Like a tuck driver or mechanic or machine operator or lifting heavy objects? Do your coworkers know you're gay?
lifting heavy objects...
I'm curious about this.
I have a very very fairy job (I teach kids and perform in recitals)
I've dated a lot of "butches" and they are always so amazed and slightly threatened by the open and free-spirited world I work in.
I'm a retired Bell Tel installer.Be
r3 here. Excuse the "be."
[quote]Like a tuck driver
That sounds like a backstage wardrobe assistants job at a drag bar.
You'd have to be pretty manly to reach under those gowns and try to drive a tuck into those dark ,gin soaked crevasses.
I restore mid century modern teak furniture, lots of sanding, staining and re-finishing.
Manly enough, but then I got into re-upholstery and those trips to the fabric & upholstery "shoppes" negate the butchness.
More like lifting words and moving them around, sometimes whole paragraphs if you can believe it. The amount and ferocity of ball sweat at the end of a day's work is unbelievable, musky rivulets of man stink released by these most manly of exertions.
Interestingly enough, most of the gay guys I know are blue collar. Mechanics, construction workers... I'm hoping this is one of those silly DL threads because "manly jobs" really takes the cake. Farmwives do a lot of manly things but they're not trying to assert their masculinity or anything else, they're simply being farmwives.
I pick things up and out them down.
There is a large contingent of gay GM and Ford autoworkers...hit up the gay bar in Lansing to meet the guys who used to build Oldsmobiles!
I run two research and evaluation companies working in education and public health. So, no, except when I'm doing case studies on the street and working with Vietnam veterans, prostitutes and gang members. Then it feels quite manly. Except when the hookers call me "girlfriend."
I am completely out to everyone where it is relevant and appropriate. I would not take any work assignment where it would not be okay, now.
But working my way through school as a factory janitor and chemical worker, I admit I was more selective. Largely because it was a hotbed of "straight" gay sex and I kept getting hit on in ways I didn't like.
I have a very nerdy job, a laboratory setting, completely open but no one cares. They are all a bunch of educated nerds.
A dated a guy for a bit with a very manly outdoorsy. He was closeted at work which I found sad.
[quote]There is a large contingent of gay GM and Ford autoworkers...
I had a boy friend that was a dump truck driver. He was masculine and beautiful until he took his clothes off and he turned into the biggest girl.
I'm a receptionist/office clerk.
Hooking up words and phrases and clauses.
R16 = Hardcore!
I've dated a fireman, a cop, an actual lumberjack, and a plumber. All great guys and all manly men. I'm masculine myself, though my job is neutral.
I'm a filmmaker. Is that manly?
Welder, Construction worker, Personal trainer on the side.
Total bottom too
I'm an architect just like Mike Brady on the Brady Bunch. Oh wait...
This isn't a what's your job thread. It is a manly job thread. Garbage collectors, construction workers, that type of thing,
[quote]hit up the gay bar in Lansing
OMG, I love the way Americans talk sometimes.
I lay pipe
I have a job, provide for my martens and myself, plus our extended family. That's pretty much manly.
I'm a PhD student who teaches narrative fiction, drama and modern poetry. Naturally masculine guy here.
My career is stuffing jelly into doughnuts.
Lol. Partner, not martens. Fucking homophobic ipad.
I am a stevedore from the 19th century.
I worked the graveyard shift at a lumbermill to pay for college.
And now, I'm a college administrator.
I've known a couple gay mechanics
The gay obsession over masculinity is tiresome.
R33, no one asked you to do so. Some of us like being masculine men and are attracted to other masculine men. Totally okay if you're not. On either account. It takes all kinds.
One of my good friends in an auto mechanic. He lOVES cars. He looks like a young clean cut Johnny Depp
To those with stereotypical jobs, how do people outside your workplace respond when you tell them what you do for work? Are they ever so rude as to say something negative to you about your job?
I was a Construction Engineer at a submarine shipyard for 5 years. For the most part, it wouldn't occur to my my co-workers that I was gay. Eccentric, maybe, but not gay, I don't think. But, you never know what others are thinking about you, unless you have a mole on the inside.
