your formative years into adulthood. So if you start out as a leader in elementary school you will most likely continue on that path into adulthood. That is not to say that some people don't buck the trend and overcome those obstacles, as many do, but by the law of averages about 94% don't at least for those born in July.
The personality question is also explained in astrology, but it has more grounding in the social sciences than in the stars as well. After reading Susan Cains book on Introverts, I found that 1/3 to 1/2 of the population are introverted. As I don't follow astrology that closely, it would be interesting to see if those percentages correlate with the personalities associated with the 12 signs (i.e. do about half of the signs equate to introverted personalities). If so, astrology is playing into the law of averages more than anything. Scientifically, introversion is a response to overactive stimulation in parts of the brain that makes introverts more sensitive to their surroundings. That added sensitivity makes people retreat away from social situations which are highly stimulating in favor of more quiet environments with fewer distractions. Extroverted people aren't as affected by the stimulation as their brain chemistry is able to lessen the effects of that stimulation by basically ignoring it. I am oversimplify the science a bit, but again personality is not so much explained by the stars as by chemistry.
The part of the cosmos that does affect our daily lives is much closer to home. The moon and its affect on the tidal forces acting on Earth have been shown to impact our sleep patterns, mood and daily experience of life. For example, sleep studies find that people get less sleep during full moons than non-full moons. As humans consist largely of water, the tidal forces created by the moon and its pull on Earth would logically have some affect on us as well as oceans.
Hope this little science lesson adds to the discussion.
The DL astrology nuts have converted me to a believer and I have an advanced engineering degree.
Agreed, R114! That's indeed a joke!
Lots of angry, damaged people. There seem to be a plethora of knee jerk liberals and conspiracy theorists who need to blame the failures of their own lives on dark unseen forces. Amytime I see the word "freeper" I roll my eyes.
There are also a few gossip mongers with inside info. THOSE I like.
R99 is still reeling after his incredibly racist "I'm a Black Man who Hates Other Black Men" thread was deleted. R99 is an Ashkenazi Jew who trolls relentlessly (no reflection on other Jewish DLers).
That thread really represented "the worst" of Datalounge, and it flamed on for many hours before it was finally taken down.
R7, I concur.
People who need to get a life.
R117 i am always interested in this :do all jewish gay men see other gay men like the R99 ?
because that would be very distressing.
OP, you sound like that judge on The Good Wife. In my opinion.
R116 = freeper
Is ANYONE here happy? Like, genuinely happy? I certainly have room for improvement in my life but I wouldn't call myself lonely and cynical. If anything, I'm just impatient for the things I want to happen to start happening.
No, R120, and the only reason I mentioned that he is an Ashkenazi Jew is because he emphasizes it on every thread.
I think he is a damaged person who basically feels victimized by everyone (whites, blacks, Christians, Muslims, etc.) and uses DL as an outlet for his rage.
He is a sad character but an incredibly hateful and disruptive one, too.
The posters that I don't get are the ones who say really hurtful racist and sometimes anti-gay things. I wonder if they're being real or just controversial to stir the pot.
[quote]Jews and gays are simply superior to everyone else
Only the deeply insecure feel the need to think of themselves as "superior to anyone else"
R99 R126 Get help.
[quote]The posters that I don't get are the ones who say really hurtful racist and sometimes anti-gay things
How is it that I've never been "hurt" by anything posted on DL.
Zip, Zero, Nada, Nothing.
You don't know these people, how can you possibly be offended?
"Cunt", "Freeper", "Communist", "Flaming Faggot", "Die in a Greese Fire"
They make me laugh almost as much as the true wit on this place.
So many fucking hothouse flowers around.
R130 Go see your rabbi, then.
R124, to which "f word" do you refer?
Who the fuck gets hurt feelings from DL of all things? And for god's sake, WHY? When you came to DL, what the fuck did you think you were getting into? And once you saw and your little feelings got hurt, why didn't you leave? There are billion places on the web to chat about whatever you want to chat about without the DL flavor, why not GO TO THEM?
[quote] It's because they have been told since birth that they must believe in it. They have spent a lifetime being told about it; that it is true; that there are dire consequences if they do not believe in their particular religion.
That is not true of all religious people.
Furthermore, why are you so distressed by astrology r101? What difference does it make to you that other people are having fun with it?
