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My BF's EX wants to give the eulogy at his funeral. NO. What do I say?

My BF has a terminal illness. He may live another month, or he may live a few more years. We don't know yet. He is out, we have been together about five years and are close to his family. We're in the small northeastern town where he grew up, married and had two (now teenage) kids, but of course, divorced. He and his ex do NOT get along. She is a bitch of the highest order. I am civil with his ex, and we get along but I admit it's a passive aggressive relationship and honestly, I cannot stand her. She dropped out of school in 8th grade, is basically white trash, and has no common sense or decency. So last night she emails me and says she wants to give the eulogy at his funeral. She said "it feels like the right thing to do, and I know I could do a good job" then went on to say "it doesn't matter if in people's minds it's appropriate or not." I felt stunned. I wrote her back and said, um, that seems a little ODD. She got defensive and wrote back saying "Oh, it won't be like when Cher gave the eulogy at Sonny Bono's funeral. That was disgusting! It's about the CHAPTERS in his life..." I just sat back and went, what the fuck? On the one hand, I'm considering the source. She will never give that eulogy, she is creepy and bitter. His family wouldn't allow it. I'm simply amazed at her lack of boundaries. What do I say to her? I need to just let it go - at the very least, just worry about it when the time comes - but I seriously, seriously want to slap the ugly right off her SMUG FUCKING FACE.

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