Glee star Jane Lynch and her wife, Dr. Lara Embry, are getting a divorce, the actress tells PEOPLE exclusively.
"Lara and I have decided to end our marriage. This has been a difficult decision for us as we care very deeply about one another. We ask for privacy as we deal with this family matter," Lynch says in a statement.
Lynch, 52, and Embry, 44, met at a 2009 fundraiser in San Francisco at which Embry was being honored. Shortly after confirming their engagement, the women married on Memorial Day in 2010 in an intimate ceremony in Sunderland, Mass., one of the few states where gay marriage is recognized.
The wedding was attended by 19 friends and family including Embry's daughter, Haden, with whom Lynch has gotten very close.
"My greatest pleasure is Haden, my stepdaughter," Lynch told PEOPLE at The Moms Mamarazzi event in New York City last March. "I am surprised how much love you feel and how you would do anything for your children."
Lynch, who is currently starring as Miss Hannigan in Annie: The Musical, performed at the Tony Awards in New York City Sunday.
I am shocked, SHOCKED that a couple of lesbians who became committed very quickly after meeting, are breaking up so shortly after their marriage!
There should have been a little U-Haul truck on top of the wedding cake.
Awwww. I hope it's as painless as possible for the couple. I like Jane Lynch.
And so it begins - the new era of the lesbian / gay divorces. Before the national right to marry is even granted, by the Supreme Court. Before, it was 'We can't wait for the Supreme Court to rule - we want to get married now'. And now it is ' We can't wait for the Supreme Court to rule - we want our divorce' . Who's next, Boomer / Halls ? NPN / Burtka ? Ellen / Portia ?
A lot of gays romanticize marriage. "Grass is greener" and all that. At least they can't make babies.
After that Annie performance, I want to divorce Jane too.
[quote]Who's next, Boomer / Halls ?
Ha! He wishes!
[quote]A lot of gays romanticize marriage.
Straight people NEVER get married quickly just for the romance.
That's what the Elvis impersonator said who performed our wedding said.
Exactly, r7, and straight Hollywood marriages in particular, NEVER collapse after only a few years.
Who cares what "straights" do? It is a fact that gays romanticize marriage. That straights do as well in no way undermines what I said. Sorry if that offends you.
[quote]Who cares what "straights" do? It is a fact that gays romanticize marriage. That straights do as well in no way undermines what I said. Sorry if that offends you.
Why are you still here?
R3 you think every gay couple will be together forever? Half of all marriages end in Divorce. That won't change.
Pathetic that Lynch and Embry jumped into marriage so quickly proclaiming their deep abiding love.
And pathetic that it lasted such a short period.
A good number of gay people are jumping into marriage just to prove that they are au courant, progressive, and just because marriage of same sex couples is now available to many.
"We ask for privacy as we deal with this personal matter."
Sophia Petrillo: "No problem!"
I thought this would flame out. Jane Lynch has never sustained a relationship for very long. She idealizes and then discards. Lara Embry has a child to protect. I don't blame her for getting out.
Seriously,,,,does it seem more lesbians get divorced than gay men? Or is it just that more "celebrity" lesbians get married?
Apparently there are some VERY lonely people at Datalounge.
Just watch. The rate of married lesbian split-ups will far exceed that for married gay men, undermining the bullshit about how women - including gay women - are so much more stable, committed and devoted than men are. And queer celebrities will serve up the public evidence of what is going to be going on among regular folk.
I'm not eager to show lesbians to be the unstable, confused, immature, humorless, brittle, mean-spirited and mostly lunatic hot mess of womynhood they are. It's just that the facts are what they are.
But at least after all the break-ups they'll all remain friends and continue to celebrate holidays and share vacations together, along with their always-growing pile of intimates. Never mind that it's just another sign that they never actually can let go of anything. Most people will see it as rather sweet.
Love ya, gals!
Lara must have seen Jane botch Miss Hannigan in Annie and is fleeing from the shame.
"undermining the bullshit about how women - including gay women - are so much more stable, committed and devoted than men are."
That's a FACT dear. I doubt Lara and Jane cheated on each other.
