Same partner for a very long time. Occasionally we pick up a third for some safe fun. Helps us get through the dry spells and has never been a problem. There is no emotional connection and the boundaries are clear.
We've gone out to bars in the past but they seem totally dead now. The online apps are weird because I don't want to broadcast to our neighbors we are sluts.
What do other couples do? Oh and if you are a couple who has beautiful garden of eden sex every night by candlelight and find this appauling. I applaud your ability to "make love" but keep your judgments to yourself or pay the $17 and start your own thread.
Every time a couple brought me back for a three way, they met me in a gay bar. I realize that's so last century (as were most of these meetings... from around 1993 to 2001 was when most of these occurred).
Exactly. Do people even go to gay bars anymore? They always seem dead.
"...and find this appauling.."
That's not what's appalling, horndog.
Gay bars can get crowded, but at least around here, it only happens after 11pm (or after midnight) on weekends. But this is a college town... so sometimes you'll have a crowd late night on weekdays too. But I have to work for a living, so I only ever go out on a Friday. And I'm old, so once a week is more than enough (and it averages out to far less than that I'm sure).
And it's $18 not $17.
Heaven's to Betsey, what ever happened to monaugamy!
Craigslist, Adult Friend Finder, Alt dot com, Adult sex finder, etc
[quote]I don't want to broadcast to our neighbors we are sluts
But ya ARE, Blanche, ya ARE...
Wait a minute! It's down to $17, OP?
Palm Springs, clothing optional resorts.
If it's now $17, I demand a dollar rebate.
Just do everyone a favor: if you go on a dating app, post a picture of both of you. All too often, the couple uses the hot one for the online marketing, then unleashes the troll boyfriend from the cage to nibble at the guest partner's nuts when they get to the house. The most mismatched couples in the world are usually the ones advertising for a third. And, more often than not, it's the troll's idea to introduce a new person.
We had a couple locally, met on torture websites. Met up, picked up young guys in bars (Metropolis). Roofied them, tortured, raped, killed and dismembered them. One, body parts were found. One known dead, from their trophy photos, was disposed of in garbage dumps far and wide (alpha psycho was a home inspector).
Be extraordinarily careful hooking up with couples- the crazy increases exponentially.
R17, when you were doing all this (since either you're unable to use English or you're the perps here, and I wouldn't want to insult your language skills), do you always torture them before the rape, or do you rape them first sometimes (assuming the rape isn't considered a form of torture)? And did you ever dismember them before killing them?
And how did you lose your job as a home inspector?
Thanks. I'm taking notes here.
R18 The case should be readily accessible online. When you and your troll-bride give up on scoring a young guy f2f tonight, and retreat to your virtual masquerade, maybe the less wasted one can investigate? Search while you're offering candy to strangers online?
Your sympathy towards the two young men victimized and their families is touching. The psychos wanted to kidnap a straight jock, brutalize and kill him, have him vanish, just to cause his family pain. But they "settled" for young gay men ( killers were middle-aged gays).
Be cautious, young guys. You could run into killers, or plain-vanilla ghouls like R18 and his low-hanging-fruit rent-boys.
Perhaps the dearth of opportunity is trying to tell you something....A person with far more wisdom than I said it best: sex is natural, sex is fun, sex is best when it's one on one.
Imagine if you put this much effort into freshening up your relationship instead of hunting for some random third to give you a few minutes of pleasure.
This third guy is just a distraction to avoid looking at the real problems affecting your relationship. Sooner or later though, you'll just have to talk it out.
all the times I've been the third with a couple we simply hooked up at the bar.
r15 is sooooo right. I've had that happen several times. The couple finds a threesome because the ugly one wants sex.
Again what r15 said.
So is the OP the troll or the hot one?
We should merge this thread with the one on Suze Orman "Can I Afford It?"
I have to say it, I hate 3ways. They should never go beyond a one time thing.
r28 = A Methodist Minister's Wife
So close and yet so far,r29
Obviously OP is the troll r26. The hot partner can find his own action.
