How do you feel about people who's success was a result of being parasitic
Take for example, people who marry other people who are higher up than they are and they use the fact that they are related to this powerful person to try to advance their careers. Whenever I meet or see these types of people, I'm disgusted.
[quote] Whenever I meet or see these types of people, I'm disgusted.
Don't hate the playa, hate the game.
Aside from OP's grammar, I understand where he is coming from.
My ex is a fucking parasite. If it weren't for a rich relative bankrolling him, he'd be out in the street with the rest of the drunks and drug addicts.
Everyone is parasitic in this day and age.
It's just a matter of what particular point sets each person off.
Very, very few people can actually do their own thing according to their own principles. They suck off some rancid teat or other, corporate or personal.
R6 is absolutely right.
But how do I feel? I notice they are ambitious people, doing all they can to give themselves a good life. It's the republican dream. Oh wait, I know I'm supposed to call it the american dream, but that dream seems to be a lot about offloading work onto 'lesser' people so a few can rise up. Other than that ugly aspect, noone can help where they're from, so why would I judge it unless they were assholes? People can only impact where they're headed.
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I said "MAMIE GET YOUR OWN LIFE AND STOP TRYING TO BE A SECOND RATE VERSION OF ME!!!"
but she just wouldn't listen.
OP, nothing you can do about it. Be pleasant and move on. Don't burn bridges cause these ARE the people who could end up as your boss - that's the sad reality. They could even end up in position to help you. I'm not saying kiss anyone's ass - just be a decent person.
It's a waste of time to obsess over them - it just keeps you from focusing on yourself and your future.
Excellent advice, r11.
I agree with R11 -- he/she is someone whose advice is worth heeding.
OP, start by focusing on how & when (& when not) to use apostrophes & you'll be a better person for it.
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When I see people like that, I generally think that they're more committed to advancement than I am.
Face it, hard work and expertise isn't what gets you promotion after promotion (hard work just gets you more hard work), impressing people with power is what brings you up in the world. Yes, building a relationship with someone who can do you good may be exploitive, manipulative, parasitic, or downright creepy, but that's what it takes to really climb these days.
I think people who've made it this way should be celebrated.
I guess my take is a little different. For every "climber" there is someone allowing themselves to be used.
My question is: What is THAT person's psychological make up?
Well, since you are apparently a social climbing user, you tell us what that person's psychological makeup is. How do you exploit those people to advance yourself?
R11 and R15 are exactly correct.
Just worry about yourself and your own path,OP, and stop obsessing over how others got to where they are. It'll do you no damn good.
Is this another Heath Ledger thread?
I thought about this when I watched Beth Stern's show yesterday (she is Howard Stern's wife). She was so awkward and uncomfortable on camera. She landed the older millionaire, and thinks that she can have her own show all of a sudden....weird.
Money is money no matter where it comes from, as long as it's legal. We all have to eat and pay our bills. I'm sure OP and other unfortunate souls who have to work 8-5 M-F was given an inheritance by a wealthy relative, s/he would gladly accept it without reservations.
These "parasites" don't really care what you think of them, OP. They're too busy grabbing the next flight to Costa Rica.
There's currently a guy who has just about legitimatized himself, looking to become an all around guru like Tony Robbins. He dispenses advice and writes books and is on tv, but has zero education, training, experience, scholarly writings, field work, or even volunteer work in his field. What he has is a well-connected rich Jewish boyfriend who introduced him to lots of famous people. Nobody has been smart enough to even ask about his training, education or credentials! Unbelievable!
LOL R21, that's exactly what I thought when I read this.