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What. The. F#*@?

I'm a gay guy who is friends with several straight couples. In most instances, I started out as the friend of the boyfriend/husband; however, I'm likable enough that I've never had a hard time winning over girlfriends/wives. One thing that has been bothering me lately is the fact that simple gestures on my part are blown out of proportion, and used by wives/girlfriends to emasculate their husbands/boyfriends (my friends). If I spend the night at their house and make up my sleeping area in the morning, the act is used to compliment me while shaming my friends. If I wash the dishes because someone else cooked, kudos to me and shame on my friends. Today I helped the wife of a friend do something fairly innocuous and...BAM...she spent 10 minutes turning a simple gesture into a weapon to beat down my buddy. I'm a high-strung gay guy whose only responsibility is myself. The reason I try to be helpful around my friends who are couples is because it usually reduces tension and makes more time for fun. I don't appreciate being thrust into rivalries that could chip away at really important friendships, so I typically side with my buddies as they're being castigated. But what I'm truly left to wonder is WHY, WHY, WHY would someone feel justified in trashing someone they love in front of others? I understand that women (and sometimes gay men) often feel taken for granted by grown men who act like little boys; however, is it really necessary to bring third parties into the mx?

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