I'm curious if any lesbians who never were with a man before, decided to give dick a try after having been with women their entire lives, perhaps curious to see what it was like, or maybe got drunk and did it with a friend.
I knew two guys who tried sex with women late in life due to the two scenarios listed above.
I'm curious if this has happened to any of our resident lesbians.
It's usually the other way around.
I was living life as a straight chick for my 20's.
I can't imagine a lez that never gave dick an initial go of it at least once or twice. How else would you know your little pussy doesn't like it? Is there such thing as a lez that's never had sausage?
Yeah there's plenty of us r3. Who the fuck would want that filthy thing inside you?? I don't know how straight women do it. Poor things.
r4 On the square? Really? You've never once had a dick in your box? Ever? Wouldn't you want to at least put some dick in there one time just out of curiosity?
And just so you know... dick always smells of English Leather cologne.
Lesbians use penis-shaped dildos so. The real thing would have a warm sensation at least.
R4 is so masculine that John Wayne looks nelly in comparison. Shut up bulldyke! I would rather be with a REAL man then a creature like you
R3/R5 is just being rude. Writes like Brandon too...
r4 is just as ridiculous and infantile as some gays here who cringe in horror at the mere mention of a vagina. It's perfectly legit to not want to have sex with the opposite sex or not be turned on by it but that kind of arrested development reaction and insults directed at half the population, is what "STINKS".
Stupud bitch at .
r9 MARRY ME!!!
I'm a gay man, but I would say that a dick is the least of a lesbian's concern. She may be able to take a dick, but she doesn't want the guy on top of her or touching her skin and body in any way.
A guy groping or approaching a lesbian in sexual way? I would think that the lesbian would think that's just gross.
It's how I would feel if a straight woman was trying to get me to kiss, grope or fuck her.
r12, If I paid you $50K cash to drop a load in young girl's box, would you do it?
Lately I've been curious.
R13. Yes, I could do it if you were going to pay me. But without a substantial amount of money, there is no incentive or desire for me to want to have sex with the a woman.
lol r12 most gay men would get hard at the thought of 50K for a 10 min, 30 min or an hour's work. I bet many lesbians would put up with a dick for the same (at least those who've had dick before).
R12, that's basically it.
I'm a lesbian, but in my 20s even after I started identifying as a lesbian, I did sleep with a handful of men over the course of a decade or so. It was always largely unsatisfying, not just physically (some of it physically wasn't thaaaat bad, though none of them could go down on a woman worth a damn) but emotionally it was such a disconnect. I just don't enjoy socializing with men, or being intimate with them, or forging deep romantic relationships with them. I strongly prefer doing all of that with women.
One of my best friends, an ultra lipstick femme lesbian who is very conventionally attractive, does have sex with men once in a while because she's bored and they hit on her a lot and she figures it's better than nothing. She doesn't consider herself bisexual - she has no desire to have any kind of relationship outside of occasional sex with men. I'm sure peope here may disagree with her. The men themselves are totally inconsequential to her. I assume it's not unlike the phenomenon of men who fuck women because it's just another hole they can come in.
Pussy was made for dick.
It's only natural.
Pussy has multiple natural functions. And strictly speaking, none of them require a dick.
Thank you for that thoughtful response. In your estimation, what percentile of lesbians live their entire life with nary a dick? I've always guessed this figure to be very slim.
The penis is the Maypole holding up the earth. Everyone has danced around it at some point.
I tried it many times in my teens and early twenties before I knew I was gay. It was okay, nothing special. Not revolting, but incomplete.
Straight men like to think fucking is so wonderful for you that they neglect everything else. They're ignorant about the female body and not terribly willing to learn. I hear the same thing from straight women, it's not just lesbians who've had straight experiences that think this.
r22 You've never had the Love Master, baby.
R22, you're all over this thread. It must mean a lot to you.
R23, you're all over this thread. It must mean a lot to you.
Actually, I have had some amazing male lovers who were all about pleasing me. I just don't get emotionally connected to men
R17, I'm the same as your friend...except there have been a couple times when I just couldn't do it with the man, even though I thought it would work at first. Lol.
But yeah. Some people find such practices very scornful, even though I don't care for men in the life-partnering sort of way.
R17, I'm the same as your friend...except there have been a couple times when I just couldn't do it with the man, despite thinking it would work at first. Lol.
But yeah. Such practices tend to garner scorn, even though I don't care for men in the life-partnering sort of way. R12 and R26 resonate with me.
r12, I could have written what you wrote. That is probably where the similarity ends between you and I. I don't have a problem with butch women - live and let live.
R20, I couldn't wager a guess.
In my experience, purely anecdotal, the younger (25 and under) lesbians are more likely to have never been with a man; the older ones (30+ like me) are more likely to have either gone through a denial phase where they slept with a few or were more fluid in their sexuality at some point.
