QUESTION: Is The Era Of The Modern Gay Mecca Over?
Queerty readers had a lot to say about our first person op-ed written by one half of a couple who packed up their bags and moved from New York City to Michigan.
There is no doubt that New York, San Francisco and Provincetown are historic cities for LGBT people, but gone are the days when they were the only options where we could live openly and honestly.
With marriage equality and challenges to prohibitive marriage laws spreading throughout the United States at a rapid rate, and the fact that LGBT people are more accepted now than any other time in history, it begs the question:
Is the era of the modern LGBT mecca over?
Gurl, the era of the MECCA is over. Most people are too broke to move anywhere.
There are no jobs when they get there anyway, except for Houston.
They are going to depress the gays in Mississippi to read things like that.
It doesn't "beg" the question, and it's a stupid question anyway.
Missoula, Montana circuit parties will always remain special for me.
It's been over for years now. Only elderly gays think you need to move to NY or San Fran if you're gay.
Any gay 'mecca' becomes infiltrated by the breeders. They love us so much that they want to live in our neighborhoods....then they want to decimate our way of life because it doesn't fit their viewpoints. Sound familiar?
Hardly. There are more gay meccas now than at any other time in history.
Not only NY, San Francisco, Provincetown, but many other cities and or neighborhoods all over the world.
Gay meccas or simply gay "centers" are probably less of a thing, but I'd still say, to some degree, they exist. Less scale, less density of gays, but still around in some form. And, I still think they have value.
If we're talking about black gays specifically, Atlanta is more of a mecca than ever.
Interesting question. Increased acceptance and integration has consequences, both good and bad. I guess the reducing of gay meccas can be seen as both.
Also, I think the internet plays a role as well (porn, don't have to go out to hookup, general distraction), and I'm wondering to what degree it would have played a role even if acceptance and integration had not advanced this far (not saying there isn't a long way to go).
It's better to be gay in ANY of the places mentioned than in the actual Mecca.
The gay mecca of of Utica, New York, can never be replaced.
Modern "Mecca": Fuck one guy and everyone knows you.
"Oh my God. I'm back. I'm home. All the time, it was... We finally really did it ... You Maniacs! You blew it up! Ah, damn you! God damn you all to hell!"
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