What is one of your least favorite part of your life?
One of my least favorite of my life is the fact that sometimes I have to deal with racism. When I face this, it feels hopeless, it doesn't matter what you do or say, people don't like you for something you have no control over. I'm so tired of that.
How much time do you have OP?
Most days it's watching the news. The sheer torment that goes on daily is horrible and I've started cutting short my time spent on real news sites. It's just so depressing.
Easy, having the father I was dealt. Joyless, anxiety-inducing misery until I could get the hell away, and still causing misery through relatives I like.
Bet I'm not the only one with that reply.
Being so, so ridiculously poor!
Totally agree re: news, r2 - I've had to put myself on hold with it, especially regarding issues with our global environment.
I have hemorrhoids so the least favorite part of my life is when I have to strain on the toilet to pass stool.
Having to work
The fact that I have bipolar 1 disorder. Luckily, it's under control now. However, there's no guarantee it'll never crop up again. I hate having to be secretive about it, but I have to due to stigma.
Extreme social anxiety.
I've had a weight problem since puberty. It has influenced my confidence level, my career choice, my social life, the way I dress, everything. I remember how much easier certain things seemed to be pre-weight problem as far as how people treated me. Being fat sucks, people.
Poverty. It means being afraid every moment of your life.
Having a sexless marriage w/no intimacy.
I'm with r6 for the most part.
I've been laid off for the past three weeks and I have to say, I wish I were wealthy enough that I didn't have to ever go back to corporate America. It's full of rage-a-holics, psychopaths and ass-kissers.
I'd love to do something where I never had to deal with corporate America ever again. It's soul-destroying.
I'm very smart, and hardworking, but a dreamer with borderline ADD. I have always been a chronic under earner. I decided it was easier being less stressed and often broke than alternatives I've tried, but this sucks too.
Being poor and in debt. It nags at me every fucking day. I ow.e the IRS. I owe student loan payments. I owe a couple friends.
I also have a shitty day job that bores me to the point of depression.
I have anxiety about the aforementioned that occasionally manifests as panic.
I also have a hernia. It hurts every time my bowels get full.
The supporting for Kramer...so embarrassing in retrospect.
"Having to work"
Most people on Datalounge don't have that problem- for one reason or another.
Being socially awkward who can't maintain a conversation.
Having to get up in the morning
Not knowing why or how we're here.
Having to still wear stone washed jeans because I've been unemployed for 6 years, living in my mother's basement, and she found them in the attic.
R21 nailed it. Did we crawl from the sea or are we living in parallel universes? Why does salt taste that way?
R16, if you owe the IRS, please call them and negotiate affordable payments for you. It can be as little as $10 a month. Seriously.
If you have any property or anything worth protecting, please call them and negotiate with them or they will put a lien on it.
Yeah, it's the "gubmint" but they should be willing to negotiate with you.
Leave those racist people in the past where they belong.
Being in pain all the time. I have Ulcerative colitis, severe TMJ where my jaw hurts and chronic prostatitis so my abdomen, back and pelvis area hurt all the time. It sucks being in pain. I know a lot if it is stress related. I pray I wake up and something is better. It usually isn't.
Oh and I'm 25. I already know the parade passed me by. I will never be young and hot. I'm already old and in pain and ugly.
As someone who also has to deal with racism, more frequently than I care to admit (it's 2013!), I'm right there with you, OP. I also have a particularly shitty, dysfunctional family, which makes me feel like I'm even more alone in the world sometimes.
That huge chunk of the day when I'm awake.
Ugh!! Having to deal with all those non-white people. Why don't they all just go back to wherever they came from? But then again, who will pick up the trash? Such a quandary.
Handicapped people really bug me too. Hogging up all the parking spots!!
Born this way.
For me, it has to be the utter absence of affection and sex (other than jacking off to internet porn).
I need a decent fuck-buddy/cuddle-buddy.
But I got nothin'.
Knowing that more than two thirds of it is over.
I want do it all over again, the good, the bad, the mundane. I want to live forever, but sadly won't.
Do you miss the sex or the affection, r31? It may be a poor substitute, but a friend of the opposite sex may be able to help. Sometimes humans just need to touch each other in platonic ways vs sexual.
That my best friends moved away, and now my closest friend is a bottle of wine.
The time spent trying to decipher the grammar of the post heading.
Having to deal with hostile strangers and power junkies.
It used to be a rare thing, but now it's a daily occurrence.
The awake part.
I agree about no affection and no sex.
Also, no one to talk to.
Oh, and no love.
I also agree that life is over two-thirds over and I would like to live another whole lifetime of at least another 85 years or more, if not forever.
Most of my close friends moved away in the great dot-com bust. So everyone I'm close to is over a thousand miles away (I'm in Austin, they're in Seattle, Baltimore, DC, San Francisco, LA, San Diego... basically, I'm in the middle, they're on the coasts).
I keep in touch with many of them electronically (one via a daily chat and frequent Xbox Gaming in co-op games), but some are definitely drifting away.
And there's really nothing going on locally, so it's gotten pretty lonely, and my life has sort of falling into a rut from which I'm finding it difficult to escape.
Every time one of them visits or I fly out there to visit, it's such a great time. They're all encouraging me to move out to wherever they are... which is an impossibility with my job and job skills (i.e. my job won't let me work remotely, and with my skills, I couldn't get another job in this economy and at my age, let alone one that pays even half what I'm making now).
So "Separation from Friends" is a big one.
The no-affection/no-sex thing also factors in strongly.
[quote]One of my least favorite of my life is the fact that sometimes I have to deal with racism.
OP, do you mean actual racism, like people not giving you a job or letting you rent an apartment because of race?
Or do you mean instead what people on DL insist is racism, which means people expressing their preference for a white performer over a black one on American Idol?
My fucking family. my mom,brother and stepfather passed away all before I turned 20. I'm 34 and still wish they were around. my step siblings barely want to talk to me, as their mom remarried and had 3 more kids. My dad? He's been a fucking shut-in since my parents divorced when I was a kid.
Basically everyone I loved and was close to is dead, I'm stuck with a bunch of very cold, distant "relatives"
Severe major depressive disorder. My life went off the rails at 19, and while I was able to be hugely successful at my job, my life has been a fucking mess. Self-medication with alcohol and narcotics, binge eating, holing up at home, distancing myself from family and friends, and living in unending shame. Lately, I've been doing better. Getting back into shape has done wonders.
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