Kids are coming out in middle school these days, so my guess is that people who feel the need to have sex with a gender they're not attracted to in order to keep up appearances is going to be on a steady decline. People like me who had sex with men out of curiosity or a desire to experiment, or people like my best friend who don't necessarily see a direct correlation between how they get off and how they sexually identify, I'd wager will probably stay about the same.
A friend of mine is a lesbian, a butch, loves-girls-to-death lesbian, but she went on a college trip last year, without her girlfriend, and this guy in her class had been after her for the past year, so they got drunk, and she slept with him. She still loves girls, and she isn't attracted to guys, but when she's in the mood she'll sleep with a guy that offers her the attention she's craving. She's not attracted to them, and she doesn't want anything more than sex, but she'll do it anyway. She saves all the love and romance for the ladies.
It's so easy to separate love from sex, that if you're drunk enough, or horny enough, you'll do what you need to do. Plenty of people have sex with people they aren't attracted to, and humans are curious. I don't think I have ever met a "goldstar" lesbian, or a guy that has only slept with men. They exist, but promiscuity isn't rare nowadays.
Hell yes baby!!
[quote] I don't think I have ever met a "goldstar" lesbian.
I would guestimate that about half the lesbians I currently know--and that includes myself--are what are so charmingly called "gold star" lesbians, and I'm in my early thirties.
But if you had compared the group of lesbians I know now to the group that I knew in college, the goldstar number would plummet because many of my friends/acquaintances who considered themselves gay in college have since straightened out and married men, so the herd has been thinned out.
R9, maybe r4's response was extra outraged because this thread, on a gay board, seemed to be telling lesbians that there's something wrong with them if they're not interested in penises. Add to that, it's apparently gay men and bisexual women who are making this judgement, not straight men suffering from the delusion that all women want them even lesbians, which gives it an extra tinge of, I don't know, I'd say misogyny, anti-lesbianism, internalised homophobia, but apparently then I'd be "ridiculous and infantile".
I loathe male hating dykes
Bitch, please. When I am really horny I'd let my cat lick my snatch so I could get a relief.
Do lesbians pee out of their pussy or ass?
Define "male hating dykes", r35. A lesbian who has no interest in penises? A lesbian who finds it offensive when she's asked why she's not interested in penises?
A male hating dyke is a lesbian who has an irrational fear of men
How about fags who have an irrational hatred of lesbians? That would include at least half of the gays on the Datalounge.
"a guy that has only slept with men."
Oh please. We did a poll about a month ago, and 51% of gay men were 'gold star'. The poll had over a thousand respondents. I have met many 'gold star' gays, and you likely have too, so don't lie.
Thanks r40, but what does that have to do with this thread? Are you suggesting that if a lesbian has no interest in penises then she has "an irrational fear of men"?
r34 I never said or thought that women who never wanted to have sex with a man are wrong or not normal (the same applies to gay men who feel the same).
After 15 years of only having intimate sexual relations and relationships with women I have not had the slightest inclination to have sex with a man. I don't see that ever changing.
Of course, everyone has their weak point- impossible to resist!
I tried it. It didn't hold a candle to bread pudding.
yes, I LOVE dick. Especially when it's attached to my girlfriend. :D
This makes some lesbians heads explode -- but I identify as a lesbian, only want relationships with women, only love women and I went down on two guys for the first time in my life recently in my early 30s.
It was fun! I think dicks are, aesthetically, pretty great. The rest of the hookup was uncomfortable -- dont like kissing men, and it isnt all that having them go down on me. But the blow job was fun. They were handsome gentlemen with nice bodies -- and that little V part is nice. I've only slept with one woman who had one.
I may fuck a bio dick one day and probably enjoy it — but right now, I kind of like that my uterus is still a Girls Only club. Plus, I have the general impression that dicks spread pregnancy, STDs and, at the very least, jizz. I'm a little put off by all that.
(Maybe I'm what some of the kids call bisexual and homoromantic?)
The few times I've posted about this on a gay message board, some angry, bitter lesbian has clutched her puka necklace and yelled that I'm not really a lesbian because I didn't hate giving a man head. And every time I do that, I get a little bit closer to thinking I'll fuck a dude someday — because who wants a Girls Only club if these bitches qualify?
I don't disagree with her, r17. I understand exactly how she feels.
Some people identify their sexuality by how they interact sexually with others.
Some people identify by how they relate in relationship/romantic terms.
I think it should be up to that person to decide — even if, like DiBlasio's wife, she's writing essays on lesbian power one day, and marrying some upwardly mobile, ambitious dude the next. That's life. There are no guarantees, even with labels. And no one has the right to be the sexual identity hall monitor.
Having sexual interactions with men confirmed two things for me:
1. Dick can be fun. And men can be lovely, gracious, hot and respectful partners.
2. I have no romantic feelings for men whatsoever, and no desire to date them or even see them again after we've hooked up. Or even kiss them. It strengthened my understanding of myself as a lesbian.
(Some angry, hall monitor lesbian reading this will have her head explode in 3 ... 2 ... 1 ...)
I don't understand threads like this one on a gay slanted website.