LOL @ R15
[quote]We've gone out to bars in the past but they seem totally dead now. The online apps are weird because I don't want to broadcast to our neighbors we are sluts.
They'd only know you were sluts if they were using the apps themselves, which would make them sluts as well.
WTF happened at r17-r19?
There are so many unmedicated lunatics here. Christ.
There's not a single guy who actually is single on Grindr or Scruff in London.
We have had our share of threeways and it never ceases to surprise me how subjective being turned on is. I admit. I think my partner is hotter. Very fratboy smooth, great eyes, nice body. I'm a chubby dad a few years older. I always think guys will be much more into him and I love seeing how turned on some guys get with him but sometimes I'm the turn on and at first that surprised me. It's best when everybody is happy and that happens more often than the other scenarios but I'm always surprised by how much sexual taste is beyond subjective.
We should start a Steven Lorenzo thread, R. I actually knew him pretty well and even had him over to the house on occasion. We were shocked to learn that he was a psychopath.
I've never had a threeway, but admit I like the fantasy of it.
That said, I don't think I'd ever do one, simply because fantasy is always better than the reality. No matter how good, it could never live up to what I've built in my mind over the years. Once the fantasy is spoiled, it's spoiled.
I think that's what a lot of people don't realize - that the titillation and excitement we build up for ourselves for many things is better than when we achieve the reality. In turn, we need ever-growing fantasies of scope to achieve the same level of excitement. It's like heroine - it's never as good as the very first time (or so they say).
R21 is 100% correct!
R36 has his passport stamped full to Fantasyland.
As a serial cheater all my relationships have been threesomes. Only the BF never knew.
My husband and I had dozens of three ways back in the 70s and early 80s. We were both cute and never had any issues. With the arrival of the AIDS threat, we stopped. Some of our three ways have been life long friends. We usually met them at dance clubs.
Three ways never work. Someone is always the ugly one and feels left out.
R15 truly said all there is to be said about this subject.
I've done a few as the third party. Always picked up in a bar. Was never out looking for a threesome. One of them was in Montreal. A guy was hitting on me and I wasn't that interested in him. He also kept talking about his boyfriend. I figured he was just a cheater, but then he asked if I wanted to meet the BF and brought him over. DAYUM that boyfriend was fine, so we agreed to go to their house where his BF and I had some hot sex while the guy who hit one me kind of pouted in the corner.
I've had other threeways where the end results were always similar. I like one better then the other and there is always pouting at the end.
OK r37, I'm never ever hooking up with anyone ever again. You win. That story is horrifying and it's so easy to pick up the wrong trick. Yikes.
At Rick Santorum's most private hiding place.
Apparently gay AA social functions and it's always fat bald couples who call you a whore for saying "No thanks."
Women who pick up strangers for sex get raped and murdered all the time. Everybody knows that. But it couldn't possibly happen to me. I'm a guy.
The Reagal Beagle
Why not just rent an escort for your three way.
[quote]It's like heroine - it's never as good as the very first time (or so they say).
But I get much better, bitch!
Yup, I was once approached by a straight couple for a threeway. But, I didn't go for it.
R37. The DL loves true crime, and it's a story that should be known. What those men suffered...glad there's some movement at last. That poor woman, holding out hope for years, the false sightings. The victims names should be remembered.
Tell your story, CSer.
I supported Hillary over Obama. I am now worried that the Repubs have already started to trash her image, and Bill's affairs being again brought to light certainly isn't helping. While it doesn't matter to me, many Democrats are still active church attendees and thus more morally conservative in what they want publicly discussed on a national stage.
Still I hope Hillary's rumored sexuality doesn't motivate them to stay home. It's one thing to support gay marriage, and lust after bi celebs. It's quite another issue if a potential POTUS is outed as bi.
Is there any way of getting the Cruz brothers to the national stage along with other female powerhouses so that they are nationally famous?
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