What a selfish reckless dude. He could have kept those gory details to himself. He is on mainstream, middle America tv speaking that crap. He is irresponsible and a threat to the progress of the gay community and its rights.
T fucking MI, Dan.
r5, exactly! Most people's negative perception of gay men is their promiscuity. Dan just confirmed it.
He and his bf are sex addicts and should not promoting themselves as representatives of the gay community.
This kind of crap HURTS gays!!
It's also bad when self-proclaimed "fag hag" Kathy Griffin goes on flyover bait shows like Jay Leno and exploits Grindr and underground gay subcultures for their freakshow aspects to shock homophobic pearl-clutchers in middle America.
It's always the gay ghetto queens who ruin it for the rest of us.
Um, I didn't call her a "cunt" R12. All I said was that if she was as invested in the gay rights movement as she says she is, she wouldn't be saying things in a mainstream outlet that could alienate us further.
Well I called her a cunt!!
I hope the gay community goes off on him for this, because I guarantee you the religious nuts will use this against us
And people pay him to give relationship advice? Ugh.
In fairness to Dan, he's only 30 years old, so he's not always the brightest. I'm sure that when he reaches middle age, he will gain some wisdom and behave with more class.
I don't want to be mean, but DS does not seem mentally stable. He seems to love saying inflammatory or shocking things. He craves attention, even if it is very negative.
He's only 30? I thought he was in his mid-40s.
I think I just threw up a little picturing that, but hey whatever works for him.
Calm down fraus. Lots of gay couples entertain a third.
I don't suppose any of you took the time to actually watch the interview and see just what he said? It's on Hulu - skip ahead to the Savage interview. It's at the end of the show.
He is a sex advice columnist. He made the well known point that 60% of men and 40% of women cheat on their partners.
Echoing what Jimmy Carter said - even those that don't cheat still feel sexual attraction to people who aren't their partners.
Walters asked him what he says to his partner when he cheats - and then Savage made a joke. If I'm cheating etc....
It got a huge laugh.
If anything the piece showed the similarities between people not the differences. In short men, whether gay or straight are more likely to cheat than women.
If you hear him talk at length on this subject he makes sense. In particular the necessity for open honest communication between couples.
It is sad if you think that in order to gain full civil rights and acceptance gay men have to lie and pretend they are something they aren't ...well isn't that just the same as being in the closet?
Did Sherri Shepard set him on fire and cry "HEATHEN!" after he said that?
it is a running joke that he is 30, r20
r22, is the epitome of everything wrong with gay men
r22 is the epitome of what is wrong with a subset minority of gay men. the problem is that that subset tends to be very public and perversely shameless about expressing their views.
Worrying about what Middle America thinks is how we got the freedoms we enjoy today.
[quote]Worrying about what Middle America thinks is how we got the freedoms we enjoy today.
What are you a sophomore in college?
Take a queer history class.
Then come back and share.
The rumor is that they Fuck their son.
It was irony, R29, or an attempt at it, since worrying about what Middle America thinks enforces the closet. It stinks of fear.
r30 is ugly inside
Got to love that idiot. Whatever gay rights activists in the USA achieve, this hack destroys it right away and fuells the belief of anti-gay bigots of all gay men effeminate, obscene, promiscuous sluts incapable of monagmous relationships. And gay teens will have to suffer because this narcissistic egomanic only cares about being "shocking", provocative and exibitionist.
And no, calling straight people breeders and forcing your son to feel weird about being straight and "coming out" as straight won't do any good either.
Here's the thing: Most gay LTR do have some sort of openness. But that shit should remain in house. Why the hell go on The View, Frau Central Station, and talk about it? We live in a fucking over-share culture and it bothers me.
We are still the vast, vast majority, and though we're gaining rights and cred at a rapid pace, we still have to play the game, at least when we're on their playing field.
R28 A failed attempt at irony.
Who cares what the hell people think? I'm just annoyed that he and his partner are able to find someone where there's a mutual attraction, and they're both open to it. That's not my reality.
If they are having a 3way, or stepping out with the other's knowledge, they shouldn't be calling it "cheating".
But why bring it up on national TV?:. this is what the homophobes will call "gay agenda"
R37 "The people" might be the ones deciding the extend of your civil rights, about making discrimination based on sexual orientation illegal in all states etc. and they are less likely to be on your side if egomanical, irresponsible narcissists like DS give them the impression that all gay men are like him.
r38 Exactly. An open marriage is not cheating. Dan Savage just likes attention. And I doubt his husband would want him going on actual dates with other men and not just hook ups.
Homophobes don't need anyone to be a homophobe. But I do wish Dan Savage would stop pretending he speaks for all gay men.
I hate him!
e38, he is an advocate of gay marriage! He is a mockery of marriage
Pass it on.
R45, is Dan Savage!
Wish this guy would curl up and go away. He really thinks he is the king of gay men and speaks for all of them. Attention whore!
Calm down guys, is there not a show about straight and married swingers?
It is not that big a deal.
The guy is a fugly piece of trash.
Hope he gets gay bashed
R48 Do these straight swingers pretend to be representatives of all straight men? Are they selfdeclared spokes persons of the straight community, pretending to fight for straight rights and equality?
Another fug who uses bf as bait to bag hotties he otherwise couldn't get.
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