R126 first you insult everyone here saying that we are trash cause we are not jewish,then you say gays (all gays that post here) and jews are superior.....
now that just doesn't make any god-dang sense,sheriff!
gays and jews and ALL the other groups have committed violent acts on others because that is just human nature and will always continue to happen and ironically the very same people with your kind of thinking will be the driving force of hate for all eternity.unfortunately almost all people are subject to this kind of superior-than-X thinking....
come to think of it your kind of thinking is on one of the basis of homophobic thinking
the irony is delicious and also sad...
nothing of what you say makes sense
R136, I've always assumed the Religious Wrong mean for us to end our days in Gayschwitz, not gay marriage.
[quote]Maybe I'm showing my age that I just don't find trolls to be funny or edgy, just tedious.
They aren't. The problem is many people try to troll, but so very few people are good at it.
[quote]The posters that I don't get are the ones who say really hurtful racist and sometimes anti-gay things
I for one NEVER take any of that stuff seriously. The more vitriolic something tries to be the more ridiculous it sounds.
R130 I thought that was Scientology.
As a straight guy, I wonder why the younger gays put down older gays? You would think they would look up to them for all they contributed over the years. I just don't get it.
That's part of the culture R145. Throwing shade and reading each other validates us as a people. The age thing goes back forever.
R145 I think it's because youth is so vaunted in gay culture, and it makes younger gays feel powerful. Very narcissistic, really.
r145, the shade goes both ways. Those "put downs" are not well received here because the older gays are so numerous.
It's part of the brainless pop culture of today. Miley Cyrus is calling everyone "old." Brains, depth and true originality are not valued.
Datalounge has something for everyone ... from celebrity-and-gossip obsessed queens to hard core policy wonks/nerds.
I think my DL persona at any given time is pretty much a reflection of how I am experiencing the world/feeling about my life. When things are going badly, I tend to hole up and post on DL a lot, and my posts can be quite vicious and vile. Sometimes I don't even realize how much anger I am carrying around until I start typing a post and all that negative energy spews forth. Other times, I am a mild and helpful poster, and those are the times when I'm feeling more at ease with my self and the world. At no point do I have time for the racists and misogynists on DL, but I am much less forgiving during the "going badly" moments in my own life.
I, too, and am horrified by the anti-female venom here. I'm pleased to see lesbians and heterosexuals here (guys, too). Yes, much of the content is gay male specific, but not nearly all of it.
Are you a straight female, R155?
If R155 is a straight female, then why is she taking ownership of DL with statements like this:
[quote] I'm pleased to see lesbians and heterosexuals here (guys, too).
I'm a homo, folks.
I am a 56 year old lesbian in a LTR. I am retired and need to quit spending so much time here.
The person who compared it to an abusive relationship resonated with me.
Great post, R96! Misery truly does love company. Their behavior definitely reflects poorly on their character and upbringing. I'd imagine that many of these miserable people come from a long line of bitterness, hate, and dysfunction. It's unfortunate that they tend to ruin what should be a fun and lighthearted experience.
Ummmm R96, tell us once again of that location?
I for one speak for the vast a majority having absolutely no predjudices whatsoever. Jew, Muslim, handicapped, fat, ugly, deformed, web footed cretins are ALL welcomed into our lives---as long as they live on THEIR side of town and do not venture across the line of demarcation.
[quote]Old people hate young people for having no taste.
That's not really true. I hate young people for many reasons, and "having no taste" is far down on the list.
Unfair, bitter and cold people. At least there are many of them here(maybe most people here are like this,at least so it seems.) Why is it so difficult for people to be warm and nice? Is it that hard?
I also noticed that most people who post here only approve of their narcissistic replies and they don't give a damn if they are pompous and empty and if the other person has something deeper to say. They maybe bear a grudge to people who are more human than they are. That must be.
I came here originally for the gossip and snark about a dozen years ago, when that stuff was still good here, and never left. My life circumstances have changes several times since then.
Granted I only check in here a couple times a week nowadays but still. I wish people with inside dish would post once in a while, but I think trolldar put fear into a lot of folks and they stopped.
Although DL and those on it may feel like a friend sometimes, they will never "be there" when you really need it. They are the very definition of fair weather friends, so if you're getting too vested in this place, it would be best to turn it off for a while.
I have friends but they're far away. We all got gentrified out of NYC where we had lived for many years. People have moved to CA, GA, FL, NJ, LI, ME.
Thanks America, for watching Donald Trump and making him richer. Way to go.
[quote]I think trolldar put fear into a lot of folks and they stopped.
The only people who get trolldar-ed are people who are acting like assholes.
I agree r171, but it still put fear into posters of non-anonymity, having their IP traced, etc.
Not that it wasn't non-anonymous before trolldar, but having that on every post put it home.