I had a "girlfriend" in college who told me that word got around the Engineering Dept that I was gay, and I'd never have known one way or the other if she hadn't told me.
I make window treatments for interior designers
r33, is on fire!
I slap alligators for a living.
[quote]I slap alligators for a living.
Huh. I choke chickens for a living.
R41 You're right. Your job is manlier than mine. Can you get me into the union?
Sorry Sam. Some jobs are two-handers.
But I'll see what I can do. ;-)
You mean like performing in gay pron, OP?
I work on a loading dock. BF is a truck driver. I guess we're "manly"?? Know lots of gay mechanics, construction workers,steelworkers, etc. There's a hell of lot more more "blue collar" gays then you think.
I was a visual designer at Macy's right after college in the mid 80's. I know that doesn't sound manly and much of the time we were dressing mannequins and fluffing displays but we also did a lot of very physical work.
We stripped and painted walls, climbed a lot of ladders hanging things from ceilings and tall walls and made many of our signs and props. We used table saws, band saws, air compressors and paint guns and worked with large pieces of foam, plexiglas and wood. I always left work with paint and dust all over me and cuts and scrapes. Best 4 years of my life.
farmer here ... do it all, every day and love it!
I'm a window dresser at Bergdorf's in NYC. It is a very dangerous profession.
I hand wash shit stains out the underwear of homeless people. There has been a lot of work these past 5 years.
I played Miss Jane Hathaway on the Beverly Hillbillies.. She's kindof manly..
Radio announcer with deep voice.
Are Mini Coopers manly? If so, partners sell them on Long Island.
I'm in the HIMS department at the hospital with fraus
R46, what do dock workers do?
R55 - we all know who you are. You came out after all, right?
r59 who do "we" think I am?
R55 - don't you have dark hair and a very square jaw and you're jacked up (worked out)?
I can't remember the name, but I remember several years ago when someone like you came out.
Very deep voice and you do a ton of voiceovers.
I'm a prison guard. There are many female officers as well, but I guess it's still considered a fairly stereotypically "manly" profession. My co-workers know I'm gay, but the cons don't.
I am the glory hole proctor in Mr. Bachmann's basement.
I am a barfly, your Honor.
This is true, not my usual DL bullshit. I work in a white collar job, I am a practitioner of an educated and learned profession, but I drive to my comfortable office sometimes, and I see these real men building roads, building buildings, and so forth and I feel like such a spoiled little pussy compared to them. Sometimes, in order to feel like a real man again, I'll go into some bar, or even take to the streets,,talk some trash and get myself into a fist fight.
The best option is to work in a nerdy environment: no dumb, macho straights or gossipy and shallow queens. STEM-types, for the most part, are blissfully tolerant/indifferent. Even if they're homophobic, they won't act out on it like some of the more blue-collar types.
[quote]and so forth and I feel like such a spoiled little pussy compared to them.
sounds like you need to walkinto your nearest teamsters local and offer your services as a bukake suck whore for all oncomers.
R55, R61 thinks you are Ben Patrick Johnson.
WIth regard to internet dating, try an experiment. Put up an ad in which you say that you are a "florist" who is goodlooking and buff. Now, put the very same ad except say you are a construction worker. It will be interesting to see the difference in responses.
I am a baker ... not a pastry chef or a confectioner. Don't get me wrong, I could probably support myself just by doing only wedding cakes. And I love Christmas ... just the thought of making candy and baking cookies makes me smile
However, I can throw a 50 pound sack of flour with ease. I can control 10 pounds of sticky dough, while managing a large kitchen staff My arms, hands and fingers all have burn scars.
Manly profession ... I will let you decide
R49, Douglas County native here. Great to see someone from back home on here.
I'm an economist, a profession in which women are grossly underrepresented. Does that count as manly?
R71 - yes, that's it.
I own a custom tile business. I can design a floor or a wall, cut and set the tile. I can carry 50 pound boxes of ceramics tiles up and down steps without getting winded. I can swear like a Teamster in English or Spanish.