I look at most gay male celebrity couples and am very hard pressed to find one who is totally devoted to each other. Maybe Neil and Burtka. But we all know what a past those two had. The clock is clearly ticking on that one.
A lot of gay male relationships (mainly the ones involving two white people) seem to last longer because being committed and devoted to is forsaken in the name of slutty one night stands and disgusting hook ups on Craigslist. Lies and deceit.
And to top it off, the bullshit excuse thrown around is that men are not hardwired to be monogamous. Because they must always be coddled and entitled to every single thing they want whenever they want it. And we wonder why most of them are perpetually single.
Lesbians are simply more mature than most gay white men could ever imagine themselves to be (as is clearly demonstrated by. They don't also go around playing the victim card twenty four seven for even the most mundane things such as getting a discount at Abercrombie and Fitch.
Writing "fact" in all upper case letters does not make it a fact.
Lots of generalizations, R19, not a lot of "fact."
that's a fact.
too bad; I'm sure they're both nice people, I hope they are.
r19 is telling the truth.
Great. Another divorce.
I think it's nice there's gays left with so little cynicism and bitchiness they still have the capacity to romanticize anything.
[quote] We ask for privacy as we deal with this family matter," Lynch says in a statement.
Yes, let's respect the privacy of people who make PR statements about their private life.
R19 is not telling the truth, just her version of the truth.
R19, we appreciate that you have stated your boundaries, but you unfortunately evidence the stereotypes you seem to deplore, regardless if you are presently in possession of an unwanted tallywhacker or an unwanted twitchet.
Your inane attempt to make it look as though white gay male couples especially represent the type of nasty relationship you deplore shows you to be a racist. Also, your quaint and alum-cunted focus on monogamy underscores the problem with closet moralists such as you.
If you lack data and analytical skills, the least you could do is have a sense of humor. Alas, that's not part of your make-up, is it, dollpuss?
read Jane's book......bitch never satisfied with anything.
I like Jane, too, and I wish her the best with her personal life. That being said, her Miss Hannigan, at least her Tony performance, sucked donkey balls. She captured none of the essence of Hannigan, despite having the voice and at least her characterization from Glee she might have used. I am not sure what she was out there doing but it sure wasn't Miss Hannigan.
I know lots of couples get divorced, but I do hate to see high-profile gay people making such a huge deal out of their gay marriage and acting like such brave trailblazers, then quitting so soon after all the gay marriage hoopla.
I did guess that a lot of these couples who raced down the aisle right after gay marriage started becoming legal were likely the people who needed the rush of validation and attention all that brings. Perhaps not the people who soberly considered the reality of marriage, just like straight people.
This is very tragic. They seemed to be so in love. I was sure their union would last at least five years or so..
R3 how can "NPN / Burtka" be "next" when they are not married?
R17 IS 100% SPOT-ON.
If you can make it through the whole thing, this long-ass article in The Atlantic references studies that show that lesbians split up at a lower rate than gay men or hetero couples.
In Lynch's case, though, it's not shocking even if it is a shame. They rushed into marriage, and r31 makes a good point about people, gay or straight, who rush into commitment like that.
[quote]I know lots of couples get divorced, but I do hate to see high-profile gay people making such a huge deal out of their gay marriage and acting like such brave trailblazers, then quitting so soon after all the gay marriage hoopla.
Tell me about it!
I read that as.... the cock is clearly ticking on that one.
I'm same-sex divorced and know other folks who are and we get divorced for the same reasons straight people do and probably at the same rate (or a slightly lower one). You don't have to "rush into" a marriage to split up: I lived with my spouse-to-be for two years before our wedding--and we lived separately the first year we dated. Not only should you take into account the 50% divorce rate you should also remember that a lot of people who stay married (straight and queer) end up leading separate lives from their spouses (and either stop having sex or have it very infrequently) but make appearances together for family/social reasons. Some people are happy with these arrangements, but I certainly wouldn't be. I'd rather admit my marriage was a failure than have to pretend.
I am willing to bet Jane is borderline. She has never had a relationship that lasted longer than 3 or 3 months. She got the attention out of this marriage and when it became difficult just cut out. Seen it before, especially in show business.
