I'm encroaching on a milestone birthday and the inevitable self-reflection has commenced.
Looking back, I would have spent less time trying to please others and would have been more focused on my career.
How about you... Coulda, woulda, shoulda?
I think I would have spent less time trying to be a career woman. Really, the only job part about work is the vacation pay.
It's not advice, but I would tell my younger self, "You are going to love somebody who loves you back."
I wouldn't tell my younger self that it won't last with that person. But that part is okay -- the experience of loving someone who loved me back, even though it didn't end up working out, changed my life immeasurably for the better.
I'd tell my younger self that I will never find love or have a relationship and to just give it up and either kill myself or find something else to take over that space (still trying).
I would tell him he's going to grow up to be an arrogant prick with a big old chip on his shoulder and he better check himself right now.
Don't drink so much and skip college. And go to Europe.
Quit sucking every single dick and never stop going to the gym.
I would tell myself not to hold back and to have sex even more often, and try to videotape it so years later you could remember what it was like.
You are, you were, and you will always be gay. There, now you're done thinking about it.
Not to do what I have done.
I would tell my younger self:
"Tell him you love him. Don't let him go!"
It doesn't matter what you would have told him or her. She or he wouldn't have believed it anyway.
Buy Microsoft and Apple shares.
I would tell your younger self to pay attention to the usage of "encroach" and "approach."
Live your life proactively and not reactively. Waiting for something to happen never does.
I pursued a person for a long time who was 1.classically handsome, 2.great body, had 3.loads of charisma, was 4.talented and 5.successful. No need to tell you the outcome.
Unless you, yourself can fulfill three of that criteria as well, you are wasting your time.
Focus less on technical skills/ solid knowledge of certain topics and more on people skills, social skills and networking.
Work a job while at university.
Pursue your personal interests and projects while at university, don't just study.
When a university professor who you like, whose classes you find great, who teaches a topic you're interested in, asks you if you're thinking of doing a PhD in his field, don't answer that you're not sure it's something you can do.
Take advantage of classes offered in high school. Pay attention and learn as much as you can. After that, education is no longer free.
Don't waste any energy figuring out what you would have done differently. Control your future, not your past.
And, yes, I get the irony.
On January 28, 1985, when you get the two job offers one right after the other, call the first one and tell them you now have to decline.
This one act of integrity, not going back on a job offer, will change the rest of your life for the worse.
Cliche, but not to take things so seriously and just enjoy things with less intensity and drama. Especially relaxing about men, dating, sex and love , and, especially, romance, on the one hand, and excelling at work without unrealistic goals of perfectionism on the other. Being more chill and, as a result, less stressed and more effective.
Bite the pillow and push out as he pushes in. You will enjoy it better and it will hurt less.
Don't go through life with low expectations.
And work out 5x a week for an hour without fail.
1. Forget about law school. Develop some integrity and do what you want to do.
2. Stop being so hard on yourself.
3. Learn a foreign language.
4. Start lifting weights earlier.
Dont neglect your dreams to chase love. I spent so many years seeking love from people who could never give it back. I wasted great opportunities to live my dreams, thinking love trumped all.
The only love that matters is the love you have for yourself.
Beauty pageant question.
Still waiting for the perfect Miss Universe answer, though.
find a mentor like misshelenbedd to teach me how to take care of myself around pissy queens.
start ignoring fish drama altogether much earlier.
"Do NOT get in the van."
I though this was a bumped thread but then saw it is ANOTHER retread of the subject.