Dad was so afraid that I wouldn't be able to put my fine arts degree to work. He -- like everyone else -- is/was amazed that I ended up in job in which I use my brawn. Hey, it takes street smarts to figure out exactly what some trophy wife wants in her bathroom. It also takes brains to keep the books, personnel records, taxes, accounts payable, accounts receivable,
Believe it or not, sometimes when I meet a client for the first time, I have to "swish it up." When people hear that I am designer, they are expecting someone a bit more fey, more effete that I am. So I have to play a part if I want the job
I'd say it's manly.
I am an accountant-own my firm. We do healthcare finance-hospital payments.
I am masculine. Everyone knows I am gay. Nobody has a problem with it (for obvious reasons).
I knew a guy in Indiana, he was a church musician, but was also a carpenter and a champion underground bare knuckle fist fighter.
[quote]but the cons don't
r65 = delusional
I can wash out 44 pairs of socks and have 'em hangin' out on the line.
I can starch and iron 2 dozens shirts before you can count from 1 to 9.
I can scoop up a great big dipper, full of lard from the drippins can;
Throw it in the skillet, go out and do my shopping, be back before it melts in the pan.
I'm a sommelier, which you wouldn't think of as particularly "manly", but for some reason rich old men do NOT like to discuss wine with women.
My partner worked in a foundry through undergrad and part of law school, a filthy but way manly job. But now he's a lawyer, I tease him he's all cunt.
Many years ago I worked as a room attendant in a hotel and as a cleaner. The shame.
R83, you two sound like quite the pair
Ladies Hairdresser, so, no...BUT the strange thing is I became a stylist at age 33 and in all my years working in offices I never once had anybody ask me if I was gay. Then I go into the beauty business and all of a sudden everyone starts asking me, "Are you gay?" I'm like, "NOW? Now you have to ask??"
Always been in the media. Started with print journalism, then moved into TV production (absolutely hated the superficiality of TV), then got into Internet and never left.
So, no, not a very butch series of jobs...
This thread should have been called-Typical jobs that maintain the hegemonic masculinity. The sorts of jobs that men have typically held are the ones that get them killed not only because they are inherently full of risk but also because men goad each other to prove their masculinity by not using safety precautions.
[quote]unless you have a mole on the inside.
I have a mole on the inside of my butt crack. Does that mean that any guy who spreads my cheeks will know I'm gay?
They probably will think you don't wipe well, R84.
r55 here. Not Ben Patrick Johnson, but I'll be at the SAG-AFTRA meeting in New York on Monday, though not on the dais.
I worked as night shift forklift operator in my early 20s when I was in college. I was closeted at work back then. I now work in accounting.
Why were you closeted, R87? Because only manly men lift forks? Were they tough with their hard hats and spitting tobacee?
I'm the male version of a house wife.
I have one of the manliest jobs you could think of... I am a cashier at Home Depot.
My partner and I are both nurses. Once upon a time, nursing was seen as a feminine profession. However, there were male nurses along before Florence Nightengale showed up.
Over the 30-plus years, more men have entered the profession that is no longer considered to be a feminine one Thirty years ago, a lot of men entered nursing as a second career when the industrial economy in the U.S. underwent tremendous change. Now a lot of younger men entering nursing for the job security and the chance to work in a helping profession. Yes, the pay is good, but is not great
I have worked pediatrics and psychiatric floors. Now I work in administration. My partner was a nurse in the U.S. Navy and now works in an emergency room. Most men who go into nursing work as emergency room, intensive care or cardiac care nurses
I am a science librarian. I have a master's in biology. I wasn't interested in medical or dental school. I didn't have the temperament for research or teaching and I didn't have the personality for sales. I enjoyed science writing, but there aren't too many jobs for science writers. Right now, I work in the research department for a pharmaceutical company.
I work in a plastics plant where it regularly reaches 125-130° 4-5 months a year.
Yes, I'm a tuck driver. Very rough tucking and driving all those thingies we tuck and drive. Not sure what they're call, but it's manly work. Definitely. Tuck, tuck, tuck all day long.
Not everyone on datalounge is gay. I have a manly job and I'm straight.