When are you "fetishizing" a group and when are you just preferring them?
I like all kinds of guys for different reasons but do like latino guys and asian guys best.
What exactly is "fetishizing" mean? That we are objectifying them based upon our own eye?
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I'd guess if you're only going after a certain race or ethnicity based on stereotypes, that would be fetishizing. Like if you only want the "hung black top" or "submissive Asian bottom," that would be offensive.
[quote]I'd guess if you're only going after a certain race or ethnicity based on stereotypes, that would be fetishizing.
Even if it's your own race?
It's when you don't see a person, just the particular attribute you're obsessed with.
Fetishizing involves inserting some aspects of your sexual preference onto a trait, group or other characteristic. You can prefer a particular sets of traits, but as long as your sexual focus doesn't necessitate them, it isn't a fetish.
Becoming extremely aroused to muscles and needing your partner or yourself to have them in order to be sexually satisfied could be seen as fetishizing that type of build. Liking them, but not needing them to become erect or attracted to them would be indicative of a preference.
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