OP, honey, this is when you step up to the plate and say, "I'll do the sheets, lover."
A good huswife would have immediately washed the sheets, mattress pad and his pajamas.
R5 is spot-on.
How old are YOU OP??
OP, pls try to be a better and more thoughtful partner going forward.
How long have you been together, OP?
Adult bed-wetting, like a lot of things most folks won't cop to, is more common than you would think. And it doesn't wait around for middle-age, either. Trust me on this.
A good investment to consider is a moisture-resistant mattress pad. They're very effective and far better than they used to be in years past-mine is perfectly quiet and has no heat build-up. They're a good idea anyway, as urine isn't the only (ahem)contaminant your mattress is at risk from. Chuck it in with your whites and bleach and all's well.
Don't wait until it happens to you..
No dear, it must be moisture-PROOF or it will get into the mattress. Gross. There has to be a complete barrier and that usually means some sort of plastic or rubber that does get hot and make crinkling noises when you move. Oh well.
The main reason most healthy adults who aren't 80+ y/o wet the bed is because they are either black out drunk or have taken drugs, including sleep aids.
I don't understand the problem.
This is a serious matter, original poster. Hence, you may have to prepare yourself to take further action.
You've sucked his dick and eaten his ass and a little piss on the sheets disgusts you? You're BF has a bitch for a partner. I'd piss the bed to if I was sleeping next to your sorry ass.
I knew an exhausted 25 year old to wet the bed, no drugs were involved. Totally unexpected and it didn't happen again.
Buy a plastic mattress cover.
If you are "disgusted," then you are a piece of shit and I hope your BF leaves you. Seriously.
I pissed the sheets at the Four Seasons in Bangkok after taking an ativan. My partner was cool with it but the hotel staff gave me the stink-eye for a week.
If it happens once, it's a side effect.
If it happens multiple times, it's a sign of a more serious medical issue and your partner needs to go see a urologist. Immediately.
Usually pisses in your mouth?
As a bed wetter who finally grew out of it, I had incredibly patient and understanding parents. Plastic cover under sheet and daily washing. No criticism. I guess love or, at least duty and compassion, was there. It can be a problem in youth and old age.
With a partner like OP, it's no wonder the BF needs Ativan.
R17, Jeremy! Is that you?
Fine then, R10 Dahlink.."PROOF". Mine is moisture-proof, but it doesn't feature any of the annoyances you and I both described.
I won't pretend to posess sufficient medical knowledge to state with assurance exactly why adults wet the bed, but chronic, life-long insomnia was a large part of my problem. As early morning came around, I'd be too exhausted to be roused in time by the urge to go. An M.D. pal of mine told me that starchy foods too close to bedtime and/or coffee consumption aggravate the problem. Something about insulin levels dropping as you sleep and your tissues releasing fluids? Again, I can't be certain And caffeine is a suspected diuretic.
At any rate, I am happy with the mattress pad. It's insurance against many kinds of mishaps.
My brother wet the bed as a kid. My parents didn't make a big deal out of it. He seemed to grow out of it. He has had a few isolated instances of it as an adult. Usually after drinking too much.
Gadzooks, if some old geriatric pissed in my bed, I'd leap up and piss on THEM.
The nerve by golly
Was he drunk? I only wet the bed when I'm drunk.
Feed him some pineapple, break his hymen with your fingers, hit him over the head and finish him off with a garrotte!
Wasn't there an afternoon special about this topic?
The climax is that the young man runs away to a mattress store, falls asleep on one of the displays, and soils it.
Hang the sheet out the window so all of his friends can see.
Better get grampa some Depends, OP.
Drop him off at Sunrise, OP
Rub his face in the sheets while screaming "dirty boy! dirty boy!".
You'll need some oranges and a tube sock...
I have urge incontinence, to the point that I have to wear a pad when I'm out of the house. Lately, though, it's getting harder to hold my urine during the night. I wake up and it's already coming out and it's incredibly hard to stop the flow.
I have 3-4 waterproof pads that I rotate, that lay on top of the sheets. I also have a large waterproof mattress pad directly on top of the mattress, as backup. I've been experimenting with those disposable chux pads, but they move and bunch up too much.
Oh, the body... she do betray ye.
