By friends? I have a co-worker that I've been friends with for two years. I've helped him out on occasion financially because I feel bad for his situation, and because I wanted to. I've never mentioned the money after I've given it out. I feel if you're a friend and you need it, it's fine. If you don't have it to give it back, then whatever. It's not large amounts, anyways. Five, ten dollars on occasion for lunch or dinner money. I can afford it. But what bothers me is that he's never really gone out of his way to do anything nice for me, which lately is really starting to piss me off. Never offers to go hang out after work. Never offers to grab a bite to eat. I've brought it up a couple of times, and he always "sure's" me, but nothing comes out of it. Meanwhile, his recent new BFF co-worker (who helped get his ass sent home one day and has gotten him into trouble a few times) is always tagging along with him on lunch breaks. Always hanging out after work. And since he became friends with this guy, I feel like I've been getting the cold shoulder more and more. I know I probably sound incredibly naïve, and I'm usually a good BS detector, but I do feel that there's something genuine about him and that he does like me as a friend. We talked a lot at work when he first started. And we still talk from time to time. He tells me I'm "good people". But I get upset because I feel like all I'm good for is a loan while everyone else is good for hanging out. Should I just say something and get it off of my chest? At this point, I don't even care if it angers him, because I would rather just get it out in the open. But is there any way you could phrase it in the nicest possible way?
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