Why is it apparently considered more devastating on DL to add "hon" or "honey" or "sweetie"
when delivering snark or a putdown? Is it a Southern thing, like "Bless your heart"?
It's condescending and patronizing sweetie, now move it along toots.
Its the DL equivalent of "bless your heart".
Interesting question doll.
More devastating? To the contrary, Darlin', it softens the sting.
"Doll" hurts the most.
Twelve years ago, long before you kids walked on my lawn, someone called me Doll and put me in my place regarding lesbians.
It still wounds...
Yes, it's condescending, pumpkin.
Whether or not they were intended as such, I choose to interpret hon, honey, sweetie, baby, baby doll, dear, etc, etc, as compliments. They remind me of very dear, older friends from the South and MidWest. I do realize that others may not agree.
It's so brilliantly inventive how all of you keep using different terms like "honey" "pumpkin," "toots"... as if YOU YOURSELVES were exactly repeating the same thing asked about in the original post!
And it's so clever and original every damned time! Keep it coming... "honeys"!
When used by fat Southern women at a restaurant,they are endearing terms. When used by fat, male, New York Dataloungers ( the most frequent users) they are meant to demean.
OP/ R9 You asked the question, you were answered. What's your problem petal?
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