This can be a useful opportunity to administer corrective discipline, although I caution you about becoming overenthusiastic.
My ex BF used to sleep walk piss. He once came into our home office where I was seated at the desk, pulled the monster from his pajamas and targeted the waste basket. He then returned to bed without a word. Remembered nothing the next day. He did something similar during a party that went into the wee hours only that time in a corner of the kitchen.
(R54) Could your BF be an alcoholic ? Because that sounds like a black-out
I'm a 38 year old man and over he last summer I wet my twice. The first time was just out of the blue. The second time I remember dreaming that I had to pee and then I woke up! It hasn't happened again but I'm pretty sure the first instance was also because of dreaming about peeing. Now I make a point to pee before going to bed and have experienced it again.
R44 No he doesn't drink - never did. He's a health nut.
He claims he doesn't do it anymore but how can he be sure? I worried he'd fall off a balcony or down the stairs.
R54's BF is probably not an alcoholic, R55. It can be a part of sleep walking. I used to sleep walk when I was young, and one time I went outside and took a piss off of the porch. I went back to bed and never realised what I had done. My da followed me outside to make sure I didn't do anything dangerous. I also used to sleep eat occasionally, too.
When I have to pee whilst asleep I often dream that I have a bladder infection, because I keep dreaming that I have already peed but I still have to. The worst was when I dreamt that I was standing in front of the toilet and I actually started to go. I woke up immediately and stopped myself before I totally wet myself.
Piss. Never. Happened.
Try pelvic floor exercises; might ameliorate the problem.
[quote] The worst was when I dreamt that I was standing in front of the toilet and I actually started to go. I woke up immediately and stopped myself before I totally wet myself.
I have that dream too and I'm afraid I'm going to pee my bed one night
Who's giving him Ativan for insomnia? I don't think that's appropriate.
If it happens more than once or twice, he should sleep with one of those disposable chux pads under him. Or Depends.
I Love R63 :)
He pissed at a cocktail party, r53? Maybe he is becoming possessed.
I took an Ambien once and did the same thing. Shit happens, OP. No reason to put Old Yeller down just yet.
Pick up some puppy pads at the PetSmart.
(R58) Yea, I guess it could be a number of things. But my ex-brother-in-law is a raging alcoholic & would black out, walk around naked, piss anywhere & eat...I guess it's really not the samething.
Thank you, R10. What is it about you wussies that won't allow you to try to sleep without a drug? Grow up.
Careful. There is still potential that he might turn into a serial killer! Watch out for him torturing small animals next.
People who have an exaggerated horror of body functions or physical problems (such as tooth decay) are themselves disgusting to me.
R71 is toothless and smells funny
[quote]My BF wet the bed last night
Wow. Now THAT'S a lot of pre-cum.
R72 is mentally and morally challenged.
Probably an unsuccessful lawyer.
I've peed the bed a little bit several times in the past few years.
It has ALWAYS happened when I dreamed that I had to piss, and in the dream I would sit on the toilet (I'm a chick) and next thing I know, I wake up and I'm peeing.
But I've gotten better at recognizing when I'm dreaming, and now usually manage to wake myself up if I need to pee in a dream.
What if you dream that you have to make a doodie??
OP = part of the reason his boyfriend needs an Ativan to help sleep
Bet wetting can be a sign of undiagnosed diabetes.
Pretty sure that it is peeing while you are asleep that causes you to dream about peeing.
Not dreaming about peeing causing you to pee the bed.
hahahaha that is hilarious!!!
OP, wait until he begins shitting the sheets at night. Time for I-Just-Crapped-My-Pants diapers.
Who does that?! I haven't wet the bed since I was a young child. Sent him to the Island of Misfit Toys.
Thanks R63 you made me realize our sex life is officially fucking OVER.
I can't give a blowjob to a dude who has to lay in a diaper. I love my BF more than anything. I'm not going to leave him over it...but the thrill is gone!
I dreamed that I was on the toilet and I made the most amazing bm in the shape of a Jimmy Choo shoe in the bed!
at least you have a bf
For richer or poorer, for better or worse.
Deal with it
I have dreams where I have to go to the bathroom, try to pee but can't, and then wake up. I always have to run to the toilet.
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