As an American, I don't think I could visit this place without getting depressed over what we did.
Don't forget--all the people we killed are dead.
I've been there on vacation. If I were to indulge in stereotypes, I would say that Vietnamese are the canniest, most capitalistic people I've ever met. No surprise to me that they aced the French, the Americans, and the Chinese---they're SMART.
Lots of GIs there on trip with their families--was surprised to see that.
Also surprising how rural the country is....You drive in from the airport in Hanoi and it's clear that this is still a third world country in many ways.
Only 5 or 6 percent of the Vietnamese are over 65, i.e., many of those who fought in or were victims of the war are dead.
I hear it's beautiful. And that "communism" in Vietnam isn't as pervasive as the West feared it would be. Many Vietnamese still call Ho Chi Minh City "Saigon."
And I've met more than a few hot Vietnamese guys.
As a Vietnamese American who has gone back twice, I'd say unless you're an especially sensitive person I think you'd be fine. Yes, it's a poor country but the people are thriving. I felt no malice towards the U.S. when i was there.
The majority of the population have no first hand memories of the war because as r1 pointed out the people killed are dead. Still I found it interesting to seek out some of the places you can see the war from the Vietnamese perspective such as the Cu Chi tunnels and the propaganda museum.