I've heard str8 guys talk about "The Guy Code", which states certain things a str8 guy should or shouldn't do. One of them is he shouldn't try to get his friend's girlfriend. And if his friend is cheating on the gf, you shouldn't tell the gf.
So does The Guy Code have any relevance with gay men?
Not the ones I've known.
I don't know about the Guy Code, but in the last week or so I've become addicted to "Girl Code" on MTV. Hilarious!
80s and 90s code: you can jerk off to Prince and Brad Pitt and it isn't "gay" to do so.
No cock blocking.
The only rule.
Gay men have come a long way in my lifetime, and a lot of that has to do with growing acceptance: societally and self-acceptance.
I have witnessed gay men doing appalling things to themselves, to their partners, and especially, their friends and colleagues. I won't go into detail. My hope is that as we learn to love ourselves more, we will take better care of each other. That includes behaving ethically.
I think even we don't think well of trying to steal a friend's boyfriend. However, unlike women, we can understand a quick fuck.
That's not a "guy code", it's just good manners.
We're coming out of that Stonewall/pre-AIDS era where being gay was criminal, or insane, or both. To live life as a gay man meant breaking every code, every law. So what do ethics mean when you've rejected every other societal standard? What ethics can/should you subscribe to, if you've rejected most traditional ones?
I don't think enough inquiry has been made into this area.