Are there any redeeming aspects to using it?
Can you actually go on and meet up with someone real?
I've been thinking of trying it, but after seeing the douchebags of Grindr website, I'm having second thoughts.
[quote] Can you actually go on and meet up with someone real?
Nope. Nobody ever meets up with anyone ever. Grindr is mostly used to keep in touch with book clubs. Ours is going retro and doing Joy Luck Club this month.
Oh honey, I'm way too old for Grindr. If they had a category for those of us who have a "Mindr" maybe I'd join up.
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I used to use it until I noticed a lot of people in my neighborhood had (+) in their profiles. Didn't really know what that meant. They would say things like "tall A +". I thought that meant tall guys were a plus in their books. Boy, was I wrong. After I woke up the next morning I asked what the A+ meant and he said it meant positive.
I've met a LOT of hot guys from there and had some hot sex and threesomes. I'm 24 and considered good looking but I'm not super hot or anything.
I met my lover through Grindr. And I met my previous lover through it, too, two weeks before.
I can't even fathom meeting up for sex with someone you've just met through an app not half an hour earlier. Sex for sex's sake just seems so meaningless and barren. Sex is best when there's an emotional bond/connection between the two people. How can you have really great sex without that deeper connection? Just totally lost on me.
It depends what you mean by real, OP. It's for hook ups. And douches.
R6, sex for sex's sake if just fine if both men know that is what it is. It can even evolve into something more over time. And yes it can even be an emotional experience. If you remove the stick from up your ass.
I met my last boyfriend on it - we went out fro about a year.
Whatever happened to good old-fashioned courting?
I met my last boyfriend on it - we went out for fro-yo.
[quote]If you remove the stick from up your ass.
A perfectly reasonable position to take, until your inner cunt revealed you.
If you're over 30, forget it. Guys under 30 stick together, and guys over 30 want guys under 30. Just find yourself a nice bridge club, instead.
Grindr simply became the 21st century version of the "backrooms" that existed in the 1970s.
Certain personality types gravitate towards this sort of thing and always will.
Did the truth hurt as much as the stick up your ass, R12?
I don't think someone having a different view of sex than me is having a stick up their ass, that's all.
R13, your shallow generalizations almost made my head explode. You should get out more.
I've got no problem going to a sex club ... but the thought of putting my photo on Grindr turns me into Mr. Shy: "That's so PUBLIC!"
Perhaps a good idea on the drawing table but not so much in implementation, once the novelty wore off. I had it for about a year when it was relatively new. Hated it. You can't make any real human connection and it's hard to even make a SEX connection since there are so many guys on there at any given time, it's like "gay ADD. And the profiles are just douchy by nature. You can't have any real conversation with a total stranger using "hey" and "hi" and monosyllabic grunts. I thought it was fun when going out in a crowded area to see how many cute guys were within the vicinity. You know "This guy is IN THIS BAR" kind of thing. But as a tool to actually do hook-ups OR really meet anyone of quality? Not for me. I deleted it from my phone a long time ago.
I was on Grindr for a while as well as Scruff and Manhunt. It was fun at first but got boring and pointless after a while. It was fun to see who was in my neighborhood but the faces n ever changed. It was always the same group of people still looking for the same things.
I did "meet" a few guys on Scruff and Manhunt who I chatted with for a while but that got boring too. It was obvious we were never going to meet in real life and at the age of 46 I just don't have time for pen pals.
So to summarize: Fun at first. Got boring.
Before Grindr, there was WhosHere. I started using that back in 2008 and made a couple of good real-life friends.
WhosHere still exists, but in 2013 it's mostly guys in the Middle East spoofing their location. Nobody local uses it anymore.
WhosHere is the MySpace of location-based social apps.
I think like most technology, the experience is a reflection of the user and, in this case, the community that uses it. There's also the matter of making it work for you and defining the experience for yourself. People who conform, follow and aim to please others probably don't come out of the "social networking" experience very well and their complaints can often be summarised as a failure to assert and protect their own interests.
R23 is right. Grindr is very much like a gay bar. A large group of insecure gay men standing around staring at each other but not speaking.
Well, I also meant that it's going to differ depending on locale. I live in London and when I've used it - at least a year ago now - it was pretty easy to navigate; it wasn't in any way a traumatic experience. I suspect in the States, perhaps in NYC, the trauma comes from the users.
I just fucked this dude from Grindr before work this morning.
He sent me a Hey. I said Hey back. He said Cum fuck me. I said Send me your location. Then I came in his ass.
I don't do Grindr, but I nevertheless feel sorry for R6.
Does Grindr have fake people for ads or phishing? Recently I keep getting messages from people who are 9000 or 8000 miles away. It's not from the same location since each time the miles could be thousands apart. They'll say stuff like "You're cute." But I don't even have a picture up so I know they're fake. I'm afraid to respond since it might load a virus or something. Does anyone else experience this?
Yup. Lots of spam on Grindr lately. I'm too old for it (mid 30s and into my age or older, so, no luck for me on it anymore), so deleted it.
[quote]putting my photo on Grindr turns me into Mr. Shy: "That's so PUBLIC!"
Not as ridiculous as you may think. I found one of my profile pics on some random tumblr (I was flattered that at least someone thought me hot enough to put me on his blog, but also skivved out).
I luv grindr. And now that I received my meningitis vaccine, I luv it even more.