What did you change in your life, after finding out your status ? How long have you been living with HIV / AIDS
I changed my frequency of sex - went from 1 or 2 partners, a week, to 1 or 2 a month. And told my prospective partners my status. Been living with it 16 years, and healthy.
It immediately affected my vision. I think turquoise is black now.
I stopped drinking on the day I was diagnosed. Realized I actually wasn't suicidal and liked being alive. Started taking care of my health, both physical and mental. Stopped having one-night stands. I just couldn't deal with the big disclosure moment and couldn't, in good conscience, not tell a partner about my status before sex. It has been 16 years.
I'm negative. My boyfriend is positive, and a previous boyfriend a few years ago was positive. It makes no difference to whether I choose to have a relationship/ sex with someone.
Just wanted to let positive guys know that not all negative guys are ignorant about HIV.
Oh, and before you bitches start, I have amazing sex, with negligible risk.
I just could not bring myself to have sex with someone I knew was positive. I practice very safe sex and limit my partners. Sorry, I watched an uncle die of AIDS when I was a teen. Just can't do it.
How does sex work where one is poz and the other neg in a long term relationship?
[quote] I just could not bring myself to have sex with someone I knew was positive. I practice very safe sex and limit my partners. Sorry, I watched an uncle die of AIDS when I was a teen. Just can't do it.
By "limit" do you just mean you don't hook up that much?
If you're a sexually active gay man who's not in a monogamous relationship, then you've probably had sex with several HIV+ men... And I don't say that in a "clutches pearls" way.
By limit I mean I date, but only have sex with people I get to know. This doesn't preclude the possibility that a partner may have been positive, and either didn't know or disclose status. What I meant was that I wouldn't knowingly sleep with a positive man.
Having gone through several harrowing years while my uncle suffered terribly marked me. I just wouldn't be able to do it.
Found out I was positive 3 years into a monogamous relationship. Got it from my partner who contracted it way before we got together. I have been positive for 10 years. He much longer apparently. On meds, and we are both still healthy.
Nothing changed. But would never think of hooking up for one nighters. Were still together, but it was rough for a while.
Your partner knew but didn't tell you r10? That's sociopathic.
Or you both found out at the same time, years into your relationship?
Something does not add up.
When I was young I asked my mother, my mother, my mother you see
Will I get married, will I be pretty, will I have HIV?
Fuck A Da Ass. Get A Da AIDS.
No more baby makers in the poop hole.
16 year survivor - never any health problems. Non detectable. I think there are a lot just like me, out there. I give thanks to my long gone brothers , and sisters who joined in, for the protests, yelling, pleading with the government , back in those early days ( before I was born) to do study, and research, to find a cure, or a stop gap, medically speaking, to try and save lives. I am so grateful to you all. Thank you !
R428 Your last paragraph amused me - you are basically correct in your assumption, except I don't pursue models. I appreciate beauty, but more than that , I love a quick witted, intelligent, and especially humorous, man. I am in the process of coming out of a long relationship , with a European man who is around my same age. Beauty is always a plus, but most beautiful people , be they man, or woman, are too self absorbed , and unbearable. I like cute, and or handsome, but smart & clever will turn my head just as much.
So sorry people - this was meant to be posted on my "Mr. H / II " thread.
I was one of them, R15 -- and you're welcome.
It's nice that someone here appreciates that.
[quote] Sorry, I watched an uncle die of AIDS when I was a teen. Just can't do it.
You don't need to apologise. It's totally understandable.
Accounts of long term HIV survivors in Canada. Worth a read.
It will be three years this upcoming February 2014.
I had been sick, symptoms I didn't usually have previously, decided on a lark to WebMD the symptoms of HIV and I fit all that criteria. I was afraid to go get tested at the local place here, so I ordered a home testing kit. Got the kit, pricked my finger, sent the test via FedEx and the next day I called to get the results. I got an automated response saying that I needed to talk to a counselor, but the offices were closed currently. I missed the deadline to speak to someone by one freaking minute so now I had to wait until the next morning when they opened at 6am central time. Of course I'm a bundle of nerves, but then again I had my suspicions I was positive, so I was nervous, yet I wasn't.
The next morning I got up, called, and the counselor told me the test was positive. I said okay, and then the counselor asked if I was alright, or if I wanted to talk about the results. I said no, and that I needed to get ready for work. He then asked again if I was really okay, I said yes then hung up the phone. I got a shower, got ready and went to work. On my break I looked up an infectious diseases doctor that my insurance worked with and set an appointment.
Looking back I was in a haze that day just walking through the motions. Most people probably would have called out of work that day, but I just went on like nothing had changed. I'm sure that counselor thought I was going to commit suicide or something by how calm I was.
I can't say much has changed, I still have sex as infrequently as always, my sex drive is non-existent for non-poz guys, and the number of guys that are poz who are into other poz guys here in Oklahoma is in the single digits. Most other poz guys here I reach out to say they only want to have sex with non-poz guys. I wonder if it's something they prefer b/c it might make them feel normal. I don't know, just wonder is all.
Here is a funny factoid, that day as I was taking the blood test at home, I was watching L&O:SVU and the episode was about some super-strain of HIV, lol.
[quote]Most other poz guys here I reach out to say they only want to have sex with non-poz guys. I wonder if it's something they prefer b/c it might make them feel normal. I don't know, just wonder is all.
hiv+ for 22 years (first tested + when I was 22). Went on a little of a tear, problems with drugs, whoring etc. (I don't know if I got it working as an escort, was alway "safe" in pro life).
Got my shit together, went to grad school. Fell in love with another + guy, been together 16 years now.
Take one pill a day. Zero viral load. Eat right, work out 5 days a week. Grateful to those who fought before me. Stay involved in charities/organizations to help those coming up after me.