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Looks-discordant relationships

I'm trapped in one now with my bf. I'm the hotter of the two. We've been together six years, and we were pretty much on par in terms of looks when we met. People used to jokingly refer to us as "book ends," which we loved. While I've kept up my appearance, he has totally let his looks go. He stopped going to the gym regularly, not to mention the cheap dockers, the bad haircuts, and lack of manscaping. I love him to death, but I'm not much attracted to him anymore. And to be frank, it's a little embarrassing to be seen with him. I know people are whispering things like what do I see in my bf and how could I be with him. For good or for bad, we live in an area of the city where a premium is placed on good looks, and other guys frown on not looking good. I've been trying to get him to get back to the gym, go shopping etc., but he claims he's too busy at work. Well baby, I'm busy too, but that doesn't stop me from maintaining my looks. On paper, we're monogamous. I don't want to officially open it up/go "monogamish" if we don't have to, but I am frustrated. I don't want to toss in the towel, because, as I said, I love the guy. Anyone else in this type of looks-incompatible relationship who can offer some pointers for rectifying things?

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