Why on earth would a lesbian ever want to engage in sex with man simply for a penis? I'm a gay male and no matter what happens in my life, I will never have an interest to become sexually intimate with a female.
I've seen these low IQ questions posted on DL many times and I can't believe so many of us stoop to respond.
R49, we couldn't care less what you do. What's obnoxious is lesbians in general being obliged to justify why they're not interested in penises.
I'm really sorry for the lack of respect and lack of true affection for our lesbian DL'ers. There are many of gay guys alive today that owe our very existence to our lesbian sisters. I will never forget what you gals did for us guys back in the 80's when no one would touch any of us with HIV. Feeding, washing, house keeping not to mention the blood donations and physical soft touch so many sick guys rarely received from even their own fellow mo's.
You're the greatest! I will love all of you until I die.
I don't get posters like [r49]. They spout so much hatred against the lesbian community and then wonder why they are not accepted.
Nothing in your post is convincing in the 'love women' department - a lot of nice words about men (which is fine) but not a single nice word for those of the female persuasion. Interesting no?
Queer women across the spectrum all have different experiences, like different things and face different pressures - and that's fine.
But this whole 'this might make some lesbians head explode'. Please.
Fake lesbians (aka bisexuals) have been saying stuff like what you just said for years - behaviour like what you described has been lauded and applauded since forever in pretty much every movie and tv show featuring supposedly gay female characters. 'She's a lesbian but she'll still fuck repeatedly the male hero/anti-hero and love it! Just like in porn!'
Pretty much all stereotypes about lesbians, used by society to dismiss us as a group, rest on exactly what you describe as your 'unique experience'.
You can't see why actual lesbians might find it strange and maybe a bit offensive that you acknowledge that you are sexually attracted to men on one hand and then still call yourself a lesbian (aka a female homosexual) on the other? Why not just call yourself queer? Or nothing at all if you prefer.
Any why does questioning something that doesn't make sense = "some angry, bitter lesbian has clutched her puka necklace and yelled that I'm not really a lesbian because I didn't hate giving a man head." How do you even yell in a message forum?
Have you considered that what you are saying just doesn't make sense to a women who actually has zero attraction to men? you know, an actual lesbian? Have you considered that alleged puka necklace clutcher is actually right?
And just something to think about: for a number of lesbians, myself included, I felt a lot of pressure to try a dick because from what I could see, that's what lesbians are suppose to do right? All women have fluid sexuality, right? If I just tried it I'd see that it can be actually fun, you know, on the side!
That's what everyone said straight, bisexual, gays and some 'lesbians' (all of which later went on to marry men or become men in stranger circumstances).
Um just no, not if you're actually a lesbian. It was NOT a nice experience for me, even though he was lovely and perfectly decent looking, and I wish I had never thought that I should give it a go. Love my male friends do not like men sexually, at all, simple as that. And I know I'm not alone in this.
In a way I admire gay men for their strength in being true to who they are, sexually.
R54, But that's you and your perspective. I've conversed with several gay friends who think vagina feels better than anus. As one of them put it, "my penis itself has no sexual orientation." But they are still only attracted to men.
Agreed that it's weird to emphasize that oneself is "lesbian in the meantime." I don't know why you just wouldn't consider yourself sexually eclectic.
r55, what's the old saying about protesting too much? The thread asked about lesbians and dick. OP was interested. If you aint OP, I guess my reply wasn't for you. And yet still you read and posted. (Why did you even come to the thread? Just to get butthurt?)
r57, that was so long, I couldn't read it all. But I wasn't talking about women I like — that wasn't OPs question. I was answering OP's question, knowing that you would pop up like a nosy old lady neighbor, telling everyone what they should and shouldn't do.
Both of y'all, go back to LChat, where you can ban all the women who disagree with *your* approved definition of *their* sexual identity.
And on the way back, ask yourselves: Would you dare be so brazen about someone's gender identity? Or their racial identity? Are you gonna tell Obama he can't call himself black, because he's half white?
Work through your issues with men. And stop projecting them on people like me.
R61, OP's question is about whether lesbians suddenly become interested in penises in later life. As a lesbian, it's addressed to me. I'm giving OP honest answers and also addressing some aspects of his (I doubt OP is a her) question. My answer to OP's question and response to some of the other posts on this thread are entirely legitimate. Unless you are suggesting that only certain answers are permitted and other ones should be shut down.
And just because lesbians don't want to have sex with penises, doesn't mean we have "issues with men".
Most women cannot make a good living on their own, so many lesbian-orientated women do end up marrying men and having babies.
It's an easier life. A home, bills paid, a few luxuries, wider social net, all of it. Fitting in is important for many people. Being viewed as a Mom can give a woman self-esteem.
But beware, ladies--the urges come through later on and most lesbians get hit on by married or divorced women over forty.
Women think they can have it all these days.
As I've said many times, it's not who you fuck who makes you gay -- it's who you fall in love with. I could lay on my back with my legs spread for a man all day long, but that won't make me straight.