In my experience, anyone who says this actually cares very deeply about what people think of them.
Thanks, Dr. Adler.
You don`t have enough experience.
Agree OP. I have always felt that there's a little bit of "the lady doth protest too much" in that assertion.
If you truly are indifferent, you ignore people and make no comment of what they might or might not think.
My experience is anyone who tells you what they think of you, especially if what they think is negative, is doing so because they hope to get a reaction from you or have some impact. When you let it be known what they think is not important to you, you're pretty much telling them they have failed.
I don't want to win an Oscar. I don't. I don't.
It depends on the context OP. One time at work a coworker told me some people think I'm a loner. I shrugged and said "I don't care what they think." Not because I secretly do care, but because I really could care less.
OP I don't care if you think I really care cuz I don't care. Check out my interview in USA today
"I'm not here to make friends."
I feel this way, OP, but somehow never feel the need to voice it.
At 67 years old I truly don't give a shit what anyone thinks of me. I often relish playing a bit of a villain.
If you relish playing a bit of a villain, OP, then your self-perception is wrapped up in that role. Thus: you DO care.
Caring what people think doesn't necessarily mean you want to be viewed positively. It means you want them to have some kind of opinion about you.
There are lots of people who don't care what other people think, and aren't afraid to say so.
Like, the sort of hardcore computer nerds who think that personal grooming is illogical.
I'm with OP.
OTOH, I used to have a saying: I don't care what people say about me behind my back; it's what they have the nerve to say to my goddamned face that pisses me off.
r13, You rock!!!!!!!
R13, then you have very thin skin.
R6 could or couldn't?
Diane to Sam on Cheers: "Remember, Sam. The opposite of love is not hate -- but indifference."
Sam: "Well, whatever. I really don't care."
The older I get the less I care. My friends, who are all roughly the same age, seem to say the same thing-you just can't sit around caring what others think of you. I think I'm kind to people and treat them with respect, but if you don't still don't like me, what can I do about it?
I see my cousin who is a nice, funny woman but she is crippled by insecurity and wondering what people think. She's turned down dates because she worries that her friends might not approve of the guy, she doesn't go to the movies alone because "what will people think?". Every single action is based on "what will people think?". It's a horrible way to live.
I don't want people to think of me. I want people to appreciate the work I produce, not the person who did the work.
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