What's the point of letting gays marry if they're just gonna get divorced. WTF.
R17 has some issues.
r17 and r19 deserve each other.
Part of marriage equality is having the option to get a divorce. I seriously doubt that gay men and lesbians will ultimately have fewer divorces than their straight counterparts. Up until now we legally have not had the possibility to get married so we couldn't show what our divorce rate will be.
I just worried about the couples who got married or unionized in several places and now, if they are separating, will have to go through multiple divorces. It makes money for the lawyers.
Gay men and lesbians should have the legal right to look as foolish as their straight counterparts do when they profess love when in reality they haven't had enough time to figure if they are in love enough to get married.
[quote]Marry in haste, repent at leisure, bitches.
r38 wants to tell everybody how to feel. I guess that's why 50% of marriages fail.
[quote]this long-ass article in The Atlantic references studies that show that lesbians split up at a lower rate than gay men or hetero couples.
No no, don't tell that to the bitter, hateful faggots in this thread, they could miss an excuse to bash on dykes. Shh!
"Your inane attempt to make it look as though white gay male couples especially represent the type of nasty relationship you deplore shows you to be a racist."
This proves my point about many white gays pulling out the victim card like it was a VISA at Macys.
And if you're going to use the word racist, at least know what it means. That was a pedestrian and clumsy attempt at a bold statement.
"Also, your quaint and alum-cunted focus on monogamy underscores the problem with closet moralists such as you."
Because men aren't hardwired for monogamy! Oh, the troubles you have! The burden you have to deal with in having to deal with keeping it in your pants for more than two seconds. How do you ever make it through the day? You precious creatures.
Do you ever get tired of everything always having to be about YOU? You do realize the world isn't designed to cater to you twenty four seven?
Just something to keep in mind while your shopping for your summer flip flops.
[quote] like Jane, too, and I wish her the best with her personal life. That being said, her Miss Hannigan, at least her Tony performance, sucked donkey balls. She captured none of the essence of Hannigan, despite having the voice and at least her characterization from Glee she might have used. I am not sure what she was out there doing but it sure wasn't Miss Hannigan
Yes, because every dedicated Theater Queen clearly knows that every performance in a revival must be an exact recreation of the original actor. No one must ever give their own interpretation despite getting huge laughs and audiences loving your performance. Take that rolled up Playbill out of your ass.
quote[Take that rolled up Playbill out of your ass.]
If I were not already married R48, I would ask you to be mine cuz I think I am a little bit in love with you.
Thanks for the morning giggle.
[quote] She idealizes and then discards.
The definition of serial monogamy. Beware.
that weird old-fashioned phrase "failed marriage"
Marriages are doomed to fail. The concept of marriage is the failure.
[quote]The concept of marriage is the failure.
Exaclty, get the tax breaks while you can!
Gawd, three pages for these two. lol. Christ.
[quote]Jane Lynch has never sustained a relationship for very long.
I was shocked when Lynch got hitched because I had seen a couple of interviews with her on lesbian centric sites and she seemed very much happy to be single and childless. It's like she got successful and needed the family to go with it.
R48 is Jane Lynch.
[quote] Gawd, three pages for these two. lol. Christ.
Only one page for me so far. Maybe you should adjust your settings to get more than 20 posts per page.
No I'll keep it like this, r55. Just to piss you off, pumkin.
R55 = the page concern troll. How fucking sad.
R48 you must be facetious.
Anyway in another thread I said Jane would definitely have a career post-Glee. Now I am seriously not so sure; she seems very humor impaired and may be unwilling to play supporting character parts.
R58, R48 might just be too young (or dumb) to understand who or what Miss Hannigan is supposed to be. "Look, it's JANE LYNCH! Isn't she HILARIOUS?"
Hey, I loved Jane in Glee too, but c'mon. Miss Hannigan HATES little girls, is a blowsy, self-pitying frump who grimaces at their very presence! Burnett GOT this. Loudon GOT this. Everyone who has ever played Hannigan in stock probably got it. Lynch either has not gotten the direction she needed OR she has not listened to it. She was out there in some glam 30's outfit and blonde wig kicking around like Ann Reinking and embodying not a whit of the hilarious vulgar disdain that Hannigan should show. Loudon and Burnett (the best known Hannigans) drip delicious vitriol and throw death stares at all those horrible "little girls." Jane showed none of that. She has a great voice and, by all rights she would be a perfect Miss Hannigan. And perhaps IN the show during performance nights she brings it. But she sure didn't on the Tonys.
And I am not the only "theatre queen" (which is not an insult to me. I just know what I know about a performance, that's all) who has said this about her Tony performance. Again, LOVE Jane Lynch but was shockingly underwhelmed at what she did with Miss Hannigan, one of the more famous "villains" in Broadway history. She could HAVE DONE SO MUCH MORE with that number!
[quote]R48 is Jane Lynch.
Not even close, but I'll take her bank pin if ya have it.
[quote]R48 might just be too young (or dumb) to understand who or what Miss Hannigan is supposed to be. "Look, it's JANE LYNCH! Isn't she HILARIOUS?"
And maybe you are too old and feeble to realize that you are judging her entire performance based on 2 minutes and 50 seconds of a song that is NOT in a performance of "ANNIE" and just a snippet. But of course you are sooooooooooooo knowledgeable about musical comedy, you just know she's bad without seeing her. It's fucking Miss Hannigan not Lady Macbeth.
I guess boundaries weren't stated!!!
I'm sorry Miss Lynch. I am sure you were trying your best.
Wha!? Carol Burnett was a LOUSY Miss Hannigan!
R60, why do you care what my opinion of Jane Lynch is? Why are you so invested in defending her? Opinions are like assholes. Everybody's got one. Mine is just an opinion and so is yours. Both are valid.
You seem a tad "unhinged" dear. Maybe lay off the Redbull. Jeeze.
[quote] The concept of marriage is the failure.
[quote]I'm not eager to show lesbians to be the unstable, confused, immature, humorless, brittle, mean-spirited and mostly lunatic hot mess of womynhood they are. It's just that the facts are what they are.
Uh...I know PLENTY of gay men who perfectly fit this profile you've assigned to lesbians. It's people in general, though both gay men and women seem to let it all hang out to the general public more than straights.
Hmm. This thread seems to be going all over the place. Should I (or someone) start a thread about Jane Lynch playing Miss Harrigan? A lot of people seem to have very strong opinions about her performance.
I said to my partner when I heard Jane Lynch was doing Annie on Broadway, "Uh-oh, she dumped wifey for sure." You don't commit to a job on the other side of the country when you can't even reasonably visit every week or so when your relationship is healthy and strong.
I just hope she doesn't end up treating her stepdaughter who she just loves SO much and who brings her SO much joy like Halle Berry who can't even remember special stepdaughter's name now.
I like Kathy Bates's version best. But here are Carol Burnett and Kathy Bates, back to back, so you can judge for yourself.
She auditioned for a number of my sister's tv commercials before she became famous, due to her role in Glee. My sister said she was great and very easy to get along with. That could all be chalked up for her wanting a job, but there was no indication that she was a crazy bitch.
Well, we've all been carried away by a new passion in our lives at one point or another. So it didn't work out, big deal. No reason to gloat or to judge.
All celebrity actors and musicians should be forbidden by law to get married and/or have children.
R68, when couples break up, the relationship with non-biological kids almost always ends.
It is extremely rare for the relationship with non-biological kids to continue.
For example, among celebrities, Sheryl Crow has nothing to do with Lance Armstrong's three kids with whom she was so close.
And Sandra Bullock has nothing to do with Jesse James' 2 or 3 kids with whom she was so close (especially the young girl)
And it works the same among ordinary non-celebrity people who break up.
hmmm according to tmz there is no prenup.
I saw Jane quite a few times in Soho walking her dog in the am, and getting coffee at Ground Support. Always alone. She is one celebrity that is impossible to miss due to her height.
[quote]All celebrity actors and musicians should be forbidden by law to get married and/or have children.
as opposed to all the non-celebrities who never get divorced or raise troubled kids......
The bitch wants $5,000 a month from Jane for charitable donations. are you really donating to charity if you have to sue someone to get the money to donate?
I'm guessing Lara has very few patients nowadays!